Uninzi lwethu lukhupha nayiphi na imihla enokubakho engakhange ibangele umdla womzimba kwangoko.
Sivakalelwa kukuba sichitha ixesha lethu ngokutyala imali kumntu esingatsaleleki kuye.
Kodwa, ngokwenza njalo, siyabajonga abanye abantu abamangalisayo abanokuba yimidlalo emihle kuthi.
Kunzima ukucinga ukuba singaze sithande umntu esingamfumani ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa inokwenzeka!
Amagama okuncoma umfana ngenkangeleko yakhe
Okukhona usazi umntu othile, kokukhona liya linyuka ithuba lokuba utsaleleke kuye ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ukutshisa kancinci kunokuba yindlela ezinzileyo xa kufikwa kwimpumelelo, ubudlelwane obunempilo, ke kufanelekile ukuba uqwalasele loo mhla ungakhange uwufumane kwangoko umtsalane.
Ke, impendulo yombuzo, “Ungakhula umtsalane?” nguEWE oqinisekileyo!
Makhe sihlolisise oku ngakumbi kwaye sijonge indlela onokuthi utsale ngayo umntu.
1. Yiba nengqondo ephangaleleyo.
Ukuba ungena kwinto enesimo sengqondo esingalunganga, okanye sele uthatha okona kubi kakhulu, awunikezi izinto ithuba elifanelekileyo.
Banike ithuba lokuba bazibonise okona kulungileyo, kwaye bavuleke ukuze ubazi.
Okukhona unokuphola kwaye wonwabele ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo, kokukhona uya kubazi kwinqanaba elisezantsi - kwaye kokukhona uya kutsala umdla kubo, nokuba awenzi njalo ekuqaleni zifumane zinomtsalane.
Okukhona uvulekileyo kokukhona ukhululeka ngakumbi bazaku Yiba, kwaye baya kubayeka oonogada babo bakubonise indlela abalunge ngayo.
Khumbula ukuba, ngenxa yokuba ungazithandi ngokukhawuleza, banokuba nomdla wokwazi ngakumbi kwaye banokukuthanda ngokwenene.
Baza kuhlala befuna ukukuchukumisa kwaye bafuna ukukwazi, ke kuya kufuneka ubanike ithuba.
2. Cinga ngendlela abaziva ngayo.
Usenokungaziva u-fireworks, kodwa unokuziva-uxhaswe, uzithembile, unomdla, ulonwabo.
Yonke i izinto ezintle!
Usenokungabi ngaphezulu kumntu obonakala elumkile, kodwa umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ungakhula ngokusekwe kwiimpendulo zeemvakalelo esinazo xa sikunye nomntu.
Unokutsala ngokwasemzimbeni emntwini ngenxa yendlela abakuphatha ngayo, indlela abaziva ngayo, kunye nexesha elimnandi onalo xa ukunye nabo.
Isenokungabi ngephanyazo, kodwa iya kuphuhla ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye ungakhawulezisa ngoku kugxila kwindlela ezikwenza uzive ngayo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kubudlelwane yindlela omnye umntu akwenze uzive ngayo, kwaye kufuneka ibe yinto ezinzileyo ukuze ubale.
Nabani na onokukwenza uzive u-sexy ubusuku bonke! Injalo nje, kodwa ayisiyonto ofuna ukuchitha ubusuku bangoMgqibelo nayo- yeyokuba ufuna ukuchitha imini yonke ngeCawa…
Cwangcisa indawo.
Ukuba awunamtsalane emzimbeni womntu, kulula ukubambeka kolo luvo kwaye uqalise ukubona yonke into ngale lens.
Ukuba ufuna ukutsala umntu, ungazama ukutshintsha izinto kancinci! Yiya kwimihla kuseto oluqhelekileyo lothando ukubona ukuba ngaba oko kuyonwabisa na.
Ukuba ubonile omnye umntu kuphela ukuhamba okungaqhelekanga emini, akumangalisi ukuba umtsalane awunalo ithuba lokutsha.
Unokuziva uhluke ngokupheleleyo xa ukwi-bar yekhandlela lekhandlela, okanye uphume kwisidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi.
Misela indawo, ubonakalise umhla omkhulu, kwaye uhambe uvulekile.
Phuma kwingqondo onayo malunga neemvakalelo zakho ngalo mntu kwaye ungene kwimood yothando.
4. Cinga ngento ezinzileyo.
Kukangaphi izinto zisebenza ngokunyanisekileyo- sempilweni! - nomntu omfumanise ehlekisa ngokwasemzimbeni?
Sinokubanjiswa ngokwenene kukuthanda ukubukeka komntu okanye isitayile kwaye singahoyi imiba enzulu eya kuthintela izinto ukuba zisebenze ixesha elide.
Ukuba uxakeke kakhulu kukucinga ngendlela ezishushu ngayo, ngekhe ufune ukujongana nemicimbi yokuzibophelela kwabo, okanye inyani yokuba awunanto ifanayo!
Ngokuzivumela utsaleke emntwini ngokuhamba kwexesha, uzinika ithuba lokuba ubazi kwaye uqonde ukuba uhambelana kangakanani.
Cinga malunga nokuba liqabane elikhulu kangakanani eliya kuba lixesha elide kunye nokuba liya kuba lilondolozo kangakanani kubo.
ungazi njani ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile
Banokukwenza uzive umkhulu ngeendlela ezinyanisekileyo kwaye unokubona uqhubeka kude kube kwixesha elizayo.
Abantu obafunayo banokuba nje lixesha elifutshane, kwaye ke abahambelani kangako kwaye banomtsalane ixesha elide.
5. Ukubophelela ngaphezulu komdla omnye.
Ukuba awunamtsalane emzimbeni womntu, yenza umgudu wokugxila kubungakanani enifana ngabo.
Ngokujonga ngakumbi ukuhambelana kwakho, unokutsala umntu emveni kwexesha.
Mhlawumbi iindlela zakho zokuphila zihambelana nje kakuhle kuba nobabini niyakuthanda ukusebenza, okanye nobabini nibe nobusuku obuzolileyo ninencwadi.
Olu hlobo lwento lusenokungabi mnandi njengokwabelana ngesondo nomntu onomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa yile nto eyenza ubudlelwane obunempumelelo, obunempilo.
Ukuba nobabini niyafanelana ebomini bomnye nomnye , ungena kwinto elungileyo.
Umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ngamanye amaxesha unokukhawuleza uphume ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ukungqinelana kwakhiwe kwindlela onokubugcina ngayo ubomi benu kunye kwaye nobabini nonwabe, ngaphandle kokwenza ukuncama okukhulu.
6. Cinga ngexesha lakho elidlulileyo.
Mhlawumbi ukhona Ukonakalisa ubudlelwane obunokubakho ngokuzixelela ukuba awumthandi umntu othandana naye.
Usenokuba uzama ukuxelela ingqondo yakho ukuba ‘bangabahlobo nje’ ukuze thintela ukwenzakala kwakhona.
Ukuba awuzivumeli utsaleleke emntwini, awusoze wakhatywa nyani ngabo, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Cinga ngamava akho angaphambili ngokuthandana kunye nobudlelwane, kwaye ucinge ngendlela abanokukubamba ngayo ngoku.
Unokuba madolw 'anzima ukuzivumela ukuba uwele emntwini, kodwa zama ukukhumbula ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu ofanayo!
Ngenxa yokuba umntu omnye ekwenzakalisile, oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uya kwenza njalo. Unokuvuleleka ekuthandeni nangona uyoyika, kwaye, ukuba ngabantu abalungileyo, kuya kuhlawula ngenene.
7. Cinga ngokhuphiswano.
Ngesiqhele ukucebisa ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho kwabanye, kodwa kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kolu hlobo lwemeko.
Ukuba uthandana nomntu ongatshatanga naye, kuyacaca ukuba ikhona enye into onomdla kuyo.
Oko kunokuba yinto yokuba banomdla ofanayo ongacacanga kumculo njengawe, okanye inyani yokuba kuphela komntu okhe wakunye naye okwenze uzive uzithembile kwaye unemincili!
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokufumana omnye umntu onqwenela ngakumbi ukujonga, kodwa… Ngaba ufuna ukubeka emngciphekweni wokuyeka ukunxibelelana okunzulu, nokwenyani nomntu?
ndenza ntoni xa ndimbi
Njengoko ixesha liqhubeka, ngokuqinisekileyo unokutsala ngakumbi emntwini. Kodwa ngekhe ubutshintshe ubuntu bomntu oshushu kunye nezinto anomdla kuzo!
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Uninzi lwethu lucinga ngamaqabane ethu ephupha kwaye sicinga ngokuwathanda kakhulu!
Ayisoloko ikhawuleza, nangona kunjalo, kwaye kufuneka siqiniseke ukuba sigcina izinto esizilindeleyo ziyinyani.
Unokukhula ufumane umntu onomtsalane, ke kubalulekile ukuba uqale ngesiseko esomeleleyo esakhelwe kubuntu, ukuthanda izinto kunye neendlela ezifanayo zokuphila.
Logama nje unento eqinileyo oza kusebenza kuyo, umtsalane unokukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye ungaphelela ekuthandeni umntu ongazange umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni ekuqaleni.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ukuze utsale ngakumbi umntu othile? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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