Xa ulindele ukuba abanye abantu baziphathe ngendlela ethile, uya kudana ngokulula kwaye rhoqo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka uyeke izimvo kunye nemigangatho osele unayo kwaye uvumele izinto zibekho. Ngokukodwa, kuya kufuneka ukhangele naluphi na ulindelo ngokubhekisele kula manqaku alandelayo asi-7.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
1.Vumelana Nawe (Okanye Nokuba Uyakuqonda)
Kukucinga ngengqondo ukuzama nokukhulelwa i-7 yezigidigidi abantu ezizodwa ngokupheleleyo Ukuhlala kulo mhlaba, kodwa yile nto sinayo.
Umyeni wam akazukuthetha nam ngayo nantoni na
Ngale nto engqondweni, ukungavisisani akunakuphepheka akukho ndlela yokuba wonke umntu acinge okanye akholelwe izinto ezifanayo nezakho.
Heck, kuyakubakho amaxesha apho abantu onxibelelana nabo bangayiqondi nembono zakho!
Ke, xa abanye benemibono engqubanayo kwinto ethile, kufuneka uyamkele le nto kwaye uvumele ingqondo yakho iqhubeke. Ukuba uhlala ubambe ukungavisisani, kuya kuqhubela phambili iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kwaye isiphumo esinokubakho iya kuba yingxoxo egcweleyo.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
2. njengawe
Ukulandela ukusuka kwinqanaba elidlulileyo malunga nokungalingani kwabantu kunye neembono zabo, awunakulindela ukuba wonke umntu akuthande ngokwenene.
Izinto ezenza ukuba nina niye maxa wambi Caphukisa abanye kwaye ngokuchaseneyo.
Into omele uyikhumbule, nangona kunjalo, kukuba baninzi abantu abakuthandayo nabakuthandayo ngenxa yento oyiyo. Yazi ukuba oku kwanele kwaye ukuzama ukwenza abanye abantu abanjengawe ngumsebenzi ongenambulelo ofuna kuphela umbingelelo kwicala lakho (idini lokwenyani lakho).
Andisoze ndifumane iikowuti zothando
Ukuba nguwe yinto ekulweni kunzima ukuyiphumelela. Ukuba ufuna wonke umntu akuthande, uya kuzifumana emfazweni engapheliyo.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
3. Yiba 'Ok' Lonke Ixesha
Uya kuba ngumntu wokuqala ukuvuma ukuba akusoloko uziva uqaqambile kwaye ujonge, ngoko ke kufuneka uyeke ukulindela abanye ukuba babe njalo.
Zininzi izizathu zokuba umntu azive ephantsi: ukugula, ukudinwa, uxinzelelo, umsebenzi, okanye ubudlelwane, umzekelo.
Kungenxa yokuba ungathanda ukuba baphile, ayenzi njalo. Kuya kufuneka wamkele ukuba abantu baya kuba namahla ndinyuka ekuhambeni kwexesha yinto yendalo kakhulu ukuba udlule kuyo.
Kwaye xa baziva bephantsi, kuya kufuneka uzame ukuvelana nabo kwaye imeko yabo ixelela abantu ukuba bayigungqise kwaye bazikhethele akusoloko kuluncedo njengoko ucinga.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
4. Funda Ingqondo Yakho
Ingqondo yakho ikhutshelwe umda kuye wonke umntu, kodwa akusoloko kulula ukukhumbula oku.
Kukangaphi ulindele ukuba omnye umntu azi ukuba uziva njani okanye ucinga ntoni? Ngokuqinisekileyo, banakho ukufunda imiqondiso ethile, kodwa kuya kuhlala kukho uqikelelo olubandakanyekayo.
Ingxaki kukuba, xa umntu osondeleyo kuwe engayazi kwangoko ukuba kwenzeka ntoni entlokweni yakho, ungabona oku njengophawu lokuba abakhathali. Inokudala ukuziva ungalunganga kwaye ibangele ukungqubana. Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Endaweni yoko, ukuba unento engqondweni yakho, phantse kuhlala kungcono ukuba uphume uyokuyithetha. Ngokwabelana ngeengxaki zakho kunye ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho , ungaqala ukuphilisa kwaye unokuziva ngathi ubunzima bususwe.
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Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
5. Guqula / hayi tshintsha
Sonke siyakhula njengabantu ngabanye amava ethu emihla ngemihla abe yinxalenye yethu kwaye unxibelelwano olutsha lwe-neural lwenziwa ngalo lonke ixesha.
Abanye bethu banokufumana utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kunabanye kwaye oku kunokuba ngowona mthombo uphambili wokungoneliseki.
Mhlawumbi unqwenela ukuba abanye abantu ebomini bakho bahlale ngokufanayo ngonaphakade kuba ubazi kwaye ubathanda kanye njengokuba benjalo. Kwabanye, unganqwenela ukuba bangatshintsha kuba ubona izinto ongazithandiyo kubo.
Ngelishwa, awunakumisa umntu ukuba atshintshe kwaye kananjalo awukwazi ukubenza batshintshe . Umthombo we-angst uyafana kuzo zombini iimeko- woyika ukuphulukana nalo mntu ebomini bakho.
Kwelinye icala, woyika ukuba abanye abantu bangatshintsha kwaye oku kunokukuqhubela phambili ukwahlukana, ngelixa kwelinye icala, ungaboni ubuhlobo / ubudlelwane buqhubeka ngaphandle kokuba loo mntu atshintshe.
wwe mae oselula odidi 2018
Kunokuba nzima ukuza kumgangatho wobomi odlulayo kunye nendlela abanye abantu abanokuyeka ngayo ukuba yinxalenye yakho. Ukulindela nantoni na eyahlukileyo, nangona kunjalo, kuya kwenza ukwahlukana kube nzima ngakumbi.
Yeka ukulindela abanye ukuba…
6. Lungisa iingxaki zakho
Xa ungumntwana, unokuxhomekeka kubazali bakho okanye amanye amalungu osapho ukuba akuncede xa unengxaki.
Kubomi obudala, unokulindela usapho, kwaye ngeli nqanaba abahlobo abalungileyo , ukukunika iingcebiso kunye noncedo kumaxesha ngamaxesha. Oku akunangqondo kuphela, kodwa kuyanceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane.
Nangona kunjalo, awunakulindela ukuba bakulungiselele zonke iingxaki zakho. Banobomi babo bokukhokela kwaye ukhule ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye uyakwazi ukuzikhathalela.
Kuya kufuneka uqale ukubonisa inkululeko yakho kwaye ukukhula ngokujongana nemicimbi ethi iziveze kunokuba ubaleke kubo . Ngethuba nje uxhomekeke kwabanye ukuba bakuxelele into omawuyenze, awusoze ufumane inkululeko yokuphila ubomi bakho awuzukuhamba kwindlela yakho, kodwa leyo ibekelwe wena.
ukugcina ubudlelwane emva kokuhamba ngokukhawuleza okukhulu
Yeka ukulindela…
7. Okona kubi kakhulu kwabanye
Kuyinkolelo yam eyomeleleyo ukuba uninzi lwethu ngabantu abalunge ngokwenene abazele luthando novelwano.
Ngaphandle koku, akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu bacingele okona kubi malunga nabanye-nokuba bayabazi okanye abayazi.
Unokulindela ukuba bacime kuwe, baqale ingxabano, bangakubuyisi imali abayityalayo. Uyaziqinisekisa ukuba umntu ongamaziyo uza kuhleka, akwenze isidima, okanye akwenzakalise ngandlel 'ithile.
Kungenzeka ukuba ukulindela okuphantsi komnye umntu kuyindlela yokuphepha ukuphoxeka, kodwa kunokuvelisa nokuziphatha onqwenela ukungabinakho.
Endaweni yoko, njengoko kunokubonwa kubafundi besikolo kwilizwe liphela, xa ulindele izinto ezintle komnye umntu, xa ubakhuthaza, naxa ubabonelela ngendawo abanokuqaqamba kuyo, bahlala njalo.
Endaweni yokucinga okona kulungileyo komntu, zama ukucinga ngokulungileyo endaweni yoko. Oku Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ingayi ukuzaliseka indlela ekuphatha ngayo abanye.
I-Conscious Rethink: ukulahla ulindelo lwabanye kukunika inkululeko engakumbi yokuba nguwe kwaye uphile ngobomi bakho. Khumbula, unoxanduva lweengcinga zakho kwaye unenkululeko yokukhetha ukuba uphendula njani kumzuzu ngamnye ebomini. Nokuba yintoni abanye abantu abayenzayo kodwa abanye abantu baziphatha kulawulo.
