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Ukuba ukhe wathandana nomnxibelelanisi we-narcissist, uyazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba kunzima kangakanani na ukuqhawula ubudlelwane bakho nabo. Ezo zinomtsalane, ii-jerks ezikhohlisayo zibonakala ngathi ziyazi nje ukuba ngawaphi amaqhosha ekucofa kuwo ukuze uzive ngathi uyilungu lokuncama umanyano lwakho, kwanasemva kokuba bekubeke kumanqanaba angaphezulu esihogo ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba ubuya kuchaza .
Ukuqhawuka kunokwenzeka, nangona kunjalo, ngakumbi ukuba uyazi ngamaqhinga aphambili ama-narcissists aza kuwasebenzisa ukuzama ukukugcina ebomini babo. Ulwazi ngamandla, kwaye ukuba uyayibona le ndlela yokuziphatha, ungayikhupha izixhobo, uyiphephe, kwaye ubasuse aba bantu ebomini bakho ngokulungileyo.
Nazi iindawo ezi-5 zokuloba eziqhelekileyo abaqeshwe ngabakwa-narcissist ukukuhenda ukuba ubabuyisele kwakhona:
1. Ukuhamba ngaphezulu
Masithi ukwazile ukusika amaqhina kunye ne-narcissist ex yakho. Uye wagcina ukuthula kwirediyo, uqale ukubeka ubomi bakho kwakhona… kwaye ngaphandle kwendawo, baphinde babuyela ekunxibelelaneni nomyalezo okhaba nje kuwe.
Mhlawumbi bevile ukuba umzali wakho usweleke kwaye bakuthumelela imiyalezo bekwazisa nje ukuba bathumela amazwi abo ovelwano. Okanye mhlawumbi ufumana inqaku elineenyembezi elifakwe emnyango wakho apho bakhalela khona ukwaphuka kwabo kwaye bathi nguwe kuphela kwento elungileyo eyakhe yenzeka ebomini babo, kwaye bayazisola ngokuba ne f * cked izinto phakathi wena.
Njengomatshini wakho ococekileyo wokucoca, oku kukunxibelelana okufuneka kukumunce kwiwebhu yabo.
Ukuba uzivulile kulo mntu, bayabazi ubuthathaka bakho. Bayayazi into eyenza ukuba uphawule, kwaye njengombulali oqeqeshwe kakuhle, bayazazi iindawo ezibuthathaka abanokujolisa kuzo ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo: kule meko, ukukubuyisa ngandlela thile.
Ngawo onke amathuba, abafuni ukuvuselela ubudlelwane nawe-bafuna ukuzibonisa ukuba banokuba nawe ukuba bafuna njalo, ukuze bafunxe amandla akho ukuze bathuthuzise imidlalo yabo ye-ego okwexeshana ngaphambi kokulahla kwakhona.
Eyona midlalo ilungileyo ye-2016
2. Ukuqiniswa okungapheliyo
Uyakhumbula xa izinto zazimnandi ngenene ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho? Ngaphambi kokuba yonke into iye kwi-sh * t? Xa wawusehlabathini labo, ilanga labo, iinkwenkwezi zabo? Ngaphambi kwayo yonke into ubacaphukisile? Zizo ezo nkumbulo ukuba i-narcissist izakuyibamba ukuze ikubuyisele umva.
Khawufane ucinge ngenja ekhatywa ngumnini wayo iipesenti ezingama-95 zexesha, kodwa iipesenti ezi-5 eziseleyo, zifumana ukukhathalelwa nokunyangwa kunye nothando. Inja iyakukunyamezela ukukhaba ngenxa yenkumbulo yokuba kwakumnandi kangakanani xa babenamaxesha okuthandwa ngokwenyani, kwaye nje nge-narcissist iyakukuphatha ngokungakhathali ixesha elininzi, banokukujonga ngokuthobekileyo ngoku, indlela omhle ngayo, nendlela abafanelwe ngayo ngumntu omangalisayo njengawe.
Obu buchule busebenza ngakumbi ukuba unokuzithemba okuphantsi, kuba iimpumlo ezincinci zobubele zinje ngee-oases zethemba kwinto engenye yintlango ye sh * te. Ukuba kwaye nini la maxesha ayenzeka, zikhumbuze ngobubi obukhulu obenzekayo lonke ixesha, kunye nendlela la maxesha adlulayo eneneni awenzi ngayo ngendlela abakuphatha kakubi ngayo. Phrinta imiyalezo ebhaliweyo kunye ne-imeyile kwaye uyixhome eludongeni ngezikhumbuzo ezikhawulezileyo, ukuba uyafuna.
Kwaye ufunde eli nqaku libalaseleyo ukufunda okungakumbi malunga nendlela yokuqinisa okwenziwa rhoqo.
3. Izithembiso zotshintsho (Ubuxoki buxoka)
Umntu obukhe wathandana naye, kodwa ngenceba ukhululekile okwexeshana, ngequbuliso nge-imeyile okanye ngetekisi ukuba akwazise ukuba bakunyango.
Baye baqonda ukuba bafuna uncedo. Bafuna ukutshintsha. Bathatha amanyathelo okwenza njalo, kwaye enye yezinto abafuna ukuyilungisa yindlela abakuphathe kakubi ngayo.
… Kwaye nantso intliziyo yakho ihamba, kuba ubukhathalele lo mntu ngokuqatha (kwaye mhlawumbi usenza njalo), kwaye baqhubekile nje kuloo ndawo ithambileyo entliziyweni yakho ehlala inethemba (bathandaza, baphupha) ukuba bazokuvuka kwaye ube ngoyena mntu ubusazi ukuba banokuba njalo.
Into kukuba bayazi kakuhle ukuba inokusebenza njani le hook, yiyo loo nto beyisebenzisa. Yinto crock ye-sh * t, ewe, kodwa licebo elilungileyo lokulahla kuba libhenela kuvelwano novelwano lwakho.
Olunye ufundo olufanelekileyo lwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka apha ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Uthando lweBhombu: Umqondiso osisilumkiso kwangethuba wokuba uthandana neNarcissist
- Izinto ezi-8 i-Narcissist ayinakuze ikwenzele yona (okanye nabani na ongomnye)
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- Ungamenzakalisa njani uNarcissist
- I-4 Ngokunyaniseka Inokunyaniseka Izinto Abantu Abasindileyo Kwimpatho-mbi ye-Narcissistic Bafuna Ukuthetha Kubahlukumezi Babo
4. Ndihlangule!
Enye into enokuthi igwebe kumongo wakho kwaye ikubuyisele umva xa into oyithandayo ngaphambili isengozini ngequbuliso. Mhlawumbi ubudlelwane babo obutsha (ekucingelwa) bujikile babaxhaphaza, kwaye bafuna ukhuseleko lwakho okanye amandla okubakhupha kuyo. Mhlawumbi bathathe iziyobisi, okanye babanjwa, okanye bazifumana bekwenye imeko eyoyikisayo kwaye nguwe wedwa umntu emhlabeni abanokumthemba kwaye bathembele kuye xa bekwindawo embi kangaka nceda uncede uncede …ndiyacela.
Ukusebenza, akunjalo? Ngokusisiseko u-f * cked nokuba yeyiphi na indlela: ukuba uza kubanceda, ubuyile umva kwi-vortex yabo emnyama yokwenza izinto ezoyikisayo kwaye wonke umjikelo uya kuqala ngokutsha. Ukuba awubancedi, uya kuziva ungoyena mntu uneentliziyo ezibandayo ngokubashiya xa benethuba lokuba sesichengeni kwaye bafikelele kuwe (kuwe! BANOKUTHANDA ngokwenene!). Ngapha koko, ukuba awubancedi xa baphosa ulayini wokuloba ukuze baphinde bakubuyisele, ungazifumana ujongene ...
5. Amaphulo eSmear
Abanye abantu bakhetha ukubuyela kwiqabane lokuziphatha kakubi ukuze bazibonakalise (kunye nabanye) ukuba ayingomntu otyhafisayo, oxhaphazayo… yindlela le narcissist ekhethe ukuyipeyinta ngayo emva kokwahlukana.
Ukuba i-ex-narcissistic ex yakho ibinxibelelana nesangqa sakho sentlalo kwaye ubabalisela amabali othusayo malunga nendlela obakhohlakele ngayo emva koko wabashiya, uza kujongeka njengoyena mntu ubalaseleyo emhlabeni. Unokuzifumanisa ungumkhenkce kubomi babantu, okanye unciphiswe ngabantu ongabaziyo ngokupheleleyo ngezenzo ongazenzanga, okanye ozenzileyo ukuze uzisindise.
Njengokuhamba.
Kule meko, unokuba nguwe ozama ukuphinda wenze unxibelelwano kunye ne-narcissist, ukuze uhlengahlengise umbono wokuba ungumntu owoyikekayo. Ungazifumana ucela uxolo kubo ngokubenza bazive kakubi xa ubabizela ukuxhatshazwa kwabo. Unokugcuma kwaye ubuze ithuba lesibini emva kokuba ubenobuganga bokumka ukukhanyisa kwabo ngegesi kunye nokungahoywa.
indlela yokukhetha phakathi kwamakhwenkwe amabini
Ukuba bakubona kufanelekile ngokwaneleyo, banokuthi bakwenzele imbeko yokukuvumela ukuba ubuyele ebomini babo, apho umjikelo wonke uza kuqala khona. Ayizukuba mnandi lonto?
Xa kuziwa kuma-narcissists, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba bayindlela abayiyo kuba bayalimaza. Bonakalisiwe, kwaye isimilo sabo sivela kwindawo yomonakalo omkhulu wangaphakathi. Akunqabile ukuba i-narcissist ingatshintsha, kodwa ungagwetywa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba baya kwenzakalisa uninzi lwabantu abavumela ukuba basondele kubo.
Ukuba uyamthanda u-narcissist, kulungile: unobubele, mhlawumbi umntu onovelwano ebefuna ukunceda umntu ocacileyo ukuba usezintlungwini. Kodwa kufuneka uzithande ngakumbi, kwaye ufumane isihogo ngaphambi kokuba uphele ukonakala ngakumbi kunabo.
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Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
