Kukho amadoda amabini ebomini bakho okwangoku.
Okanye, endaweni yoko, kukho amadoda amabini kumda wobomi bakho, kwaye uziva ngathi unakho ukuthandana bobabini.
Uziva ngaphezulu kokubhideka.
Awukazazi nokuba bobabini kakuhle, kodwa kuza kwinqanaba apho kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani indoda elungileyo kuwe.
Kwaye utyekele ngakumbi ekubeni unamathele entloko ngokuqinileyo entlabathini.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bobabini bayamangalisa ngeendlela zabo, kwaye awunalo uluvo olungephi lokuba yeyiphi oyikhethayo.
Ndiyakucaphukela ukuyaphula kuwe, kodwa ukuba umntu ongatshatanga naye yisitayile sakho, kukho kuphela ixesha elithile onokuthi uhlale ubona abantu abaninzi ngalo phambi kokuba ukhethe umgaqo.
Lixesha lesigqibo.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uthandane nabantu abaninzi ngaxeshanye xa ungatshatanga, kodwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba wadibana namadoda amabini ngexesha elinye, emva koko izigqibo ezinobuqhetseba kufuneka zenziwe kunye neengxoxo ezingathandekiyo kufuneka zibekho.
Ngapha koko, masinyaniseke kwaye sinyaniseke kuthi… ixesha linqabile kubomi bethu obuxakekileyo, banamhlanje, kwaye ubudlelwane budinga ixesha elinikezelwe kubo ukuba bazakukhula kwaye bachume.
Ukuba usasazeka kakhulu, akukho buhlobo obuzokuphuhliswa.
Ke, kuya kufuneka ukhethe umfana ofuna ukunikezela ngexesha lakho ngethemba lokuba ixesha elide, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo unokuqhakaza phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Yintoni iDili?
Ukuba ufumene ukuba ufuna ukuthatha isigqibo phakathi kwamadoda amabini, ke mhlawumbi ukwimeko enye kwezi zimbini.
Usenokuba wenze uninzi lwetekhnoloji yale mihla ukukunceda ufumane umntu kwaye udibene nabafana ababini kwiqonga lakho okanye amaqonga okhetho, bobabini oye kwimini ezimbalwa kunye.
Kodwa ngoku ifikelele kwinqanaba apho kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kugxila kumandla akho kwaye yiba yedwa nge.
Kodwa uyasokola, njengoko kungekho namnye kubo imbaleki ebonakalayo ebonakalayo.
Okanye, iteknoloji isenokungabi nanto yakwenza nayo…
Okothusayo njengoko kunokubonakala ngathi kukwiminyaka yedijithali kwabo bethu bakwaziyo ukudibana nabantu ngokusebenzisa ii -apps, kubonakala ukuba abanye abantu basadibana buqu kwaye ukwazana kuqala ngaphambi kokuqala ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
Ndiyazi, uyinqaba akunjalo?
Eyona ndlela yokujongana nexoki
Kodwa nzulu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho umfana othandekayo emsebenzini wakho obukade umazi, kodwa uchitha ixesha elininzi nomhlobo womhlobo olungileyo…
… Kwaye ucinga ukuba kukho amathuba okuba izinto zithandane nabo bobabini.
Kodwa ngoku udidekile ukuba yeyiphi indoda elungileyo kuwe.
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Ukuba kunjalo, siza kujonga ukuba ungazi njani xa ixesha lifikile lokuba wenze eso sigqibo soyikekayo, emva koko udwelise imibuzo omele uzibuze yona xa ixesha lifikile.
Amathuba kukuba, sele uyazi ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo kuwe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kufuneka uyivume ngokwakho.
Ndilapha ukukunceda kuloo nto.
Xa Kuya kufuneka ukhethe phakathi kwabafana ababini?
Inqaku apho kuya kufuneka ukhethe inokuba yindawo xa uqala ukuziva ungonwabanga kwimeko.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nangona kulungile ngokupheleleyo ukuthandana nabantu abaninzi ngexesha elinye ixesha onke amaqela abandakanyekayo esazi isivumelwano, abanye bethu abanqunyulwanga ukuthandana nabantu abaninzi.
Nguwe wedwa onokugweba kwinqanaba apho ungasaziva mnandi malunga nemeko.
Kwelinye icala, qiniseka ukuba imeko yokuziva unetyala ayingeni endleleni yokunika ubudlelwane obunokubakho ithuba.
Ude ube ukhethekile nomntu, kubalulekile ukuba ugcine iinketho zakho zivulekile.
Kodwa isenokunganyanzelekanga ukuba ibe nguwe oyalela xa kufuneka ukhethe ulayini. Omnye wabafana obabonayo unokuza nokuzikhethela kwaye akunyanzele ukuba ukhethe.
Ukuba umfana ufuna ukuba yedwa kunye nawe, ke, ewe, lixesha lokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ingaba yinto oyifunayo na leyo, njengoko oko kuya kuthetha ukubiza izinto kunye nenombolo yesibini yendoda.
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi. Kuyakhathaza, kodwa amadoda ahlala efana neebhasi. Ulinda iminyaka de kufike enye, kwaye emva koko ezimbini zize ngaxeshanye.
Le mibuzo kufuneka ikuncede ufumane ukuba ngubani oza kukhwela naye.
Imibuzo yokuziBuza ngokwakho ukuKunceda uthathe isigqibo phakathi kwabafana ababini
1. Yintoni abayifunayo ngaphandle kobudlelwane?
Akukho ndawo yokuhlalutya yonke imiba yobuntu babo ukuzama ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba omnye wabo nguMnumzana u-Right ukuba awazi ukuba zithini na iinjongo zabo.
Usenokuba okanye awuzange ube nayo 'intetho' malunga nokuba nobabini nifuna ntoni ngothando nobomi, kodwa ukuba uchithe ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nabo, kuya kufuneka ubenalo uluvo lokuba bajonge ye ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kwaye zithini iinjongo zabo.
Ukuba uyanibandakanya xa nixoxa ngezicwangciso zexesha elizayo okanye ebhekisa kuni nobabini njengo 'thina,' kusenokwenzeka ukuba angakuvuyela ukuninika ikamva lakhe.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba usenayo iTinder kwifowuni yakhe okanye wenza inqaku lokungakwazisi kuye nakuphi na kubahlobo bakhe okanye kumalungu osapho kwaye uhlala ubonakala ngathi uyahlangana ngesondo kunokuchitha nje ixesha kunye, ke imiqondiso ayiyi 'ilunge kakhulu.
2. Ngaba yile nto uyifunayo?
Lixesha lokuba uthembeke kuwe malunga nokuba yintoni wena Ndifuna le.
Ngaba ukulungele ubudlelwane obukhulu, obuzinikeleyo?
Ukuba mfo ngokucacileyo ufika kwinqanaba apho acinga ngokuhlala phantsi kwaye abe neentsana kwaye ukude kakhulu ukuba ukulungele konke oko, oko kunokubangela ingxaki.
Uthetha ntoni umntu ogciniweyo
Ukuba uyazi ukuba awubafuni abantwana kwaye uyenzile yacaca ukuba uyayenza, loo nto iyasebenza.
Mhlawumbi ufuna ukubona isuntswana lehlabathi kwaye mhlawumbi uhlala kwaye usebenze kwenye indawo, kodwa ufumene umsebenzi ongakuvumeliyo ukwenza iglobhu.
Ngelixa singekhe sazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni kwixesha elizayo, ukuba ubona nantoni na ecacileyo ukujongana nabaphuli Ukuza nomnye umntu, cinga nzima ngaphambi kokulandela izinto.
3. Bavakalelwa njani ngawe?
Kuhle ukwazi ukuba ufuna izinto ezifanayo ebomini, kodwa nokuba iinjongo zakho zihambelana kangakanani, oko akuthethi ukuba bayintloko phezu kwakho.
Bavakalelwa njani ngawe?
Yintoni ekwenza ucinge lonto?
Ngaba ukhona umfana okuxelele indlela aziva ngayo, okanye ngaba konke kukuqikelela?
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, inokuba lixesha lokuba 'uthethe,' ke nobabini niyazi ukuba nimi phi na phambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuqhubela phambili.
4. Ngaba niyangqubana ngokuziphatha?
Ngaba ikhona into ebalulekileyo apho unezimvo ezahluke kakhulu?
Ngaba uvotela amaqela ezopolitiko ahlukeneyo?
Ngaba ikhona imiba yenkolo?
Zibaluleke kangakanani kuwe ezi zinto?
5. Yintoni enomtsalane kuwe kumfana ngamnye?
Uluhlu lwabalandeli, vuya. Lixesha lokuba uqhekeze incwadana ethembekileyo.
Thatha ixesha (ndicebisa ukuba kube ngokuhlwa emva kwebhafu ende, eshushu kunye neglasi entle yewayini) kwaye ubhale phantsi kanye ukuba yintoni ekutsalela kwindoda nganye.
Ezinye zezinto abanokuba nazo ngokufanayo, kodwa amathuba okuba kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwabo.
Nyaniseka kwaye uyifumane yonke into ephepheni ukuze ufumane umbono ocacileyo wento ekutsalayo kwaba bafana babini ngaxeshanye.
6. Kwaye yintoni engenayo?
Ngelixa umntu enokubonakala egqibelele kumhla wokuqala, ukuba ubazi aba bantu okwethutyana ngoku, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqaphela ezinye izinto ngabo ezikugungqisayo okanye ezikukhathazayo okanye ezikukhathazayo.
Lixesha loluhlu kwakhona! Bhala izinto ezingafunekiyo phantsi, ukusukela kumncinci, njengokurhona kwabo, ukuya kwezinkulu, njengokuxabana neenjongo zobomi.
Yamkela into ekukhathazayo kwaye uzibuze ukuba ngaba ezinye zezo zinto zizele zizivumelwano.
7. Uziva njani xa ukunye nabo?
Ngaba omnye wabafana obabonayo bakwenza ubengezele?
Ngaba uziva ngathi bayakutyhala ukuba ube ngumntu ongcono?
Ngaba zikwenza uzive u-sexy?
Ngaba unako Yiba nguwe nabo?
wenzeni xa nikruqukile
Ukuba omnye wabo wakubeka phantsi okanye wenza ukuba uzive 'ungaphantsi-kunaye' nangayiphi na indlela, uyifumene impendulo.
8. Ngaba abahlobo bakho bayabathanda?
Ukuba abahlobo bakho badibene kwaye uyayithanda indoda oyibonayo, baya kukuxelela malunga nayo.
Ukuba abakunikanga nyani uluvo, mhlawumbi badikidiki.
Kwaye ukuba ngenene bakuxelele ukuba abamthandi, ke bona ngokwenene ungamthandi.
Kwaye, ndiyakucaphukela ukuyaphula kuwe, kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bahlala belungile.
Xa kuziwa kubahlobo bethu, sidla ngokuba ngabagwebi abangcono kakhulu beemeko zothando kunokuba kunjalo kuthi.
Nokuba abahlobo bakho abadibananga nabafana obabonayo, baya kuba ngabo ubuxubushile emva kwemihla kwaye ukhuphe ukuba kukho into ekucaphukisayo, ukuze bakwazi ukukukhumbuza ngezinto lula ukulibala.
Musa ukulithatha igama labahlobo bakho njengeendaba ezilungileyo, kodwa zama ukubuza izimvo zabo kwaye ujonge ngononophelo ukuba bathini.
9. Zinjani izinto phakathi kwenu ngesondo?
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuzange ufike kweli nqanaba nokuba ungoyiphi na indoda, kodwa nkqu nokuncanca okubiweyo luphawu oluhle lokuba ingaba kukho ikhemistri evuthayo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
I-chemistry yezesondo ayisiyiyo yonke into, kodwa ibalulekile.
Ukuba uye walala ngesinye okanye bobabini, uziva njani?
Ngaba ukhe uphuphe ngayo?
Ngaba wanelisekile?
Ngaba nifundana kakuhle?
10. Ukuba uthathe isondo, ubuya kukhetha bani?
Oku akunakunceda kwimeko yakho, kodwa cinga ngokukhawuleza ukuba isondo asingeni kwi-equation.
Ngaba loo nto iyakunceda ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi indoda eyakho?
11. Ngaba bayazamkela iziphene zakho?
Ngowuphi umfana ozaziyo iimpazamo zakho kwaye oqondayo ukuba ziyinxalenye yento ekwenza WENA?
Kwaye nguwuphi na ozihlikihla ngokuchasene nezo ziphene kwaye azame ukukutshintsha ube ngumntu olungele bona?
Mamela, ukwamkela iziphene zakho akuthethi ukuba abafuni ukuba ukhule okanye ukhule nawe. Ngapha koko, amaxesha ngamaxesha kuxa kuphela xa usamkela iimpazamo zomnye umntu apho umntu eziva ekulungele kwaye ekwazi ukutshintsha.
kutheni ndiziva ndidikiwe kangaka
Ukuba omnye wabafana uzama ukukunyanzela ukuba ube ngumntu ongekho (ubuncinci, hayi ngoku), ngekhe bangabafana bakho.
12. Bakuphatha njani?
Intlonipho, inkathalo, isixa esisempilweni sokuqwalaselwa kunye nothando… ezi zezona zincinci ubuncinci onokuthi ulindele ukuzifumana kwindoda.
Ngaba ukhona umahluko ocacileyo kwindlela aba bafana babini uzama ukubakhetha phakathi kokuphatha ngayo?
Ngaba umntu uhlala ebheyila kwizicwangciso? Ngaba balawula iincoko kwaye bangavumeli ukuba ungenise igama?
Nantoni na eyenye abanokuya kuyo, ukuba umntu akakuphathi kakuhle, enye yeyona ndlela ilungileyo.
13. Injani imida yakho?
Imida iyinxalenye esempilweni yalo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye ukuhlonipha imida yomnye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba olo lwalamano lusebenzayo.
Nokuba lixesha lakho kunye nokufumaneka, ukuthanda ezesondo, ulindelo lwezezimali, okanye ukunyamezelana xa kufikwa kukungavisisani, ngaba omnye wabafana akayihloniphi loo mida?
14. Ngubani owenza owona mgudu mkhulu?
Izenzo zomntu zithetha lukhulu kunamazwi abo anokuze enze. Enye indlela le ebonakalisa ukuthandana sisixa somgudu obeka umfana.
Bathelekisa njani aba bantu babini malunga nokuba bazama kangakanani ukukutsalela?
Ngaba sele behambile umgama ongaphezulu kokwenza into abayaziyo ukuba iya kuthetha lukhulu kuwe ngokusekwe kwinto ebaxelele?
Ngaba basafuna ukuphuma bayokwenza izinto ezonwabisayo nawe, okanye ngoku 'bayazilungiselela' ubusuku obulula kunye nawe. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba ukhetha okokugqibela, ke oko kulungile kwaye kunokukunceda ukhethe phakathi kwabo.
15. Ngubani ngenene ofuna ukukwazi?
Ngelixa kuthatha ixesha ukuba abantu ababini babenokwazana ngokwenene, ngaba omnye wabafana ubonakalisile umdla onzulu kuwe njengomntu ongaphaya kwezinto ezingaphezulu komhlaba?
Yimbono (nangona inenye inyani) yokuba amadoda awakhululekanga ukuthetha ngecala leemvakalelo, elinokuba sisikhubekiso ekwazini umntu othile.
ukwahlukana njani emva kobudlelwane obude
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba omnye umntu athabathe ixesha elincinci ukufudumala kunomnye, kodwa ikwabonisa ukuba unxibelelwano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo alusekho emakhadini.
Lunjani unxibelelwano phakathi kwakho?
Kuye kwathiwa isigidi samaxesha, kodwa unxibelelwano olululo lubalulekile kubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
Bathelekisa njani abafana ababini kule meko? Ngaba omnye ubhalo kuphela xa efuna ukudibana, ngelixa elinye linxibelelana rhoqo?
Ngaba bayakwazi ukuthetha iingqondo zabo ngokufanelekileyo ngelixa bekumamele kunye nembono yakho?
Ngaba ukhe waphikisana nokuba ngowuphi umfana ngelixesha ubuthandana?
17. Iilwimi zakho zothando zihambelana njani?
Abantu bathanda ukufumana nokubonisa uthando ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Zintlanu iilwimi zothando, kwaye ukuhambelana okuhle phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho elizayo kunokunceda ekwenzeni ubudlelwane bube lula kwaye busempilweni.
Funda inqaku lethu malunga noku Iilwimi ezintlanu zothando , emva koko ubone ukuba ungabona ukuba ngawaphi la madoda athethayo.
Kukho nemibuzo emifutshane eninokuyithatha nobabini ukuze nibone ukuba nifanelana kangakanani. Yindlela emnandi yokuchitha ixesha elithile nabo ngaphambi kokuba ukhethe phakathi kwabo.
18. Ngowuphi ozimiseleyo nokwaziyo ukwabelana nomthwalo?
Oku kunokuba yinkohliso yokusebenza kwangoko kubudlelwane, kodwa ngaba ikhona imiqondiso yokuba umntu uyaluphepha uxanduva kwaye azame ukuphila ubomi obulula ngokuthembela kwabanye?
Ngaba inkwenkwe yomama isekhona? Okanye ngaba baphila ubomi obuzimeleyo?
Ngaba enye yazo ikwenze ukuba wenze uninzi lokuququzelela xa kufikwa kwimihla okhe waya kuyo? Ngaba kungenxa yokuba abafuni ukuzenza ngokwabo?
Uthini nge iimpawu zokungavuthwa ngokweemvakalelo ? Ngaba ubona nawuphi na umfana?
19. Ezantsi ezantsi, ngubani oyena mntu umfuna ngokwenene?
Ungaya ujikeleze ujikeleze oku ngokungapheliyo, kodwa ukuba unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho, sele wenze isigqibo nzulu.
Mamela elo lizwi langaphakathi. Iphantse yalunga njalo.
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Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule kuyo yonke le nto ukuba nendoda A kunye nendoda B, kukho enye indlela: Akunjalo.
Awunayo unayo ukukhetha enye.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuthatha isigqibo phakathi kwabafana ababini, oko kunokuba kungenxa yokuba akukho namnye kubo okhethekileyo.
Kwimeko apho, olona khetho lwakho lubalulekileyo kukubuya uphile ubomi obubodwa de kufike umntu oza kukushiya ungathandabuzi ukuba ngabo bakho.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ngowuphi umntu oza kumkhetha?Nangona kuya kuba sisigqibo sakho ekupheleni kosuku, akudingeki ukuba wenze wedwa. Ngapha koko, ukuthetha izinto nomntu ongathathi cala kuya kukunceda uthembeke ngokupheleleyo malunga neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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