Uninzi lwethu sele luqhelene nomxholo we-manolescent. Ngamanye amaxesha kuchazwa ukuba bane-Peter Pan syndrome, aba bafana, kukwabizwa ngokuba 'ngabantwana,' ngekhe bavuthwe nakweyiphi na imeko yabantu abadala. Hayi ncma.
Banako jonga njengabantu abakhulileyo, abagqibeleleyo ngokungena ngaphakathi ezinweleni kunye nokugaya ebusweni, kodwa eneneni ngamakhwenkwe nje anxibe iisuti zamadoda, bonwabile kuba ngoku banokusela ngokusemthethweni ngonaphakade.
Iinkqubo zeTV kunye neefilimu zizele ziitrope ezinabafana abanjengale: cinga uJake Peralta waseBrooklyn 99, Sheldon ovela kwiBig Bang Theory, nayiphi na indima uWill Ferrell awakhe wayidlala, nditsho noGqirha we-11 kuGqirha Ngubani. Bonke banomdla kwaye bancinci, kodwa nangona i-antics yabo engavuthiyo kunye nezimvo zabo zinokucaphukisa ngokupheleleyo, banokuba nothando olubi. Bahlekisa, banamandla, kwaye naxa bethetha okanye besenza ezona zinto zihlaselayo, uyazi ukuba abazenzi ngandlela zonke, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bengamakhwenkwe nje ngekhe, okanye akakwazi, ukukhula .
Ezo zihlandlo zobumnandi obuthandekayo azinakusoloko zenzela ukungaziphathi kakuhle, nangona kunjalo. Aba bantu bathambekele ekungathembekini, ekuzixakekiseni, kwaye bangaziqapheli nakangqongileyo. Basenokungatshintshi iimpahla zabo kangangeentsuku, bayakunyathela amadama okugabha kwekati kuba bengaziboni nje, okanye behleli phakathi kweenqanawa zeebhiya ezingenanto kunye neebhokisi ze-pizza kuba bebexakeke ziiseshoni zemidlalo engummangaliso. Yintoni ingxaki?
Ewe, ingxaki kukuba uninzi lwaba bafana banesithukuthezi, kwaye bangathanda ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane kunye namaqabane avulekileyo ukuba abanyamezele.
Wwe ikhaka ngokuchasene nendaleko
Ungabenza njani ubudlelwane bakho busebenze
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nolwalamano lokwenyani, lwexesha elide kunye ne-manolescent?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ewe… kodwa isitshixo sempumelelo kukuqonda kakuhle ukuba ujongene nabani, kwaye umamkele kanye njengokuba enjalo, ngaphandle kokulindela ukuba uyakwazi ukutshintsha kwinqanaba elithile elisisiseko. Lowo ngumgca osezantsi.
Wena ayikwazi yiya kubudlelwane nomfo onje ucinga ukuba ngandlela thile uza kuba ngumtsalane wemilingo oza kumenza abe yindoda.
inkcazo yokunyaniseka kubudlelwane
Awungekhe.
Uyile ndlela ayiyo ngenxa yezizathu ezingenakubalwa, kwaye ekuphela kwendlela onokwenza ngayo ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busebenze kwaye bobabini bonwabe ukuba niyamkelana kanye njengokuba ninjalo, ngaphandle kokulindela ukuba kuya kubakho utshintsho olubalulekileyo olufunekayo ngapha nangapha. Oku kubalulekile ukwamkela, kuba ayingombuzo nje wokuba nethemba lokuba uya kukhula: ngethemba lokuba uya kuvuleleka ekwamkeleni ii-quirks zakho kunye nemicimbi eneengalo ezifanayo ezivulekileyo ozinikezelayo.
Ukuba ucinga ngokuthandana nomfana osemncinci ngenxa yokuba umbona njengeprojekthi, ezele zizinto ezinokubumba ube yindoda efanelekileyo, ulibale. Usenokukwazi ukudlala le ndima kuni ngoku, kodwa ayizukuhlala ixesha elide, kwaye nobabini niza kugqibela niziva nicaphukile malunga ne-charade.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iimpawu ezisixhenxe zokuba umntu wakho uphethwe sisifo sikaPeter Pan
- Codependency Vs Ukukhathalela: Ukwahlula phakathi kweNgozi kunye neLuncedo
- Ngaba unokuLungisa ubudlelwane obuNye okanye Ngaba kufuneka ubuphelise?
- Iimpawu ezi-6 eziNkulu zeQabane lakho likubona njengokhetho, hayi eyona nto iphambili
- Izinto ezili-10 Wonke uMfazi ufuna ukuziva enobudlelwane
- Indlela yokukhula kwaye ube ngumntu omdala oqolileyo
Ngubani Okulungele Ukuza KuManolescent
Kukho umntu phaya wonke umntu: isitshixo kukuba nomntu oqulethe iimpawu ozifumanisa zinomdla kwiqabane.
ingaba abafana bayathanda ukuthetha emnxebeni
Uyazi ukuba bakhona njani abanye abantu abasetyhini abatsala amadoda amadala kuba befumana amanani ootata enomdla? Bano 'hlobo,' kwaye abayi konwaba kunye neqabane elidlala nje indima kumzamo wokunyanzela izinto ukuba zisebenze. Abantu kufuneka bakwazi ukuzimela, kwaye ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano lokwenyani.
Kuloo vein, oyena mntu ukulungeleyo ukuthandana no-manolescent ngumntu onwabileyo odlala indima yokuba liqabane elinoxanduva, nelikhulileyo ekuchaseni ukungavuthwa komfana wabo. Asithethi ngokushiya phantsi isidima kwisiphelo somntu apha, nokuba: sithetha ngomnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuhlakulela ubambiswano lwexesha elide kunye ne-doofus eya kuthi iziphathe njengomntu ofikisayo ubomi bakhe bonke.
Oko kungavakala kukubeka kude kuninzi lwethu, kodwa njengabo bafana bafuna ukubizwa ngokuba 'nguTata' ebhedini, kukho amadoda nabasetyhini abanolwalamano nomntu oselula ngentliziyo engathandekiyo kuphela ibalulekile.
Abantu abanje bathanda ukuthanda ukuba kwindima yobunkokeli xa kufikwa kubudlelwane babo bobuntu. Bathanda ukuba babe ngabo abenza izigqibo, abalawula ezemali, ngokusisiseko yonke into ukuze yonke into isebenze ngokuchanekileyo ngendlela abayithandayo. Bafuna iimonolescents ebomini babo ukuxhomekeka kubo ekuncedeni ukulawula ubomi babo, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka nge ubuntu olomeleleyo ukugoba iintloko ngezabo.
Banokonwabela ngenene amandla obutsha aziswa ngumntwana kubuhlakani babo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubudlelwane nabafana abanje abukhe budinise. Banokumangalisa amatikiti aya kwiDisneyland kusuku lwakho lokuzalwa, okanye akugcine kwiinzwane zakho xa begqiba kwelokuba bakhwele ikiriva phantsi kwinduli eyingozi.
umyeni wam uhlala endicaphukisa
Isibonelelo esinye esihle sokuthandana nomfana onje kukuba banakho ukukugcina usemtsha ngentliziyo. Kwelinye icala, unokuziva unxunguphele kukuba nguwe wedwa umntu omdala osendlwini kwaye uxanduva lukuwe kukuqinisekisa ukuba amatyala ayahlawulwa, indlu igcinwe ingenazo iigundane, kwaye abantwana abazigubungeleyo ukungcola kwakhe, kodwa ungagwetywa uqinisekile ukuba uyakuyiphatha imicimbi ngovuyo lokwenene kunye nomdlandla, kwaye uya kukuhlekisa, ngakumbi, ngakumbi xa esenza iipancake ezimile ngokungacacanga kwisidlo sakusasa sakho sokuzalwa.
Mthande kwaye Uxabise uMntwana wakho, Okanye umyeke ahambe
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, kuya kufuneka wamkele ukuba i-manolescent ayisoze ikhule, kwaye ukuba unethemba elingelolakhe lokuba uya kwenza, wonke umntu uya kuba lusizi. Uyakhathazeka ngenxa yokuba engakhuli ngomlingo kumfana ocinga ukuba unakho ukubakhona, kwaye uya kukhathazeka ngenxa yokuba uhlala umnyanzela ukuba abe yinto engeyiyo, emva koko udane kwaye uphoxeke naye ngokungazifezi izinto ozilindeleyo.
Ngubani owonwabileyo kwimeko enjalo? Akukho mntu.
Mhlawumbi ugqirha wakho.
Uninzi akukho mntu.
yimalini ezenziwa zii-superstars ze-wwe
Ininzi ingqumbo inokubakho xa kukho ukungalingani kubudlelwane, ngakumbi xa kusiziwa kukungakhathali kwaye ungakwazi ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho. I-Manolescents idume ngokungawenzi umsebenzi wawo wasekhaya, umzekelo, okanye ukungakhathali xa kufikwa kukhathalelo lwabantwana.
Ngaba ulungile ngombono wokuba nomntu ongaze ukwazi ukuthembela kuye, kwanaxa usengxakini? Umntu onokuthi abaleke azimele kwiingxaki ezinokubakho ebomini endaweni yokuma ecaleni kwakho ajongane nazo ngqo? Umntu oya kuhlala efuna ukuba ubhale uluhlu 'lwezinto oza kuzenza' ngenxa yakhe ngokunyanisekileyo akayazi into amakayenze ngaphandle kwesikhokelo sakho esicacileyo?
Umfana oza kuzama ukukuhenda ngelixa unxibe i-Spongebob ibhulukhwe engeyonto ihlekisayo?
Ukuba ungayiphendula le mibuzo ngo 'ewe' onomdla, kwaye uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo, unokufumana ithuba nomntwana wakho.
Ukuba awukwazi, okanye uyathandabuza ukuphuhlisa ikamva ngalo mfo, ungafuna ukwahlukana naye umshiye komnye umntu ajongane naye.
Njengawo nawuphi na umntwana ongasayi kuze ukwazi ukuchazela abo usebenza nabo, umtsalane kwi-manolescent kufuneka unyaniseke kwinqanaba elisisiseko, okanye awuzukusebenza.
