13 Iimpawu eziMdanisayo kwiQabane lakho alifakwanga ngokweemvakalelo

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Kodwa njengokuba uye wabazi, uqaphele izinto ezimbalwa ezibonisa ukuba abakakhuli ngokweemvakalelo njengawe.

Oku kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho nabo, kwaye kunokubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu nakuwe.



Kwaye ngelixa ingafuneki ukuba isoloko ipela intlekele, kulungile ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba iqabane lakho alivuthwanga ngokwasemoyeni.

Nazi iimpawu ezili-13 onokuzijonga…

1. Bayakuphepha ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.

Enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo ngokuba kubudlelwane obusempilweni, obunothando kukukwazi ukunxibelelana kwinqanaba elinzulu.

Ukhe wadlula kwinqanaba lokuthandana ngokuchukumisa ngobunono kwimiba yenqanaba lomphezulu, kwaye ngoku unobuhlobo kunye nokuthembela ekuthetheni ngobomi bokwenyani.

Okanye kuya kufuneka uyenze, ubuncinci.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alifuni ukuba neengxoxo ezifanelekileyo okanye iingxoxo malunga nezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu, basenokuba abakakhuli ngokupheleleyo okwangoku.

Banokwenza amahlaya obudenge ngelixa uzama ukuxoxa ngento ebalulekileyo, okanye ukuphinda-phinda ukukhupha imiba emikhulu ocela inkxaso yabo kuyo.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, abahlangani neemfuno zakho zeemvakalelo ngoku.

2. Babonisa isimilo somntwana.

Iyazichaza intle, kodwa uphawu olucacileyo lokungakhuli ngokweemvakalelo lusebenza njengomntwana, ulutsha, okanye umfundi.

Mhlawumbi zizinto ezisisidenge ezifana nokungazicoci emva kwabo, ukucela uncedo kwimisebenzi esisiseko efana nokuhlamba iimpahla, okanye ukubamba okwentsana.

Kunokutsala ngokumangalisayo ukuba ube phakathi komntu ongenakukwazi ukwenza izinto njengomntu omdala, kwaye kunokubangela ukuba ubuze ngolwalamano lwakho nabo.

3. Baxhomekeke kwabanye.

Ukuba iqabane lakho lisokola ukuba lodwa okanye liswele kakhulu (kunye nawe, abazali babo, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni), basenokungabi ngabakhulileyo ngokwasemoyeni njengokuba unjalo.

Kunokuba nzima ukufumana inqanaba lenkxaso elungileyo, kodwa ukuba baxhomekeke kakhulu komnye umntu, kuya kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye.

Kuyadinisa ukuba phakathi komntu ongenakuzenzela izigqibo, okanye owalayo ukuchitha naliphi na ixesha yedwa.

Ukuba nguwe abathembele kuwe, ubudlelwane bakho buya kusokola ukuba wena ungaze ube yedwa-ixesha nokuba!

4. Bayazikhusela xa kusiliwa.

Kuqhelekile ukuba neengxoxo, nokuba neengxoxo, kubudlelwane. Iya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga kwaye enesithukuthezi ukuba uyavumelana ngayo yonke into, ngapha koko.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, bazikhusela ngendlela engathethekiyo xa uphikisana, luphawu lokuba banengxaki ngokwasemoyeni.

Kulungile ukuzikhusela okanye uchaze indlela oziva ngayo / kutheni wenze into, kodwa uninzi lwabantu abadala luyakwazi ukwenza njalo ngaphandle kokuzikhusela njengomntwana.

Ukuba bazama ukutshintsha isihloko okanye baqale ngokugxeka ngokungacwangciswanga wena , kukho umba wokwenyani apha.

5. Abakwazi ukuzibophelela.

Nokuba kubudlelwane bexesha elide, ukuthetha ngekamva lakho, okanye ukunamathela kwisicwangciso sokuphuma kunye isidlo sangokuhlwa, bayasokola ukuzibophelela kwizinto.

Oko akutsho ukuba nabani na ayenzi ufuna ulwalamano alukakhuli - kodwa ukuba ukukhula kuqhuma ekwenzeni ukhetho olubonisa indlela oziva ngayo.

Ukuba abafuni ubudlelwane, akufuneki babekho. Ukuba abafuni kudla kunye nawe, bekungafanelekanga ukuba bavumile.

Ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo kuvela ekuziqinisekiseni ngokwakho-kunye nokunyaniseka malunga nokuba kujongeka kanjani kwaye yintoni abanye abantu abayilindeleyo kuwe ngokwenyani.

6. Abazihoyi iimvakalelo zakho.

Umlingane wakho unokuhlala esenza izinto ezikukhathaza - kwaye wenze njalo usazi.

ndidlala njani nzima ukufumana

Ukuba bayazityeshela iimvakalelo zakho rhoqo (ngaphezulu kwesibini esinye seminyaka kule minyaka) kwaye bengabonakali bekwazi ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo, abakakhuli ngokwaneleyo kulwalamano olufanelekileyo.

Bazicingela bodwa ukuba babe kunye nomnye umntu kwaye kufuneka benze utshintsho okanye bakuyeke uhambe.

7. Abathathi xanduva.

Ngaba bahlala betyhola abanye abantu (kubandakanya nawe) kwaye bayala ukuvuma eyabo inxaxheba kwimisitho?

Le flegi enkulu ebomvu.

Ukuba liqabane kuthetha ukwamkela kwaye ungumnini wakho.

Oko akuthethi ukuba ugqibelele kwaye awusoze wenze iimpazamo, kodwa ukuba ungumnikazi xa wenze into engalunganga kwaye usebenza ngokuzimisela ukuba ube nguhlobo olungcono lwakho.

8. Abazimiselanga kulalanisa.

Ngaba uhlala uxolisa emva komlo, nokuba ibingabo abayiqalileyo?

Mhlawumbi nguwe onika kuqala, okanye uvumela izinto zihambe rhoqo?

Ngaba uyayilahla iminqweno yakho kunye nolonwabo lwakho ngaphezu kwabo?

Ubudlelwane konke malunga nokulalanisa , ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa nobabini niyazenza ngokulinganayo.

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Uninzi lwabantu abangavuthiyo ngokweemvakalelo abanqweneli kulalanisa- ukuthanda kwabo njengomntwana, nokuzingca akuhoyi nayiphi na enye indlela yokufumana oko bakufunayo.

9. Bazama ukukwenza ube nomona.

Iqabane lakho lisenokuba lidlala 'imidlalo' - hayi uhlobo oluhle.

Banokuzama ukukwenza ube nomona ngokubhalela abantu ebebe ngamaqabane akho imiyalezo, ukudlala ngothando ebusuku ngaphandle, okanye ukukuxelela ukuba ushushu kangakanani umhlobo wakho osenyongweni.

Oku akuhlekisi okanye kububudenge akulunganga kwaye bubuntwana. Ufanelwe ngumntu ongadingi okanye angafuni ukudlala ezi ntlobo zemidlalo nawe.

Abantu abavuthiweyo ngokweemvakalelo baya kukwenza oku ‘ukukuvavanya’ ngamanye amaxesha, okanye ukukwenzakalisa ngabom kwaye bakwenze ubuze ukuzixabisa kwakho.

Inokuba luphawu lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kwaye luphawu lomntu ongenampilo kuye.

10. Zinqanyulwe kubomi bakho.

Ukuba iqabane lakho liphepha rhoqo ukudibana nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho, luphawu lokuba abakakhuli ngokupheleleyo.

Abafuni ukuzibophelela kuyo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo kwaye baya kufumana iindlela zokuphuma kuyo.

Oku kunokuba ngenxa yokuba bengazithembi ngokwaneleyo, kodwa basenokungavumi ukuncama ixesha labo ngenxa yento engabancedisiyo okanye ebenza bonwabe kwangoko.

11. Banomvandedwa ngempumelelo yakho.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alinakho ukubhiyozela impumelelo yakho ngaphandle kokuthelekisa kwimpumelelo yabo (okanye ukusilela kwayo), mhlawumbi unomntu ongekakhuli.

Kuya kufuneka babenokubhiyozela kwaye bakuxhase ngaphandle kwangoko bakuthathe njengesiqu sakho ukuba wenza 'ngcono' kunabo, okanye bayathandwa, banabahlobo abaninzi, bahlawulwa ngakumbi, njl.

Nokuba yeyiphi eyona nto intle ebomini bakho, kufanele ukuba bayayibhiyozela, hayi ukuyicaphukela.

12. Abafuni ukuya phambili.

Ngaba bazisa imicimbi efanayo kaninzi, okanye bakuvale emva kwengxabano?

Akukho mntu ungcwele, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa sonke kufuneka nje siyeke izinto ziqhubeke ngamanye amaxesha. Kulungile ukuhlala zive iimvakalelo, kodwa akulunganga ukuqhubeka uzivakalisa wakuba umcimbi uvaliwe.

Ukuba ubuphikisene ngento ethile kwaye wavuma ukuvala umnyango kuyo kwaye uqhubeke, akufuneki bayizise bayibambe entlokweni yakho.

ukudlala nzima ukufumana namadoda

Ukuba abanakho ukukhula kwaye bajongane nezinto ngendlela esempilweni, enengqondo, kukho umba omkhulu apha. Kulungile kubo ukugcina uzenza uzive unetyala, okanye uqhubeke ukutyhola okanye ukhetha umlo wento ethile ovumile ukuyibeka emva kwakho.

Kukwanabulungisa ukuba bakuvalele ngaphandle emva kwengxabano-ewe, wonke umntu ufuna indawo ukuze aphole, kodwa akufuneki wenziwe uzive ngathi 'wohlwaywa' ngonyango oluthulwayo ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lingakhuli kakhulu ukuba nencoko yabantu abadala.

13. Bahlala bexhoba.

Ngaba sele uqalile ukuqaphela ukuba akukho nto iyimpazamo kubo ukuba bahlala bengabo abonileyo?

Mhlawumbi bahlala bekhalaza ngokuphathwa kakubi okanye ukwenzakaliswa ngabo babangqongileyo.

Ewe kunjalo, oku kunokuba yinyani. Ukuba ayisiyiyo, kwaye uyayazi le nto iyinyani, banokuthi banamathele kumjikelo wokuzixhaphaza.

Olu luphawu lokungakhuli ngokweemvakalelo kwaye lucebisa ukuba banemicimbi yokuzithemba ekufuneka beyisebenzisile.

Uninzi lwabantu luyichaza kwakhona imiba ukuze bazibonakalise njengexhoba kuba bafuna ingqalelo kunye nothando- kwaye eyona ndlela yokufumana oko kukwenza ukuba abantu babasizele.

Lo inokuba ngumba obanzi onxulunyaniswa nembali yokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukungakhathalelwa, ke kufanelekile ukubeka esweni le ndlela yokuziphatha kwaye ucebise ukuba babone umcebisi.

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Ukungavuthwa ngokweemvakalelo kunokubangelwa luluhlu olukhulu lwemicimbi, kwaye, ngelixa kulula ukufunda olu luhlu kwaye ugwebe iqabane lakho, kuhlala kubalulekile ukuqaphela imeko.

Kusenokubakho imiba engunobangela ekufuneka ijongiwe, okanye kungafuneka uqwalasele ngokwenyani ubudlelwane bakho nabo.

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