Ubhalela wena yonke imihla… amaxesha ngamaxesha ngemini.
Kodwa akazange nakanye akubize ukuze uthethe emnxebeni.
Ukufumanisa okungaqhelekanga kuba uyakonwabela ukuthetha emnxebeni.
Ukukwazi ukuva ilizwi lakhe kwifowuni kwenza yonke into ibe yinyani ngakumbi kwaye kwakha unxibelelwano naye.
Ke kutheni engafuni ukukufowunela?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba umfana angakhetha ukuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni.
1. Ufumanisa ukuba uthetha efowunini-kusonga-luvo.
Abantu bazo zonke izini banokuba ne-phobia yeefowuni zokufowuna.
Ukuba umntu uyonwaba ukuthumela imiyalezo, kodwa ayiphephe iminxeba kuzo zonke iindleko, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uyakhathazeka xa ucinga ngayo.
Unokuzibona ekhubeka ngamazwi akhe, ngakumbi ekuqaleni komnxeba, kwaye ke uyabhala ukuze aphephe oku kunokubangela iintloni.
Usenokuziva ngendlela efanayo malunga nokudibana buqu, kodwa ngelixa ukuthumela imiyalezo kuyinto eyoneleyo yokubiza umnxeba, akukho ndlela yakuphindaphindeka ukudibana ubuso ngobuso.
2. Ufumanisa ukuba uthetha nefowuni kunzima.
Iifowuni azifani nokuthetha nomntu.
Akukho zikhokelo zolwimi lomzimba oza kuthatha kuzo, akukho ndawo ujonge kuyo kunye, kwaye akukho mqobo ubonakalayo.
Ezi zinto zimnceda ukuba ahlole iimvakalelo zakho kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula kwinto oyithethayo.
Kwaye ngelixa ukuthula kunganyanzelekanga ukuba uzive ungonwabanga xa nikunye ngokwasemzimbeni, kuhlala kunjalo emnxebeni.
Usenokuziva ephantsi koxinzelelo lokuvala izikhewu kwincoko eya kuthi yenzeke ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ukuthula ayisiyongxaki ngokuthumela imiyalezo, kwaye akukho nto inokubangela inkxalabo ubukhulu becala.
3. Unokuyijonga impendulo yakhe kwisicatshulwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuthumela imiyalezo kungakhokelela kunxibelelwano olungelulo kuba amagama abhaliweyo anokuqondakala ngokulula…
… Kodwa ke okona buncinci kumnika ixesha lokucinga malunga nento afuna ukuyithetha.
Xa usemnxebeni, loo mpendulo kufuneka iphantse ibe kwangoko, kwaye oku kungakhokelela kuninzi lwamaxesha 'okungena' apho uthetha into engacingeliyo okanye eyenzakalisayo eyenzakalisayo kuba ubungacingi ngokwenyani.
Umntu unokukhetha iitekisi ngaphezulu kweefowuni kuba umvumela ukuba aqokelele iingcinga zakhe ngaphambi kokukhetha into aza kuyithetha.
4. Unokufikelela ngqo kwinqanaba kwisicatshulwa.
Mhlawumbi yinto ecekethekileyo, kodwa amadoda awazimiselanga kangako kwintetho encinci.
Bakhetha ukuya ngqo ezantsi kwishishini.
Kodwa iifowuni ngokungathandabuzekiyo zifuna uhlobo oluthile lwezinto ezimnandi kunye nengxoxo ye-chit.
Ngelixa kuyakhawuleza kwaye kulula ukuyilungiselela xa niza kudibana ngaphezulu kombhalo, umnxeba ungabandakanya incoko ende kakhulu.
Ke mhlawumbi uyakubhalela yonke imihla endaweni yokufowuna kuba ihambelana ngakumbi nesitayile sakhe sonxibelelwano.
5. Ukhetha ukwenza uninzi lokuthetha kwakhe ubuso ngobuso.
Xa umfana efuna ukuba nencoko efanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba afune ukuyenza ngobuqu.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yemikhwa ebonakalayo okanye imbonakalo yobuso athanda ukuyifunda.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ukholelwa nje ukuba ukuthetha ubuso ngobuso kusondele kwaye kunentsingiselo.
Okanye kunokwenzeka ukuba uyakonwabela ukwenza into kunye kunye nokuthetha njengoko nihamba, kunokuba nihlale nje nibe nencoko.
6.Ungazenza ezinye izinto ngelixa ethumela imiyalezo.
Umnxeba ufuna ukuba uyeke le uyenzayo kwaye ujonge ingqalelo yakho kwincoko.
Imiyalezo ebhaliweyo ayifuni inqanaba elifanayo lokuzibophelela.
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Unokwenza ngokulula enye into ngelixa usaphendula kwizicatshulwa rhoqo ngoku.
Ngelixa ungafuna ukumnika ingqwalaselo epheleleyo kuye kwaye ufumane ingqwalaselo yakhe epheleleyo ngokubuyisela, unokukhetha ukukhululeka kokungena kunye nokuphuma kwincoko xa ukhululekile.
Ngaba Ithetha ukuba Uyandithanda Ngaphantsi?
Usenokuzibuza ukuba kutheni ethumela imiyalezo endaweni yokufowuna kuba ukhathazekile oko kuthetha ukuba akakuthandi.
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ugcina wena nje kwi-backburner ngelixa ukhangela omnye umntu oza kuthandana naye.
Amathuba okuba akunjalo.
Kungenxa yokuba ukhetha ukunxibelelana ngombhalo, oko akuthethi ukuba uyakuthanda okuncinci.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo yindlela aziphatha ngayo ejikeleze nakuwe xa uchitha ixesha kwinkampani yomnye nomnye.
Ukuba uyadlala, uyathandana, kwaye ubonisa uthando oluninzi, ngokuqinisekileyo ungaphakathi kuwe.
Ukuba urhoxile, uphazamisekile, kwaye akakwenzeli nto intle, mhlawumbi ayinguye lowo kuwe .
Indlela ayikhethileyo yonxibelelwano akufuneki ichaphazele indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngawe, okanye indlela oziva ngayo ngaye.
Ndingamfumana njani ukuba afowunele ngakumbi?
Nokuba umntu akathandi ukukufowunela, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukumkhuthaza.
1. Mfowunele.
Akukho sizathu sokuba ungambizi endaweni yokulinda akubize.
Akuyi phambili okanye kuswele - yinto nje ebuyela umva kwento oyilindeleyo kuye.
Ngapha koko, ukuba unefown phobia, isenzo sokucofa inombolo yakho yeyona nto inokuba nzima kuye.
Kulula kakhulu ukuphendula umnxeba kunokuqalisa.
2. Qala ngokufutshane.
Nokuba uyakubiza okanye umbiza, gcina iincoko zimfutshane- ubuncinci, ukuqala.
Oku kuyakwenza ukuba ukubize uzive ungaphantsi kokuzibophelela (okanye okona kubi kakhulu, ngumsebenzi).
Ukuba uyazi ukuba angacima kwaye athabathe umnxeba kwimizuzu eli-10, kunokwenzeka ukuba aqalise.
Okukhona uncokola ngomnxeba, kokukhona uya kuziqhela, kwaye kuya kubalula ukuzithe chu ngokuthe ngcembe ngobude.
3. Mxelele ukuba uyafuna ukuliva ilizwi lakhe.
Abafana abasoloko befuna izinto ezifanayo namantombazana ukuze bazive okanye bakhe ibhondi.
Ukuba ngokwenene uyathanda ukuliva ilizwi lakhe, mxelele oku.
Ayizukumenza azive kamnandi kuphela, inokumkhuthaza ukuba athathe ifowuni kwaye akunike umnxeba.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akangomfundi weengqondo kwaye ukuba awukamxeleli ukuba uyonwabele kangakanani iminxeba, kufuneka ukuba azi njani?
4. Cwangcisa izinto kwi.
Ukuba usebudlelwaneni nalo mfana kwaye iqala ukuba nzulu, awulindelanga kakhulu ukuba ungafuna ukuthetha nabo kwiintsuku ezininzi.
Yenza kube lula kumntu wakho. Ishedyuli ngexesha elithile kwiintsuku ezithile xa uya kuncokola kwifowuni.
Mhlawumbi niyabonana ngempelaveki, kodwa ubusuku beveki bungumzabalazo ngenxa yomsebenzi okanye umgama.
Mbuze ukuba angakuvuyela na ukutsala umnxeba okhawulezayo rhoqo ngoLwesibini nangoLwesine ngokuhlwa (okanye naziphi na iintsuku ezisebenzela iishedyuli zakho).
Ngale ndlela, uya kwazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ozilindeleyo kwaye angacwangcisa kwangaphambili ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukhululekile.
Ukucwangcisa ixesha lokutsala umnxeba kunokuvakala ngokuchasene nokuthandana, kodwa yenye yeendlela ezisebenzisekayo ubudlelwane obunokuphumelela kwaye buphumelele.
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