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Ngaba uziva ngathi akafuni kuchitha ixesha nawe?
Kwaye, ngalo lonke elixesha, ngaba uthi uyakuthanda?
Le meko ayinampilo. Inokupela ukuphela kobudlelwane bakho ... kodwa akufuneki.
Ngaphambi kokuba wenze naziphi na izigqibo malunga nekamva lobudlelwane bakho, kufanelekile ukubuza eminye yale mibuzo kwaye ulandele iingcebiso ezizayo.
Imibuzo eli-11 oza kuyibuza ngobuhlobo bakho
Ngelixa le mibuzo ilandelayo ayenzelwanga ukuba uthethelele isithandwa sakho nangayiphi na indlela, sinokukunceda ufumanise ukuba kutheni engazibopheleli ekuchitheni ixesha nawe.
1. Ninexesha elingakanani nikunye?
Kukangaphi ubona umfana wakho kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni ubudlelwane buqale nini.
Ukuba usemngxunyeni wokuqala wobudlelwane obutsha, unokufuna nje thatha izinto kancinci .
Ulwalamano lutshintsho olukhulu kubomi bakho bobabini, kwaye ngelixesha usenokuba ukulungele ukuqhubela phambili ngokukhawuleza, angathatha ixesha elininzi ukukuqhela.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busekiwe, usenokungakhathali.
Isenokungasaziva isidingo sokwenza umzamo ofanayo nalowo wawenzayo ukuqala kwakho ukuthandana kuba uziva ukhuselekile.
2. Uyakonwabela ukwenza kwa izinto ezifanayo?
Ukuze uchithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, kubalulekile ukuba nibe nezinto ezithile ezinomdla ezifanayo.
Ukuba awuyenzi, mhlawumbi ayimangalisi into yokuba achithe ixesha lakhe nabanye abantu besenza ezinye izinto.
Oku kungade kwehle kulowo nalowo ufuna ukubukela kumabonwakude kuba le yinto uninzi lwezibini ezenza kunye ngokuhlwa.
3. Ngaba ubeka abanye kuqala kuwe?
Mhlawumbi kukho izinto eninokonwabela ukuzenza kunye, kodwa ukhetha ukuzenza nomnye umntu.
Ukuba kunjalo, zibuze ukuba kutheni kusenokwenzeka oku.
Ngaba uhlala esenza into ethile nomntu othile? Mhlawumbi unomhlobo othile okanye iqela labahlobo aya kwiikonsathi kwaye uyayithanda nje.
Ngaba yinto onokuhlala nayo leyo? Kwiimeko ezithile, oku kwamkelekile ngokugqibeleleyo, kodwa ukuba uzama ukugcina bonke ubomi bakhe obukhoyo bohlukile kuwe, intwana yeflegi ebomvu.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ubeka ixesha alichithe nabanye ngaphambi kwexesha alichithe nawe rhoqo, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba ubeka ixabiso elingakanani kuwe nakubudlelwane bakho.
4. Ngaba uxinezelekile okanye uxakekile kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakhe?
Ubomi bunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Umsebenzi, ikholeji kunye neengxaki zentsapho ziphakathi kwezinto ezinokusebenzisa yonke into esiyivayo.
Ayilunganga, kodwa yenzeka ngaphezulu kunokuba ucinga.
Ukuba umntu othandana naye akanaxesha lakho, ngaba usokola nje ukugcina intloko yakhe ingaphezulu kwamanzi kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakhe?
Mhlawumbi akafuni kuvuma ukuba usokola kangakanani okanye acele uncedo, kwaye ke uyarhoxa nje kwaye yenza umzamo omncinci wokukubona.
5. Ngaba umgama yingxaki enkulu?
Uhlala kude kangakanani wena kunye nesoka lakho? Ngaba ukhawuleza kwaye kulula kangakanani ukuba eze kukubona, okanye ngokuchaseneyo?
Ewe, umntu wenza ixesha lezo zinto zibaluleke kakhulu kuye, kodwa ukuba ulindele ukuba enze uhambo lokukubona ngalo lonke ixesha- mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba eqhuba kwaye ungenawo - usenokuziva ecaphukile.
6. Ngaba unxibelelwano kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo lukhona xa wena are kunye?
Xa ukwazile ukumbona, ngaba umfana othandana naye ukuphatha kakuhle? Ngaba uyathandana, uvulekile, kwaye uyasebenza nawe kunye nento oyenzayo?
Okanye, ngaba ukho ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa akakho ngokweemvakalelo kuwe kunye neemfuno zakho?
Ukuba yeyokuqala, ubudlelwane ngokuqinisekileyo busenayo into eyenzelweyo into ekufanele ukuyilwela.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, kuyakufuneka wenze umsebenzi onzima ngakumbi wokubuyisela izinto kwindawo apho ungonwaba khona.
7. Ngaba ubudlelwane bobomntu bungowomzimba kuphela?
Xa nichitha ixesha kunye, ngaba isondo yinto yokuqala engqondweni yakhe?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kumnandi ukuziva unqweneleka ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa ukuba kuphela kwento ayithandayo kuwe, akwanelanga.
Ukuba uza nje ngenxa yokuhlangana kwaye akafuni ukuchitha naliphi na ixesha elide kunye nawe, kufanelekile ukubuza ukuba uyakusebenzisa na .
8. Ngaba uyangena kwizicwangciso?
Ngaba isithandwa sakho siyavuma ukukubona, kodwa rhoqo ibheyile kwezi zicwangciso ngomzuzu wokugqibela?
Oku kunokuba luphawu olukujonga njengelinge lakhe lokugqibela malunga nendlela alisebenzisa ngayo ixesha lakhe, kwaye ukuba ufumana isithembiso esingcono, akasayi kuthandabuza ukusithatha.
Ingabonisa ukuba ukuthathela ingqalelo kuba uyazi ukuba awuzukuyikhaba ingxabano xa ebaleka.
9. Ngaba ungenisa ngokuzimeleyo ozimeleyo?
Ukuba umntu othandana naye ubonakala echitha ixesha elininzi eyedwa kunokuba nawe okanye nabahlobo bakhe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ujongana nomfana ongenisayo.
Ama-introverts akhutshwa ngokukhawuleza xa uchitha ixesha nabanye abantu. Oku kunokusebenza nakumaqabane.
Usenokuziva engakwazi ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nawe kuba kuyamdina.
Oku kungatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko ekhululeka ngakumbi xa ukujikelezile. Ukuba unokuba nguye kwaye angaziva unesidingo sokugcwalisa umzuzu ngamnye kunye nencoko okanye nomsebenzi, uya kuba nakho ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nawe ngaphandle kokuphelelwa ziibhetri.
10. Injani imbali yakhe yobudlelwane?
Ukuba uthethile nge-exes, uyazi ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane bakhe bangaphambili buphelile? Ngaba waqhekeza izinto okanye wenza omnye umntu?
Abanye abantu bathanda umbono wokuba kubudlelwane, kodwa abafuni ukubeka umsebenzi onzima ofunekayo ukuze baqhubeke.
Ukuba umntu othandana naye ubenobudlelwane obuncinci obuninzi kwaye uninzi lwaye lwaphela ngomnye umntu, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kutheni.
Mhlawumbi akaluxabisi ulwalamano lwakho - okanye nabuphi na ubudlelwane - ngokwaneleyo ukwenza umgudu.
Usenokubona njengento entle ukuba nayo, kodwa engabalulekanga kangako kangangokuba ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe bonke ayenzele yona.
11. Lingakanani ixesha onqwenela ukulichitha kunye?
Ufuna ntoni kubudlelwane bakho malunga nokuchitha ixesha kunye nesoka lakho?
Luza kwenzeka njani olu tshintsho njengoko ubudlelwane bakho buqhubeka- uya kufuna ukuchitha ixesha elongezelelekileyo njengesibini?
Nokuba zithini na iimpendulo zakho, ngaba ucinga ukuba lolulindelo olunokwenzeka ngokweemeko ezikhoyo?
Kulapho iimpendulo zakho kwimibuzo edlulileyo ziya kukunceda.
Ukuba kukho izinto ocinga ukuba ninokusebenzela kuzo bobabini ukuphucula le meko, unokuhlala unethemba malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwexesha elide.
Ukuba awukwazi ukubona iindlela ezidlulileyo kweminye imiba ephakanyisiweyo, okanye awukulungelanga ukulinda malunga neenguqu eziyimfuneko ukuba zenzeke, unganqwenela ukubuza ukuba ingaba olu lwalamano kufanelekile ukuhlala kulo.
Ukuba awucingi ukuba uyakuziva wonelisekile kwixesha eliphakathi ukuya kwelide, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba ulibize usuku kwaye ufumane umntu onqwenela ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nawe.
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Ngoku ukuba uchithe ixesha elincinci ucinga malunga nemeko yangoku kubudlelwane bakho, nazi iingcebiso zokuba bobabini uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nesoka lakho, kwaye uzive ungakhathazeki yindlela izinto eziyiyo ngoku.
1. Fumana izinto zokuzonwabisa eninokuzenza kunye.
Oku kunokunceda ukujongana nombuzo wesibini kolu luhlu lungentla. Ukuba ngokwenene awukwenzi izinto ozithandayo okanye iinkanuko, ngaba ungafumana into efanayo?
Isenokufuna ukuba nobabini nigqithe kwimimandla yentuthuzelo, okanye nizame izinto ezintsha kunye ukubona ukuba niyazonwabela na.
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Zininzi izinto ezinokubakho zokuzonwabisa izibini , ke akufuneki kubekho sizathu sokuba athi hayi kuyo yonke into.
Ukuba niyayifumana into eniyonwabelayo nobabini, iya kumnika isizathu esingakumbi sokubeka phambili ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe ngaphezulu kokuchitha ixesha nabanye okanye naye.
2. Chaza iinkxalabo zakho usebenzisa iingxelo zika- “Ndi”.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ufanelekile ubuncinci bexesha kunye nengqwalaselo yesoka lakho.
Ukuba awucingi ukuba uyanele, kuya kufuneka uzive ukwazi ukuphakamisa lo mbandela kunye naye.
Kodwa indlela othetha ngayo iya kuba nefuthe kwindlela asabela ngayo kunye nendlela aphumelele ngayo ekudaleni utshintsho.
Soloko usebenzisa ingxelo ethi 'Ndi' xa uxoxa ngomcimbi. Ngale ndlela, uyakuphepha ukubeka ityala kuye, elinokuthi limenze azikhusele.
Yitsho into enje:
Ndinqwenela ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nawe kuba ndiyakhathala kwaye ndiyakonwabela ukuba kunye nawe. ”
Okanye:
'Kudala ndiziva ndililolo mva nje kwaye ndingayivuyela kakhulu into yokuba ninokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nam.'
Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje:
“Awusoze ufune ukuchitha ixesha kunye nam okanye wenze iinzame zokucwangcisa izinto. Undityeshele kunye nobu budlelwane. '
Ukuvula incoko kunganceda ekufumaneni izizathu ezenza ukuba aphephe ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
3. Beka ugxininiso kuye lokwenza izicwangciso.
Ukuba nguwe okwangoku oza kuhlala unxibelelana naye kwaye wenze onke amanyathelo ngokubona, makathathe uxanduva lotshintsho.
Olu luvavanyo lwe-litmus lokuba ubuxabise kangakanani ubudlelwane bakho.
Unokukhawuleza ayiqonde indlela amqala ngayo umnxibelelwano kwaye azame ukukhulisa umdlalo wakhe. Okanye usenokuphela anyamalale aze angaqhakamshelani nawe kuba ukwenjenjalo akuzange kuthi qatha engqondweni yakhe.
Ukuba unxibelelana kwaye akubuze ukuba kutheni ungakhange uthumele imiyalezo okanye ufowune, cela nje uxolo, usitsho into enje, 'Uxolo, bendinenjongo yoku, kodwa ndilapha ngoku. Unjani?'
Kubalulekile ukugcina unxibelelwano olulandelayo lufana nesiqhelo. Unokucinga ukuba ukwi-mood naye, ke kuya kufuneka umbonise ukuba awukho (nokuba ukhona).
Ngale ndlela ayizukunxulumanisa nothumela imiyalezo nawe ukuba ucaphuke. Oku kubalulekile ukuba uza kuqalisa unxibelelwano ngokwendalo kaninzi.
Ngokubona, mbuze ukuba angathanda ukwenza ntoni. Emva koko, ukuba akenzi, cela ngentlonelo ukuba enze amalungiselelo.
Ke ukuba ucebisa usuku lokuphela ngeempelaveki, vuma ngentshiseko, kodwa emva koko mbuze ngqo ukuba angathanda ukwenza ntoni.
Khumbula, awunguye umama wakhe okanye umkhathaleli- kufuneka afunde ukwenza izinto ngokwakhe.
4. Khangela ezinye iindlela zokuchitha ixesha kunye.
Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi buya kwenza kube nzima ukubonana ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukuchitha ixesha kunye ngandlela thile.
Cebisa ukufowunelwa ngevidiyo okanye ukufowunelwa ngokuhlwa (nangona kunganyanzelekanga ngokuhlwa) apho ungenako ukudibana naso nasiphi na isizathu, kodwa uyazi ukuba uyafumaneka.
Ukuba nonxibelelwano rhoqo kuya kukunceda ndiziva ndithandwa kwaye uzive ukulungele ngakumbi ukunikezela ixesha kuwe.
5. Gcina ubomi obusebenzayo ngaphandle kobudlelwane.
Nokuba uyakwazi ukulawula ukuba umntu othandana naye achithe ixesha elininzi kunye nawe, akunakulindeleka ukuba ube lutshintsho olukhawulezileyo nolukhulu.
Ukuba umbona kanye ngeveki, akakho ngesiquphe uza kuba secaleni kwakho rhoqo ngokuhlwa nangeempelaveki.
Utshintsho yinkqubo ecothayo, ngakumbi apho imikhwa iyabandakanyeka. Kwaye unokukwazi ukutshintsha kakhulu Unokuhlala ujongana nenyaniso yokuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kwizinto ezingaphandle kobudlelwane bakho.
Indlela elungileyo yokuhlangabezana nayo kukuba nawe wenze okufanayo.
Ukuba ungaligcwalisa ixesha lakho ngezinto ozithandayo-ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekhaya, kunye nabanye okanye ngaphandle kwabanye-awuyi kuphazanyiswa lixesha olichitha kunye nesoka lakho.
Ukuba unokufumana abahlobo ukuba badibane rhoqo, okanye ujoyine iklabhu yendawo yohlobo oluthile, sisiqalo esihle eso.
Ukuba nobomi basekhaya kunye nesiqhelo oziva wanelisekile nako kubalulekile.
Konke oku kuya kukunceda ukuxhomekeka kancinci ngokweemvakalelo kwisithandwa sakho ukonwaba kwakho.
6. Phinda ujonge ulindelo lwakho kubudlelwane, okanye ufumane umdlalo ongcono.
Le ngongoma ihambelana nenqaku # 11 kwicandelo elidlulileyo, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kufanelekile ukukhankanya kwakhona, kwimeko yokuba uyiphosile.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyacaphuka kuba umntu othandana naye akanaxesha lakho, kungakuhle ukuba ujonge ngaphakathi ukuze ubone ukuba zeziphi izinto ozilindeleyo kubudlelwane.
Ngaba uyakholelwa ukuba izibini kufuneka zichithe uninzi lwexesha labo kunye?
Olu luvo alunakufana nolo lubanjwe ngabanye abantu.
Oku kukushiya ngeendlela ezimbini:
1. Phinda uyijonge into oyilindeleyo kwisoka malunga nexesha elichithwe kunye.
2. Fumana indoda eyabelana ngombono wakho kwaye ifuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye.
Ukuba ucinga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba unokuziqhelanisa neendlela zomfana wakho kwaye umkhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angenza olo tshintsho, ukhetho olunye lunokulungela wena ... ubuncinci de ube uluhambile.
Ukuba awucingi ukuba uya kuze ukwazi ukwamkela ubudlelwane apho ubona kuphela umntu othandana naye rhoqo, kuya kufuneka unike ingcinga enzulu malunga nokuba ingaba obu bulwalamano obulungileyo na kuwe.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngesithandwa sakho kunye nokungabikho kwexesha lakho kuwe?Ungazama ukukusebenzela ngokwakho okanye ungathetha nengcali kwezobudlelwane eya kuthi imamele iinkxalabo zakho kwaye inike iingcebiso kunye namanqaku esenzo.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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