Uthando luyinto entle. Kodwa inokuba yinto eyoyikisayo.
Ukuba utshisiwe ngaphambili okanye ukhe wanamava avaliweyo ukuba intliziyo yakho ayithandi, kungabonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuba uzivulele amathuba okuba iphinde yenzeke, kwakhona.
Ukunika umntu wakho uthando yinto enye, kodwa ukuvumela omnye umntu ukuba akuthande kunokuba yinto enkulu kakhulu kwabanye abantu.
Baninzi kakhulu abantu abasokolayo ukufumana uthando oluhlala luhleli kuba abanako ukuvumela ukuba bagade kwaye bavumele omnye umntu angene.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa unika umntu intliziyo yakho, usengozini.
Inokuba yinto enkulu kakhulu ukuyamkela ukuba uzama ukuzikhusela kwintlungu enokubakho.
Ungaluvula njani uthando?
Ungalwamkela njani uthando lomnye umntu?
Ungayamkela njani into yokuba unguye kufanelekile olo thando?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuhlengahlengisa ingqondo yakho, kunye nokuvula intliziyo yakho.
Kuya kuba nzima, kodwa kuya kufaneleka.
1. Sebenza kukuzithanda.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba niyivile le nto izihlandlo ezizigidi…
Awunakulindela ukuba nabani na akuthande ukuba awuzithandi.
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Inyathelo lokuqala lokuzivulela ngokwakho ukufumana uthando komnye umntu kukuzibonisa uthando olukufaneleyo.
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Kufuneke u uzixolele ngeempazamo ezidlulileyo.
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Kufuneke u qala ukuzinyanga ngendlela ophatha ngayo usapho lwakho okanye abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni.
Zonke ezi zinto zinzima ucinga ngazo kuwe xa uzijonga esipilini okanye wenze impazamo- ungazitsho kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni?
Khange ndicinge.
Akufanele utsho ngokwakho.
Singabagxeki bethu, xa thina kufanele babe ngabalandeli bethu abakhulu.
Yamkela ukuzikhathalela. Yenza izinto ezininzi ezikwenza ukuba uzive wonwabile kwaye usempilweni. Yondla umzimba wakho nomphefumlo.
Qala uthando kunye nawe, kwaye kungekudala uza kukholelwa ukuba uyakufanelekela ukuthandana nomlingane wamaphupha akho.
2. Nika uthando ngakumbi kwabanye.
Uthando lwezithandani luyinto entle. Akunakuphika oko.
Inokuba ngumlingo, kwaye uninzi lwabantu lunqwenela ubudlelwane bokuthandana.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into kwaye iphele bonke ubomi.
Zininzi ezinye izinto ezintle iintlobo zothando ezinokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba ufuna uthando olungaphezulu kwalo naluphi na uhlobo ebomini bakho, eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqala kukubonisa uthando ngakumbi kwabanye abantu.
Ufumana oko ukunikezayo.
Yenza izinto zabanye, ngenxa yokulunga kwentliziyo yakho, bengalindelanga mbuyekezo.
Yenza inqaku lokuchitha ixesha elinomgangatho kunye nabantu ababaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye wenze izinto owaziyo ukuba ziya kubonwabisa, kuba unako.
Okanye kutheni ungavolontiya ngenjongo elungileyo kwaye usasaze uthando ngale ndlela.
Uthando olunika ngakumbi kwihlabathi kunye nabantu abakungqongileyo, kokukhona kufanelekile ukuba uzokufumana ukulifumana.
3. Kwala ukuvumela uloyiko lube kwisihlalo somqhubi.
Ndiyayifumana, uthando luyothusa.
Uthando lumalunga nokuvumela ukuba unogada, kwaye kuhlala kuyingozi.
Umntu othandana naye angakushiya, okanye into enokwenzeka kubo.
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Uthando, ngaphezu kokulindelekileyo, luya kubandakanya ilahleko ngaxa lithile, kwaye ngekhe siqikelele ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni kwixesha elizayo.
Kwaye kunokoyikisa. Yoyikisa nyani.
Kodwa uloyiko alusosizathu saneleyo sokwala uthando ngokupheleleyo.
Ummangaliso wothando ukogqitha umngcipheko kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu eza nawo, iphindwe ngesigidi.
Uloyiko yimvakalelo esempilweni yokuba nayo kwaye umamele kwezinye iindlela, kodwa awunakuyivumela ukuba ikwenzele izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ebomini.
Yazisa uloyiko lwakho, kwaye ulubeke ngokuqinileyo ngasemva kwengqondo yakho kwaye ulandele intliziyo yakho.
Yibalikroti.
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4. Sebenzela ekubeni sesichengeni.
Inxalenye enkulu yokufunda ukwamkela uthando kukufunda ukuba sesichengeni.
Ukuba sesichengeni kunokuba yinto enzima ukuyiphucula ukuba uqheliselwe ukugcina iindonga zakho ziphakamile ukuze kungabikho mntu unokungena akwenzakalise.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukuba sesichengeni nawe.
Yamkela uloyiko lwakho, kwaye ubuze ukuba kutheni ukufumanisa kunzima ukuvumela abantu bangene.
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Ijenali inokuba yindlela elungileyo yokufumana iimvakalelo zakho.
Nje ukuba uthembeke kwisiqu sakho, ukuvula abahlobo kunye nosapho lwakho oluthembekileyo kulungile ekusebenzeni ekubeni sesichengeni nabanye.
Yabelana ngeemfihlo zakho kunye noloyiko nabantu obathembileyo, kwaye ngubani owaziyo ukuba akazukugweba ngenxa yabo.
Qiniseka ukuba uthembekile kubo, Ihlabathi alizi ukuwa phantsi. Esi sisiqhelo esihle sokuvula kubudlelwane.
5. Nyaniseka.
Ukuba udibana nomntu kwaye ucinga ukuba izinto phakathi kwakho zinokubakho, kuya kufuneka uthembeke kubo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Bazise ukuba akukho nto uyifunayo ngaphandle kokuzikhethela ukuba uthandwe ngumntu onjengaye, kodwa kunzima kuwe.
Baxelele ukuba uzakufuna ukuqonda kwabo kunye nenkxaso ukuba izinto zizakusebenza phakathi kwenu.
Bakhuthaze ukuba bathembeke ngendlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngezi zinto nabo.
6. Khumbula ukuba banokuziva ngokufanayo.
Ukuba udibana nomntu, banokuba bekulungele ubudlelwane kwaye kwindawo elungileyo yentloko ukuba yamkele uthando ngentliziyo iphela.
Kwelinye icala, banokuba kwisikhephe esinye njengawe, ufuna ukuthandwa, kodwa ungazi ukuba ukwamkela njani.
Basenokuba bakhathazwa kwixa elidlulileyo, kwaye ngoku bakufumanisa kunzima ukuyeka ukulinda, njengokuba usenza nawe.
Ngokudibeneyo, ninokubona zombini ukuba ungazivumela njani uthandwe.
7. Musa ukuzihambela phambili.
Ukuba ukuvumela umntu akuthande yinto eyoyikisayo, yithathe inyathelo ngenyathelo.
Ukuba ubudlelwane busebusaneni, akufuneki ube nexhala malunga nokuba kunokwenzeka ntoni ezantsi emgceni.
Kuya kufuneka uyonwabele le nto yomlingo, inqanaba lokuqala lombane kulwalamano, xa nobabini nisafumanisa omnye umntu.
Akufunekanga ugalele ixesha elininzi kunye namandla kubudlelwane ukuba ucinga akukho thuba ngekamva lenu nobabini…
… Kodwa akufuneki uchithe lonke ixesha lakho uzikhathaza ngezinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle.
Awunakuze wazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni phakathi kwakho ekuqhubekeni kwendlela. Unokonwabela apha kwaye ngoku.
8. Kodwa musa ukoyika ukuya phambili.
Ngelixa ungafanele kukhathazeka ngekamva kakhulu, kuya kufuneka uvuleke kumathuba okuhambisa ubudlelwane bakho nalo mntu uye phambili.
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Ukuba uyoyika ukuvula uthando lwakho, baxelele ukuba kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo omntwana.
Thatha amanyathelo amancinci kodwa abalulekileyo aya phambili kunye nabo kwaye bakhumbuze ukuba uyawuxabisa umonde wabo.
Oko kuyakunika nobabini ithuba lokubonisana ukuba uzimisele ngobudlelwane.
Niya kuziva nobabini ukuba akukho namnye kuni oza kujika ngenye imini atshintshe ingqondo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungavula njani ngakumbi ukufumana uthando? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
