Ukufuna ulonwabo ebomini luhambo olunzima eligcwele ingozi kunye noxanduva.
Kwimfuno yethu yolonwabo, ekufuneni oko sikufunayo ebomini, kulula kakhulu ukuziva ubanjiwe yiminqweno yethu, impumelelo, ukusilela, kunye noxanduva.
Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zinto zinyanzeliswa kuthi yimikhosi yangaphandle. Ngamanye amaxesha zizinto esizibophelela kuzo ukuze sifikelele kwiinjongo zethu.
Injongo yokungaziva ubanjisiwe bubomi kufuneka ibe kwindawo ephambili kwingqondo yomntu wonke, kuba zininzi iindlela eziya kubomi obonwabileyo, obunempumelelo kangangokuba kungekho sizathu silungileyo sokungazabalazeli into esempilweni.
Ukuba sempilweni, ayithethi kuthi “ibhetele.”
Kuba ngcono kunokuba ligama elingalunganga xa ucinga ukuba ingca iluhlaza kwelinye icala locingo, uwela ucingo, emva koko ufumanise ukuba ingca iluhlaza kuba iyinyani.
Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba usebenze kwezi zinto engqondweni yakho, wenze eyakho indlela, kwaye uzikhulule kwiimvakalelo zokubanjiswa ebomini bakho.
Uyenza njani lonto?
1. Phila ngaphantsi kwezinto onazo.
Ukuthengisa kunye nentengiso ubukhulu becala zikhuthaza le nkqubo ingapheliyo yokufuna ukonwaba.
Into ethethwa koku kukuba kufuneka ufumane imali ethe xaxa yokuthenga indlu enkulu, uthenge imoto ebhetele, uthathe iimali-mboleko zokuya kwisikolo sakho sokuphupha, uthenge la magama iimpahla iimpahla, uthenge izinto ezintsha ze-elektroniki ezintle nangona oko uthenge kunyaka ophelileyo kulungile!
Iyaqhubeka kwaye iyaqhubeka kwaye iyaqhubeka.
Ukuphila ngaphantsi kwezinto onazo kukunika inkululeko engenako ukuba nabantu abasukela izinto rhoqo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kusafuneka usebenze ngezo yure ukwenza ezo ntlawulo zetyala ukuze izinto zakho zingabuyiswa kwakhona.
Kukho igama abanye abantu abalisebenzisayo ekufumaneni umvuzo ophezulu, imisebenzi ephezulu yokuzincama ebizwa ngokuba, 'zizibopho zegolide.'
Benza imali eninzi, kodwa bavalelwa kuloo mali ukuze baqhubeke nendlela yokuphila kwelo nqanaba lomvuzo.
Lowo ngumgibe onokuwuphepha ngokuphila ngaphantsi kwezinto onazo.
ukuthuthuzela njani umntu osentlungwini
Mbini. Yamkela uxanduva lokhetho kunye nezenzo zakho.
Akukho mntu uza kukuhlangula kwezigqibo zakho.
Akukho mntu uza kukhathalela impilo yakho kunye nobomi njengoko uza kuthanda.
Nditsho nabona bantu bathanda, abazinikeleyo ebantwini baseneemfumba zoxanduva lwabo kunye nobomi ekufuneka bebukhathalele.
Baninzi kakhulu abantu abachitha ixesha labo bekhalazela indlela obubi ngayo ubomi babo ngelixa besenza kancinci ukwenza iinzame zokuphucula indawo yabo.
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka izinto ezimbi ebomini esingenakho ukuzikhethela.
Konke esinokukwenza kukuthatha ukubetha, ukuzama ukuhamba nayo, ukufumana indlela yokuphilisa kuyo, kwaye uqhubeke ngokucinezela phambili.
Kodwa, kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho sinokukhetha okunokusikhulula kwisikhundla esibi ebomini.
Sisenokungazithandi izigqibo esizinikwayo, kodwa zisengokhetho.
Abantu abachitha ixesha labo besola wonke umntu nayo yonke enye into kuba ubomi babo boyike bahlala bezama ukunqanda ukujonga esipilini.
Kodwa kufuneka sijonge esipilini ngamanye amaxesha, kuba akekho omnye umntu onokusenzela lo msebenzi.
3. Zama ukuphila ubomi obusempilweni.
Indlela yokuphila esempilweni ihlawula izabelo kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bakho.
Ukungaphili ubomi obusempilweni kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kumgangatho weengcinga, iimvakalelo kunye nobomi bakho.
Izinto ezilula njengokunciphisa ukutya okungafunekiyo emzimbeni wakho, ukufumana imithambo rhoqo, kunye nokulala ngokwaneleyo kunokuphucula indlela ocinga ngayo.
Ukulala sisiseko sendlela yokuphila esempilweni. Kukwi amanqanaba anzulu okulala ukuba ingqondo yethu ivelisa iikhemikhali ezinceda ukugcina imeko yethu kunye nokulinganisela imini yonke.
Ukuba awufumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo okanye ngokufanelekileyo, iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ziya kusokola ngenxa yoko.
Ukutya nokusela zizibaso zokukugcina uqhubeka. Zizondlo zengqondo yakho kwaye zigcina unamandla ngosuku lwakho.
Utshintsho olulula onokulwenza kukusela iswekile encinci, iziselo ezine-caffeine kunye namanzi amaninzi. Olo tshintsho lunokubonelela ngophuculo olukhulu kwimpilo yakho yengqondo neyasemzimbeni.
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4. Lwamkela utshintsho xa ufumanisa ukuba imeko ayisakusebenzisi.
Ubomi obuphilwe kakuhle buza kuba bobokukhula kunye notshintsho.
Ayisiyonto onokuyiphepha ukuba uzama ukuphila ubomi obunenjongo, obunenzuzo.
Uyakwenza utshintsho kumbono wakho, usebenza kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba uphuma ngaphandle kweemeko ezithile kunye nabantu.
Ukuphuma kwimeko kunzima. Abahlobo abaphumayo kunye nosapho kunzima kakhulu.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kufanelekile ukubaleka kwaye ushiye wonke umntu nayo yonke into ngasemva.
Into ekufuneka ujonge kuyo kukuba ngaba iimeko kunye nabantu ebomini bakho zizongezo ezinentsingiselo.
Uza kuziva ubanjisiwe ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abantu abanetyhefu abenza kakubi. Banokuphela bekurhuqela emva kwaye bayihlasele inkqubela phambili.
Asinguye wonke umntu ofuna ukuphucula. Ayinguye wonke umntu ofuna ukuzama okanye nokucinga ukuba inokuba yingxaki.
Abanye abantu banelisekile ngokudada kwiimbandezelo zabo kuba zikhululekile kwaye utshintsho luyothusa .
Kuya kufuneka ulwamkele utshintsho kwaye ujonge phambili kumathuba ekuzisela wona ukuba ufuna ukuzikhulula ekuziva ubanjisiwe.
5. Funda ukuthi hayi ebantwini nakwiimeko.
Ukukwazi ukuthi 'hayi' sisakhono esibalulekileyo sokuphuhlisa.
Kuhlala kukho into eyenzekayo, umntu uhlala efuna uncedo, kuhlala kukho uxanduva kunye nezinto ekufuneka zenziwe.
Ungumntu omnye kuphela kwihlabathi eligcwele iintshukumo kunye nezinto ezenzekayo. Ukuba awunayo funda ukuthi hayi Uya kuzifumanisa uxakeke ngoxanduva olunokuthi lungakulungeli wena kunye nobomi bakho.
Ngapha koko, abantu baya kuthatha ithuba lokungakwazi ukuthi hayi.
Baza kujika kuwe kuba bayazi ukuba uza kuthi ewe kwaye banokuyinyusa loo nto ngokuchasene nawe ukuze ubambe ngakumbi kumagxa akho.
Kufuneka ube nguwe othintela abantu ekusebenziseni ububele bakho okanye ukuzimisela ukunceda, kungenjalo uya kuzifumanisa uthwala imithwalo emininzi engengowakho.
Kulungile ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye kusempilweni ukuthi hayi.
Ngapha koko, kuphela kwendlela yokuzigcina ungabanjiswa yimfumba yoxanduva olungelolwakho.
6. Yenza izinto ezininzi ezikwenza wonwabe.
Yintoni ekwenza wonwabe?
Ngaba yinto yesiko? Into ethile engaqhelekanga? Into oziva ugwetyelwe yona, ngokungathi ngekhe uyenze okanye awufanele uyenze?
Logama nje ingonzakalisi mntu, yenze njalo.
Kutheni uthando lufuna ukwenzakala
Abantu bayathanda ukuphumeza umgwebo ngokungasebenzi ngendlela abacinga ukuba ilungile, kodwa ngoobani ukugwebe nobomi bakho?
Unelungelo lokulandela ulonwabo kwaye wenze izinto ezikonwabisa.
Ukunikela ixesha kunye namandla kwezo zinto yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuzihoya.
Ubomi buzele kukungakhathali kunye ne-monotony. Ngamanye amaxesha, i-monotony inokuziva imbi kakhulu kunokungakhathali, kuba inokushiya umbono wokuba izinto ziya kuhlala zimile.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthatha ixesha lokuphonononga, wenze izinto ezikwenza wonwabe, kwaye uphile ngendlela evakalayo kuwe nakwimbono yakho yehlabathi.
Oko akunakulunga nokubumbana okuthe ngcembe okulindelwe ngabantu abakujikelezile okanye eluntwini kuwe- kwaye kulungile.
Ukonwaba kwakho kunye nenkululeko ayizukuba umhlaba wonke ugwebe.
7.jova into ethile yokuzenzela kunye nobuchule ebomini bakho.
Abantu abangoomatshini abaxhotyiselwe ukujongana nocwangciso oluqinileyo, olunentsimbi yezinto ekufuneka bezenzile de kube ngumhla wokufa kwabo.
Ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelo lokubanjiswa aluhambelani nokubanjiswa, kodwa umbono wokubanjiswa ngenxa yesimo sobomi.
Unokuzifumana kwisiqhelo esiqhelekileyo ukuba usebenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo kunye neebhilidi zokuhlawula, imilomo yokutya kunye noxanduva.
Kodwa ngaba uluhlobo lomntu olulo?
Uninzi lwabantu alunjalo.
Uninzi lwabantu ludinga ukonwaba, ubuchule bokuyila, kunye ukuzenzekela ebomini babo.
Fumana iindlela zokufumana enye yoko.
Akudingi kuntsokotha okanye kubize. Thatha uhambo epakini yendawo, uye kwidrive, wenze into ngenxa yendalo.
Yenza ezi zinto zincinci zibe yinxalenye yesiqhelo yeshedyuli yakho yeveki ukunika ingqondo yakho ithuba lokufumana kwakhona 'ubomi obunoxanduva.'
8. Funa uncedo lobuchwephesha kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba umntu azive ebambekile ebomini. Izizathu zisenokungabi yinto elula nekulula ukuyihamba.
Ukuziva ubanjisiwe ebomini kunokubonisa nokudakumba okanye ezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo umntu anokuhlangabezana nazo.
Kungangakuhle ukuba uthethe nengcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo malunga noko uziva kunye nento eyenzekayo ebomini bakho ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unengxaki yokushukumisa imvakalelo yokubanjwa.
Ubomi abudingi ukuziva ngathi uyadika kwaye ngumsebenzi- kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kungathatha ixesha kunye nomzamo ojolise ekubuyiseleni iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ngemikhwa esempilweni kunye nobomi obukuxhobisayo, kunokuba uzive njengomthwalo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungabuphepha njani ubomi bakho bangoku? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.
