Kukho umhlobo engqondweni njengoko ndibhalela oku. Ungudade ngaphezu komhlobo. Usapho ngakumbi kunabantakwethu begazi.
Indlela endinethamsanqa ngayo kumntu omangalisayo kangaka ingaphaya kwam, kodwa ndenzile, kwaye kuyamangalisa.
Alukho usuku oludlulayo ndingabulelanga ukuba sihamba indalo iphela kunye kulo Mhlaba mkhulu, uhlukeneyo.
Olu nxibelelwano aluzange lutsalwe nje kwi-ether, kwaye aluzigcini ngokwalo ngokuqaqamba kunye nemvula.
Kukho iimpawu ezithile ekufuneka kwabelwane ngazo ukuze zenze amaqhina olungileyo kunye nolokwenene ubuhlobo.
1. Banobubele
Ungacinga ukuba le yanikwa naluphi na uhlobo lonxibelelwano lomntu, kodwa ububele buhlala butyeshelwa.
Siye safumana ukuba 'ukugoba ngasemva' uhlobo ububele ukuba, ukunyaniseka, kwenza abantu kancinci ungakhululeki.
Ububele bomhlobo olungileyo ngakumbi kukuba 'ume nawe' ezahlukeneyo. Endaweni yokuba bakunike ihempe emqolo, baya kuqinisekisa ukuba zombini iimfuno zakho zithambekele ukuze kungabikho mfuneko yokuba omnye wenu abulise umhlaba unganxibanga.
2. Banyanisekile
Olunye lweempawu eziphambili zomhlobo olungileyo kukuba baya kukwazisa xa benzakaliswe nguwe, bedidekile nguwe, bakubone usisidenge, kwaye banokwazi xa uzifihla.
Abantu abaninzi abafuni kwenza nayiphi na kwezi. Kulula kubo ukuzifihla 'Andifuni ukukhathaza iimvakalelo zakho.'
Into kukuba, abahlobo abalungileyo babelana. Nditsho neentlungu. Ukungakhululeki kungena kuyo yonke indawo ebomini ibiya kuba kukunganyaniseki ukwenza ngathi kuthintela ubuhlobo ngokupheleleyo.
3. Bangabantu ngabanye
Imvakalelo yesazisi idala amabhondi amangalisayo. Abahlobo abalungileyo abazami ukuba nguwe, bazaliseka ngokupheleleyo kubo.
Uluvo lwabo lokuzimela luyadlala ngokwakho, kwaye luye lwenyusa indawo kuni nobabini ekunokwenzeka ukuba khange zibonwe ngaphambili.
umenza njani.ukuleqa emva kokuba ulele naye
Kwaye ngelixa amaphupha, iinjongo, kunye nomoya zihlala zifana, kwanobuhlobo obuhle kakhulu bokubonisa ukuba kukho amaxesha apho umntu ngamnye emele aye kuzikhumbuza kwaye ahlaziye yedwa.
4. Banomdla
Ukukruquka kukungabikho kovuselelo, nokuba kungokwengqondo, imvakalelo, okanye ukhuthazo lomzimba.
Abahlobo abalungileyo banelisa zonke ezi ndawo zintathu bazithandayo kuba bayathanda ukwenza izinto, ukucinga izinto, ukuziva izinto, kunye nokwabelana kwezo zinto kunye nawe.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ukunyuka intaba okanye i-bungee yokutsiba uhambo oluya kwindawo yokutyela entsha kuya kuyenza.
Umnqweno kunye nokuzimisela ukufumana ihlabathi liyinxalenye yokwahlulwa kobuhlobo kuba ithi 'thatha isandla sam sibone ukuba yintoni phaya!'
5. Bayadlala
Ukuba bekungekho kubahlobo abalungileyo, ubisi alunakuze luphume kwimpumlo yakho kumabanga aphezulu ubungenakuba nesiqingatha samabali malunga nezinto ozenzileyo kwikholeji isiqingatha saloo mabali asizukubandakanya ubunqunu kwifashoni enye okanye enye, kwaye namhlanje , Njengabantu abadala, kusekho ithuba lotywala obukhala empumlweni yakho. Ngaphandle ngoku yiwayini.
Abahlobo badlala nathi. Basenza ukuba sihleke kwelona xesha lingafanelekanga (iidemon) kunye nokubamba ukukhanya emehlweni abo kufana nesithembiso sentsasa yeKrisimesi.
Ihlabathi lizenza ngathi liyindawo enzulu, kodwa ixesha lokudlala liyamisa lifile kwiindlela zalo ngalo lonke ixesha.
6. Bayakhusela
UJimi Hendrix mhlawumbi wayecinga ngomhlobo olungileyo xa weza ne-lyric, 'Ndimi ecaleni kwentaba, ndiyinqunqa ngohlangothi lwesandla sam.'
Abahlobo abalungileyo abakukhuseli ngendlela enomdla, abanayo bayakhusela wena , Zonke izinto ezingaqhelekanga ezimile kakuhle, ezixabisekileyo, ezingaphakathi ezenza umphefumlo wakho ohambahambayo, kuba ezo zizinto ezisitsalela ngokwenene kwimiphefumlo eqaqambileyo.
Yimishini abazithathela yona rhoqo ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba benze njalo, kodwa baya kuyenza ukusuka apha kuye emaphakadeni, nokuba bame entabeni, bakukhusele kwingozi ezayo, okanye ngamanye amaxesha bakukhusele kuwe.
7. Bathembekile
Kukho abantu esibathembayo kuphela ngokokubona kwethu. Ezo azenzi bahlobo zilungileyo.
Kukho ke abo sibeka yonke into esenza ukuba 'thina' sibe liqanda, sibanike, kwaye sibavumele ukuba babaleke ngeentonga zepogo banqumle umhlaba obanjelwe i-booby, inkunkuma esasazeke ngelixa siphunga ilamuni ngexesha lokulinda ukuba bayibuyise.
abantu abadala abangahloniphiyo abahlala ekhaya
Siyathemba ukuba abahlobo bethu abalungileyo bangabantu abalungileyo. Ukuba akunjalo: splat.
8. Bayakhulisa
Ewe, umhlobo olungileyo ubambelela ecaleni kweenwele zakho ngelixa usenza i-gutbucket serenade, kodwa uyaqinisekisa ukuba utya ngokwaneleyo, uphumla ngokwaneleyo, uyatshona kwiibhafu zokuhlambela ubuncinci kube kanye ngenyanga, kwaye umamele ngamehlo abanzi njengoko Xelela kuye impumelelo yakho yakutshanje okanye injongo entsha.
Abahlobo abalungileyo baba ngabahlobo, abazali, abathandi, oogqirha, kunye nabantu abazithemba kubo bonke ngaphandle kokubonakaxa okanye kunzima.
9. Bayaphulaphula
Imfesane novelwano zidibanisa ukwenza abahlobo bethu abalungileyo babe ngabaphulaphuli abagqwesileyo kuba, ngokunyanisekileyo, ngubani ofuna ukwenza iprojekthi 'Me, me, me' ngalo lonke ixesha kuye nabani na?
Kulungile ukuthi cwaka kwaye uvumele abahlobo bethu basizalise ngesiqu sabo, njengoko besenza kuthi.
Olunye uphawu oluphambili lomhlobo olungileyo kukuba bamamela amathemba akho, uloyiko, imibuzo, amaphupha, ubudenge, imisinga, ukubhengeza, nokunye okuninzi, hayi ngaphandle kwesibophelelo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba banenkathalo yokwenene.
10. Baluncedo
Umhlobo olungileyo unemqolo. Hayi kwipinki. Njalo.
Ukuba udiniwe, bathwala umthwalo wakho. Ukuba ufuna uncedo lokufumanisa into, ngamaqabane akho ophando. Abangqinelani okanye babe negqubu, kwaye ukuba umsebenzi omnye wenziwe kwaye uyabadinga ngaphezulu, abanangxaki yokuba lapho. Ixesha.
11. Banobuhlanga
Mhlawumbi hayi uStephen King-level clairvoyance (ayinakulimaza nangona kunjalo), kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bahlala bebonakala ngathi bayayazi into oyifunayo ngaphambi kokuba uyidinge.
Ngommangaliso, bakubiza ngelo xesha ngemini yomsebenzi wakho usuka esihogweni xa sele uza kugalela abathengisi ngokungathi baphosa iinkwenkwezi, ngoko nangoko uzolile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubenentlanganiso enye ngaphambi kokuyeka ixesha.
Ngaba lo ngumsebenzi nje wokwazi iimoods zakho kunye neendlela, okanye ngaba unxibelelwano olunzulu luyadlala? Ukuzonwabisa kwiimfihlakalo ezithile kukungazami nokuzifumana.
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12. Banethemba kodwa basebenza
'Laissez les bons temps rouler!' - Vumela amaxesha amnandi aqengqeleke - sisikhalo sokubuthwa kwabahlobo kuyo yonke indawo, kodwa sesinye sokuba umhlobo olungileyo uthukuthela ngolwazi lokuba ukungagungqi kuyinxalenye yobomi.
Amaxesha amnandi ayaphela, okanye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ulinde, kodwa loo nto ayimisi uvuyo lokuba nomhlobo ophile entliziyweni yakho nakanye.
13. Banembeko
Ukuhlonipha wena, ukuhlonipha ixesha lakho, ukuhlonipha ilungelo lakho lokwenza iimpazamo: ezi ziimpawu zomntu ofanelekileyo ukuba avunyelwe ebomini bakho.
Ukuhlonipha izinto ozithandayo, izinto ozoyikayo, izinto oziphephayo. Ngaphandle kwentlonipho, ubuhlobo buyatyibilika bube sesinye sezibuko ze-narcissism: ubona enye into ingaphezulu nje kokolulwa kwakho ide ingabi saba luncedo.
ukuba uthini kumhlobo emva koqhawulo-mtshato
14. Bayashukunyiswa ngaphandle koloyiko
Ukuwolana kuyimfuneko kobu bomi. Umhlobo olungileyo ngumntu owanga kuwe izolo, kusuku olungaphambi kolo, kwaye akasiboni isizathu sokuba bangayi namhlanje.
Ubuninzi bomntu wonke buyahluka, kodwa ukuhlala ngokungathi akukho mthetho uchasene nokuwolana ngokulandelelana kuthanda ukuba yindawo yokuphumelela.
15. Banentliziyo evulekileyo
Ubuhlobo bufana nomdlalo ogqithileyo wokunxibelelana komphefumlo nomphefumlo: sigxibha kulo Mhlaba singaze sazi ukuba siza kubetha ngaphi okanye ngubani na aba bantu sibabambayo. Uluntu olugqithisileyo.
Kuthatha isibindi sokuzivulela umntu oziva ebekwe ngokungacwangciswanga kwiplanethi njengawe. Kodwa abahlobo abalungileyo bayakwenza oku. Bavula iintliziyo zabo, bayiveze imiphefumlo yabo, kwaye bakushiyele indawo yokuba ushiye isiqwenga sakho apho ukuze sikhuseleke.
Luhambo olude, olu luhlobo lwabantu lukhulu kakhulu alwenzi kuphela ukuba uhambo luthwale, bayiguqula ibe kukungqunga, ubundlobongela, ulonwabo olupheleleyo.
16. Unokuba Ngaba Ngokwenene Ungqonge bona
Enye yeempawu ezihlala zihoywa zomhlobo olungileyo kukuba kunjalo ukwamkela ukuba ungubani - ezilungileyo, ezimbi nezimbi. Ngenxa yoku, uziva ukhululekile ukuba ujikeleze bona kwaye unokuvumela zonke izinto ezincinci zobuntu bakho ukuba ziphume.
Nokuba yindlela owenza ngayo umdaniso omncinci xa wonwabile okanye ubume obungxamisekileyo besidakwa sakho, awuziva unesidingo sokuzibamba xa ukunye nabo.
17. Ungahlala uthe cwaka ngaphandle kokuxhalaba
Ukulandela ukubanakho ukuba nguwe, omnye umqondiso olungileyo wobuhlobo obunzulu kukukwazi ukwabelana ngomzuzwana okanye ixesha lokuthula kunye. Xa ubuhlobo bungaphezulu, ukuthula akuthethi ukuvala kwaye kube nzima, nto leyo eyenza ukuba kuphephe.
Ndihlala ndicinga ukuba uvavanyo oluhle lobuhlobo luhlala kunye (okanye mhlawumbi ukuya eholideyini kunye). Xa nichitha ixesha elaneleyo kwinkampani yomnye nomnye, kuya kubakho amaxesha okuphumla kunye nendlela oziva ngayo ngexesha lezi zibonisa ukuba ukufutshane kangakanani.
18. Niyonwabile Ngokwenene Xa Nisenzelwa Izinto Ezintle
Xa ubona umntu onayo le nto uyifunayo, iimvakalelo zangokwemvelo zezomona oku kuyinyani kubuhlobo obuninzi.
Xa loo mntu ungumhlobo wokwenene, nangona kunjalo, wonwabile kakhulu ngenxa yabo kwaye awubathandi ubutyebi babo. Ukuba bafumana uthando, ufuna ukudibana nomntu omtsha ebomini babo ukuba baphumelele kwikhondo labo lomsebenzi, ufuna ukuva zonke iinkcukacha kwaye ukuba bathenga indlu entle, awunakulinda ukuba ubatyelele kuyo .
ukuba wenzeni xa ikhaya lodwa linesithukuthezi
Ukuba uzibona unqwenela ukuba ubusezihlangwini zabo, okanye ukholelwa ukuba bayayifumana yonke ithamsanqa, ke mhlawumbi ayingomnye wabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni.
19. Incoko idlulela ngaphaya kweNtetho eNcinci kwaye 'Ukufumana phezulu'
Kwinkampani ethile, uya kuziva unyanzelekile ukuba ugcine incoko ilula kwaye uphephe iingxoxo ezinokuthi zithinte imiqobo yakho okanye zikhanyise umahluko wezimvo.
Olunye lweempawu eziphambili zomhlobo olungileyo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba ungathetha phantse ngayo yonke into oyithandayo. Awudibani nje uxoxe ngento nobabini ukuya kuyo okanye ucinga ntoni ngomboniso weTV wakutshanje umxholo wencoko uya nzulu kunoko.
Unokuthetha ngezinto ezinkulu ebomini amaphupha akho, uloyiko lwakho, inkolo, ezopolitiko, intsingiselo yobukho. Iingxoxo aziqhelekanga, kwaye banokufumana ukufudumala okuncinci, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iingxoxo zakho ngokuqinisekileyo aziyiyo.
20. Bajongene nawe ukuba ngaba uzenza iSabotage
Kuba ubuhlobo bokwenyani bobunye apho unokunxibelelana kwezona nqanaba zinzulu kwaye obonisa ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo, umhlobo uya kuhlala efuna ukukuthintela ukuba ungazenzakalisi.
Ngabo bakwazi kakuhle ngokwaneleyo ukuba bangaqaphela xa ungazenzi. Bayabona xa usela kakhulu, ungatyi ngokwaneleyo, uthatha umngcipheko ngokungenankathalo ngokhuseleko lwakho nokuba sempilweni, ukubeka engozini umsebenzi wakho, okanye ukwenza enye into oya kuzisola ngayo kamva.
Njengokuba kunokuba nzima kubo ukuba bajongane nawe malunga nezinto ezinjalo, luphawu lomhlobo wokwenene abaya kuthi bakufumanise kunzima nokuhlala phantsi bakubukele.
21. Bayakukhuthaza endaweni yokukujongela phantsi ngokuzama izinto ezintsha
Izinto ozithandayo, izinto ozithandayo, kunye nezimvo zakho ziya kutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye nabahlobo bakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, baya kuba nento yokuthetha ngayo.
Abo bakubuza ngokuzama izinto ezintsha abantu abahlekisayo ngeli themba lokuba ayizizohlobo zakho zokwenyani.
Umhlobo wokwenene uya kukuxhasa kunye nokukhula kwakho njengomntu. Nokuba ufunda kwi-salsa, ngokuzithandela kwisisa ngexesha lakho lokuzonwabisa, okanye uphonononge icala lakho lokomoya, baya kuthi ngentliziyo iphela ndiyakukhuthaza ukuyilungiselela.
Kwaye ukuba ungatshintsha ingqondo yakho ekuhambeni kwexesha, ngekhe ibe ngabo bathi 'ndikuxelele njalo', baya kuba ngabokuvuyisana nawe ngokukunika eyona nto ifanelekileyo.
22. Baza Kukuxolela (Phantse) Nantoni na
Olunye lweempawu ezibaluleke kakhulu kumhlobo olungileyo kukuba baya kwenza konke abanako ukukuxolela xa usenza okungalunganga ngabo. Baza kuzama ukuqonda izizathu zokwenza kwakho njengoko wenze, baya kuthetha nawe ngayo, kwaye baya kuzama ukukunceda ukusombulula naziphi na iingxaki onokuba ujongene nazo.
Oko akutsho ukuba baya kukuvumela ukuba uhambe nantoni na. Kuyenzeka ukuba ubutshabalalise ubuhlobo kunye nesenzo esinye, nokuba ziyinyani kangakanani kwaye zinzulu kangakanani.
Banokukuxolela ngento oyenzileyo nokuba bagqiba kwelokuba bahlukane.
indlela yokuxelela ukuba umfazi uyathandwa kuwe kodwa uyayifihla
23. Unomdla wokwenene wokubabona
Ngaba ukhe walungiselela ukudibana nomntu ekuthiwa ngumhlobo wakho, kodwa ngasese unethemba lokuba baya kurhoxisa? Ukuba kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba awubaleli njengomnye wabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni.
Xa ucwangcisa ukubona umhlobo wokwenene, kwelinye icala, uyonwaba ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomzimba ngenxa yoko. Kwaye ukuba kuya kufuneka barhoxise nangasiphi na isizathu, uziva uphoxeke kabuhlungu yiyo.
24. Awuziva Unetyala Ngokujika Isimemo Esivela Kubo
Njengokungaqhelekanga njengokuvakalayo, ukuba uziva unetyala xa ungafuni ukuya kumsitho womhlobo, ngekhe ube kufutshane njengoko ucinga.
Amathuba kukuba uya kuba nexhala lokuba bangakuthatha njani ukwaliwa kwakho kunye nento abaya kuyicinga ngawe ngenxa yayo. Ukrokrela ukuba banokuba nengqumbo okanye bafumane uhlobo oluthile lokuthuka kuyo kwaye yile nto eya kubangela iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala. Inokude ikutyhalele ekwenzeni izinto obungathanda ukungazenzi - akunakuba luphawu lobuhlobo.
Kwelinye icala, xa umhlobo wokwenene ekumemela kwinto ethile kwaye uziva unesidingo sokwala, kuhlala kukho ukuqonda ukuba baya kukuqonda ngaphandle kwemiqathango. Uyazi, nzulu, ukuba abayi kuyibamba ngokuchasene nawe okanye bazive ngokwahlukileyo ngawe okanye ngobuhlobo bakho.
25. Uziva Ukhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubabuze ubabalo
Ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo emva kwinqanaba lokuba umntu azimisele ukunceda, ukuba ungavuya ukucela umntu ubabalo, kukho lonke ithuba olithathela ingqalelo njengomntu osenyongweni.
Kungenxa yokuba uqinisekile ukuba bazakwenza nantoni na abanokuyenza ukukunceda kwaye ngenxa yokuba bengazokwazi ukunceda, awuyi kuyithatha njengokugatywa. Ukuba ucela umntu oqhelene naye ukuba ancede kwaye bathi hayi, ungashiyeka uzibuza ukuba zithini izizathu zabo.
