Ukuba uziva ngathi intlantsi ihambile emtshatweni wakho kwaye ufuna ukubuyisa ezothando, awuwedwa.
Le yinto enokwenzeka nakwesiphi na isibini kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo AKUKHO uphawu lokuba izinto azilunganga phakathi kwenu!
Ihlala isenzeka emitshatweni, okanye xa sele unabantwana - okanye xa uhlala nomntu ixesha elide.
Ukuba ufuna ukuvuselela idangatye, sinamacebo amahle ngawe…
ukuthanda umntu okuthandayo
1. Cwangcisa ezinye iintsuku zobusuku.
Thatha isigqibo sosuku evekini olusebenza kakuhle kuni nobabini kwaye nicwangcise ubusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla.
Inokuba ngeveki, ngenyanga, nantoni na evumelana neeshedyuli zakho! Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuzibophelela kwisicwangciso kwaye ubonakalise omnye komnye kolu hlobo lwendlela.
Ayisiyokunxiba nje kuphela okanye ukuya kwizidlo ezidliwayo ezimnandi ebonisa ukuba uyabuxabisa ubudlelwane bakho Kwaye ndifuna ukubeka ixesha kunye nomzamo ekwenzeni ukuba sonwabe kwaye sisempilweni.
Ungahlala kunye kwaye ubhale phantsi uluhlu lweembono enifuna ukuzenza nobabini, emva koko usike umbono ngamnye, ulisonge, kwaye uzibeke zonke kwisitya okanye ingqayi.
Ixesha ngalinye lobusuku bomhla buza ngeenxa zonke, ngokungakhethiyo khetha iphepha elinye kwaye nguloo mhla uya kuwo! Igcina izigqibo kunye nefaff yokukhetha indawo oya kuyo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye igcina yonke loo nto imnandi, ilula, kwaye ingenalo uxinzelelo.
Ewe kunjalo, into yokuba nobabini ninxiba kwaye niya kwiindawo ezintle nayo yenza umahluko omkhulu kwaye yindlela entle yokubuyisela intlantsi kulwalamano lwenu.
2. Ncokola ngezinto ezakhayo.
Xa siqala ukuthandana nomntu, asinakufumana ngokwaneleyo kubo. Sihlala ubusuku bonke imiyalezo, okanye sihlale ebhedini kunye sithetha kude kube yiyure encinci ekuseni.
Ewe kunjalo, kuyindalo ngokupheleleyo ukuba oku kuyaphela ngokuhamba kwexesha-kokukhona nazana ngcono, kokukhona nifumana ukhululeke ngakumbi ukuba Ngokudibeneyo, into entle iyodwa.
Kodwa ukubuyisa eminye yemilingo yexesha lasemva komtshato, zama ukuqala ukuba nezi ntlobo zencoko kwakhona.
Akudingeki ukuba kubandakanya ukuhlala ubusuku bonke njengoko oko kungenakwenzeka kubantu abaninzi! Kodwa ninokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nithetha ngezinto eninomdla kuzo nobabini, nisabelana ngamaphupha nezicwangciso zenu, kwaye ukunxibelelana ngokwenene nabanye.
Njengokuba ubudlelwane bethu buguquka, siyalibala ukuba lubaluleke kangakanani olu hlobo lokusondelelana. Kuya kunisondeza kunye kwaye kunikhumbuze ukuba nobabini nizimisele ukuthandana nokukhathalelana.
Iincoko zakho zinokugxila kuxinzelelo lomsebenzi, abantwana, izinto eziphilayo ngokuhlala kunye… kodwa zinokukhawuleza zibe nzulu, iingxoxo ezisemgangathweni ngakumbi ezikunceda ukuba ubambane kwakhona.
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3. Sebenzani kunye.
Ukuzivocavoca kuhle kuthi - sonke siyayazi loo nto. Kodwa ubusazi ukuba kukwalungile kubudlelwane bakho?
Ukusebenza kukhupha ii-endorphins (iihormone ezonwabileyo ezenza ukuba sizive silungile), ezisinceda ukuba sihlale silungelelene kwaye sinyusa njengabantu.
Ukuba nobabini nisebenza ndedwa, sele ningene apho, njengoko nithatha inyathelo lokuzigcina ninethemba kunye nepeppy. Ukuba uqala ukusebenza kunye, uya kuba namava amakhulu e-endorphins kwaye wonwabe kakhulu ngexesha elinye.
Uyakufumana ukuqeqesha omnye nomnye, ukubukela inkqubela phambili, ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba ngakumbi, kunye nokusebenza njengeqela. Zonke ezi zizinto ezinkulu zokwakha ubudlelwane ezinokubuyisela umtsalane emtshatweni wakho okanye ekudibaniseni.
4. Buyisela kwakhona idangatye elibonakalayo.
Ewe kunjalo, isini kufuneka sibonakalise kwisikhokelo sokubuyisa iintlantsi kubudlelwane bakho!
Ukuqhuba kwethu ngokwesondo kungohluka ngenxa yezinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo-uxinzelelo, ukuzithemba, ubudala, indlela ophila ngayo, njl.ukuntywila kangaphi ukuba ulala ngesondo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ngakumbi kubantu abakhe bahlala namaqabane abo ixesha elininzi.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphinda ubuyise umlilo okhe watshisa, zama ukucoca izinto kancinci kwaye Musa ukoyika ukwenza intshukumo!
Ukuba abanomdla ngalo mzuzu ngelo xesha, baya kukuxelela - kunokuba buhlungu kancinci, kodwa ayisiyonto yobuqu kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba abatsaleleki kuwe.
Baya kuba nombulelo ukuba uqalise into njengoko mhlawumbi baye baqaphela idiphu kwaye bafuna ukwenza utshintsho.
Kulungile ngokupheleleyo ukujongana nale nto kunye neqabane lakho - abanye abantu bayoyika kakhulu ukuthetha ngesondo xa kunokwenzeka bakhubekise amaqabane abo, kodwa akukho nto inokuba neentloni ngayo!
Qinisekisa ukuba usondela kwingxoxo kwindawo ezolileyo nevulekileyo - awudingi ukuba ube sedrama okanye usole nabani na, kodwa ungachaza ukuba ungathanda ukuphinda uqhagamshele kunye nabo ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ayifuni nokubandakanya isondo ngalo lonke ixesha. Unokucebisa nje ukuba uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye, njengokwabelana ngebhafu okanye ukukroba esofeni.
Kwaye ungasoloko ungenisa izinto zokudlala, ukudlala indima, okanye izimvo ezingenangqondo ukuba ufuna ukuzizama- nokuba yintoni na enonwabisayo nobabini!
5. Khumbula amaxesha amnandi.
Ukukhumbula malunga nobudlelwane bakho kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuvuselela uthando kunye nentlantsi.
liphuma nini ixesha elizayo lokungabi nazintloni
Ungajonga kwiifoto ezindala, wabelane ngeememori ukusuka kwimihla yakho yokuqala yokuqala, okanye uthethe ngendlela owonwabe ngayo kunye nendlela enonwabe ngayo nobabini ngoku nibe kunye ixesha elide.
Kuhlala kumnandi ukujonga ngasemva ngamaxesha amyoli kunye nezinto ezabiweyo. Inokukusondeza nobabini, kwaye kukukhumbuza malunga nokukhathalelana kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buye bakhula ngokumangalisayo kwiinyanga okanye kwiminyaka.
Inokukunika izimvo malunga nobusuku bakho bomhla olandelayo. Unokwenza, umzekelo, ukuphinda umhla wakho wokuqala! Uya kuphinda wenze ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho kwaye wonwabe ngokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye.
Isenokukukhumbuza izinto ezithandwa liqabane lakho olilibeleyo, onokuthi emva koko ubamangalise ngelinye ixesha.
Iya kubenza bazive bekhetheke kwaye bethandwa, kwaye kunceda ngokwenene ekuvuseleleni uthando kunye nothando kubudlelwane bakho.
6. Yabelana ngomdlalo omtsha.
Sivame ukuziva sibambekile xa sinomntu ixesha elide.
Ayikuko ukuba sikruqukile okanye sifuna ukuba kunye nomnye umntu, injalo kuphela izinto zingaqala ukuziva 'zindala, zindala!'
Unokonwabela izinto ezintsha kunye kwaye wabelane ngamava amatsha- le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubuyisela intlantsi kubudlelwane kwaye uchithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye.
Khetha umdlalo omtsha eninomdla kuwo nobabini - inokuba kukudlala intenetya, ukuya kwiklasi yeekeramics, okanye ukuthatha iyoga kunye.
Nokuba yintoni, kuya kuziva kumnandi ukuchitha ixesha kunye nisenza into entsha!
Ininika ngakumbi ukuba nithethe ngayo, kukuzinikela kwixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, kwaye kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu.
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7. Yenza imvakalelo elungileyo ibe kwindawo ephambili.
Xa sithandana kwaye siqala ukuzibuza ukuba i-spark ihambe phi, abaninzi bethu baya kuqala ukuzibeka ityala.
Siyakhathazeka ukuba mhlawumbi 'sizivumele ukuba sihambe' (akukho nto injalo, ngendlela!) Okanye asisenamdla okanye umdla ngokwaneleyo kumaqabane ethu.
Akudingeki ukuba sizitshintshe kwaphela kule meko - ayisiyo 'mpazamo' yethu ukuba intlantsi ihambile yinto nje enokwenzeka ngokwendalo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Into ekufuneka siyenzile, nangona kunjalo, yile qiniseka ukuba siyazijonga kwaye sizimisele ukuziva simnandi!
Ukuba uyacaphuka kukusilela kothando okanye uthando emtshatweni wakho okanye kubudlelwane, inokukhawuleza iqale ukwanda kwezinto. Ngequbuliso, ukuzithemba kwakho kudutyulwa kwaziingceba, nto leyo eya kwenza yonke into ibenzima ngakumbi!
Endaweni yoko, zama ukugxila kuwe nakwindlela onokuziva wonwabe ngayo. Oko kunokuthetha ukufumana iinwele ezintsha, ukuthenga isinxibo esitsha, okanye ukuphumla kunye nokucamngca, umzekelo.
Eyona nto uziva ngcono ngayo kuwe, kokukhona uya kukwazi ukuzibophelela kulwalamano lwakho kwaye ubonise iqabane lakho- eliya kuthi lizise loo ntlantsi kanye apho kufanelekileyo!
8. Funda ukonwaba wedwa.
Iyafana inqaku elidlulileyo, kokukhona ukhululekile kwaye wonwabile wena Kwaye ulwalamano lwakho luya kuba ngcono.
Kungenxa yokuba ubudlelwane bakho kufuneka bongezwe kubomi bakho, hayi eyakho iphelele ubomi.
Kulula kakhulu ukusongelwa kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa oku kungabeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kuyo. Ukuba awunazo ezinye izinto ezininzi eziqhubekayo ebomini bakho, ubudlelwane bakho buba yeyona nto ichaza ukuba unjani kwaye wenzani.
Ikwathetha ukuba, ukuba unediphu encinci okanye uzolile kubudlelwane bakho, ilizwe lakho liphela liziva libi kakhulu.
Oko kunokukhokelela ekubeni ubeke uxinzelelo olukhulu kakhulu kubo bobabini kunye neqabane lakho ukuze nibuyisele umva, NGOKUPHELELEYO!
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, wanelisekile ngokuphila ubomi bakho, usenza into yakho rhoqo, kwaye ungacingi nje kuphela ngeqabane lakho, i-lull iya kuziva ingathi yinto encinci.
Ngaphezulu, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukugqitha okanye 'ukulungisa' kuba ayizukuphela kwento ojolise kuyo.
Zama ukuqhela ixesha elithile wedwa- okanye ubuncinci ngaphandle kweqabane lakho.
Oko kunokuba yiklasi yokujikeleza kunye nabahlobo, i-yoga yodwa, okanye nokuba uhleli kwigumbi lokulala ufunda ngelixa iqabane lakho lisebenza kwigumbi lokuhlala.
Ikwanika iqabane lakho ixesha kunye nendawo yokwenza yabo into, ekwahlisa uxinzelelo kwaye kuthetha ukuba ixesha enabelana ngalo liya kuba ngcono!
9. Sebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo.
Ukuba uziva ngathi u-spark usukile emtshatweni wakho okanye kubudlelwane, unokuziva ukhathazekile okanye ukhathazekile neqabane lakho-ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba kungenxa yezenzo zabo hayi ezakho.
Oku kungakha ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye ngesiquphe kukhutshwe njengomjelo womsindo okanye inzondo kwiqabane lakho . Ngelixa oku kuqondakalayo, akulunganga kwiqabane lakho, kwaye ayakhi kwaphela.
Endaweni yokuba ukhawuleze ujonge izinto ezincinci, zama ukuba nethemba ngezinto ezintle!
Ukuba 'intlantsi' kuwe ithetha iintyatyambo, ukutya isidlo esimnandi kunye, kunye nokuncamisa ubusuku obuhle, yenza into enkulu xa isenzeka.
Isenokuvakala iyisidenge, kodwa iya kukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nibuyele emgceni kwaye niqinisekise ukuba nobabini niyazi ukuba zeziphi izinto enizilindeleyo!
Ke, kwixa elizayo xa iqabane lakho likwanga, baxelele ukuba kukwenza uzive ulunge kangakanani kwaye uyithanda kangakanani. Oku kuya kuhlala ezingqondweni zabo kwaye baya kuqala ukwenza ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Kubonakala kuncinci, kodwa ukuba olu hlobo lokuqiniswa okuhle lwenzeka qho xa besenza into oyithandayo, uyabazisa ukuba ufuna ntoni ngaphandle kokuphikisana okanye ukuphikisana!
Endaweni yokubabeka phantsi xa besenza into ongayithandiyo okanye ekucaphukisayo, baxelele ukuba uyithanda kangakanani xa bepheka, okanye xa besenza ixesha lokuhlala nawe batye isidlo sangokuhlwa ngaphandle kwe-TV, umzekelo .
10. Sebenza nonyango.
Njengoko besesitshilo - ubudlelwane ngokwendalo buyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye uninzi lwazo lubuyela emgceni emva kokuphola kancinci.
Ukuba uziva ngathi wena neqabane lakho nisenyanyeni kwaye akukho nto ibonakala inceda, cinga ngokusebenza nonyango okanye nomcebisi.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ufuna uncedo okanye into ethi 'ayilunganga' kubudlelwane bakho, ungakhathazeki -Thetha nje ukuba unokwenza ngesikhokelo esimnene sokulawula kwakhona intlantsi.
Uya kufunda ukuphinda ufumane ulwalamano olusenyongweni, sebenza kwizakhono zonxibelelwano, kunye nendlela yokubopha njengesibini - akukho nto yoyikisayo!
Ayikhe ibe yinto embi ukujonga isikhokelo, kwaye ayisiyophawu lokuba kufuneka wohlukane - isempilweni kwaye ibonisa ukuba nobabini nityala imali ekwenzeni izinto zisebenze.
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Ke… iindlela ezili-10 ezimangalisayo zokuvuselela ubudlelwane bakho. Enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo ngokuba kunye nomntu kukuphila nje okwenyani, ubomi bokwenyani kunye nabo.
Oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuphikisana ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ungangabathandi, nokuba!
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