Zimbalwa izinto ezi-irksome (kwaye ezonakalisayo) kubuhlobo okanye kubudlelwane bothando njengobundlongondlongo nje. Ukukhanyela okanye ukungasebenzi kweemvakalelo, ukwenza amagqabantshintshi, ukuphepha ukunxibelelana okunokufuna ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo, ukukhupha umoya njengesohlwayo…
Zonke ezi zizinto zokuziphatha ezingenandawo kuyo ubudlelwane obuphilileyo , Ke ukuba uzibhaqa usenza nayiphi na kwezi, kufuneka uyisike.
Ngoku.
Uninzi lwabantu abazibandakanya nobundlongondlongo benjenjalo kuba bengazange bafunde ngendlela yokujongana neengxabano ngendlela evuthiweyo, enoxanduva. Kungenzeka ukuba ukuzama ukuzimela kwixesha elidlulileyo kubangele iimpendulo zokuhlukumeza ezivela kubazali bakho okanye kumaqabane akho okuqala.
Kuyaqondakala ukuba yonke le nto isukaphi, kodwa ezi ndlela zokuziphatha kufuneka zingafundiswanga ukuba unokuba nonxibelelwano olusempilweni nomnye umntu.
Thembeka, Nokuba woyikisiwe
Umzekelo weklasikhi womntu osebenzisa isimilo sokungakhathali ngumntu owoyikayo ukuba ukuba uxelela iqabane lakhe indlela abavakalelwa ngayo malunga nemeko, baya kohlwaywa ngokwenza njalo, okanye iqabane liza kugqiba libashiye.
Ukuba kunjalo ukuthandana narcissist , banokuzibona sele bekhanyisile ngegesi, okanye banikwa unyango olungathethiyo (zombini ezo zinto ziyothusa ukuphikisana nazo), okanye iqabane labo banokuzikhusela kwaye baqale babangxolise.
ukuba ubhalele umfana emva komhla wokuqala
Zombini ezi meko zinesizathu esaneleyo sokuba umntu anyaniseke kwiziqu zakhe malunga nokuba kutheni bekunye neqabane labo, kodwa ukukhetha ukudlala umdlalo onobukrwada ngenxa yempilo yabo akuncedi mntu.
Ngoba?
Ngenxa yokuba baya kufumana nje ngakumbi nangakumbi ingqumbo yamaqabane abo, abayi kufumana ezabo iimfuno, kwaye iqabane labo liyakucaphuka lize labohlwaye ngandlela thile, de omabini amacala aphele ethule, encwina, kwaye ephula izinto.
Olona hlobo kuphela lokugqobhoza koku kukunyaniseka.
Ngoku, ukunyaniseka akufuneki ukuba kube krwada kwaye kungabi naluthando: kunokuba nokuthantamisa kunye nemfesane. Endaweni yokuthetha izinto ezinje, 'undenza ndizive ndikhathazekile xa usithi _____,' ungayiguqula ngezitatimende 'Ndi'.
“Ndiyazisola xa undixelela _______.”
Okanye
'Ndidinga ukuxhasa ngakumbi xa ___ isenzeka, ungathethi izinto ezinje nge _____.'
Oku kuza kungabamangaleli kangako, kwaye kunika iqabane lakho ithuba lokubonisa uvelwano novelwano kwiimvakalelo zakho.
“Bendidlala Nje”
Abanye abantu abanobunzima bechaza indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ziimvakalelo ezingakhiyo, okanye ezo zinokubangela ungquzulwano, ziya kwenza amagqabaza abuhlungu kwaye zizame ukuzidlulisa njengeziqhulo.
Oko bakuthethayo kunjalo kanye kanye abakuthethayo, kodwa ukuba umntu ekufumaneni isiphelo ubonakala ecaphukile, kunokuba abe neentliziyo ezilula, i-snarker inokubuya umva kwaye ithi bebeqhula nje.
Oku, kwakhona, kubabeka kwindawo yolawulo: ukuba lowo bathetha naye uyacaphuka okanye enzakele, banokutyholwa ngokuba novakalelo kakhulu kwaye bangakwazi ukuthatha isiqhulo.
Sika oku kwaye ubeke endaweni yendlela ethembekileyo nenemfesane apha ngasentla.
Sukulindela Abanye Ukuba Bafunde Ingqondo Yakho
Ukuba ukhe wakhathazeka ngomnye umntu kwaye, xa ubuzwa ukuba benze ntoni ukukwenzakalisa, uthethe la mazwi, 'Ukuba awazi, andizukukhathaza ukukuxelela,' emva koko umntu ufuna ukukuqhwaba ngempama.
Akukho namnye kuthi ngonaphakade yazi ngqo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwingqondo yomnye umntu, kuba singenguye. Yonke into ebomini bethu ihluzwa ngelensi yamava ethu obuqu, kwaye ngenxa yoko, siza kutolika kwaye sisebenzise izinto ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuba ucatshukiswa ngumntu kuba enze into ebuhlungu, kodwa kubonakala ngathi abayazi ukuba uyenzile, thetha naye ngayo.
Banokungabi nalo nofifi lokuba bakucaphukisile, kuba ngekhe bacaphuke ukuba bebekweso simo. Asinakulindela ukuba bonke abantu bacinge kwaye bazive ngendlela efanayo nathi, ngayo nayiphi na into, kwaye ekuphela kwendlela esinokuba nalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obugudileyo, nobusempilweni ukuqhagamshela nabahlobo bethu kunye namaqabane.
Kwinqaku elifanayo…
Musa ukucinga ukuba unokufunda iingqondo
Ngaba uzifumanisa uxelela abanye abantu ukuba bacinga ntoni okanye baziva njani endaweni yokubabuza? Ubatyhola ngokuba neemvakalelo ezithile okanye utyekelo kunokuba ubasondele kwindawo yothando novelwano?
indlela yokuba yintombi eqhelekileyo
… Ucinga ukuba kukho indalo iphela apho olo hlobo lokuziphatha lwamkelekileyo?
Awunguye umfundi weengqondo, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-99 zexesha, into ocinga ukuba omnye umntu ucinga okanye uziva yiyo ingqikelelo yeengcinga zakho kunye nokungaqiniseki . Umzekelo, ukuba utyhola iqabane lakho ngokuba nomdla komnye umntu, okanye uceba ukushiya, loo nto inokuba yingqikelelo eyakho uloyiko lokushiywa .
Ukutyholwa ngento enje ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lwengxoxo kunokubangela umonakalo ongapheliyo kubudlelwane bobuqu, ke eyona ndlela ibhetele kakhulu kukubeka ixesha lokuthetha neqabane lakho, uchaze ukuba uziva unganqabisekanga ngezizathu ze-X, kwaye uhlele kwenzeka ntoni kumacala omabini.
Kuyafana nakobuhlobo, kwaye nakubazali / kubantwana ubudlelwane okanye imeko zasekhaya. Phambi kokuba uthathe / utyhole / uhlasele, yima ujonge ukuba zivela phi ezi ngcinga. Uninzi lwexesha, kukungazithembi okanye ukungakhathali okunokuthi kubangelwe luvakaliso olungenabungozi okanye isenzo, ke ukuba uziva uziva ngathi uyatyholwa, thatha inyathelo umva, thatha ukuphefumla okuzolisayo, kwaye uzame ukwenza isizathu esisengqiqweni kutheni uziva ngale ndlela uziva ngayo.
Awunalungelo lokuhlala uthule
Ukunika omnye umntu ukungathethi cwaka Ubugwala sisenzo esingaqhelekanga. Kukhohlakele, kuyahlukumeza, kwaye kunokuba yingozi emntwini kunokumbetha.
Ngokubanzi, unyango olungathethiyo lusetyenziswa ngumntu oziva ngathi izinto ezahlukeneyo zobomi babo azikho kulawulo lwabo, ke ngoko bakhetha ukuthula njengesixhobo solawulo: kuyakuba nonxibelelwano kuphela xa Bavuma ukubabaza omnye ngayo, kwaye kude kube lelo xesha.
Oku kuyadelela, Ukuziphatha kakubi , kwaye sele ixhaphake kakhulu kwiimeko apho uninzi lonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu ababini lwenzeka kwi-Intanethi. Ukuba ubakhathalele ngokwenene abanye abantu ebomini bakho, ke thetha nabo.
Bathumele umyalezo obhaliweyo. Thumela i-imeyile. Thumela ii-bitchy snapchats ukuba ucaphukile kangangokuba kuphela kwendlela onokujongana ngayo nonxibelelwano, kodwa wenze into, nantoni na ukuvuma ukuba umhlobo wakho (okanye iqabane lakho), enyanisweni, ungumntu olifaneleyo elona xabiso lisisiseko lokuziphatha kwabantu kwicala lakho.
Ixesha lokuqala 4 umhla wokukhutshwa kwe-netflix
Ukuba awukwazi ukuzizisa ukwenza oko, zibuze ukuba kutheni ucinga ukuba unelungelo lokuba naba bantu ebomini bakho.
Ungaziva njani ukuba bangakuphatha ngoluhlobo lokuziphatha? Uninzi lwabantu abanotyekelo lokungakhathali banokuhamba beballistic ngokupheleleyo ukuba omnye umntu ubaphathe ngendlela efanayo… ke, yintoni kanye kanye, eyenza ukuba kulunge ukuphatha omnye umntu ngoluhlobo? Uyayikhumbula yonke intetho ethi 'uphathe abanye ngendlela obungathanda ukuphathwa ngayo'?
Ewe. Leya.
Ukuzazisa kwaye sinyaniseke kwiziqu zethu malunga nezakhono zethu zokunxibelelana (okanye ukunqongophala kwazo) kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kodwa kuphela kwendlela esinokuthi sikhule ngayo njengabantu, nanjengabahlobo / amaqabane.
Abo sibakhathaleleyo baya konwaba ngakumbi xa sibaphatha ngembeko nangentlonelo, kwaye sinxibelelana ngokucacileyo nangokuvulekileyo nabanye-nokuba oko kunokusenza sibe novalo ngamanye amaxesha-luphawu lobuhlobo obuqolileyo, obunempilo, obuhloniphekileyo / ubudlelwane.
Ekugqibeleni, siphumelela ngcono xa sinabantu abakhulu ebomini bethu, kwaye ukuba sinako ukubandakanya zonke iimpawu ezintle esizixabisayo kwabanye abantu, ke abo sibakhathaleleyo bayaphumelela kwaye bonwabile.
Uthando. Intlonipho. Unxibelelwano. Ukunyaniseka.
Yenze njalo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nendlela yakho yokungenzi nto kwiqabane lakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
