Ukuba umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungafunda kwaye ubhale, ubusele ufumene unyango olungaphantsi kunolo ulifunayo.
Ukhohlisiwe okanye waxokiswa.
Uye wema ngenyawo.
Unikwe izithembiso ezingazange zanikwa imbeko.
Oku kuye kwenzeka kuthi sonke.
Ezinye iintlobo zonyango sisiganeko esinye. Inkampani ethembise ukukufowunela malunga nodliwanondlebe ayizange yenze njalo. Kugqityiwe kwaye ngekhe baphinde babe nethuba lokuyenza kwakhona. Uyaqhubeka.
Ezinye iintlobo zonyango ziphindaphindeka. Zenzeka kuthi rhoqo. Amaxesha amaninzi unyango luvela kubantu abafanayo. Ngapha nangaphaya kwakhona.
Xa abantu besiphatha ngale ndlela, sinokwenza ntoni ngayo?
Ewe, masiqale sixoxe ngokukhawuleza…
Indlela yokungaphenduli xa siphethwe kakubi
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo esinokuzithatha ekuphatheni kakubi ngokuphindaphindiweyo okungasebenzi.
Nazi ezinye zazo.
- Singazikhuphela ngaphandle abanye ngento abasikhuphe kuyo.
- Singazama ukubenza bahlawule ngento abayenzileyo.
- Singathatha amanyathelo ukuze bazive iintlungu zokuphathwa gadalala kwethu.
- Singazama 'ukubanyusa'.
- Singasebenzisa ubundlongondlongo nje.
Ke kutheni le nto sinokuyenza?
Kakhulu kuba sicinga ukuba isimilo esinje sokuziphendulela siza kubafundisa isifundo.
Mhlawumbi sikholelwa ekubeni inokuguqula imeko yabo yokuziphatha kwixa elizayo. Kuya kuphelisa impatho-mbi kube kanye.
Ayifane yenzeke.
Ngapha koko, ayilungisi ngxaki kwaphela. Inokude yenze mandundu.
Abantu ngokubanzi abaphenduli kakuhle kwimpindezelo. Okanye 'ufundiswe isifundo.' Okanye ukungxoliswa ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo.
ungathetha ngantoni nomhlobo wakho
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakrakra okanye bacaphuke ngale nto uyenzileyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kucinga kancinci ngawe. Kwaye indlela abaziphethe ngayo ziya kulahleka kubo kuba baya kugxila ngakumbi indlela oziphethe ngayo .
Oku akunaziphumo. Ayinabubele. Kukhohlakele. Kwaye ayisebenzi kakuhle.
Kufuneka kubekho indlela ebhetele.
Nantsi lapho.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuba ngobabalo ubafundise into oyithandayo. Okanye into ongayithandiyo.
Ungabangxolisi, ungabangxolisi, ungabathobi isidima okanye ubagxeke.
Kodwa ukufundisa nje indlela engcono.
Kutheni le nto isebenza?
Sifundisa abantu indlela yokusiphatha ngendlela esiphendula ngayo kwindlela abasiphethe ngayo.
Impendulo yethu ingaqinisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwaye yonyuse namathuba okuphindwaphindwa…
… Okanye impendulo yethu inciphisa amathuba okuphindaphinda.
Xa kuziwa ebantwini, yintoni evuzwayo yinto eyenziwayo. Kwaye into eqiniswayo ithanda ukuphindwa.
Ewe ndiyazi ukuba oku kuvakala kungacacanga kwaye kungakhathali. Kodwa yindlela nje abantu abanentambo ngayo.
Kodwa iyavakala.
Kutheni le nto umntu enokuphinda aziphathe ngokunganiki zibonelelo okanye mbuyekezo?
Kutheni umntu eqhubeka esenza into engaboneleli ngeziphumo ezibonakalayo?
Impendulo emfutshane kukuba ngekhe. Ngaphandle kokuba abayifumananga.
Nangona kufanelekile ukuba ichazwe ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu oyifumanisayo. Kwaye nangona intle kakhulu kubume be-cliche, kuhlala kuyinyani ukuba umqondiso wobudenge wenza into enye amaxesha ngamaxesha ngelixa ulindele iziphumo ezahlukeneyo.
Abantu bathambekele ekufundeni kwinto abayibonayo
Ngaphandle kokukhetha okwahlukileyo, uninzi lwabantu lufunda koku bakubonayo.
Banomdla ngakumbi ekufundeni ukuba abantu babaphatha njani kwaye kuthetha ntoni kwikamva.
Yiyo loo nto isazi sefilosofi saseJamani senkulungwane ye-19, uFriedrich Nietzsche wathi,
Andikhathazeki ngokuba undixokisele, iyandikhathaza into yokuba ukusukela ngoku andinakukukholelwa.
Wawuqonda umthetho-siseko wokuba indlela abanye abasiphatha ngayo ihlala inefuthe kwindlela esibaphatha ngayo, kunye nendlela esidibana ngayo nabo.
wwe ukhenketho lweholide 2016 uluhlu
Abantu abakuqondayo oku benza unxibelelwano phakathi kwezenzo kunye neziphumo.
Babona unxibelelwano phakathi kwento eqiniswayo kunye nokuphindaphindwayo. Phakathi kwezinto ezifumana umvuzo kunye nezo ziqhubeka ukwenzeka.
Ke ukuba sifuna abantu basiphathe ngendlela ethile, kufuneka siqiniseke ukuba siyabavuza ngokuziphatha esikunqwenelayo, kwaye singabavuzi ngokuziphatha esifuna ukukuyeka.
Inkqubo inokuthatha ixesha
Le nkqubo ayiqhelekanga ngokukhawuleza.
Kwaye okukhona ipatheni sele ikho, kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuyilungisa.
Cinga ngayo malunga nendlela kunye nomsele. Xa uhamba kwindlela, kulula ukutshintsha ikhosi.
Kodwa xa uhamba emseleni, kufuneka uphume kuqala emseleni. Oku kufuna umsebenzi ongaphezulu kunye nexesha elininzi.
Kuyafana notshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha. Okukhona indlela yokuziphatha ingene nzulu, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ukutshintsha.
Ke uyakufuna ukukuqonda oku kwaye ukwamkele oku njengoko uqala inkqubo.
Sifundisa njani ngobabalo nangempumelelo
Ke sibonile ukuba kutheni le ndlela yokufundisa icetyiswayo isebenza. Siye sabona ukuba kutheni kungcono ungaphathi abantu ngendlela abaphatha ngayo kuwe.
Ngaphandle kokuba ufuna unyango luqhubeke. Okanye uba mandundu.
Kodwa sikwenza njani oku?
Simfundisa njani umntu ngokukuko indlela yokusiphatha?
Makhe sijonge.
Into yokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba asithethi ngenkqubo yokufundisa esesikweni.
Akukho zifundo apha. Akukho silabhasi okanye isibonelelo. Imfundiso icace gca.
Umongo wemfundiso kukuba ayingqalanga. Ukufihla okungaphezulu kokugqitha. Ngakumbi ngomzekelo kunangokuyalela. Okungakumbi ngezenzo kunamazwi.
Ugqirha omkhulu kunye nefilosofi u-Albert Schweitzer wathi,
Umzekelo ayisiyiyo eyona nto iphambili ekuphembeleleni abanye. Yiyo kuphela into.
USchweitzer waqonda ukuba intetho inexabiso eliphantsi. Ezi ntetho azixatyiswanga. Ukuba izenzo zethu zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi ethu.
Kuye kwathiwa amaxabiso abanjiswa ngakumbi kunokuba afundisiwe. Singabakho kakhulu ekulingiseni umzekelo omhle womntu kunokuba simkele iindlela zabo ngokufundiswa ngokusesikweni.
Imbongi uEdgar Guest uthe,
Kungangcono ndi Yabona intshumayelo kunokuva enye imini
Ndingathanda ukuba umntu ahambe nam kunokuba axele nje indlela.
Ke ukuba impindezelo ayisiyo mpendulo. Ukuba ukuvuza indlela yokuziphatha kuyayomeleza. Ukuba uqeqesho ayisiyondlela.
Ke senza njani fundisa abo isimilo sabo sifuna ukutshintsha?
Nazi iindlela ezi-5 esinokuzithatha.
1. Sifundisa Ngomzekelo Wethu
Oku sele kuchaziwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa sisiseko sokufundisa okusebenzayo.
Ngokunokwenzeka sinokuphumelela xa sibonisa indlela esiziphatha ngayo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uthanda ukufika emva kwexesha, qiniseka ukuba ufike ngexesha.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ulibale ukuzibophelela kwabo kuwe, qiniseka ukuba ukhumbule ukuzibophelela kwakho kubo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uhleba malunga nabanye abantu, ungabaniki indlebe enomdla okanye uphinde into abelana ngayo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uyazazi, umahluko phakathi kwakho nabo uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ubonakale.
Inokuvula umnyango wencoko yababini. Baza kuba nakho ngakumbi ukuphonononga ukubakho kotshintsho lwabo ukuba awubagxibanga kwisithuba.
Ayisiyonyani eyakho indawo. Awubanyanzeli ukuba batshintshe. Awunyanzelisi ukuba batshintshe. Awubakhohlisi 'kutshintsho.
Awusebenzisi amaqhinga ngobuqhetseba okanye ngobuqhetseba ukubanyanzela ukuba benze into abanokukhetha ukungayenzi.
Uhlala nje kwimodeli engcono kubo.
Akukho hype. Akukho xinzelelo. Akukho loyikiso. Indlela ebhetele. Indlela ebhetele kuni nobabini.
2. Sifundisa ngokuQhubeka kwethu
Indlela yesibini yokubafundisa kungokungqinelana kwakho.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uthetha rhabaxa nawe, kuya kufuneka uthethe kakuhle nabo. Ngokuhambelana.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uhlala ngokungapheliyo, kuya kufuneka ubonakale ngexesha. Ngokuhambelana.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho akabuyiseli iminxeba yakho ngokukhawuleza, kuya kufuneka ubuyisele iifowuni zabo kwangoko. Ngokuhambelana.
Kwakhona, umzekelo wakho kufuneka uthwale ubunzima. Umzekelo wakho kufuneka ubaphembelele kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Akukho siqinisekiso sokuba iya kuba njalo. Kodwa kungcono kakhulu kunezinye iindlela.
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3. Sifundisa ngokuqinisa kwethu
Ndikhankanyile ngaphambilana ukuba into evuzwayo yinto eyenziwayo. Kwaye isebenza ngeendlela zombini.
Nokuba kukuziphatha okunqwenelekayo okanye isimilo esingathandekiyo, indlela yokuziphatha eqinisiweyo yindlela yokuziphatha enokuthi iqhubeke.
Ke zikhuthalele ukomeleza isimilo osifunayo, hayi isimilo ongasenzi.
Awudingi ukwenza intetho. Vimba nje umvuzo. Musa ukomeleza isimilo ofuna ukusinqanda.
Awudingi ukuveza umsindo okanye ukuphoxeka. Kwaye ulumke ungathi yonke into ilungile ukuze ungajongi into encinci.
Xa bexolisa ngokufika emva kwexesha (esisisiqalo esihle)… balwamkele uxolo lwabo kwaye baxolele . Unokuyamkela indlela yokuziphatha engafanelekanga ngaphandle kokuyincoma.
Kodwa yazi ukuba ayisiyiyo indlela yokuziphatha oyithandayo. Ngaphandle kokwenza imeko yomdibaniso ngayo.
4. Sifundisa ngemibuzo yethu ebonakalisa ukuqonda
Isithandi sobulumko samandulo esingumGrike, uSocrates, wakwazi ukufundisa abafundi abaninzi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngothotho lwemibuzo.
Le ndlela yokufundisa ngoku iphethe igama lakhe, njengoko yaziwa ngokuba yi 'Socratic' method.
Umbono kukuphakamisa ukuthandabuza okucwangcisiweyo kunye nemibuzo enokukhokelela ekufumanekeni kwenyani. Inyaniso ifunyenwe ngakumbi kunikelwe.
Unokucela umhlobo wakho ukuba baphonononge isizathu sokuba kutheni bengafiki kade. Ngaba kukho ipateni engaguquguqukiyo eyonakalisa imizamo yabo? Ngaba ikhona into onokuyenza ukubanceda?
Le ndlela ayisoyiki kubantu abaninzi. Kubonakala ngathi ijolise ngakumbi kwi- isisombululo kunethuba lokumangalela nokukhalaza.
ukonwaba njani emtshatweni ongonwabanga
Yizame kwaye ubone ukuba ingasebenza njani.
5. Sifundisa ngokuseka imida ecacileyo nenengqiqo
Nanini na xa siphathwa kakubi, phantse kube yimeko yokwaphula imida yethu.
Omnye umntu ungene kumhlaba ekungekho mthethweni ukuba awungene.
Ingathatha iifom ezininzi.
Banokungena ngexesha lakho. Ukuthatha ixesha ulixabisile ungajonganga ilahleko yakho.
Banokwabelana nabanye ngezinto ezigcinwe ngokufanelekileyo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Banokuphatha ngokungenantlonelo hayi ngembeko efanelekileyo kunye nolwazelelelo.
Basenokuthetha nawe ngendlela ethoba isidima, engenabubele, nenesithuko.
Uluhlu lungaqhubeka.
Ubudlelwane obunempilo buseka imida ecacileyo nefanelekileyo. Imida eqinisekisa ukuhloniphana, ukuphendula, nembeko.
Imida yenza ukuba ubudlelwane buphumelele. Imida ayenzelwanga ukuthintela kodwa kukhululeka.
Njengokuba imikhondo ivumela uloliwe ukuba usebenze njengoko bekucwangcisiwe. Njengokumiswa kwezibane kunye neempawu zendlela zenza ukuhamba ngokuhamba kakuhle. Njengokugcwala kunye nezihlalo zenza amava amnandi ngakumbi kwithiyetha. Kwaye iingcango ezivaliweyo zisigcina sikhuselekile emakhayeni ethu.
Uya kufuna ukuseka imida ecacileyo nesengqiqweni kubudlelwane bakho. Baya kunceda wonke umntu.
Kutheni le ndlela isebenza ngcono kunabanye?
Ke, ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba ungabafundisa njani abantu ukuba unqwenela ukuphathwa njani, makhe sihlolisise ukuba kutheni le ndlela iyeyona ndlela ilungileyo.
Awuyomeli into ongafuni ukuqhubeka nayo.
Eyona ndlela yokumisa indlela yokuziphatha kukususa ukuqiniswa kokuziphatha.
Abantwana abancinci bafunda ukuba banokufumana indlela yabo ngokuvutha ngumsindo. Umzali ufuna ukuba isimilo siyeke, ke bayathembisa ukuba umntwana uza kunyanga ukuba bayayeka.
Uyayeka ke umntwana. Akumangalisi apho. Kwaye umvuzo wokuphatha unikiwe.
Into efundisa nje umntwana ukuba uburhalarhume ziindlela ezilungileyo zokufumana unyango.
Okanye enye into abanokuyifuna.
Injongo kukuba sukuyomeleza le ndlela yokuziphatha ingathandekiyo. Ke endaweni yokuba simvuze umntwana ngomsindo, sihlala sizolile, siqinile kwaye sizinzile kwinkolelo yethu.
Ngokukhawuleza baya kufunda ukuba uburhalarhume bubuchule obubi bokufumana umvuzo.
Kwaye baya kuyeka ukusebenzisa kwabo. Nomntwana uyakuqonda oku.
Ubuhle bendlela ecetyiswayo kukuba utshintsho lwenziwa ngaphakathi komntu ekufuneka eguqukile.
Ayinyanzelwanga kubo okanye inyanzelwe kubo ngaphandle. Ke kunokwenzeka ukuba ibe yinyani kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba iqhubeke.
Inobubele kwaye ipholile.
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuba kwisiphelo sesifundo. Okanye ukukhuza. Okanye ukohlwaywa ngokuziphatha kwabo.
Kodwa uninzi lwabantu luya kusabela kakuhle kwimfundiso ethantamisayo ngomzekelo, inkuthazo nangamazwi anobubele.
Nokuba umntu ukhetha ukungahoyi iinzame zakho kwaye aqhubeke nokuziphatha okungafunekiyo, awuyi kuba nakho ukuxolisa okanye uzive ukhathazekile.
Iyafundisa ngakumbi.
Abantu bahlala benetyala lokuziphatha okungafanelekanga okanye okungamkelekanga bengazi. Ngokuqinisekileyo isimilo sabo siqinisiwe ixesha elide.
Enye indlela yokufundisa iyafundisa kuba isusa ukudideka kunye nemfihlakalo xa kufikwa kwindlela yokuziphatha.
Xa sibamba ukuqiniswa kokuziphatha esingakufuniyo. Xa sibeka umzekelo wokuziphatha esikufunayo.
Xa sinika ukomelezwa okuninzi kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo, sifundisa ngendlela ecacileyo nengacacanga.
Phambi kokuba sitshintshe, kufuneka sazi ngokucacileyo ukuba kufunwa ntoni.
Ukuba akunjalo, sikulungele ukutshintsha into ekufuneka ihlale injalo, shiya ingatshintshanga ekufuneka itshintshiwe, okanye sihlale singazi ngazo zombini.
Ukucaca kubalulekile xa kufuneka utshintsho. Indlela ekhethwayo inika ukucaca ngakumbi, kwaye ke kungcono kuqinisekisa utshintsho olunokubangela.
Iyacinga kwaye ayiphenduli.
Xa sivakalelwa kukuba umntu othile uye wasabela ngendlela ebaxiweyo kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo, siye sikhawuleze sizikhusele.
yintoni onokuyifumana kumfana
Nokuba sithini okanye senze ntoni, siziva silungile xa umntu ephendula ngendlela esikholelwa ukuba ayifanelekanga.
Ukuziphatha kwethu ngelo xesha akuyongxaki kuthi… indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
Abanye baziva ngendlela efanayo xa siziphatha kakubi.
Intetho okanye ukungxoliswa kweli nqanaba kuya kuba phantse kungakhathalelwa. Kuya kubonakala kungavumelekanga kubo.
Ukugqithisa akubunciphisi ubunyani benkxalabo yakho. Kodwa indlela enobuntu iya kwamkeleka ngcono.
Kuya kuvela njengokucinga nokukhathalela kunokuba kuzenzele kwaye kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza.
Umntu uya kuba nakho ngakumbi ukumamela iinkxalabo zakho, kwaye kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba acinge ngokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha kwabo ngenxa yoko.
Ukuba umntu akazimiselanga mamela kuthi, abanakulindeleka ukuba benze njalo sive. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo siphulaphule.
Kwaye nayiphi na into ekuthiwa kukufundisa ngelo xesha iya kuba lilize, ingasebenzi, kwaye icaphuke.
Isishwankathelo
Ke yintoni esiyibonileyo kolu hlolisiso lufutshane?
- Ukufunda, ukungxolisa, ukungxolisa, kunye nokulinganisa ziindlela ezingasebenziyo zokuzisa utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha engathandekiyo kwabanye.
- Abantu bathanda ukuphinda into evuzwayo. Xa sivuza isimilo esingathandekiyo, sinokulindela ukuba siqhubeke.
- Abantu bathambekele ekungamameli ukulungiswa xa kusenziwa njengokuqonda okugqithisileyo.
- Ukufundisa okusebenzayo kuza ngomzekelo wobuqu, ukomeleza, ukungaguquguquki kunye nemibuzo enengcinga.
- Ukufundisa ngobabalo akuqinisi into ofuna ukuyipheliswa.
- Ukufundisa ngobubele kuyindlela enobubele nepholileyo.
- Imfundiso enobabalo icacile kwaye ayinangqondo.
- Ukufundisa okunobubele kunolwazelelelo kwaye akukho mpendulo ingako.
Isiphelo
Ke kutheni ungazami indlela ecetyiswayo? Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uzame ezinye iindlela ngaphandle kokuzibonisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndibazamile amaxesha amaninzi.
Kwaye ugcine ukhumbula ukuba kwabanye abantu, akukho mzekelo mhle, ukufundisa ngobumnene, ukusebenzisa ngokungaguquguqukiyo, okanye ukucaca kuya kuzisa utshintsho olunqwenelayo.
Abanye abantu baya kuhlala bengavumi ukutshintsha nokuba wenza ntoni, uthini, okanye uzama.
Kodwa musa ukuyishiya le ndlela kuba abantu abathile abaphenduli kakuhle.
Ingxaki ilele kubo hayi ngendlela.
Ngelo xesha kuyakufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba uqhubeke njani. Nokuba ungaphila ngokuziphatha kwaye ufunde ukukunyamezela.
Okanye esona sisombululo sisiso sokuvalelisa kubudlelwane.
Uya kudinga ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba indlela yokuziphatha inokuqhubeka na okanye kufuneka imiswe.
Okokugqibela, qaphela ukuba utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha alufane lubelula okanye lukhawuleze.
Ayisiyakho, ayindim, ayenzeli omnye umntu. Ke yiba nomonde kumhlobo wakho, iqabane, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu osebenza naye.
Yiba nomonde kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho.
Umonde uhlala uvuzwa ngolwalamano oluphuculweyo olungcono kuwo wonke umntu.
Ingathatha ixesha.
Kuhlala kufanelekile ukulinda.
