Zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantu abanzima emhlabeni, kwaye iintlobo zokwenza izinto ezinoburharha zezona zinzima kakhulu ukujongana nazo.
Ukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo kuhlala kuhambelana nenzondo kunye neenkani Kunye nomnqweno wangaphakathi wokulunga ngalo lonke ixesha.
Olu hlobo lomntu luya kulwa kude kube sekupheleni ukubonisa ukuba ulungile, nokuba bayazi ukuba bayaphosisa, kodwa indlela abalwa ngayo ayingqalanga kwaye iyabhidisa. Isenokuba kukuncoma okukhutshiweyo, ukujongwa kakubi, okanye ukuphathwa ngokuthe cwaka.
Ungayiqonda njani indlela yokuziPhatha
Abantu abangakhathaliyo baveza iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela engangqalanga, ngenxa yoko ngekhe ubabone kwangoko. Ayizukuthatha thuba lide, nangona kunjalo, kuba iintlobo zobuntu ezenzekelayo zinobutshaba ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ngapha koko, ngeendlela ezininzi bafana nomntwana omncinci ongafumani ndlela yakhe. Nantsi indlela yokuqonda enye.
1. Bafihla ukugxekwa ngokuncoma
Xa uqala ukunxibelelana nomntu ongenaburhalarhume, banokufumana ubumnandi kwaye banobuhlobo. Banokude bancome, kwaye bahlala bonwabile ukuthetha nabo. Kuphela kusemva kokuba bemkile apho uthi uqonde ukuba ukuncoma yayiyijab efihliweyo. Usenokude uve kumhlobo wakho ukuba lo mntu ebehlekisa ngawe okanye usasaza amarhe ngasemva kwakho .
2. Bakuhlasela ngokufihlakeleyo
Abantu abangxungupheleyo bazama ukukulahlekisa ukuze bakonakalise. Basenokukuxelela 'ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiza kuyenza loo nto,' xa bengenanjongo yakuyenza. Banokufika emva kwexesha ngenjongo yokwenza ukuba uphoswe yinto okanye ujongeke kakubi.
3. Banika Unyango Cwaka
Abantu abangakhathaliyo bayathanda ukunika unyango oluthuleyo. Uninzi lwabantu, ukuthula kuthetha isivumelwano, kodwa hayi kwimeko yolwaphulo-mthetho. Ungabuza 'yintoni engalunganga?' kodwa niyakufumana impendulo 'engenanto' xa nina nobabini nisazi ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo kukho into engalunganga. Umntu onoburhalarhume unokuwohlwaya ethe cwaka kunokukuxelela eyona nto ibacaphukisayo.
4. Bahlala Bacinga Ukuba Ihlabathi Lichasene Nabo
Ngalo lonke ixesha into ingahambi ngendlela yabo, abantu abanoburharha bayakhalaza ukuba bayahlaselwa. Yonke into ayinabulungisa kwaye ayinabulungisa. Ilizwe liphumile ukuba libazuze. Wonke umntu usebenza ngokuchasene nabo.
5. Zihlala zi-Sarcastic
I-Sarcasm ihlala sisixhobo esithandwa ngumntu onobukrwada. Benza ngathi bayadlala kanti ngokucacileyo akunjalo. Baqhula abanye okanye bababeke phantsi emva koko bazame ukuthambisa isibetho “ngokuhlekisa.” I-Sarcasm yindlela engathanga ngqo yokuthetha ngqo ukuba zithetha ntoni ngaphandle kokuba uthathe ubunini.
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Indlela yokujongana naBantu aba-Passive-Aggressive
Ukudutyulwa nje kungangumngeni ukujongana nako. Abantu banokwenza ngale ndlela kuba ndiziva ndinganqabisekanga okanye ungazithembi kakhulu. Ngenye indlela, banokudideka kwaye bangazi ukuba bajongane njani neemvakalelo zabo ngendlela enemveliso. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ubundlongondlongo nje abunyamezeleki. Nantsi indlela yokujongana nokuziphatha xa uyibona.
1. Chonga indlela yokuziphatha njengentiyo
Ukuziphatha okungalawulekiyo kubutshaba. Isenokungangqalanga ngqo, kodwa iseyindlela yokuziphatha enobundlongondlongo. Musa ukuyambathisa iswekile kwindlela yokuziphatha yomntu ngenxa yokuba engaziphosi. Ukuba uyavuma kwaye uyanikezela, ukhawuleza umfundise loo mntu ulungile ukuba akuphathe ngobundlongondlongo. Ngendlela efanayo awunakunyamezela ukuhlaselwa ngokuthe ngqo ngomlomo, sukunyamezela okungangqalanga.
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2.Cwangcisa imida kwaye ulandele
Xa ujongana nabantu abangakhathaliyo, kuya kufuneka ubeke imida kunye nabo (ngokufanayo nendlela onokubeka ngayo umda kumntwana omncinci). Yenze icace gca ukuba awuyi kuyinyamezela le fomu yobuntwana. Emva koko, landela. Umzekelo, mazise loo mntu ukuba kwixesha elizayo xa befika emva kwexesha, uza kuhamba ungekho. Kwaye uyenze. Akunyanzelekanga krwada okanye uthoba isidima. Qiniseka.
3. Nika uMntu o-Passive-Ndlongondlongo Ithuba lokusombulula ingxaki
Amaxesha amaninzi, umntu onoburharha uya kwenza ngendlela abenza ngayo kuba abakholelwa ukuba bayeviwa . Xa unako, khangela igalelo labo. Babuze ukuba bangayilungisa njani le ngxaki. Mhlawumbi baya kukumangaza kwaye beze nesisombululo esikhulu. Ukuba bawela kwenye ipatheni yokungenzi nto okanye ukungakhathali, sukuvuma okanye ungavumi. Endaweni yoko, yithi into efana nale 'ndiza kuyigcina engqondweni,' kwaye uqhubeke. Ixesha elingaphezulu, le ndlela inokunceda ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga.
4. Qaphela ukuba ngekhe ube nakho ukuTshintsha
Unokunceda kuphela umntu onobukrwada ukuba atshintshe ukuba bafuna ukutshintsha. Ngaphandle koko, awunamandla okuphembelela isimilo sabo. Sukuchitha amandla akho amaninzi uzama ukuhlangula ubudlelwane ukuba abanamnqweno wokutshintsha. Unolawulo kuwe kuphela kunye nokuphendula kwakho kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo.
5. Hlala Upholile
Abantu abangxunguphalayo emva kwempendulo, ke musa ukuyinika. Ungazivumeli ukuba ungene ngaphakathi, nokuba iya kuba yeyakho (ehlala idla). Musa ukuthatha isithiyelo kuba oko kuya kubonwabisa kuphela. Gcina umgama wakho xa unako, kwaye uwudlale upholile xa ungakwazi. Kuhleke ngokuhlekisa okanye ungaphenduli konke konke. Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungavumeli imeko inyuke. Qhubeka.
Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu ukungathathi isimilo somntu onomsindo. Uhlaselo luhlala lusenziwa buqu kwaye luyenzakalisa. Ngelixa ungenakumtshintsha umntu, ukufunda amaqhinga ambalwa alula kuya kukunceda ukuba ube nakho ukunxibelelana ngcono xa ezi meko zivela, endaweni yokuthenga kwidrama. Ukuba kufuneka ujongane nomntu onobukrwada, thatha amanyathelo kwangoko ukulungisa nokulungisa ingxaki.
