Sikhona sonke kwaye uninzi lwethu luye lwaqonda ukuba silibele kakhulu…
Olunye ulwalamano luphela lusidla ngokupheleleyo.
Zizonke esinokucinga ngazo, kodwa hayi ngendlela entle.
Uyabona ukuba ulahlekelwe bubuni bakho kwaye yonke into ebomini bakho ijikeleze kulo mntu mnye.
Ubudlelwane bam bokugqibela babunjalo kanye…
Ndandisandula ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha kwaye wayengomnye wabantu bokuqala endadibana nabo.
Kwisithuba seeveki ezimbalwa, bendinokuhlala naye, bendincame kakhulu indlela yam yemihla ngemihla yeyoga (eyayiyinto yam yokuqala, neyayinyani, uthando) ukuze ndichithe ixesha elininzi kunye naye, kwaye ndayeka ukundwendwela abahlobo nanjengoko ndandingafuni ukuba kude naye iveki yonke.
Ngokujonga emva, ewe, iyahlekisa kwaye ibuhlungu ngendlela emangalisayo.
Ukuba udibene nam ngoku (ndingatshatanga, 100% kulawulo lobomi bam, ndilawula umsebenzi wam, kwaye ndithandana ngokupheleleyo nendlela yokuphila endizenzele yona), ngekhe ukholelwe ukuba ndiyincamile ntire isazisi somfana…
… Kwaye ngoku, ndilahlekile ngokupheleleyo kwaye ndalahleka kubudlelwane.
Kwenzeka kweyona nto ilungileyo kuthi, akunjalo?
Olu luhlu lulandelayo luluhlu lweempawu ozilahlekelayo kubudlelwane, ngokusekwe kumava am amaninzi.
Ndiyathemba ukuba baya kukunceda chu izinto phantsi ngaphambi kokuba ulwalamano lwakho lutshise kwaye ushiyeke njengeqokobhe lomntu wakho wangaphambili.
Ngethemba.
Kukho neengcebiso eziluncedo malunga nendlela yokuphepha oku kwenzekayo kwaye ngoba basebenzela nabani na onomdla kwisayensi / kwengqondo emva kwabo!
1. Izinto ozithandayo ziyanyamalala.
Olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba ulahlekelwa bubuhlobo bakho!
Ufumanisa ukuba uyeka izinto ozithandayo ukuze uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye neqabane lakho, okanye umdla wakho wokwenza ezinye izinto uyaphela.
Inokwenzeka ngaphandle kokuba uqaphele, de ngequbuliso iinyanga ezi-2 zidlulile okoko uye ejimini okanye wadibana nabahlobo.
Ingoyikisa ngesiquphe ukuphulukana nobuntu bakho, okanye iinxalenye zayo, ubuncinci, kodwa ayikashiywa lixesha…
Ukulwa oku:Bekela bucala ixesha veki nganye lokuzenzela okuthile.
Unokukhetha ukuba oko kukuzinikela okufanayo veki nganye (njengokujoyina iqela lebhola yomnyazi nokuzilolonga qho ngoMvulo), okanye ukuba uzama izinto ezahlukeneyo.
Oku kuya kuninika nobabini indawo kwaye, njengoko nithandana, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba nibe nexesha elahlukileyo.
Baza kukwazi ukwenza eyabo into kwaye uya kuba nento entsha oza kwabelana ngayo nabanye.
Ukuba nezinto ozithandayo kunye nokunamathela kwizicwangciso zakho ngokwakho kuya kunika ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokukunceda uzifumane kwakhona !
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukuthatha ixesha lokuba uzenzele into kusisikhumbuzo esihle sokuba kukho abantu aba-2 kolu lwalamano, bobabini bafanelwe lixesha kunye nengqwalaselo yakho!
Okukhona ungena kumkhwa wokwenza izinto ngaphandle kweqabane lakho, kokukhona uya konwaba ngakumbi ukuba uya kuba nolwalamano lwakho, kwaye kuya kuncipha ukuba ulahlekelwe liqabane lakho.
Konke malunga nokufumana kwakhona into oyithandayo, yintoni ekwenza uzive ulungile, kwaye uzimele kangakanani xa ufuna okanye ukhetha ukuba!
2. Ubuhlobo bakho buyaphela.
Le yenye yezona ndawo zibuhlungu kubudlelwane obudlayo, kodwa ikwayenye yezona zixhaphakileyo.
xa umfana engophuli ukudibana kwamehlo
Sihlala sisongelwe kakhulu kwiqabane lethu kangangokuba yonke enye into iyaphela.
Ayikuko ukuba asibakhathalelanga abanye abantu kungenxa yokuba simkhathalele lo mntu ngakumbi (okanye sicinga ukuba siyabenza).
Uyabona ukuba urhoxe ekucwangciseni izicwangciso kutshanje, okanye khange wenze mzamo mkhulu wokuncokola nabahlobo kwaye udibane.
Ukulwa oku:Yiba ngqongqo kwisiqu sakho! Sonke siyayazi intetho malunga nokubeka abahlobo bakho ngaphambi kwamaqabane akho - abahlobo bobomi, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Oko akutsho ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buza kuphela ngoko akufanele ubeke ixesha kunye nomgudu kuwo ...
… Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uqhubeke ukuxabisa abanye abantu ebomini bakho kwaye ungajongi nje onke amandla akho kwisithandwa sakho okanye intombi yakho.
Yenza ubuncinci isicwangciso esinye sokubona okanye i-Skype umhlobo veki nganye, kwaye ulandele ngayo!
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Sele uyazi ukuba uyabathanda abahlobo bakho, ke uyazi ukuba uya kuba nexesha elimnandi lokuphinda uqhagamshele kunye nabo.
Oku kukunceda ufumane ubuyena bakho kwakhona-abanye bethu bahlukile kumaqabane ethu kunokuba sinjalo nabahlobo bethu.
Kuhle ukuba ube 'ngumntu wakho omdala' ngamanye amaxesha, ukuxhoma kunye nabahlobo obaziyo kangangeminyaka kwaye ungazikhathazi ngokuba mhle okanye ube nomtsalane okanye ube nomtsalane phambi kweqabane lakho!
Oku kuyakukunceda uphumle, okususa uxinzelelo kubudlelwane bakho.
Uya kuyeka ukulindela ukufumana konke ingqalelo yakho, ukusebenzisana, kunye nokwoneliseka kwiqabane lakho, kwaye uya konwaba ngakumbi xa uwonke.
Izinto ezingaphandle ngakumbi ebomini bakho ezikwenza uzive ulungile, kokukhona unokugxila ekuveliseni olo lonwabo lwangaphakathi lusisiseko sokuphila ubomi besiqulatho!
3. Uyekile ukusebenzisa igama elithi 'mna', 'elam' nelithi 'mna'
Kuhle ekuqaleni - uyakuqaphela ukuba ungathi 'sizakubakhona ngokuhlwanje' okanye 'siyayithanda iPrague.'
Kuhle ukuba yinxalenye yento ekhethekileyo nomntu omthandayo kwaye kulula ukubambelela kule patheni.
Umcimbi uyeza xa uhlala uthetha nje ngeziqu zakho kwaye ulahlekelwe ngamagama athi 'mna', 'owam' kunye 'nam'.
Uya kuqaphela ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuchaza indlela wena Uziva malunga nezinto - oku ngokuyinxenye kungenxa yomkhwa, kodwa nangenxa yokuba udibanise ubuntu, ukhetho kunye neenjongo.
Kwaye kulapho kufuneka wenze utshintsho.
Ukulwa oku:Qalisa ukusebenzisa izimelabizo zakho kwakhona.
Ingaziva ingumnqa ekuqaleni ukuba ubuqhele ukuthetha egameni lakho kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa eli linyathelo elikhulu ekuthatheni ubomi bakho kwakhona.
Sebenzisa 'mna' okanye 'mna' kukunceda uphinde ufumane isazisi sakho kwaye uqale ukufumana kwakhona inkululeko.
Qala ngokwenza oku nabantu obathandayo kwaye obathembayo kwaye abangayi kukugweba ukuba uyakhubeka kumagama kancinci ekuqaleni!
Ukuba iyanceda, bhala phantsi a uluhlu lweenkcukacha ngawe - isenokuvakala iyisidenge ngokwenene, kodwa kulula ukulibala ukuba i-curry sisidlo esithandwa liqabane lakho kwaye eyakho sisidlo sangokuhlwa!
Sifumana phantse ulwalamano xa sikubudlelwane, nto leyo emnandi ngandlela thile kwaye iyingozi kwabanye…
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ubudlelwane obunetyhefu ophulukene nabo kubo bunokuxhomekeka kakhulu kubambiswano, ke kubalulekile ukuba uzilolonge ngokwakho.
Ukuzikhumbuza ukuba ukhona ngaphandle kwabo kubalulekile ekuthinteleni ukuqhuma okukhulu kulwalamano.
Uya kuqala ukuzimamela ngakumbi kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ungubani njengomntu.
Uya kubuya uzithembe kwaye uzive kufanelekile njengomntu okwaziyo ukwenza izigqibo kwaye uyazi into ayithandayo.
4. Awunakukhumbula ixesha lokugqibela owawunedwa.
Kulula kakhulu ukungena kumkhwa wokuchitha lonke ixesha lakho 'lokugcina' kunye neqabane lakho.
Kwaye, ekuqaleni, inokuthandeka.
Ubuyela ekhaya uvela emsebenzini kwaye nichithe ubusuku kunye, nonwabele isidlo sakusasa ngosuku olulandelayo, kwaye niyiphinde yonke loo nto kwakhona.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhlala kunye okanye ukuhlala kunye uninzi lweveki kumnandi, kodwa sonke sidinga ixesha lokuba sedwa!
Ukulwa oku:Kuya kufuneka ubeke imida! Ukuba awucingi ukuba ufuna, yenza ngoku.
Lo mzuzu uqonda ukuba ufuna imida, sele kudlule ixesha, kwaye yinto nje yexesha ngaphambi kokuba izinto zibe mbi.
Yiba nobusuku obambalwa ngenyanga obuzinikele kuwe - hlala ekhayeni lakho ukuba awuhlali kunye okanye ubacele ukuba benze izicwangciso zokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa nabahlobo ukuze ubuncinci ube nendawo yakho ngokwakho iiyure ezimbalwa.
Cwangcisa ukuphela kwempelaveki ngokwakho okanye uye ekhefini ledolophu encinci ngoMgqibelo kwaye wonwabele ukusela ikofu uwedwa, ukufunda incwadi elungileyo, okanye ukuzinyanga kwisidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi-ngokwakho!
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzikhumbuza ukuba ukhona njengobakho - andinakukuxinzelela ngokwaneleyo!
Ixesha elilodwa lilodwa lisinika indawo yokuqhubekeka yonke into eyenzekayo ebomini bethu.
Ukuba uhlala neqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha, ngekhe ubacaphukise kwaye emva koko uzenze ezo mvakalelo njengoko kungekho xesha okanye ithuba lokwenza oko.
Unokuziva ngathi kufuneka ube 'kubo' ngalo lonke ixesha. Kukho uxinzelelo oluthile, ngakumbi kubudlelwane obutsha, ukuba luhlekise kwaye lube mnandi kwaye lunike umdla, kwaye awusoze ube nexesha lokwehlisa isantya kwaye wanelise.
Ingathi ubeka umboniso ukuze ubachukumise!
Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa akunampilo kakhulu, ixesha elililo lodwa likuvumela ukuba uphole kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokubuyela umva.
Kuyanceda ukuba uvavanye yonke into ebomini bakho ngokwembono elungileyo, hayi ubudlelwane bakho kuphela.
Ikunika ithuba lokuba ungene kukhathalelo lokuzikhathalela, esiya kuthi emva koko ...
5. Ikamva lakho lijikeleze bona.
Kuqhelekile ukucinga malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwexesha elizayo kunye neqabane lakho langoku… kakhulu.
Kutheni ungekho?
Uninzi lwethu luyaphambuka kwaye lucinge ngomtshato wethu, ukuba abantwana bethu baya kujongeka njani, kwaye ngubani oza kwenza i-DIY kumakhaya ethu amatsha.
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Kulula kakhulu ukuzithutha ukuya kwixesha apho eyona nto kugxilwe kuyo iseyinxalenye 'yethu,' ngelixa uyityeshela into esifuna ukuba ikamva lethu lizibambele yona.
Ukulwa oku:Sebenzisa ixesha lakho elithe cwaka / wedwa ukucinga ngezinye izinto ezikonwabisa.
Kuyathandeka ukukhukuliseka uphuphe ngomtshato wakho, kodwa kubalulekile ukugxila kwezinye izinto eziza kubakho kwikamva lakho.
Iphantse yathathelwa kuthi ukuba amathemba ethu namaphupha ajikeleze kwiqabane lethu eligqibeleleyo, kodwa kuninzi kakhulu ekufuneka sijonge phambili kuko.
Ngexesha elizayo xa uzibona sele uphupha malunga nolwalamano lwakho, utshintshe isihloko esijolise kuso kwaye uqalise ukucinga ngokuhamba kwekhondo lakho elilandelayo, isiganeko somhla wokuzalwa komhlobo wakho osijonge phambili, okanye enye into ekwenza uzive wonwabile, womelele, okanye unamabhongo!
Kutheni le nto isebenza:ubuchopho bethu bu-pre-wired ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa iipateni zethu zokucinga zihlala zikhuthaza unxibelelwano olutsha kwifom.
Cinga ngengqondo yakho njenge-AI (ubukrelekrele bokufakelwa) -Ifunda kuwe ngakumbi xa uyinika umxholo wokufunda kuyo!
Oko kuthetha ukuba ukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga ngeqabane lakho, ingqondo yakho iyakuyiqhela kwaye iqale ukwenza amakhonkco.
Usenokuba neglasi yewayini kwaye ucinge ngesithandwa sakho amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki (besikhe sasikho), ethi ke ikhuthaze ingqondo yakho ukuba ibhadule kwiqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha uneglasi yewayini ukusukela ngoko ukuya phambili.
Lo mbutho uba namandla - kodwa unokwaphuka!
Khuthaza ingqondo yakho ukuba icinge ngezinye izihloko kwaye nengqondo yakho kungekudala izakuqala ukwenza unxibelelwano olutsha (umz.Iwayini ngoku inxibelelana nokucinga ngokuba yi-CEO) kwaye ezinye ziya kuphela.
Uya kushiyeka ngengqondo ene-wired egxile ekuboneleleni, kunye nakubomi ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho.
6. Kunzima ukwahlula ukuba uyenzela wena oku, okanye wenzele 'thina'
Njengoko besesitshilo ngentla, kulula ukuzisonga ngokuba sisibini kunye nokucwangcisa ikamva kunye, kodwa kuthekani ngoku?
Unokuqonda ukuba ininzi into oyiyo sele ukwenza kusekwe kuni nobabini.
Kungaba nzima ukwenza into oyithandayo kunye nezinto ozifunayo, kwaye unokufumanisa kunzima nokufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi na inyathelo elilandela ezi mvakalelo.
Ukulwa oku:Kwakhona, oku kulungile ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa kuya kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula ukuba zeziphi izenzo zakho ezixhamlayo- kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo ungumntu malunga ne-80% yexesha!
Xa usenza izicwangciso kunye neqabane lakho, yima ucinge malunga nokuba uza kukunceda ngantoni lo msebenzi.
Ngaba uhlala usenza izinto abazithandayo?
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Kukulungele ukuthatha inyathelo emva kwaye uvavanye indlela oziphatha ngayo amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho liyalawula kwaye ngulo ubiza isandi kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyacebisa ukuba wenze izinto ozaziyo bona uthanda ukugcina uxolo okanye ukuzama ukubakholisa.
Ngokuhlalutya olu hlobo lwezinto, unokusebenza ukuba ufuna ukuba nencoko neqabane lakho malunga nokuziphatha kwabo okanye ukuba ufuna ukusebenza kuwe kunye nokuzithemba kwakho!
Lo ayingomdlalo wokugxeka kwaye kulungile ukunqanda ukungqubana okungafunekiyo, kodwa kuhlala kuluncedo ukubona apho izenzo zakho zingena khona kubudlelwane.
7. Izimvo zakho zidityanisiwe kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba zingaphi na ezakho.
Oku kunokwenzeka ngokwendalo, kodwa ikwayinto esingayiqaqambisa njengeflegi ebomvu enokubakho.
Ukufana ngakumbi kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukugcina ubuwena kubudlelwane kwaye ungalahleki kwaphela!
Izimvo zakho zinokudityaniswa kangangokuba awuqinisekanga ukuba zeziphi ezizezakho ngokufanayo zihamba neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukulwa oku:Njengasentla, kubalulekile ukuba usebenzise ubungakanani benkululeko, ubuntu, kunye nesazisi onaso njengomntu ngamnye!
Ziqhelanise nokuvakalisa izimvo ezahlukeneyo kwaye ubone ukuba yeyiphi evakalelwa ilungile. Kufuneka uzifumane kwakhona kwaye usebenze ukuba ungubani wedwa, nangona usesebudlelwaneni.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Uyazazi kwakhona ngokufumana kwakhona iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho, ke lo msebenzi uya kukunika amandla amakhulu.
Ayisiyo malunga nokuzihlukanisa neqabane lakho okanye ulwalamano malunga nokuzifumana kunye nokwazi ukuba ungubani, nangona kunjalo uyathandwa.
8. Uzifumana ukhathazekile amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ukuxhalaba yinto uninzi lwethu olusokolayo nayo kwinqanaba elithile, kwaye ukuba kubudlelwane obukusebenzisileyo kukungunobangela omkhulu wezi ntlobo zeemvakalelo.
Uxinzelelo oluninzi luvela kwiimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala okanye ukungonwabi- nantoni na evakalelwa kukuba ayiqinisekanga okanye 'ayilunganga ncam' inokukhuthaza ngokwenene ezi ntlobo zeemvakalelo.
Ukusuka kumava obuqu, ukwazi ukuba ulahlekelwa bubuhlobo bakho (owenzayo ukuba ufunda le nto, masithembeke!) Ayisiyonto imnandi.
Uyazi ukuba wenza into engenampilo kwaye uqala ukuziva unetyala lokuba uyaqhubeka ukuyivumela ukuba yenzeke.
Oku kubangela iimpendulo zokulwa-okanye-zokubhabha emzimbeni wakho ezibonisa njengoxinzelelo - iimvakalelo zokoyika, ukubetha kwentliziyo, isisu esibuhlungu… zonke izinto eziqhelekileyo, ezimnandi!
Ukulwa oku:Uziva unetyala kwaye uxinezelekile kuba uyazi ukuba awuzikhetheli sigqibo.
Nokuba iyazi okanye ayiqondakali, awukwenzi ukhetho olusebenzayo lokuzijonga kwaye yile nto ikwenza uzive ungalunganga, kanye njengolwalamano ngokwalo!
Thatha ulawulo. Khetha ukuchitha ixesha ngokwakho, njengoko besesitshilo, kwaye wenze umzamo wokuzijonga ngokwenyani.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Okukhona uziva ulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo, kokukhona uya kulawula ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo zakho.
Oku ayisiyiyo eyokulawula kuphela, nangona kunjalo, imalunga nokukwazi ukuthembela kuwe kwaye uzive ukhuselekile kwizenzo nakwizinto ozikhethayo.
Ngokukhawuleza uyakuqonda oko wena ukhuselekile kwaye uzinzile, kokukhona uya kuziva ukhululekile ukuthatha ixesha lakho ngokwakho - kwaye uzolile kwaye wonwabile!
9. Awuyonto yakho iphambili.
Sonke besikhona - ufuna ukubonakala ulungile kwiqabane lakho, kodwa ulibale ukujonga zonke ezinye izinto zakho!
Ukuzikhathalela ngokwenene kungaphuma ngefestile xa uphakathi kokulahleka ngokwakho kubudlelwane.
Kubuhlungu ngokwenene ukuba silibale ukubeka phambili iziqu zethu, kodwa kwenziwa ngokulula kakhulu.
Uchitha ixesha elininzi uhlala kunye nabo okanye ufuna ukubonwabisa, uyalibala ukuba unezinto ozifunayo kunye neemfuno onokuzizalisekisa.
Ukulwa oku:Uninzi lwethu luqala ukuthembela kumaqabane ukuba ngowona mthombo wolonwabo okanye ukoneliseka.
Isilumkiso somonakalisi-esingaze sisebenze!
Okukhona ubeka kubo uxinzelelo lokuchonga indlela oziva ngayo, kokukhona usiya ngokukhawuleza kwintlekele.
Yithathe kum, akekho omnye umntu (nokuba uyathandeka okanye uyathandeka) angakwenza wonwabe.
Thatha ixesha lakho ngokwakho kwaye wenze into oyithandayo- thatha iglasi yewayini kwaye uzinkcinkce ngeNetflix kwimpahla yakho yokubila, ziphekele into emangalisayo kwaye wonwabele isidlo sangokuhlwa kwesibane, okanye ube ne-soak elungileyo (kunye nesililo sonyango) ebhafini. Kungenxa yokuba unako!
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukuzikhathalela kubaluleke kakhulu, ngakumbi kubudlelwane, njengoko kusibonisa ukuba sizixabisile kwaye sifuna ukwenza umzamo wokuzijonga.
Ingavakala iyisidenge, kodwa iyasebenza ukusikhumbuza ukuba sizithanda kangakanani kwaye kufanelekile ukuba silale ubusuku, sisodwa, rhoqo.
Le yindlela yethu yokuhlonipha iimfuno zethu kunokuba sibeke kuqala iqabane lethu.
Ikhulisa ukuzithemba kwethu kwaye ikwathatha uxinzelelo lobudlelwane njengoko ungasakhange ujonge kubo ukufezekisa zonke iimfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho!
10. Uzama nzima ukulawula yonke enye into.
Oku kuguqukela ekubeni luluhlu lwazo zonke izinto ezimbi endizenzileyo xa bendiphulukana nobudlelwane, kodwa ke siyahamba!
Ukuba 'yinto yolawulo' yinto abanye bethu abayiyo are Ngelixa abanye befunda le ndlela yokuziphatha kuba ibanceda bazive bebhetele ngeemeko zabo.
Iyavakala - ulahlekelwe sisazisi sakho kubudlelwane kwaye uzive ungaphandle kolawulo kwaye woyisiwe.
Uyabathanda kwaye ufuna ukuhlala nabo, kodwa awuziva uzinzile konke konke!
Ke ngoku wenzantoni?
Uzama ukulawula yonke enye into ebomini bakho ukuzikhumbuza ukuba unamandla kwaye abanye bathetha ngento eyenzekayo ebomini bakho.
Ukulwa oku:Oku kunokuba kubi kakhulu, ngokukhawuleza.
Ukulawula isimilo akusoze kube mnandi ekubeni ube sisiphelo sokufumana, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ubatyhalele abantu ngengozi.
Kukoyikeka nokuzijonga ujika ube ngumhlobo olawula imicro encinci ekufuneka ephethe lonke ixesha.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukwenza inqaku ngalo lonke ixesha usazi ngale ndlela yokuziphatha.
Kungangabonakali kuninzi ngelo xesha, kodwa, ekupheleni kweveki, uya kumangaliswa kwaye woyike kancinci yindlela ozame ngayo ukulawula iimeko nabantu.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ngokwamkela indlela oziphethe ngayo, uya kuyithathela kuye uxanduva.
Iyavakala into yokuba uyafuna ukulawula izinto zangaphandle ukubuyekeza indlela oziva ngayo, kodwa ayizukuphela kakuhle.
Yamkela le nto kwaye usendleleni yokutshintsha!
Ukuthatha inxaxheba ebonakalayo ekuzifumaneni kwakhona kwaye uyeke imiba yolawulo kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono kakhulu kwaye kuya kukunceda ukuseta kwakhona imikhwa yakho ukuze ubuyele kwinto yakho yakudala, ekhululekile.
11. Isazisi uziva ulahlekile okanye udanile.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe apha ngasentla, kunokwenzeka ukuba awenziwa 'wonwabe' ngumntu uxelelwa luluntu ukuba ubekwenzela lonto.
Kukwanokwenzeka ukuba awusaziva unomdla kakhulu okanye ufunwa, ngaphandle kokuba kubudlelwane obudlayo!
Ayenzi ngqondo kwaphela kwaye ivakale ichanekile, akunjalo?
Igumbi lokupheliswa kwe-wwe 2017 umhla
Uphantse ubandakanyeke kakhulu komnye nomnye, okungashiyi ndawo yovuyo okanye isimanga.
Izinto zihlala zikhawulezisa xa ulahlekelwa bubuhlobo bakho, kwaye uya usanda-kutshata kwisibini esitshatileyo esidala esilala kumagumbi okusithela.
Ukulwa oku:Njengoko ndihlala ndisithi (kuba iyinyani!), Kufuneka uthathe inyathelo elincinci ubuye umva rhoqo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ulahlekelwe sisazisi sakho, kufuneka uchithe ixesha elithile wedwa ukuphinda usifumane, njengoko kuchaziwe ngaphambili.
Kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngokunyanisekileyo neqabane lakho malunga nokuba kutheni uziva ungathandeki - ingaba yinto abayenzayo, ngaba yimikhwa enikuyo nobabini, okanye yinto onokuzibhekisa kuyo kodwa ufuna ukuzityand 'igila kuyo?
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukunyaniseka malunga nendlela oziva ngayo nomntu omthembileyo ayiyonto imbi!
Ingaziva ingumnqa, kodwa iyakubhatala ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye uyakuva ngcono emva koko.
Uyakufumana iindlela zokubuyisa isazisi sakho ngokuvakalisa ngokuvakalayo izinto onokuthi ungaziqondi engqondweni yakho.
12. Uziva ngathi usisiporho.
Wakha waziva ngathi uku-autopilot? Oku kuqhelekile xa uziphulukanisa nobudlelwane.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uziva undindisholo kwaye ungazi ukuba uziva njani ebomini.
Iinjongo zakho emva kwendlela oziphethe ngayo zinokuphela ngesiquphe ukuze ungaqiniseki ukuba kutheni usenza le uyenzayo!
Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa akunampilo kakhulu.
Ukulwa oku:Kuya kufuneka uye phambili kwesi sigaba kungenjalo uya kukhawuleza uzive ubanjisiwe kwaye ungonwabi kakhulu.
Ukuba ulahlekelwe sisazisi sakho, unokuziva ngathi akukho ziphumo kwizenzo zakho.
Qala ukwenza inqaku lezinto ozenzayo yonke imihla (hayi iinkcukacha ezincinci, kodwa izinto ezinkulu ezinje ngeklasi yeyoga, ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa, ukufunda incwadi njlnjl.) Kwaye uya kuqala ukuqonda ngakumbi nangakumbi ukuba izinto zisenzeka kwaye wena Asibambeki kubudlelwane obudadayo.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ngokwamkela into oyenzayo ebomini bakho, uzikhumbuza ukuba uyinyani- bubudenge njengoko kuvakala njalo!
Kunokuba lula ukulahleka kubudlelwane kangangokuba kufuneka uzikhumbuze ngokwenyama ukuba ungubani rhoqo.
Ukwenza inqaku lemisebenzi yakho kunye nezinto ozithandayo yindlela elungileyo yokwenza olu hlobo lwento lubetheleleke engqondweni yakho ukuze, ngaxa lithile, ungasafuni ukuyibhala kwaye uvele yazi yiyo.
13. Uthatha inxaxheba kakhulu kubomi beqabane lakho.
Le yinto abantu abaninzi ababa lixhoba ngayo ngamanye amaxesha-ikakhulu ngamaqabane abo athandanayo.
Uya kuyibona kaninzi kubudlelwane bukamama-ntombi okanye bukatata nonyana. Abanye abazali bazibandakanya kakhulu kubomi babantwana babo kwaye bahlala ngokuzimela ngabo. Sonke siyayazi into edumileyo 'Kodwa iballet ayilophupha lam… Yiyo eyakho phupha, Mama. ”
Ewe, abanye bethu bayayenza le nto kunye namaqabane ethu kwaye banendlela yokutyala ngokweemvakalelo kuyo yonke into encinci.yinto abayenzayo.
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Ukulwa oku:Kungenzeka ukuba unovelwano kwaye uphila amava eqabane lakho, elingasoze liphele kakuhle, masinyaniseke.
Oku kukwangumqondiso wokuba awufumananga okwaneleyo ebomini bakho kwaye kufuneka ujonge kwenye indawo ukonwaba, ukubandakanyeka, kunye nokunxibelelana.
Iphakamisa ukuba awucingi ukuba ulungile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungazibonela ezi zinto ngokwakho.
Ufumanisa kulula ukubandakanyeka kubomi beqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba ungacingi ukuba uyonwabisa okanye unomdla ngokwaneleyo.
Ungaziva impumelelo yabo ngokungathi yeyakho kuba awucingi ukuba uyakwazi ukuyiphumeza okanye uyifanele.
Yenza umgudu wokuba nezinto ezininzi ebomini bakho ezigcwalisa ixesha lakho kwaye zisebenzise amandla akho-ufumane umdlalo omtsha, uchithe ixesha elininzi noogxa bakho, hlala nabahlobo kunye nosapho ngakumbi.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukuba nento eyeyakho oza kugxila kuyo kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono kakhulu ngawe.
Kwaye kuyakuthatha uxinzelelo kwiqabane lakho ukuba baziva ngathi ubandakanyeke kakhulu kwinto abayenzayo kwaye abaze babe nexesha okanye imisebenzi yabo ngokwabo.
Ukuzenzela into ngokwethu kunokuba siphile ngobomi bomnye umntu kusinika ukuzithemba okukhulu.
Kusibonisa ukuba siyakwazi, ukuba sizimele kwaye siphume, ukuba kumnandi ukuba phakathi kwethu, ukuba sikrelekrele ngokwaneleyo kwaye sinomdla ngokwaneleyo ukuba singancokola nabantu abathanda izinto ezifanayo.
Oku kuyasinqanda ekubeni sithembele kakhulu kumaqabane ethu, kusinika okuthile kuthi okusenza sizive simnandi, kwaye kusinika into entsha esinokuyithetha namaqabane ethu kunokuba sigxile kubo ngalo lonke ixesha!
14. Uzibhaqa uthetha ngobudlelwane bakho rhoqo.
Wakhe waba ngumntu kangangokuba ufumanisa ukuba ukhankanya igama lakhe ngalo lonke ixesha?
Yinto entle ekuqaleni, kodwa, ngaxa lithile, iyadika kwabo bakungqongileyo kwaye mhlawumbi izakukwenza ungonwabi.
Yithathe emntwini osebenzise nasiphi na isizathu sokuthetha ngesithandwa sakhe, ayipheli kakuhle kwaye iphakamisa ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo phantsi komphezulu ongadibani nayo.
Abanye bethu baziva isidingo sokuthetha ngezinto esingaqinisekanga ngazo okanye esingakhululekanga ngazo kuba iziva ikhuselekile kwaye kungcono ukuyikhupha kwaye phantse sibe nobungqina kuyo ukuba sigcina izinto kuthi, siyothuka kwaye siyakhathazeka.
Mna? Ndathetha ngesithandwa sam ngalo lonke ixesha kuba ndandinexhala lokuba ukuba bendingasoloko ndimkhankanya, kuzofuneka ndihlale nezam iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo ndizivume ngokwam ukuba andonwabanga kakhulu.
Bendingafuni ukuyenza lonto bendimane ndizenza ngathi ndiyathandwa kangangokuba bendifuna ukuthetha ngaye ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ngasekupheleni kobudlelwane, ndizifumene ndithetha ngaye nangakumbi, ndinethemba lokuba umntu angathetha into endingenakukuthetha kum - 'ayivakali intle, uyaphila?' okanye, 'Uqinisekile ukuba wonwabile kuba uqhubeka uthetha ngento enye uphindaphinde?'
Ukulwa oku:Uya kuzonakalisa ngokupheleleyo ukuba uyaqhubeka nale ndlela, nokuba uthetha ngesoka lakho ngalo lonke ixesha kuba wonwabile okanye kuba ungonwabanga.
Akunampilo nje ukuba kulungiswe umntu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ncokola ngento emnandi eyenzekileyo ngolunye usuku okanye izicwangciso zakho kunye, kodwa musa ukuziqhubela phambili ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ukuba uyakwenza oko, uzifundisa ukuba kufanelekile ukuzibamba kwaye uya kukhawuleza ungene kumkhwa wokuzibandakanya kuyo yonke into, ukusukela ekuthetheni ngayo ukubamema kuwo wonke umsitho ukuya kufuna ukuba nabo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Yenza inzame zokuyiphawula kancinci-mhlawumbi usete imida kwaye uzinike umthetho weentsuku ezi-5. Ungabakhankanya amaxesha ama-5 ngosuku kwaye ungasekho.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Umthetho we-5-a-day uvakala ungqwabalala, kodwa undifumene ngekhefu elibi kwaye ngoku ndiyafunga ngawo.
Ngexesha lokwahlukana, kuye kwafuneka ndizinciphise ekuthetheni kwaye ndilila malunga namaxesha ama-5 ngosuku.
Le nto yayiyinxalenye yengqondo yam kunye nokuphila kakuhle, kodwa nangenxa yokuba ndandixelela ukuba nabo banandithandayo kakhulu babenengxaki nayo!
Oku kuyasebenza kuba ufunda ukuzilawula uya kuba nolwazi ngakumbi ngento oyithethayo noyenzayo.
Akufanele uzokohlwaye ukuba ufumanisa kunzima ekuqaleni kwaye udlule umda, kodwa kuya kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukubambelela kule mida.
Uya kufumana kwakhona isithuba esingaphezulu sentloko sokucinga malunga nokuba kutheni uhlala ufuna ukubazisa.
Qho xa uyeka ukuzikhankanya, zibuze ukuba kutheni ufuna njalo nokuba kutheni kubalulekile.
Kum, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ndiyaqhubeka ndithetha ngabo kuba andonwabanga. Ukuba oku kuyafana kuwe, kuyakufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni kunjalo, uhlala uziva njalo, kwaye ngawaphi amanyathelo alandelayo.
Ukuba wonwabile, mhlawumbi cinga ukuba kutheni ufuna ukwaba ngalo lonke ixesha- ngaba kukwenza abantu babe nomona, ngaba kukuqhayisa ngezinto ezintle, okanye ngaba inyani kuba ufuna ukwabelana ngendlela olunge ngayo uziva?
I-PS-ukuba kamva, xelela iqabane lakho wonwabe kangakanani kunye nabo endaweni yokuxelela iqela labahlobo bakho kwincoko engenamsebenzi kwaphela!
15. Ukhobokisa ngakumbi kwifowuni yakho.
Kwakhona, ngamava, uphawu olulahlekile kubudlelwane bakho kukuba ulikhoboka lefowuni yakho.
Oku kungenxa yokuba uthetha neqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha okanye kuba ufuna ukubakho kubo nanini na xa banokufuna okanye bafuna ukuthetha nawe.
Oku akunampilo!
Ngokwengxenye ngenxa yokuba ungasoloko uhlala kwifowuni yakho, kodwa nangenxa yokuba uzivumela ukuba uthathe inxaxheba ekuziphatheni okulimazayo, okwenza ukuba ulahlekelwe sisazisi sakho, kwaye oko kukhuthaza ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kubambisene nawe.
Ukulwa oku:Njengawo wonke umntu, ulwalamano lwakho alunakutshintsha ukuba awuphenduli kwisicatshulwa ngaphakathi kwemizuzwana eyi-0.3- kwaye, ukuba kuyenzeka, uku ubudlelwane obungalunganga kwaye kufuneka uphume ngoku!
Kwakhona, zibekele imida kwaye uthathe inyathelo ukubuyela emva ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni uziva unesidingo sokuhlala ulungile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ngaba kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba abakucaphukisi ngokungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza (ukuba kunjalo, shiya!) Okanye ngenxa yokuba ungazithembanga kubudlelwane kwaye uhlala ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kunye nokudunyiswa (cinga ngokushiya, kodwa ujonge nonyango ngenxa yakho njengoko lo ingumbandela osisiseko, uninzi lwethu lufuna uncedo ngalo!)
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukufumana umbono kuya kukuxelela okuninzi malunga nawe kwaye okuninzi malunga nolwalamano lwakho.
Ubomi bakho akufuneki bujikeleze bona kwaye kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni uyivumela.
Kukho unobangela emva kolu hlobo lokuziphatha kwaye ukuba awujongani naloo nto, awusoze uqhubeke kuyo.
Kwakhona, ndafunda ukuba indlela enzima! Ininzi yokuziphatha kwam yayingenampilo kwaye ndandithemba nje ukuba iya kuzilungisa.
Isilumkiso sasespoiler: ayenzi njalo.
Chaza ukuba kutheni ufuna oku kungqinisiswa kwaye kutheni ufuna ukufuneka kwaye ngequbuliso ufumana ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Ukuzazisa kubalulekile, ke vula ingqondo kwaye ube nomusa kuwe. Ayisiyonto ilula ukusebenza ngayo, ke zinike amanqaku ukuze ulungelelanise.
Kusoloko kuwe uzimisele ukutshintsha.
Kulungile ukufuna ukwenza utshintsho olululo kuwe, kodwa akukho namnye kuni olindele ukuba omnye abuyekeze bonke ubuntu okanye imbonakalo yabo.
Ungafumanisa ukuba ukulungele kakhulu ukuthatha ingxelo yabo…
… Bathanda ii-blondes, ke wena ngovuyo uhlikihla iinwele zakho ezimnyama.
… Bacinga ukuba 'ungangumqabaqaba,' ngoko ke ubhalisela ukwenza umthambo kwaye ukhuphe amathumbu akho kwiintsuku ezi-5 ngeveki.
… Bacinga ukuba kufuneka uchithe ixesha elincinci nabahlobo bakho abangatshatanga, ke uyabasusa kwi-Instagram yakho.
Uyabona ukuba siyaphi nale nto?
Ukulwa oku:Asikukhuthazi ukuba uqale ukukhetha imilo ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, kodwa kubalulekile ukumela izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe.
Ukuba ngokwenene awukhathazi malunga nokuthabatha okufumanayo okanye yeyiphi imovie oyibukeleyo, ngandlela zonke, hamba kunye noko bacinga ukuba kungakuhle.
Ukuba imalunga nento yobuqu, enje ngenkangeleko yakho, khumbula ukuba ayiyondaba yabo.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge nyani malunga nokuba ufuna ukuba kunye nomntu ofuna ukukutshintsha ukuze ulungele ukhetho lwabo.
Ukuba imalunga nokuziphatha kwakho, yenza incoko evuthiweyo malunga nayo njengoko inokuba yindawo efanelekileyo kwaye inokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuzazi ngakumbi.
Iingcebiso malunga notshintsho akufuneki zigxeke okanye zinobulungisa.
Isenokuba yinkxalabo yezempilo yokwenyani ebakhokeleyo ukuba bacebise ukuba usebenze ngakumbi, kodwa kufuneka bavume ukuba ngumba ontununtunu kwaye ube nobubele malunga nawo - kwaye kuya kufuneka usete imida ukuba abanabubele!
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukuthatha ingxelo ngebhodi kulungile emsebenzini wakho, kodwa ukuba kubudlelwane nomntu kuthetha ukubamkela nokubathanda ukuba bangobani.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kuthanda yonke into ngabo, kodwa akufuneki uzame nokuzitshintsha.
Bangabo, njengoko unjalo unguye.
Uninzi lwethu lunokuyenza ngokuba nenkuthalo ngakumbi, ububele obuncinci, kunye nengqondo evulekileyo ngakumbi, kodwa amaqabane ethu akufuneki nyhani ibe ngabo abaza kusixelela loo nto.
Kuxhomekeke kuthi ukuthatha uxanduva ngokwethu, ke ukutyhala umva kancinci kwaye ungasoloko ungoyena mntu uza kunika kuya kubonisa ukuba unokuzithemba, uzihloniphe, kwaye uya kubakhumbuza ukuba kutheni bekuthanda kangaka.
17. Uyazi kakuhle umahluko wakho, kwaye uyazikhusela ekuziqaqambiseni.
Kungenzeka ukuba ungabelani ngezimvo zakho zezopolitiko njengoko usazi ukuba iqabane lakho alivumelani, okanye kufuneka ulume ulwimi lwakho ngalo lonke ixesha besenza ubuhlanga okanye isini 'sokuqhula' njl.
Le yindawo ekhohlisayo kwaye into yokuba uhamba kunye nezi zinto ngaphandle kokubeka izimvo kuzo zibonisa ukuba ulahlekelwe sisiqu sakho sokwenyani kubudlelwane.
Awuyi kuhlala uvumelana omnye nomnye, kodwa luphawu lokuba ulahlekelwa sisazisi sakho ukuba ulahlekelwa sisakhono sokubambelela kwinto okholelwa kuyo kwaye uvakalise uluvo.
Ukulwa oku:Ndisebenzise eli gama izihlandlo ezingenakubalwa kweli nqaku ngoku, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba andizukuyeka. 'Imida'.
Sele uyazi into endiza kuyithetha kuba uyazi ukuba kufuneka uyenze ngakumbi le nto.
Ukuba kukho into ethethwa liqabane lakho okanye iwela umgca, xelela. Kuyafana nangasentla - awunakulindela ukutshintsha yonke into malunga nabo, kodwa kulungile ukubaxelela ukuba kutheni ungayithandi into enobubele.
Yiba nengxoxo ezolileyo malunga nayo kwaye ucinge ngezakho izimvo kwaye kutheni ulungele ukuvumela izinto zenzeke ezichasene neenqobo zakho.
Qiniseka ukuba bayasiqonda isizathu sokuba ucaphuke kwaye ayikuko nje 'ukukrokra' okanye 'ukukruqula.'
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Awusoze ufumane umntu ovumelana nawe kuyo yonke into (kwaye ubulele ukulunga, uyadika njani!), Kodwa ukuba uyazi nzulu ukuba wahluke kakhulu, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela oku okuya kubuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane bakho kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba bahlala besenza amagqabantshintshi angafanelekanga, ngaba ungazibona uhleli nabo kwaye uhlala nenyani yokuba kufuneka ujonge ngamehlo ngalo lonke ixesha besenza?
Ngaba kuya kufuneka uphile uneentloni, okanye ube neentloni xa besenza phambi kwabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho?
Ukuba uzimisele ukuhamba nale nto kwaye ulalanise iimvakalelo zakho, ukubaluleka kwakho, kunye neenqobo zakho, uzilahlile kulwalamano kwaye kufuneka uhlalutye eyona nto iqhubekayo.
18. Abahlobo bakho okanye amalungu osapho akhankanyile ukuba utshintshe kangakanani. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Olu luphawu olubuhlungu ngokwenene lokuba uziphulukanisa nobudlelwane, kwaye yinto ekufuneka uyiqwalasele.
Abo bakungqongileyo bazi ngcono, kwaye baya kuba nakho ukuxelela ukuba into ayilunganga ncam.
Mhlawumbi awuchithi ixesha elininzi nabo, okanye ulungisa kakhulu kwisicatshulwa esivela kwiqabane lakho xa ukwindlu yabazali bakho isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi.
Okanye mhlawumbi uyarhoxa xa ungekho neqabane lakho kwaye ubonakala ulusizi kwaye unovalo.
Ukulwa oku:Mamela abo bakungqongileyo. Kunqabile kakhulu, kunqabile ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe, omthembileyo, akuxelele oku ngenxa yempambano okanye umona.
Kungenzeka ukuba bayakuxelela kuba bakhathazekile ngawe - kwaye ukungahoyi kubonisa ukuba uyazi ukuba balungile, kodwa awufuni kuyivuma kuwe.
Kum, kwathatha usapho lwam lubuza kaninzi ukuba kutheni ndikhangeleka ndinomsindo, kutheni ndixhumaxhuma, kwaye kutheni ndithe nca kwifowuni yam ukuze ndivume ekugqibeleni into endiyaziyo kodwa ndingafuni ukuyithetha ngokuvakalayo-into yayingalunganga kwaye ndandingonwabanga.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Ukujonga abo basondeleyo kuwe kuya kukunceda ubone izinto ngokucacileyo kwaye kuya kuvula indawo eninzi engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba uziva ngathi ulahlekelwa sisazisi sakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqondo yakho ivale kwaye iphantse ukuvimba iingcinga ezithile kuwe.
Ulahleka kakhulu kubudlelwane ongazivumeli ukuba ucinge ngobomi obungaphandle kwabo, okanye ngaphambi kwawo.
Ngokuthemba nokuthetha nabo bakungqongileyo, uvula ezo ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo kwaye okunene ungaqala ukucinga ngendlela oziva ngayo kunye nento oyifunayo.
19. Ucinga ngokungatshati.
Ewe, le ayisiyiyo-brainer, kwaye ininzi into esiyenzileyo!
Usenokuba udale uhlobo 'olunye' lwakho oluphumayo kwaye luyokonwaba, alunazibophelelo zokukhathazeka, kwaye aluziva lubotshelelwe ngendlela owenza ngayo.
Ukuba ulahlekelwe bubuhlobo bakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubandakanyeke kakhulu kuwo kwaye ufuna ukuphuncuka kumntu ohlukileyo, phantse.
Ukulwa oku:Cinga malunga nokuba kutheni ufuna ubomi obubodwa.
Ngaba ikruqukile? Kwimeko apho, izinto zokunonga, yenza izinto ezintsha, kwaye uzame ukubuyisela ubudlelwane bakho kwinqanaba elinomdla!
Ngaba kungenxa yokuba awonwabanga kwaye ufuna ukubaleka? Ukuba kunjalo, qwalasela ukuba uziva phi na lo nto njengoko kuyinto enzulu ukuba nayo kubudlelwane.
Mhlawumbi kukuba ukhathazekile ngokwenza, kwimeko apho unengxoxo evulekileyo nethembekileyo neqabane lakho.
Kutheni le nto isebenza:Kwakhona, ukunyaniseka kuwe malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kubaluleke kakhulu.
Cinga ngento ebangela olovakalelo kwaye uya kuziva ungcono kakhulu sele.
Oko kukunika inyathelo elilandelayo ekujonganeni nomcimbi, nokuba kukukruquka, ukungabi naluxabiso, okanye into onokuthi ungakhe wayicinga njengengxaki ngaphambili.
20. Ulwalamano alukho nokuba lungile!
Le yinto enzima ngokwenene ukuyamkela, ngakumbi xa ubeke ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo kubudlelwane, kodwa ikwangumqondiso wokuba ulahlekile ngokupheleleyo kubudlelwane bakho.
ngawaphi amagama onokuzisebenzisa ukuzichaza
Kungenzeka ukuba ugxila kakhulu ekubeni kunye nomntu onokuthi ulibale malunga nento oyifunayo kubudlelwane kwaye zeziphi iimfuno ezingafezekiswanga.
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa kulo lonke uvuyo lokuba kunye nomntu ukuba lutsha, kwaye ubambeke kwimikhwa ukuba ngumntu ohleli naye ixesha elide.
Ukulwa oku:Vavanya ubudlelwane bakho ngokufanelekileyo. Bhala uluhlu 'lwezinto ezilungileyo' kunye 'neengozi' uze uthethe nomhlobo wakho omthembileyo.
Ingabonakala ibukhali, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha iyimfuneko.
Umbono wakho ngawo awuyi kuhlala unyanisekile okanye usempilweni, kwaye kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuba ujonge izinto ngendlela eyiyo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba undindisholo ukuba ungene kangakanani na kwaye ulahlekelwe kangakanani kuko, ngenxa yoko akunakulindeleka ukuba uqonde ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luyintoni na kwaye lunokuba nefuthe lini kuwe.
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Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa ayisiyiyo indawo entle ukuba ube kuyo njengoko usengozini kwizinto eziya zisiba mbi ungakhange uqaphele, kuba ubandakanyeke kakhulu kangangokuba ukude kuwo ngeendlela ezithile.
Ngokuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva, ungavavanya ubudlelwane ukuba buyintoni ebomini bokwenyani kwaye uya kuziva ulunge ngakumbi!
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Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba olu luhlu aluphelelanga kwaye aluchanekanga ngokupheleleyo okanye aluchaphazeli wonke umntu.
Kukwangundoqo ukukhumbula ukuba usenokuba ulahlekile ngokwakho kwi Kulungile ubudlelwane-oku akuthethi kuthi abantu baphulukana kuphela nesazisi sabo kubambiswano olunetyhefu.
Izinto zingamangalisa phakathi kwenu nobabini, kodwa kukuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo ezinokuthi zibonise ukuba ubandakanyeke kakhulu kuyo.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda ukubuyela kubudlelwane obusempilweni obuzalisekisa nobabini kwaye nobabini nizive nikhuselekile, nonwabile kwaye nithandwa.
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