Ucinga ukuba umntu wakho wakudala angafuna ukuba ubuye.
Kodwa awunakuqiniseka.
Exes yintsimi ekhohlisayo xa isiza kwiingcinga neemvakalelo zakho.
Kungabonakala kungenakwenzeka ukufumanisa ukuba ungubani na okanye ungubani na ngokwenene Ufuna ubuye, okanye ukuba nje ufunda kakubi imiqondiso.
Ukuba wena Ndifuna ukuba babuye, uzibeka emngciphekweni wokutolika isimilo sabo njengemiqondiso yokuba baziva ngendlela efanayo, kuba yile nto ufuna ukuyibona nokuyiva.
Ukuba uzifumene ukwimeko apho ucinga ukuba umntu wakudala anganomdla wokubuyela kunye nawe, usenokuzibuza ukuba ungayazi njani le nto ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ukuba ubabonile bebonisa imiqondiso embalwa elandelayo, kwaye into ethile emathunjini akho ikuxelela ukuba iyinyani, ke oko kubonisa kakuhle ukuba banomdla wokuvuselela izinto.
1. Banxibelelana.
Ngelixa abanye abantu babonakala bekwazi ukwahlukana kwaye kwangoko baba zezona zihlobo zibalaseleyo, loo nto ayisiyonto ilawulayo.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantu ababini abaye bahlukana ukuba bangabinakho ukunxibelelana omnye nomnye kangangexesha elibalulekileyo, nokuba bayakwazi ukulawula ukuqalisa ubuhlobo kamva.
Ngapha koko, ukuba uzama ukudlula omnye komnye, ngesiqhelo yeyona nto isempilweni.
Ke, ukuba awuzange uyeke ukunxibelelana, inokuba luphawu lokuba abakaze bafumane ulwalamano lwakho.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba benisabonana ubuso ngobuso okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo, ngokulula khange nibenalo ithuba lokulibala omnye nomnye.
Kwelinye icala, kusenokwenzeka ukuba unqumle uqhakamshelwano, kodwa ngoku baphinde banxibelelana.
Kukho into ekuxelela ukuba khange bafikelele nje kuba begqibe kwelokuba ixesha lilungile ukuba nobabini nibe ngabahlobo.
Qaphela ukutolika zonke iintlobo zonxibelelwano ngendlela engalunganga, nangona.
Ayisiyo yonke imiyalezo eyenzelwa ukulingana. Ukuba bakubhalela imiyalezo ebusuku kakhulu okanye bagcina izinto ze-banal, kusenokwenzeka ukuba baziva bengamalolo okanye bebulala ixesha de kufike omnye umntu.
Ukuba bayabuza ukuba unjani utatomkhulu wakho okanye ukuba uyifumene le ntengiso kwaye wabelana ngohlaziyo malunga nobomi babo, luphawu olungcono lokuba bazama ukudibanisa kwakhona.
2. Bafumana izizathu ezingaqhelekanga zokunxibelelana nawe.
Bafuna ukuthetha nawe. Kodwa bayasokola ukufumana izizathu zokunxibelelana.
Ke, ufumana imiyalezo ebabazekayo engaqhelekanga ubuza ukuba yeyiphi loo ndawo ubuyile kuyo ngelo xesha okanye iingcebiso ngeyona ndawo ipitsa ibalaseleyo.
Impendulo yakho kule miyalezo inokukuxelela okuninzi malunga nendlela oziva ngayo malunga ne ex yakho. Zama ukubeka umnwe wakho ekubeni iimvakalelo zakho ezixineneyo zezolonwabo okanye ukucaphukisa okanye into ephakathi.
3. Bebesoloko bebuza ngawe.
Ukuba unabahlobo bobabini, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bebebabuza ukuba unjani, uphezu kwantoni, nokuba ubona nabani na.
Banomdla wokwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ebomini bakho, kodwa ikratshi labo aliyi kubavumela ukuba bakubuze.
4. Babonisa umdla omncinci kakhulu kubomi bakho bothando.
Kumava am, xa ndidibene ne exes for a catch-up, khange sichithe ixesha elininzi sixoxa ngomdla omtsha wothando.
Sichithe ixesha sikhumbula malunga neentsuku zakudala kwaye sibamba neziganeko ezinkulu zobomi, kwaye ngelixa besisoloko sinyanisekile malunga nobudlelwane bethu obutsha, khange sive isidingo sokufumana iinkcukacha ngazo. Kungenxa yokuba kuya kusiba krakra.
Kodwa ukuba bakubuza imibuzo emininzi malunga nendoda okanye umfazi omtsha ebomini bakho kunye nokukhangela iinkcukacha, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bafuna ukuqonda ukuba uziva njani malunga nomdla wakho wothando ukuze bakwazi ukufumanisa ukuba abanayo okanye hayi ithuba nawe.
5. Benza kucace ukuba abatshatanga, okanye abatshatanga.
Bayakuxelela, ngamanye amaxesha ngaphandle kokubuzwa, ukuba abatshatanga, ukunqanda ukukucaphukisa kwaye bakwazise ukuba basekhona.
Kwelinye icala, banokwenza ngokuchaseneyo ngqo, ngakumbi ukuba bayaphika malunga neemvakalelo zabo.
Banokuzama ukukwenza umona ngokukuxelela ukuba bahambile ukuze babone ukuba uyasabela na.
6. Babonakala benomona.
Nangona bezama ukuphanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngobomi bakho bokuthandana, akunakunceda uqaphele iimpawu ezixeliweyo zomona.
Unokwazi ukuba abonwabanga ngokwenyani ukuba uyaqhubeka kwaye uzama ukucinezela inimba yomona.
Ukuba bakubona uthetha nomnye umfana okanye intombazana, kubonakala ngathi bayacaphuka okanye bacaphuke.
7. Bayayiqonda indima yabo kokungahambi kakuhle.
Ukuba bayavuma kuwe ukuba banokuziqonda izinto abazenzileyo ezingalunganga ezikhokelele ekubeni ubudlelwane buphele, oko kunokuba kungenxa yokuba abafuni ukuba nezinto zibaxekile phakathi kwakho.
Kungenzeka kuba abafuni nayiphi na imvakalelo enzima phakathi kwakho, kodwa kunokuthetha ukuba baneliso elinye kwikamva apho bobabini babuyelana khona.
Bayazi ukuba ukuze yenzeke loo nto, nobabini kufuneka nibe noxolo.
8. Basenazo izinto kwelakho.
Ukuba abakaze bajikeleze ukuza kuchola iskipa kunye nencwadi, inokuba bafuna isizatho sokugcina umsonto wonxibelelwano phakathi kwakho.
Bafuna isingxengxezo ukuze bakwazi ukunxibelelana nawe, kwaye abafuni ukuzoba umgca oqinileyo phantsi kobudlelwane.
9. Ziyachukumiseka.
Xa ubabona, abazami ukuba phezu kwakho, kodwa basafumana iindlela ezichuliweyo zokwenza ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, njengokubrasha isandla sakho nxamnye nesakho.
Ukuba babengenamdla, bayakuqinisekisa ukuba bayayenza icace loo nto ngokuqinisekisa ukuba akukho kunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni phakathi kwakho konke konke.
10. Basela umnxeba.
Ngelixa bekwazi ukulawula intshukumisa yabo yokunxibelelana nawe xa besezingqondweni, badla ngokuqhagamshelana xa sele besele iziselo ezimbalwa kwaye besiva isibindi.
Ngaba uyafuna ukubuyela nge-Ex yakho?
Ngoku ukuba unoluvo olungcono malunga nokuba i-ex yakho ifuna ukuba ubuye, lixesha lokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ingaba yinto oyifunayo ngokwenene entliziyweni yakho.
Nantsi eminye imibuzo onokufuna ukuzibuza yona:
1. Kutheni nahlukana kwasekuqaleni?
Cingisisa ngononophelo ngezizathu zokuba niqhawule nobabini kwaye ninyaniseke kwiziqu zenu malunga nokuba ingaba ubudlelwane benu bunokuma ithuba ukuba beninokuzama kwakhona.
Ezinye izinto zingaphaya kokugcinwa. Ukuba bakukhohlisile okanye bazama ukukulawula, umzekelo, ngekhe uphinde ube nakho ukuziva uluthando lokwenene ngabo kwakhona.
Kodwa ukuba nobabini nivele nahlukana kuba khange nichithe xesha laneleyo kunye, oku kunokuba yinto onokuyilungisa.
2. Uyakonwabela ukungatshati?
Xa ubudlelwane buphela, ukungatshati kwakhona Ingothusa kakhulu le nkqubo.
Ngamanye amaxesha inokuba sisityhilelo njengoko ukonwabela inkululeko esiyinikayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, uyayiqonda indlela othanda ngayo ukuba yinxalenye yesibini.
Ukuba yeyangaphambili, unokufuna ukubuza ukuba ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho kuya kuthintela inkululeko yakho efumanekileyo.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, kubalulekile ukuba ubuze ukuba ucinga ngokuzama kwakhona ngenxa yokuba unesizungu, hayi kuba unokholo olukhulu lokuba ubudlelwane buza kusebenza ngeli xesha.
3. Ungafuna njani ukuba ubudlelwane bohluke ngeli xesha?
Into yayingalunganga ngaphambili, kungenjalo ngekhe uchithe.
Ke, ukuba ucinga ngokuvuselela ulwalamano kwakhona, kuya kufuneka ucace kwindlela izinto ekuza kufuneka zitshintshe ukuze usebenze.
ukuthandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye
Emva koko, kuya kufuneka unyaniseke ngokumasikizi kwaye ujonge ukuba ngaba olo tshintsho luyinyani. Ukuba azikho, ngaba izinto ziya kuvela nangaliphi na ixesha lesibini elahlukileyo?
4. Ingaba kudlule ixesha elaneleyo?
Kungcono uvumele uthuli luzinze emva koqhawulo-mtshato ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngokuvuselela uthando.
Iimvakalelo zithatha ixesha ukudamba. Kuphela kuxa bekwenza apho unokujonga imeko ngokufanelekileyo.
Kwaye abantu abatshintshi ngobusuku obunye. Ukuba ubuya kubuya kunye ne-ex yakho ukuba batshintshe ngandlela thile, awukwazi ukulindela ukuba oku kwenzeke kwiiveki okanye kwiinyanga ezimbalwa.
Utshintsho lwangempela lungathatha ixesha elide kunelo. Kodwa akunakwenzeka. Ukwahlukana kunokuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubo (nawe) ukuba baqwalasele indlela ophila ngayo kunye nendlela oziphatha ngayo njengeqabane.
5. Ngaba ungonwaba nomnye umntu?
Nokuba awukabuyeli kwindawo yokuthandana okwangoku, kusengqiqweni ukuqaphela ukuba ungamfumana ngokwenene umntu ofanelekileyo kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqheleka kwi-ex yakho kukhululekile, kodwa kwanele?
Esi sisizathu esihle sokuba kutheni kufuneka ulinde ithutyana ngaphambi kokwenza nasiphi na isigqibo. Kungaba yinto engenakwenzeka ukuzicingela kunye nomnye umntu ngelixa ukwenzakala okanye ukwahlukana kwakho kusesemtsha.
Kodwa njengokuba iintlungu ziba lula, unokubona amathuba amatsha okonwaba nabanye abantu.
6. Ngaba ufuna izinto ezifanayo kwixesha elide?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ungonwaba ukubuyela kwi-ex yakho, kodwa ixesha elingakanani?
Ngaba uyazi ukuba iinjongo zabo zexesha elide zikubudlelwane? Ngaba ziyafana nezakho?
Nokuba le nto ayidlalanga nakuphi na ukwahlukana, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba umbono wakho ngekamva ufana nowabo.
Oku kunokuthetha izinto ezinje ngokuba uyafuna abantwana, kwaye kungekudala, kwaye ufuna ukuhlala phi, kwaye luhlobo luni lwendlela oyifunayo.
Khumbula, nokuba i-ex yakho ifuna ukuba ubuye, kufanele ukuba ibe yinto oyifunayo nawe. Sukushukunyiswa ngumdla wabo ohlaziyiweyo ukuba awuziva unjalo okanye ukuba awukwazi ukubona izinto zisebenza ngeli xesha.
Njengokuba inokubabazeka nje ukuba ibe yinto yothando lomntu kwakhona, gcina inqanaba lentloko kwaye wenze isigqibo sakho ngokusekwe kwingcinga enzulu kunye nokuqwalaselwa.
Kwaye sukungxamela kuyo nantoni na!
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