Ke nitshatile ithutyana kwaye nindawonye nangaphezulu, kwaye unexhala lokuba awusaziva 'neqabane lakho kwakhona.
Awuzizo izinto eziqaqambileyo ezisencinci owawukade unazo. Mhlawumbi ukuba nabantwana kuthabathe umthwalo emzimbeni wakho kwaye wakunika iingxowa phantsi kwamehlo akho. Okanye mhlawumbi nichithe ixesha elininzi kunye kangangokuba anitsaleleki kumyeni okanye kwinkosikazi yakho ngendlela efanayo kwakhona.
Asiyi kuphinda sibe namandla, iitoni, kunye nobuso obuqaqambileyo njengoko sasinjalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bethu. Izinto zinokuqala ukuziva zithandeka njengoko amanyathelo afezekileyo kwaye eshiye ngasemva, kwaye uyazibuza ukuba yintoni elandelayo.
Ukubuza ukuba usaziva ngendlela efanayo malunga neqabane lakho ayingonobangela wenkxalabo. Kukulungele ukuqhubeka nokuvavanya ubudlelwane bakho njengoko ixesha lihamba, ukukhangela kwaye ubone ukuba niyonwabile nobabini okanye ukuba kukho into efuna umsebenzi omncinci.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni ungaziva utsalelekile kwiqabane lakho ngalo mzuzu, okokugqibela kukuba anisakulungelani.
Funda ukuze ubone ukuba kukho nasiphi na isandi esingezantsi esiqhelekileyo kwaye ufumane iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana umtsalane kwakhona.
1. Bala ukuba zaqala nini ezi mvakalelo.
Ngaba umtsalane wakho kwiqabane lakho uye wehla kutshanje okanye ubusoloko uziva ngokwahlukileyo okwethutyana?
Ukusebenza xa uqala ukuziva ngokwahlukileyo malunga neqabane lakho kunokuba yinto ephambili ekubuyiseni izinto kumkhondo.
Xa ujonga ngasemva, unokukwazi ukukhomba umcimbi othile obangele ukuba ucime kwiqabane lakho. Isenokuba yingxabano okanye into abayenzileyo okanye abayithethileyo. Ukuba ayisombululeki, inokuba inobunzima engqondweni yakho kwaye ikwenze ubeke umqobo phakathi kwakho nabo.
Ukuba nethuba lokuthetha ngale nto kunye nabo kwaye ufumane ukuvalwa okuthile kwesihloko kunokuba yindlela yokuzinzisa unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye nomzimba phakathi kwakho.
Ukuba utshintsho kwindlela oziva ngayo luthe chu, kuya kufuneka ukuba uvavanye ukuba ikhona enye into etshintshileyo phakathi kwenu nobabini. Ngamanye amaxesha izibini zihlala zikhula zodwa. Siyakhula ngaphandle komnye kwaye siyaqonda ukuba sifuna into eyahlukileyo ebomini bethu.
Umbuzo onokuzibuza wona ngulo: ingaba ndibeke iinzame ezaneleyo kulo mtshato?
Ubudlelwane budinga ingqalelo ukubathintela ekuphumeni. Awunakulindela ukuba buyisela intlantsi kwaye uzive utsalelekile ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni kwiqabane lakho ukuba khange ubeke mzamo ekukufumaneni.
Iindonga zejeriko wwe
Ukuba ungatsho ukuba ubeke umzamo, kodwa awukangeni kuwo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ibe lixesha lokuvuma ukuba iqabane lakho alisakuniki into oyifunayo kubudlelwane.
2. Jonga indlela oziva ngayo ngesiqu sakho.
Xa siziva sinezinto ezimbi ngathi kwaye ngakumbi imizimba yethu, oku kunganaki kunokuchaphazela ezinye iindawo zobomi bethu.
Xa siziva sigxeka kuthi, siqala ukwenza ezi zigxeko kwabo basondele kuthi.
Ukuba unzima ndiziva ndinomdla kwaye ndithandeka ngaphakathi kolusu lwakho, oku kunokubangela ukuba ubeke iindlela zokuzikhusela ngokuchasene nokuba semzimbeni kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba awusaziva utsala umdla kubo.
Thatha ixesha lokuvuma ukuba uziva ungonwabanga malunga nawe kunye nokubandezeleka kukuzithemba.
Imizimba yethu iyatshintsha ngenani elipheleleyo lezizathu ezifana nokuba nabantwana, ukwenzakala, okanye ukuba mdala nje, kwaye kubalulekile ukufumana ukwamkelwa nokuzithemba kwindlela oziva ngayo kunokuba uhlale uzigweba ngendlela ojonga ngayo.
Ukufumana ukuthanda kwakho sisitshixo solonwabo kuwe kunye nobudlelwane. Xa siziva simnandi ngeziqu zethu, oku kukhazimla kweeprojekthi kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bethu nakubantu abakubo.
Utshintsho kwisimo sakho sengqondo inokuba yiyo yonke into oyifunayo ukuze uphinde ucime loo chemistry uyilahlekileyo emtshatweni wakho.
Cela umngeni kulindelo lwakho.
Sonke siyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Umntu onaye ngoku ayinguye umntu owadibana naye ukuqala kwakho ukuthandana.
Akufanele ulindele ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho libukeke okanye nokuba unjani kwiminyaka engaphambili. Usenokungabi nawo amabhabhathane kunye nemincili xa niqala ukudibana, kodwa ninokuqonda okungakumbi kwaye nabelana ngamava abaluleke nangakumbi.
Ukuba into oyifunayo liqabane elinetoni, elinebala elinolusu olunomtsalane kunye nomtsalane onomnqweno wokuhlangana kwakho okokuqala, ngaba uyalindeleka kulindelo lweqabane lakho kunye nohlobo lomntu olulungele wena ngoku?
Xa uzibophelela emntwini, awuzibopheleli kuye de umbimbi wokuqala uzibophezele kubani anguye ngaphakathi. Ubuhle lulusu olunzulu kuphela kufanele ukuba kubenakho okungakumbi okujongwa kwiqabane kunokubonakala nje.
Cinga malunga nokuba yintoni na obeka phambili kuyo kwiqabane kwaye ucinge ukuba ingaba izinto ozilindeleyo zingaphezulu na kunaye nabani na onokuphila ngazo.
4. Phinda wenze umzamo omnye komnye.
Xa ukhe wanobudlelwane ixesha elide, ukwenza iinzame zokujonga okuhle komnye nomnye kunokuyeka ukubekwa phambili. Niphantse nikhululeke xa ninonke kwaye niyeke ukwenza umzamo ofanayo kwimbonakalo yenu njengoko nenza xa nanikunye kunye.
Nangona kukuhle ukufikelela kwindawo apho ukhululeke khona xa ujikeleze omnye nomnye, xa uyeka ukukhathalela inkangeleko yakho, uyeka ukubonana ngokusemandleni akho.
Ungaqala ukubuza ukuba ngaba usatsala ngokwasemzimbeni umyeni wakho okanye umfazi wakho xa ungasakukhumbuli ukugqibela kwabo ukubabona benxiba.
Xa siqala ukuthandana nomntu omtsha, senza umzamo wokunxiba ukuze sibonakalise. Akukho nto ikunqandayo ekubekeni ubusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla, nokuba uhlala ixesha elingakanani kunye, kwaye wenza umsitho ngaphandle kwawo.
Vumelana nokunxiba, yenza iinwele zakho kwaye ukhazimle kancinane. Ayikukhuthazi nje ukuba nobabini nichithe ixesha elininzi kunye, kodwa ukubona iqabane lakho lijongeka lilungile kunokuba sisikhumbuzo esifunekayo kuzo zonke izinto enizithandayo ngazo kwaye niphinde nizimisele phakathi kwenu.
5. Zama umsebenzi omtsha omtsha kunye.
Ukuzama into entsha kunye kunokutshintsha izinto kuni nobabini ngokukugxotha ngaphandle kwemimandla yakho yokuthuthuzela.
Ukwenza into entsha kuni nobabini nikubeka kwinqanaba lokudlala, apho niyakudinga inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo omnye komnye ukuze uphumelele.
Uyakwazi ukwabelana ngamava kwaye wenze iinkumbulo ezintsha njengoko nobabini nihamba ngomsebenzi omnandi kunye.
Njengoko ubona iqabane lakho lizama into entsha kwaye likukhuthaza njengoko uzama, unokuzifumana uziva inqanaba elitsha loxabiso kunye nomtsalane kubo.
Uya kuqala ukudibanisa njengeqela kwakhona, nibe nethuba lokuchukumisana xa nichitha ixesha elisemgangathweni njengesibini, kwaye niqale ukukhumbula zonke iimpawu ezinomtsalane kubo enithandane nazo.
6. Musa ukugxeka ngabo.
Ukuba ukuphulukana nokutsala ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni kwiqabane lakho ngumcimbi wokwenyani nowokwenyani kuwe emtshatweni wakho, kodwa usafuna ukuzama ukwenza izinto zisebenze, ukuthetha nabo ngezi ngcinga yinto elungileyo yokwenza.
Iimpawu umfana wam akasandithandi
Ukuba nengxoxo evulekileyo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kubudlelwane bakho yinto ekufanele ukuba ikhuthazwe nakumtshato owonwabileyo njengoko ixesha lihamba, ukuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini niziva nonelisekile kwaye nixoxa ngento eniziva ukuba ifuna ingqwalaselo.
Ukuxoxa ngesihloko esinovakalelo njengokulahleka komtsalane kwiqabane lakho kufuneka uphathwe ngononophelo. I-Egos inokutyumka ngokulula kunye neemvakalelo zibuhlungu, ke cinga ngendlela oziva ngayo, yintoni oyifunayo, kwaye uzifake kwizicathulo zeqabane lakho.
Zama ukunqanda ukubagxeka kwaye uze neengcinga ezithile onokuzama ukuziphindisela ukuze ubuyisele umva, kunokuba ubeke lonke uxinzelelo kubo ukuba batshintshe.
Yenza kucace ukuba le yinto ofuna ukusebenza kunye kwaye uzimisele ukwenza utshintsho ngokwakho.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokucinga ngento oza kuyithetha kwiqabane lakho kuya kukunceda ukuba ucinge ngokucacileyo malunga nokulindelweyo kubo. Izinto aziyi kulungiswa ngobusuku kwaye kukho kuphela umntu onokulindelwa ukuba atshintshe.
Yinyani malunga nezinto oziva ukuba ninokusebenzela kuzo zombini ukuphucula ikhemistri phakathi kwakho, kwaye uzimisele ukubeka ixesha kunye nomzamo kwicala lakho njengoko ulindele kubo.
7. Qala ngokubonisa uthando ngakumbi.
Ukuba awuva kwiqabane lakho, usenokuba uqalile ukuvala ngokwasemzimbeni kubo. Kunzima ukungena kwimood ukuba ucinyiwe ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukusondelelana.
Ukudibana ngokwasemzimbeni yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano. Yindlela oqinisekisa ngayo ubudlelwane bakho omnye komnye kwaye, kwinqanaba elisisiseko, lenza ukuba uzive ulungile.
Ukuthinta ngokwasemzimbeni kubangela ukukhutshwa kwehormones kwingqondo yakho ekwenza uzive wonwabile kwaye ungaphantsi koxinzelelo. Yindlela esithandana ngayo kwaye sibonisane ukuba sifuna ukusondela kwinqanaba lomzimba.
Ukuba bekukudala ngoko ubuthandana ngokwasemzimbeni, zama ukuyibuyisela kulwalamano lwakho kancinci kancinci.
Oku akuthethi kutsiba ebhedini kunye nabo, kodwa ukubabamba engalweni, ukubanga, okanye ukubanga kubo ngelixa ubukele imovie zonke iindlela ezilula zokuqalisa ukuchukumisana ngakumbi nokukhuthaza uthando.
Ukuba nomsa wenyama ngakumbi phakathi kwakho kunokuba kukunyusa okufunekayo ukukhumbuza omnye nomnye ukuba kunjani ukuxhumeka ngale ndlela.
Nje ukuba unxibelelwano ngokwasemzimbeni phakathi kwakho lukhule ngokunjalo nomtsalane kwiqabane lakho, kwaye uya kubona indawo esondeleyo yomtshato wakho iqala ukuchuma kwakhona.
8. Yiba nethemba ngeqabane lakho.
Ukuba unomdla kunye neqabane lakho kwaye ukhathazekile ukuba uyakhukuliseka, ukuchitha ixesha ucinga ngazo zonke izinto abazenzela zona kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba uzixabise kangakanani.
Unokuqonda ukuba kukho izinto ozithatha kancinci, uzilindele kwiqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba bezisenzela zona ixesha elide, kodwa uqonda ukuba azinyanzelekanga.
Inokukunceda ukuba ubone iqabane lakho ngokukhanya okutsha, uqonde ukuba akusoloko kumalunga nezimbo zothando ezinkulu kwaye ungaziva ulahlekile ngaphandle kwazo.
Isenokuba ngumnxeba wokuvuka kuwe ukuba uqaphele ukuba izinto ezikukhathazayo malunga nabo-mhlawumbi indlela abanxiba ngayo okanye inkangeleko yabo yomzimba-inxulumene nokuzincama abakwenzela wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Mhlawumbi bebejongeka bediniwe ngakumbi kuba batshintshe ishedyuli yabo yokuqhuba kwesikolo ukuze unganyanzelekanga, okanye abakhange bathenge iimpahla ezintsha okwethutyana kuba begcina loo holide ubuyifuna. ukuqhubeka.
Jonga ukuba ungalufumana uxabiso olutsha kuzo zonke izinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho kwaye ukuba kuyanceda ukuba uqaphele ukuba bakukhathalele kangakanani wena nawe.
Inokuvula amehlo akho ekucingeni nasekuzinikeleni kwakho kunye nobomi bakho kunye kwaye ibuyise umtsalane kubo kwinqanaba elinentsingiselo ebaluleke ngakumbi.
9. Xelelanani into eniyithandayo ngabo.
Ukuqheleka ukuthetha ngento eniyithandayo omnye nomnye kwaye niyenze umdlalo kuni nobabini niyenze kunye.
Zama ukudwelisa izinto ezi-3 zomzimba ozithandayo malunga neqabane lakho kwaye uzenze zenze okufanayo. Ungaqhubeka nokuthetha ngeenkumbulo ozithandayo okanye uphawu lweemvakalelo.
Ukwenza le ngxoxo ibe yincoko emnandi kuya kubabeka bobabini kwisimo esihle sengqondo kwaye kube ngumceli mngeni wokujongana ngamehlo amatsha.
Xa uceliwe ukuba udwelise izinto ozithandayo malunga neqabane lakho, ayisebenzi nje njengokuncoma iqabane lakho, kodwa lijolisa kuyo yonke into oyithandayo ngabo.
Ezinye iimpendulo zinokumangalisa okanye zikuhlekise, kodwa ukwabelana ngamava kunokukusondeza kunye kwaye kube sisikhumbuzo kuwe ngazo zonke iimpawu zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo ezenza iqabane lakho libe nomtsalane.
10. Zama into entsha kwigumbi lokulala.
Unokuba uziva ngathi ulahlekelwe yintlantsi kunye neqabane lakho kuba imisebenzi yakho kwigumbi lokulala iye yaqina.
I-chemistry yezesondo ibalulekile kubudlelwane kwaye ithatha umsebenzi kuni nobabini ukuyigcina intsha kwaye inomdla njengoko umtshato wenu uqhubeka.
Ukuba izinto ziye zathi cwaka kwigumbi lokulala okanye ubusokolisa ukungena kwimood okwethutyana ngoku, usenokuba nexhala lokuba lo ngumqondiso wokuba ubudlelwane bakho buza kusilela.
Endaweni yokuba nexhala lokuba uphulukene nomtsalane phakathi kwakho, thatha eli thuba njengethuba lokubeka ezinye iinzame kwiindlela zakho zokulala.
Ukugcina ubomi bakho bezesondo bunomdla entliziyweni yokugcina ukuthanda phakathi kwakho kuphila. Ungazivumeli ukuba ubanjiswe kwinto efanayo xa kukho ukhetho olupheleleyo lwezixhobo zokukukhokela, izikhundla zokuzama, iithoyi zokwazisa, kunye namava amatsha oza kwabelana ngawo ukuba uzimisele ukuxuba izinto.
Ukuziva ungonxibelelwano olungcono kwaye wanelisekile ngokusondeleyo kuyonyusa umtsalane wakho komnye nomnye kwaye kukuncede ugcine umtshato ophilileyo kwaye womelele.
Ukukhathala kobudlelwane kufana nokudinwa, uya ukhathala ngabantu abadala imihla ngemihla.
yafa yintoni chyna
Kangangokuba ungalithanda iqabane lakho, xa uyeka ukwabelana ngamava amatsha okanye umceli mngeni omnye komnye ukuba ube yeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kuni, uqala ukuma.
Ukungena emtshatweni kukuzibophelela kubudlelwane nomntu owaziyo ukuba uzakutshintsha ukusuka kubudala kunye namava ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye ubamkele ngokwazi oku. Ngaphandle kokuhamba kwexesha okanye ukutshintsha kwemizimba yethu bekungayi kubakho luvuyo usapho kunye nobomi obuzisayo kuthi.
Qhubeka uziphose kumava amatsha kunye kwaye ubone indlela ekutsala ngayo ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko uthanda iqabane lakho ngakumbi kumntu abangaphakathi kunangaphandle.
Abanye abantu banokukhula nje omnye komnye. Ukuhamba kwexesha kuthetha ukuba abasengabo abantu abanokunika uxhulumaniso ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo abafuna.
Kodwa ukuba usenalo uthando kwiqabane lakho entliziyweni yakho, unganikezeli ngabo! Ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, unokoyisa nawuphi na umqobo ebomini.
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