Kutheni ubomi bunzima kangaka?
Uninzi lwabantu luzibuza lo mbuzo rhoqo.
Ngaphandle kokuba ungumamkeli wengxowa-mali ongasebenziyo, osempilweni entle, onabantwana bakho, kunye noxanduva lokuthetha, amathuba okuba uzibuze malunga naloo nto.
Uphendlo olulula lwewebhu kulombuzo luya kuza nazo zonke iindlela zokuphendula…
Olu luhlu lusuka 'sinovakalelo olukhulu' ukuya 'kubomi obunje: jongana nayo.'
Zininzi iimpendulo ze-glib ezibonisa ukuba izinto zinzima kuphela xa singazamkeli isicwangciso esivela kuThixo, okanye sisimo sethu sengqondo esimisela ulonwabo okanye uxinzelelo.
'Ubomi Bungumzabalazo Wabo Bonke Abantu Nento Yonke'
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kunokuba yinyani kumanqanaba amaninzi, kodwa ukuxelela ukuba umntu ozenzela amayeza rhoqo ukuze azigcine angakhali kuyingozi enkulu.
Okubi nangakumbi luhlobo lwentetho apho abantu baxelelwa ukuba kufuneka bazenzele ulonwabo ...
… Ukuba bafumana ubomi bunzima, kungenxa yokuba ukwenza kunzima kubo.
Uninzi lwabantu aluqondi ukuba kunokuba yingozi kangakanani ukuthetha emntwini.
Ukuthi into ethile kwisiphumo 'oh, ubomi bunzima kuzo zonke izinto eziphilayo, yintoni ngokufuna ukutya kunye nendawo yokuhlala kunye nokunye okunjalo' kuyinto entle kakhulu.
Ngaphezu koko, iyakugatya kakhulu Imiba abantu ekufuneka bajongane nayo.
Ewe, yonke into ephilayo iya kujongana nenqanaba elithile lobunzima ukuba ifuna ukukhula, kodwa bukhona enkulu Umahluko apho.
Unomatse onengxaki yokufumana ukutya azokugcina ebusika akunakufaniswa nomzali ongatshatanga ohlala kwintlupheko kwisixeko esingenamanzi okusela acocekileyo iminyaka.
Loo squirrel akufuneki ukuba acinge nge-inshurensi yezempilo yabantwana bayo, okanye ixesha elinokwenzeka lokuvalelwa ukuba intlawulo yemali mboleko yakhe yasekholejini iyayeka, njl.
Umntu osongelwe kukuxhalaba, ukujongana nemicimbi yokugcinwa komntu owayetshatile naye uya kuba nobunzima obahlukileyo kunomntu ovela kwimvelaphi yobuncinane obujamelana nocalucalulo kunye nokuhlukunyezwa.
Abemi bayanda kwaye nemisebenzi iya inqaba. Unokuba nengxaki yokufumana umsebenzi kwicandelo lakho. Okanye nawo nawuphi na umsebenzi konke konke, kungasathethwa ke ngentlawulo efanelekileyo.
Akuqhelekanga kwiingcali ezinemisebenzi yexesha elizeleyo ukuba zisebenze njengabaqhubi be-Uber ngeempelaveki ukunceda ukuziphilisa.
Ndithethile nabantu abaliqela ngelixa ndiphanda eli nqaku, kwaye amanye amabali abo andishiye ndinentliziyo ebuhlungu.
Ngapha koko, bandenze ndabona ukuba akukho mpendulo 'inye ilingana nazo zonke' ukuba kutheni ubomi bunokuba nzima ngendlela emangalisayo.
Umzekelo:
-Umzali ongatshatanga okhathalele abantwana ababini abagula ngokungapheliyo, ngelixa ejongene nemicimbi yabo yempilo yomzimba nengqondo.
-Umntu oselula otshintshayo osapho lwakhe olugcinayo, olukholwayo lubalahlile, ngoku ophila kwimpixano epheleleyo yeemvakalelo, eguqula utshintsho lomzimba omtsha, yedwa.
-Umntu ofundileyo, ophakathi ubudala obefanele ukuthatha umsebenzi abawudelelayo xa, ngenxa yentlekele ngequbuliso, ngokungalindelekanga baba ngabanonopheli bodwa kumalungu osapho asengozini.
-Umntwana oselula okwishumi elivisayo ubomi bakhe basekhaya bunetyhefu kangangokuba bafumane nasiphi na isizathu sokungabikho, kwaye bakubudlelwane obungenampilo kwezothando ukuze babenendawo ekhuselekileyo abalekele kuyo.
-Umntu onobuchule obunobuchule bokuphila obuhlwempuzekileyo ngenxa yokuba umsebenzi unqabile, kwaye uninzi lwazo luthunyelwa kubantu baphesheya kwezilwandle abazimiseleyo (kwaye banakho) ukusebenzela iipeni.
La ngamabali nje ambalwa ekwabelwana ngawo nam, kwaye abonisa indlela obunokuba nzima ngayo ubomi kubo bonke abantu, ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
'Akukho Mthi Uyasinda Wedwa Ehlathini.'
Mhlawumbi uyazi ngesi sicatshulwa: 'Kuthatha ilali ukukhulisa umntwana,' okuthetha ukuba kuthatha lonke ilungu loluntu ukukhulisa umntu omnye abe ngumntu omdala osempilweni.
Ndiza kuthatha eli nyathelo ngokuqhubekayo ngesicatshulwa endisivileyo kumboniso I-OA :
Akukho mthi uhlala uphila ehlathini.
Singacinga ngemithi njengabalindi bodwa, kodwa oku akunakuba kude nenyaniso. Inye nganye iyinxalenye yenkqubo entsonkothileyo, edityanisiweyo yendalo.
Le ngqungquthela evela kwinqaku Ngaba Imithi Iyathetha? ukusuka kwiThe Smithsonian Magazine:
Imithi emidala elumkileyo itya amantshontsho ayo ngeswekile engamanzi ize ilumkise abamelwane xa kusondela ingozi.
Ulutsha olungakhathaliyo luthatha umngcipheko wokulahla amagqabi, ukugxotha ukukhanya kunye nokusela kakhulu, kwaye bahlala behlawula ngobomi babo.
Iinkosana zesithsaba zilinde ukuwa kwamakhosi amadala, ukuze zithathe indawo yazo kukuqaqamba kwelanga.
Yonke imithi ixhunywe kwi-mycelial (fungal) uthungelwano olungaphantsi komhlaba, ukudala '… intsebenziswano, ubudlelwane bokuxhomekeka, kugcinwa ngonxibelelwano kunye nobukrelekrele obuhlangeneyo obufana nekholoni yezinambuzane.
Oku kunxulumene nantoni nobunzima babantu?
Kulula kakhulu, uninzi lwethu lubulala indlela yethu ebomini ngaphandle kokuba yinxalenye yoluntu lokwenyani.
Ngaphandle kwenkxaso enokufunyanwa ngokudibeneyo.
Ngaphandle kwesizwe.
Ukuzikhathalela / Ukuphila ngokusempilweni Ibhalansi kulula ukuba kuthiwe kunokwenziwa
Kumnxeba osasazo eendaba zentlalo, bendineempendulo ezinyanisekileyo nezinyanisekileyo ezivela ebantwini abangazigcinanga kunye.
Asidli ngokufumana eli nqanaba lokunyaniseka kwi-selfie yethu yangoku kunye nenkcubeko yokonwaba, kodwa iimpendulo ezinje ngezi zithetha ngokubanzi malunga nemizabalazo ejongene nabantu abaninzi:
Ndidinwe kwakhulu. Ngalo lonke ixesha, ndidiniwe.
Ndivuka ndidiniwe, ndibaleka imini yonke ndizama ukubamba, ndiye kulala, ndingenalo ixesha elininzi lokufumana ikomityi yeti, ukuphendula umyalezo ngeposi kuFacebook, okanye ukutyhala ukutya emlonyeni wam.
Ezo zithuba 'ezikhuthazayo' azincedi nokuba: 'thatha ixesha lakho kuba ubomi bufutshane kwaye abantu abazukuthetha ngendlu yakho ecocekileyo emngcwabeni wakho.'
Noba yintoni.
Abayiqwalaseli into yokuba ukuba awuyicoci inkunkuma yekati okanye uthathe inja ukuhamba ngexesha, iikati zichamela ebhedini yakho, kwaye inja iyangqubeka emgambeni, emva koko uphindwe kathathu umsebenzi ukuzama ukubuyela kuloo nto.
Kukho iziphumo zokuthatha ixesha lakho: Abantwana abancinci bafuna ukondliwa, okanye baya kulamba. Intsapho yabantu abadala ifuna ukukhathalelwa, okanye baya kulamba ekungcoleni kwabo.
Imihla emiselweyo kufuneka idibene, okanye uya kugxothwa Izindlu zifuna ukucocwa kungenjalo uyakutshona kwiincukuthu nakukungcola.
Ndibaleka ngokoqobo kwizikhuthazi kunye neentlungu, kodwa uninzi lwethu lubonakala ngathi lusinda ngale ndlela, ukusikhawulezisa kwaye emva koko usinciphise.
Nokuba ikofu kunye newayini, izongezo kunye nokucamngca, okanye icocaine kunye ne-opiates, uninzi lwethu luzikhathaza ngento ethile * ukuqhubeka nje.
Abanye 'basempilweni' kunabanye, ukanti kwa ezo 'zisempilweni' (njengokutya okutyiwa kakhulu kunye nokomoya) thina SINAMATHELE ukuthanda ubomi bethu sixhomekeke kuko.
Ke… noluntu. Kwaye ndidiniwe nje.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela ezili-10 zokudibanisa ubomi bakho kube kanye
- Yintoni injongo kunye neNqaku loBomi? (Ayisiyiyo le uyicingayo)
- Uluhlu lokuGqibela lweMibuzo engama-30 yokuzibuza yona malunga noBomi
- Kutheni le nto kufanelekile ukuba uphile ngolunye usuku ngeXesha (+ Indlela yokwenza)
- Izinto ezingama-21 wonke umntu amele azi ngobomi
- Kutheni Uziva Ukruqukile Bubomi (+ Yintoni Ongayenza Ngayo)
Ukubaluleka koLuntu
Ndinabahlobo abakhulele kwiindawo zonqulo okanye zenkcubeko ezisondeleleneyo ekuhlaleni nasekuxhomekekeni njengesiqhelo njengomoya ophefumlayo.
Abahlobo, amalungu osapho awandisiweyo, kunye nabamelwane babehlala bephuma bengena ezindlwini zabanye.
Ukuba umntu ebenomntwana omtsha, unokuqiniseka ukuba bekukho “oomakazi” abalishumi elinambini abancedisayo apha ekhaya: ukukhathalela omncinci, ukugcina abantakwenu abadala betyiswa, kuqinisekiswa ukuba umama ufumana ixesha elininzi lokufumana kwakhona.
Kukwanjalo ke xa ilungu losapho ligula, okanye ukuba kukho ukufa ngesiquphe.
Obu budlelwane babungapheleliselwanga kwiziphithiphithi nje nokuba: kutyelelo lwemihla ngemihla, ukutya okwabelwana ngeveki, ukuhlangana rhoqo kunye neepikniki kunye nemibhiyozo yonke yayiyinxalenye yobomi bemihla ngemihla.
I-mad hatter zonke ezona zibalaseleyo
Abantu banokupopota ukuboleka ikomityi yeswekile, bancede ekwakheni umgangatho, okanye baxhonywe eyadini ngokuhlwa okufudumeleyo kwehlobo.
Bendicinga ngalento kutsha nje malunga nokuba bangaphi kuthi abaphila ikakhulu ubomi bodwa.
Singaba nosapho olomeleleyo lwenyukliya, kunye neqabane, abantwana, mhlawumbi umzali okanye ababini, kodwa kunjalo.
Uninzi lwethu alubazi nabamelwane bethu, singasathethi ke ngokusebenzisana nabo rhoqo.
Ndiza kukunika umzekelo:
Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, mna neqabane lam sathatha isigqibo sokufudukela kwilali yasemaphandleni kwelinye iphondo ukuba sibaleke kumatshini wokungqisha wempilo esasikuwo edolophini iToronto.
Le ntshukumo ineengxaki zayo kunye nezibonelelo.
Sihlala kwindawo ezolileyo, eluhlaza, enomoya opholileyo, indawo eluhlaza, kunye nokutya okulinywe ekhaya.
Kuba iindleko zokuphila ziphantsi kakhulu apha, akukho mfuneko yokuba sisebenze iiyure ezingama-70 ukuze siphile. Sinexesha lokupheka, lokufunda, eleyoga kunye nokucamngca.
Into esingenayo yile ngqondo yoluntu ekhankanywe ngasentla.
Abamelwane bethu abasondeleyo bahamba kakuhle. Akukho nto sifana ngayo nabo, kwaye kukho nokuba ngumqobo wolwimi, nanjengoko ulwimi lwasemaphandleni lwesiFrentshi abaluthethayo lwahluke mpela kwinto esasiyifunda esikolweni.
Ukudibana nabahlobo ngekofu akuyiyo inketho, kuba uluntu olusondeleyo esilulima luyi-550km kude.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, sineengxoxo zevidiyo kunye neminxeba, kodwa ayifani ncam, akunjalo?
Kuyafana nokulungiselela indawo yegadi yoluntu, okanye iqela lokosa inyama. Okanye abafowunelwa ngokukhawuleza.
Siyazi kakuhle imfuno yoluntu, kwaye sinethemba lokufudukela kwindawo apho sinokufumana khona ulungelelwano phakathi kobomi obunobulali, kunye nokuqina koluntu.
Kodwa kwakhona, ngobomi bemihla bube kukungakhathali kunye nokufuna njengoko kunjalo, kufuneka sibeke phambili .
Ukuzola wedwa, okanye uluntu kwindawo yoxinzelelo?
Uphi umhlaba ophakathi?
Ikhona i umhlaba ophakathi?
Ndicinga ukuba oko kuya kugqitywa.
Isidingo esiqinisekileyo soMzimba / Ingqondo / Ibhalansi yoMoya
Ukongeza kwisidingo esinzulu sokuvuselela uluntu, abantu bayabuhlungu ukufumana umlinganiso wokwenene ebomini babo.
Uninzi lusetyenziselwe ithambo ukuze nje luziphilise, nto leyo eshiya ixesha elincinci (okanye elingenalo) lokudibana kwabantu, ukuyila, kunye nokuzikhathalela.
Enye yeempendulo endandinazo ekubizeni kwam kwimidiya yoluntu yayivela kumhlobo katitshala ogama linguAriadny owayenokwabelana ngale nto:
Amasiko ethu enkcubeko ahlanze ngokupheleleyo kwaye abuya umva kwinto ekufanele ukuba yiyo.
Sisebenza phantsi kwaye sixelelwa ukuba sizingce ngokuba sixakekile. Endaweni yexesha nabantu esibakhathaleleyo, sixelelwa ukuba sizibeke, amaqabane ethu, abantwana bethu izinto .
Sixelelwe ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo kuyinto elungileyo.
Sixelelwe ukuba ubugcisa lukhetho- ayisiyiyo eyona nto iphambili kumava ethu oluntu.
Sinqunyulwe kumoya, nokuba oko kuthetha ntoni kumntu ngamnye.
Asivumelekanga ukuba sisebenze ngesantya somntu: nje ukuba ndindisholo, ulandela umthetho iinyosi zomsebenzi.
Abantu abaninzi bavumelana nengxelo yakhe, kwaye ndazibona sendinyembezana kwaye ndinqwala kunye nabo.
Ndiyakhumbula ukuba kwakunjani ukuphila ngale ndlela, ndisebenza imisebenzi emithathu eToronto ukuze nje ndondle.
Kuyaphanzisa ukucinga ukuba kuko konke oku kukho ubukho bobuntu obungummangaliso esibunikiweyo.
Ukuhamba imihla engenasiphelo kwi-cubicle okanye eofisini, usenza umsebenzi ongazukubakho konke konke kwiminyaka elishumi okanye emibini ...
… Kuphela ukujonga phambili ekuphumleni kweminyaka embalwa kwiminyaka yethu yama-70, ukuba siyakwazi ukukrola kunye imali eyoneleyo yokuthatha umhlala-phantsi.
Kufuneka kubekho okungakumbi kunoko, ngaphandle komzabalazo oqhubekayo, ongapheliyo.
Ixesha lokudala, umzekelo, nokuba ngumzobo, umbongo, okanye iitumato ezimbalwa ezityiweyo kwibhalkoni.
Ixesha elinyanisekileyo elichithwe kunye nabo sibakhathaleleyo.
Isiko lokomoya lokuzinakekela kunye nokubhiyozela.
Yintoni Esinokuyenza Ukwenza Ubomi Bube Lula?
Ubomi buhlala bunzima ngenxa yezinto zangaphandle ezingaphandle kolawulo lwethu.
Silindeleke ukuba sibe ngabasebenzi abalungileyo (kunye noogxa bethu ekuhlaleni)…
Zuza kwaye uchithe imali, qhubeka nokubonakala, uthabathe amanyathelo abalulekileyo eluntwini…
Guqula, kwaye ulingane kwiibhokisi ezamkelekileyo, kwaye wenze ngokungathi konke akunamsebenzi.
Yongeza kwimicimbi yeendaba zentlalo yangoku malunga nokuba ujongeke njani kwaye wenze, kwaye ubomi buba nzima nangakumbi.
Okulindelweyo kuya kusiba yinto engenakwenzeka, kwaye oku kulindelweyo kuyanyanzeliswa ebantwini ngaphambili nangaphambili ebomini.
Sinokuphelisa kakhulu Yobunzima bomntu ngokumisela eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuthi, kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto siyifunayo, kunye nento esinokuyinika abanye.
Thatha uhambo lwakho nosiba, uze uzibuze le mibuzo ilandelayo:
- Zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo oziva ukuba ufuna ukukhula?
- Zeziphi iinkalo zobomi bakho ozifumanisa zinzima?
- Bangakunceda njani abanye abantu?
- Ungabanceda njani abanye nabo?
- Loluphi ulindelo ekuhlaleni olwenza ukuba uzive unenzondo?
- Ngaba uyawuthanda umsebenzi owenzayo?
- Ukuba akukhange kubenjalo, loluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi onokuwukhuthaza umphefumlo wakho?
- Ngaba unolindelo lobomi kufanele Yiba ngathi?
- Ngaba olo lindelo lukwenza ungonwabi?
- Ngaba ubomi bakho bungaba lula kancinci ukuba ziyeke ezo zinto bezilindelwe ?
Ukuphendula le mibuzo kunokunika ukuqonda kancinci malunga noxinzelelo lwakho olukhulu.
Nje ukuba ubachonge, unokucinga ngokubeka izicwangciso ekusebenzeni kuzo.
Ukuba uziva ukuba ufuna / ufuna ukuba noluntu olomeleleyo, cinga ngezinto ezahlukeneyo onokuthanda ukuba nazo.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuzingqunga nabantu ababelana neenkolelo zakho zokomoya?
I-floyd mayweather ngokuchasene nomboniso omkhulu
Okanye abo banomdla ofanayo wokuyila?
Iindawo zokomoya nezenkolo zihlala zamkelekile, kodwa kukho amaqela ahlukeneyo oluntu onokuthi uhlangane nawo, ngokusekwe kukuxhomekeka kwakho.
Ndiva ukuba kubalulekile ukukhankanya apha ukuba ilungelo lidlala indima enkulu xa kufikwa ekuhlaleni.
Okulusizi kukuba, abantu baphathwa kakubi, abahlonitshwa, kwaye benziwa ukuba bazive bengamkelekanga kumaqela ohlukeneyo oluntu ngokusekwe kuzo zonke iintlobo zezinto ezahlukeneyo.
Imvelaphi yobuhlanga, inkolo, ukuma ekuhlaleni, ukomelela komzimba, kunye nesini zizinto nje ezimbalwa ezinokwenza ukuba umntu azive amkelekile kwiqela, okanye zibenze bazive belahliwe kwaye bengafunwa.
Ukuba uphathwe kakubi ngamaqela onethemba lokujoyina, unokuthandabuza ukuzama kwakhona ngenxa yokoyika ukwaliwa okanye ukwenzakala.
Oko kuyaqondakala ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ndiyaxolisa ukuba ufumene olo hlobo lobubi.
Ngethemba lokuba ungafumana iqela eliza kukuxabisa kwaye likwamkele ngendlela ekufanele ukuba wamkelwe ngayo.
Ukuba sele uyinxalenye yoluntu, zibuze ukuba ngaba uvulekile kwaye wamkelekile kumalungu amatsha, okanye ukuba kukho ucalucalulo lomntu ekufuneka usebenze kulo.
Kusoloko kukho indawo yokufunda, nokuphucula, nokukhula, kunye nokuphilisa, ukuba siyazivumela ukuba senze njalo.
Asidalelwanga ukuba sihambe ngobomi bodwa. Ukuzahlula ngokwasentlalweni eyingozi kwimpilo yethu iyonke , ngakumbi impilo-ntle yethu ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo.
Ukuseka kwakhona imeko yoluntu - kunye nokufunda ukuba kulungile ukuthembela kwabanye xa sibadinga- akunakusombulula zonke iinzima zobomi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunokubenza bathwale ngakumbi.
Ngaba ufuna ukuba ubomi bakho bube lula kunangoku? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
