Unokuziva ngathi ukuthandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye yinkcitha xesha.
Oko akunakuba kude nenyaniso!
Siphila kuluntu olujolise ekubonakaleni esinokulibala ngokulula ngalo Ixabiso elilele ngaphaya kwembonakalo yomntu.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba wazi umntu ongekhe utsaleke kuye kwangoko, kwaye ayizizo zonke malunga nokufumana iqabane lakho elifanelekileyo.
Thatha ixesha lokwazi umntu okwinqanaba elinzulu kwaye ubone apho izinto ziya khona…
1. Unokwazi ukuqhubeka.
Usenokungafumani mhle ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa ungonwabele ukubazi.
Ukuba unemilinganiselo efanayo kwaye unomdla kwizinto ezifanayo, uya kukunandipha inkampani yabo kakhulu kunokuhlala nje ujonge emntwini kwaye ucinge ngendlela enomtsalane ngayo!
Usenokufumanisa ukuba unokuninzi okufanayo ngokubeka nje iinzame zokuncokola nomntu kunokuba ukungxama kunye nokuncamathela komnye umntu ngenxa yendlela ajongeka ngayo.
Ukuba ukhe wadibana okanye wadibana nabo, kukho ngokucacileyo into ekutsalayo kubo - mhlawumbi iprofayile yabo yeTinder ikhankanya uthando lwee-ceramics, into oyifunayo kwiqabane.
Gxila kubuntu babo nakwinto oyithandayo ngabo, hayi indlela abajongeka ngayo, kwaye uza kuqhubeka kakuhle.
2. Inkangeleko ayisiyiyo yonke into.
Siphila kwilizwe elibonakalayo kangangokuba siyabanjwa ukuba abantu bajongeka njani.
Sichitha ixesha lethu elininzi sitshintshela kwii -apps zokwenza amadinga, sisenza izigqibo ngokungxama ngokujonga ukubonakala kwabantu, ukuskrolela kwi-Instagram esenza uthelekiso olungapheliyo, kwaye songeza iifilitha kwiifoto zethu ukuze sizenze zibukeke 'zingcono.
Kunzima ukukhumbula ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ngokwenene kukho okungakumbi kunomdla kunokuba indlela umntu akhangeleka ngayo!
Okukhona uvulekileyo ngokwazi umntu othile, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ufumane i yinyani Unxibelelwano kunye nomntu olunge ngakumbi kumdlalo wexesha elide.
Umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ulungile, kodwa unokuphuma ngokukhawuleza xa usazana kwinqanaba elinzulu kwaye ufumanise ukuba akukho nto apho.
imiqondiso ufuna ukulala nawe kuphela
Awukho nzulu ngokufuna ukuba kunye nomntu onomdla ngokwenene, kodwa, ukuba ufuna ukuthandana nomntu ixesha elide, yiya kunxibelelwano olunzulu kwaye wazi umntu nokuba awumfumani enomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ungamangaliswa…
3. Unokuba ngaphezulu ngokwakho.
Xa sifumana umntu onomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, siye sizikhathaze ngakumbi.
Thelekisa wena kumhla nomntu oshushu ngokwenene kuwe ukuxhoma nabahlobo. Mhlawumbi ujolise kakhulu kwindlela ohlangana ngayo xa uthanda umntu, kuba ufuna ukuba bathande nawe!
Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa kunokuthetha ukuba awukhululekanga ngokuba nguwe kwaye unokubonisa uhlobo olwahlukileyo lwakho okanye uhambisane nento ocinga ukuba bafuna ukuba uyiyo kuba unomdla wokubachukumisa.
Ngokuthandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye, kungenzeka ukuba uzive uxinzelelo oluncinci ukuba 'usebenze' kwaye unokuba ngokwakho kwaye ubande.
Esi sisitshixo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olusempilweni, oluhlala luhleli - kuya kuthetha ukuba naluphi na unxibelelwano phakathi kwakho nobabini luyinyani, kwaye aluyiyo inguqulelo engeyiyo yakho
Uxinzelelo oluncinci luhlala lulungile nalo! Inokukunceda ukoyisa nakuphi na ukuxhalaba kokuthandana usenokuba unayo.
4. Kukuvumela ukuba ubazi.
Xa sitsaleleke ngokwenene kwindlela umntu akhangeleka ngayo, sinokungabuhoyi obona buntu bakhe.
Siyaphazamiseka kukuba sifuna ukubanga kangakanani, umzekelo, kwaye musa ukuhlawula ngokwaneleyo oko bakuthethayo okanye iimpawu zobuntu abazibonisayo.
Sikwanethuba lokungxamela kwinto ebonakalayo ukuba sitsala umntu, enokuthi ikhawulezise yonke into- ngamanye amaxesha kakhulu!
Ukuba uthatha ixesha lokwazi umntu ongamtsalangayo ngokwasemzimbeni, uya kuba uthetha kakhulu, ube neencoko ezinzulu, kwaye wazi ukuba bangobani emva kweembonakalo zabo.
5. Uhlobo lwakho oluqhelekileyo alusebenzi nokuba kunjalo.
Ke, ngekhe ucinge kwangoko ukuba zishushu kakhulu, kodwa, kuyinyani, mangaphi amaxesha aphele kakuhle?
Uninzi lwethu lunohlobo, kodwa, ukuba siyazinyaniseka, uhlobo lwethu akusoloko okunene ilungile kuthi.
Usenokuhlala ukhangela 'inkwenkwe embi' emva koko wenzakaliswe ngabo kuba ngokwenene 'babi.'
Mhlawumbi uhlobo lwakho oluqhelekileyo yintombazana yasendle ethanda ubusuku ngaphandle, kwaye uhlala udiniwe uzama ukuqhubeka ngenxa yokuba uthanda ubusuku bokuqala!
Kufanelekile ukudibana nabanye abantu kwaye ubone indlela eyahlukileyo ubudlelwane obunokuba ngayo ukuba uyeka ukuya kuhlobo lwakho lwesiqhelo kwaye uphume kancinci.
6. Awunanto ilahlekileyo.
Le nto iyazichaza kakuhle - usengozini yokuchitha ingokuhlwa nomntu ongahambi kakuhle.
Kwaye imihla emibi kakhulu inqabile - kuya kuba mnandi ngandlela-thile.
Ukuba akukho nto yimbi, libali onokulabelana nabahlobo bakho!
Ngethuba nje ungaxoki okanye ukhokele omnye umntu, unokuhlala kunye nabo kwaye ubazi ngakumbi. Unokumangaliswa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto!
7. Uya kufunda into ngawe.
Ngokuchitha ixesha nomntu ongekhe uqhele ukuhlala naye, uya kunyanzelwa ukuba ube neencoko ezintsha kwaye ucinge ngezinto ezahlukeneyo.
Uyakube uncokola ngezinto obungenakuxoxa ngazo kunye neqela lakho lobuhlobo.
Mhlawumbi uya kuziva ungonwabanga kangako kunesiqhelo kwaye ungavuleleka ngakumbi ngezinto ozithandayo onokuthi ngesiqhelo uzame ukuzifihla ukusuka kumhla ofuna ukuwubonisa!
Unokuziva u-'dydy kakhulu 'uthetha ngothando lwakho lwemidlalo yebhodi ngomhla wokuqala, kodwa, ukuba ujinga nomntu ukuba awunamdla wakukubonisa , unokuziva ukhululekile ukuvula malunga nezinto oqhele ukuzigcina kuwe.
Unokufunda ngakumbi ngawe kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo xa unethuba lokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo kwaye uphonononge izifundo ezahlukeneyo.
8. Umtsalane unokukhula.
Ezinye izinto zithatha ixesha ukuphuhlisa, ke musa ukuziva uphoxekile ukuba akukho ziqhushumbisi ngomhla wokuqala.
Banokuba novalo kwaye bangazithembi kunesiqhelo, ke kufanelekile ukubanika ithuba lesibini kwaye ubone ukuba omnye umhla uhamba njani.
Unokugqibela ngokufumana ubuntu babo obunomtsalane kangangokuba Umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni utyatyamba ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ukuba uyakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha nabo, bayakuhleka, kwaye uzive wonwabile xa ukunye nabo, kufanelekile ukubamba umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ukuba ukhule, njengoko olo hlobo lonxibelelwano lunqabile kwezi ntsuku.
9. Unokwenza umhlobo omtsha.
Unokufumana ukwazi umhla wakho ngakumbi kwaye uqaphele ukuba umtsalane awuzukwenzeka.
Oku kulungile ngokupheleleyo kwaye akufuneki uve naluphi na uxinzelelo lokuyinyanzela! Kuhle ukuba uvule ingqondo, kodwa kulungile ukuba ubize nje usuku kwaye uvume ukuba ngabahlobo.
Njengoko besitshilo, uthathe isigqibo sokuya kumhla okanye uthethe nalo mntu ngesizathu (njengenzala efanayo), kwaye eso sisizathu esihle sokuba ngabahlobo.
Ngethuba nje nobabini ninyanisekile malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kwaye awubotshanga omnye umntu kunye, sisiphumo esihle sokuza nomhlobo omtsha.
10. Uthando alukho nje ngokwasemzimbeni.
Khumbula ukuba uthando alukho nje ngokufuna ukulala nomntu - yinkanuko leyo!
Kulula ukudideka yindlela iimvakalelo zakho ekufuneka… zive.
Khumbula ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu oza kukunika iziqhushumbisi kwaye akwenze ufune ukutsiba kuzo, kwaye kulungile.
Unokuba nolwalamano olusempilweni ngokwenene nabantu onomdla kubo, nokuba imbonakalo yabo ayihambelani ncam noko ubucinga ukuba iqabane lakho lamaphupha liya kuba lilo.
11. Kukunceda ufumane into ongayifuni.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ufumane into engasebenziyo kuwe ukuze uqonde eyona nto uyifunayo.
Ukuba awunamdla emntwini kwaye ayipheli kubudlelwane, usenokuphuma kuyo unolwazi olungakumbi ngento esebenzayo kuwe kwaye loluphi uhlobo lweqabane olikhangelayo.
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Ukuthandana nomntu ongatshatanga kuye kunokuba yindlela entle yokufunda ngakumbi ngawe. Kwaye ikunika ithuba lokwazi abantu onokuthi ungabahoyi ngesiqhelo.
Uya kuba nexesha elimnandi, nokuba yiplatonic kwaye ayiyi ndawo yothando.
Ukuba uphuma kule nto kunye nomhlobo, usazuze okuthile kwaye unokujonga ngasemva ngothando.
Ukuba uyamangaliswa kwaye uphele ukuwa kubo? Kanangcono.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngomtsalane wakho (okanye ukusilela kwawo) komnye umntu? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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