Unoyolo ongalindelanga, kuba akasayi kudana. -Alexander Pope
Ingqondo yomntu yinto engummangaliso enokucinga ngokunzulu, inokucinga, inokucwangcisa. Inokujonga kwikamva kwaye izame ukuqikelela iziphumo ezinokubakho.
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Kuphela, ukuqikelela kwayo kuhlala kungalunganga.
Kwaye xa oku kusenzeka, ingqondo yomntu inomdla wokuqalekisa ithamsanqa lakhe ngokungathi liphethwe ngendlela engafanelekanga ngandlela thile.
Xa sicinga ukuba siyayazi indlela isiganeko esithile esiya kuthi siphume ngayo okanye indlela umntu othile aza kwenza ngayo, kwaye kwenzeka enye into ngaphandle kolu lindelo, lutshabalalisa ikamva ebesililindele.
Rhoqo, xa inyani ingahambelani nolindelo lwethu, iingqondo zethu zisabela ngendlela engeyiyo. Uxolo lwethu luphukile kwaye amanqanaba ethu olonwabo ehla.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka kwaye yintoni esinokuyenza endaweni yokuthintela ukungazinzi kwengqondo? Masiphande…
Ukuphoxeka
Enye yeemvakalelo ezingundoqo ezimbini ezivelayo emva kokuba ulindelo lwethu lungahambelani nenyani yile yokuphoxeka.
Esi siphumo sitsha sinokungabi sibi ngakumbi kunaleyo besinayo ezingqondweni zethu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba yahlukile, siziva ngathi sididekile.
Siziva ngathi asikayifumani into ebesiyilindele, kwaye ke ngandlela thile imele ukuba mbi, naxa ineziphumo ezifanayo nakwimpilo-ntle yethu.
Singaziva sibuhlungu kukuba siye sanikwa iminqweno yethu ilusizi ukuba asizukufumana isiphumo esilindelweyo sibuhlungu sokuba mhlawumbi elo thuba lilahlekile ngonaphakade.
Kwaye ukuba sisona siphumo ngu Ngokubi kakhulu kuthi, ezi mvakalelo zosizi kunye nokudana zinokuba mandundu ngakumbi.
Ukuphoxeka kunokwenzeka ngakumbi xa sinolindelo olungeyonyani lwesiphumo esihle xa sinethemba nangona isiphetho sinyani kwaye sinokwenzeka.
Sibeka ithemba lethu kwithuba elingaphandle kwinto elungileyo eyenzekayo, kwaye thina ndiziva ndoyisiwe xa ingenjalo.
Inzondo
Enye impendulo engundoqo yeemvakalelo kunye nengqondo kwizinto ezingahambi ngendlela ebesilindele ngayo yinzondo.
Kulapho siziva siphatha kakubi. Yilapho siziva sikhohlisiwe, uxokile , ethukwa nkqu.
Ukucaphuka nje ngokuba nolindelo oluphezulu olungafezekiswanga kunokubangela umsindo kunye nokudana.
Le mpendulo inokuba ngaphezulu kokudana kwimeko apho uziva unelungelo lokulindela okukhulu kumsitho okanye umntu othile.
Ukungaxhamli kwinkonzo yabathengi, unyango olungonelanga ngabantu abakwizikhundla zokuba noxanduva, amava aphikisana nokuvumelana ngokubanzi kwabanye: yonke le yimizekelo yamaxesha apho ungasicaphukela isiphumo.
Ingqumbo ikwaxhaphake kakhulu kunokuphoxeka xa imeko imnyama ngakumbi nomhlophe apho kukho isiphumo esihle (njengoko kulindelwe) kwaye enye okanye ezingaphezulu zimbi ngokucacileyo. Iziphumo ezilungileyo ezifanayo, kodwa ezingalindelekanga, azikho ngokwenene.
Xa Ulindelo Lwethu Lubi
Iimvakalelo zokudana kunye nenzondo zihlala zinxulunyaniswa nembono ethembayo ethi emva koko inqatshelwe.
Kodwa kukho enye indlela apho ulindelo lwethu luthintela ulonwabo lwethu: xa zimbi kakhulu.
Oku kudlula ngaphaya kokungabi nathemba ukuya kwindawo apho singalungiseleli i- kunokwenzeka wento embi eyenzekayo, silindele ukuba yenzeke.
Isiphumo yinto abantu abaninzi abajongana nayo: uxinzelelo olulindelekileyo.
Xa siziqinisekisa ngamathuba okuba sigalelwe zizinto ezimbi, siyazisebenzela kwimeko yokuphaphama nokuba nexhala. Imizimba yethu iyaphendula kwimiqondiso yengqondo kwaye oku kuqhubela phambili amandla ethu engqondo.
Sikho kwimeko yokulungela umlo, ukubhabha, okanye ukuphendula ngumkhenkce. Kuphela silungiselela okwenzekayo, hayi isiqinisekiso.
Rhoqo, singunobangela weemvakalelo zethu zoloyiko kunye noxinzelelo kunye nokothuka. Okulindelweyo kuhlutha kuthi uxolo lwangaphakathi , yesakhono sethu sokonwabela ixesha.
Siyaziqinisekisa ngokubaluleka kwezinto ezithile, nokuba zinefuthe elincinci kwimicimbi okanye abanye abantu ababandakanyekayo.
Xa isiphelo sifika ekugqibeleni, kwaye xa silunge ngakumbi kunokuba besicinga (esihlala sikhona), the ixhala esasinalo kwangaphambili kuthathe umthwalo ezingqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu. Asinakuphinda siyiqonde ngokupheleleyo into evuyisayo yokuphela kwento esivakalelwa kukuba kukudinwa okuphelelweyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Izinto ezi-7 ekufuneka uziyeke uzilindele kwabanye
- Nika ezi zinto zingama-20 ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela ebomini
- Ungayiyeka njani intlekele malunga neziganeko ebomini bakho
- Izinto ezi-7 Uninzi lwaBantu oluthathayo ukuze zibekho ebomini
- Iindlela ezi-5 Isivivinyo seLungelo siyaziveza
Iindidi ezimbini zoLindelo
Ngelixa konke okulindelweyo kubandakanya into yexesha elizayo, banokuhlelwa ngeendlela ezimbini: ulindelo lweziganeko kunye nolindelo lwabantu (nangona kunokubakho ukugqagqana).
Kunye neyangaphambili, sibona isiphumo esithile kwiliso lengqondo yethu kwaye sivumele ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba sikhule kwaye sikhule ngakumbi njengoko sicinga njalo.
Ukuba olu lindelo alunamhla wokuphela umiselweyo, sinokuqhubeka nokuncamathisela ukubaluleka kulo de ekugqibeleni sinyanzelwe ukuba sijongane nokungenakwenzeka kwayo, ngelo xesha iimvakalelo zokudana okanye ingqumbo iya kuba namandla.
Okanye, ukuba umsitho ngokwawo ubaluleke kakhulu kuthi, sinokuba neemvakalelo ezinamandla ngokulinganayo.
Ngokubanzi, ixesha elide umntu ubenolindelo engqondweni yakhe, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kumsitho, kukuba iimvakalelo zangaphambili kufuneka ziwe ukuba zingaphumi njengoko bekulindelwe.
Xa kuziwa ebantwini, sihlala senza ulindelo malunga nendlela abenza ngayo okanye indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Rhoqo, siqikelela indlela esivakalelwa ngayo okanye indlela esinokuziphatha ngayo nakweyiphi na imeko esinikwe yona, sikholelwa ukuba baya kuziva okanye benze ngendlela efanayo.
Ulawulo lwaseRoma olunxulumene nelitye
Kwaye ukuphoxeka okanye ingqumbo kuza xa sifumanisa ukuba abavakalelwa ngathi okanye benza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuleyo besinokuyenza.
Ngenye indlela, sinokuba neenkolelo ezithile ezisekwe ngokupheleleyo kwinto esiyixelelwe ngabanye abantu, kuphela ukufumanisa ukuba azizalwanga ngokwamava ethu alo mntu.
Kwaye akufuneki ukuba ibe ngabantu abathile esincamathisela ulindelo nakweyiphi na. Isenokuba yimibutho enje ngemveliso, amasebe karhulumente, iinkolo, okanye amaqela ezemidlalo.
Isenokuba ngabantu abathile kule mibutho abasebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kulindelo lwethu, kodwa sihlala sisebenzisa ukudana nengqumbo yethu kumbutho onoxanduva lomntu lowo kanye njengaye.
Ukufunda ukuyeka ukulindela
Ukuze uphendule bhetele kuzo naziphi na iziphumo, nokuba ubuzilindele, ungaqala ukusebenza engqondweni yakho, kwiindlela zakho zokucinga, nakwiimpendulo zakho zeemvakalelo.
Kukho iimpawu ezithile umntu anokukhulisa kwaye akhule ukuze zombini zinciphise isidingo sokuxela kwangaphambili isiphumo, kwaye siphucule amandla akho okuphendula kuso, nokuba siyintoni na.
Ezinye zezi mpawu zibandakanya:
1. Ingqondo evulekileyo : ukuba unokuhlala uvulelekile kumathuba amaninzi obomi endaweni yokulungisa ikamva elinye, uya kunciphisa naziphi na iimvakalelo zokudana nengqumbo.
Mbini. Ukomelela : Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuphepha ukuzibopha kulindelo oluthile kukwakha ukuzithemba okungagungqiyo, okuzinzileyo. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ungamelana nayo nayiphi na imeko, uya kuziva ungaphantsi kwesidingo sokukhetha isiphumo esifanelekileyo engqondweni yakho.
3. Inyaniso: ngokubeka iingcinga zakho kwisiseko esiqinileyo sokwenyani, awuyi kunamathisela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo kwikamva elingenakwenzeka. Uya kuba nolwazi, kwaye ulungiselele, ezininzi iziphumo ezinokwenzeka.
Zine. Ubuwena : isithako esibalulekileyo kwingqondo eyomeleleyo ngakumbi kukuzithemba. Ukuba ungakhulisa inkolelo kwaye uthembele kuwe kunye nokuzithanda okunempilo, uya kuxhotyiswa ukuphatha nantoni na ebomini.
5. Umbulelo: indlela esebenzayo yokuthintela iimvakalelo ezichazwe apha ngasentla kukuzama ukufumana izinto ezilungileyo kuzo naziphi na iziphumo. Ukuba ungajonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo ukusuka kwifayile ye- Ingqondo yobuninzi , uya kufumanisa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba uzive uphantsi okanye unomsindo.
6.Ukwamkela: ngaphandle kwe kholelwa ukuba uyakwazi ukulawula zonke iinkcukacha zobomi bakho , unokuziqhelanisa nokwamkela nantoni na eza ngendlela yakho. Yiyo le okanye zama ukuphika isiphumo kwaye ulwe nayo, nto leyo engenantsingiselo kwaphela.
7. Ukudlala: ngamanye amaxesha ufike nje ungabuthathi kancinci ubomi kwaye uqaphele ukuba uncumo kunye nemvakalelo yolonwabo zihamba indlela ende yokwenza okona kulungileyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko.
Ingqondo: ukuba unganako yeka ukucinga kakhulu malunga neziganeko ezizayo ezingaqinisekanga kwaye ngokulula gxila kumzuzu wangoku , ungalinciphisa ixhala oziva ngalo kwangaphambili.
Kuhlala kusithiwa 'masilindele into esingayilindelanga,' kodwa ayililo elona cebiso likhulu lakha lanikwa.
Kwelinye icala, ewe, kufanelekile ukuba sikulungele ukujongana nayo nayiphi na into eyenzekayo sisazi ukuba ikamva alinakuxelwa kwangaphambili ngokuchanekileyo.
Kwelinye icala, siyacetyiswa ukuba sibe nolindelo nangona kunjalo. Ukulindela okungalindelekanga, umntu kufuneka ahlale ephaphile kwaye elungele ukuthatha inyathelo. Kodwa ukuphapha akubangeli ukuba kubekho uxolo.
uyenza njani ibf yokuzalwa ekhethekileyo
Mhlawumbi kufuneka samkele umyalezo kwisicatshulwa esivule eli nqaku kwaye siphephe ukwenza ulindelo ngokupheleleyo. Esi sicatshulwa sokuvala sikwasebenza:
Uxolo sisiphumo sokuphinda ubambe ingqondo yakho ukuze uqhubekeke nobomi njengoko bunjalo, kunokuba ucinge ukuba kufanelekile. -UWayne Dyer
