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Ukuba awuzange ube nakuluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist-yiba lolo thando okanye ngenxa yokuba unelungu losapho- zithathe njengethamsanqa kakhulu.
I-narcissism yenye yezona zinto zinobuntu obunetyhefu umntu anokuba nayo, kwaye inokwenza umonakalo omkhulu kubantu ababangqongileyo. Ubomi babo bujikeleze iimfuno zabo kunye neemfuno zabo, indlela abanye abantu ababathanda ngayo, kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa abanye abantu ukuba benze eyabo indlela.
Apha ngezantsi kukho imizekelo embalwa yeentlobo zezinto abanokuthi bangazenzeli abantu abenza izinto ezingekho mthethweni, kungasathethwa ke ngomntu abathi bayamkhathalela.
1. Nika i-Sh * t malunga nendlela oziva ngayo
AmaNarcissist aya kwenzakalisa kwaye onakalise abo basondeleyo kubo ngaphezu kokuba beza kuqonda, kwaye eyona ndawo imbi kukuba abaniki sh * t.
Abakwazi.
Ngokwenene abanakho ukunika ityuwa enye f * ck malunga nokuba luhlobo luni lweentlungu abazibangela abo babathandayo, kwaye ke ngaphandle kokuba abo basondeleyo kubo bathathe inyathelo lokuzihlukanisa, umjikelo wokuxhatshazwa kunye neentlungu ziya kuqhubeka ngonaphakade.
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Abo bakhetha ukuhlala banokuziqhelanisa nengcinga yokuba abavumelekanga ukuveza ezabo iimvakalelo. Kuya kufuneka bahambe phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda ukugcina i-narcissist yonwabile, kwaye ke bayeke ukubahlasela ngandlela thile.
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Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba uthi bayakukhathaza, baya kujika bakwenze uzive njengomntu ombi ngokubacaphukisa ngokutsho njalo.
2. Yiba nomdla kwiingxaki zakho
Ngokukrakra, azinjalo. Ukubaxelela malunga nezinto ezikukhathazayo okanye ezikukhathaza kubomi bakho buqu ziya kugxothwa okanye zingakhathalelwa, kwaye baya kuthi kwangoko baqalise kwi-diatribe ngazo zonke izinto ezikhohlakeleyo abajongana nazo.
Iingxaki zakho zezi iyadika .
Ukuba umxholo awubabandakanyi okanye ujikeleze kubo, kutheni le nto uthetha isihogo? Lo ayinguye umntu onokuya kuye ukufumana intuthuzelo okanye isiqinisekiso ngayo nantoni na. Ngaba ukhathazekile malunga nengxaki yezempilo? I-OMG, ukukrala kwabo okuncinci kubuhlungu kwaye kubi kakhulu kunayo nantoni na ojongana nayo. Ukwahlukana okungalunganga? Ngaba bakuxelele malunga nomhla owoyikekayo ababenayo kwiveki ephelileyo?
Yonke into imalunga nabo, ngalo lonke ixesha, ke ukuba uza konwaba nabo konke konke, unokuhle nje uqhele loo nto kwaye udlale kunye.
3. Cela uxolo
Ukuba ukhonkxa i-narcissist kwaye ubanyanzele ukuba bavume ukuba benze into ebabazekayo kuwe, sukulindela ukuba baxolise. Ithuku labo lokuqala liya kuba kukukhanyisa ngerhasi - zama ukwenza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba uyaphambana, okanye ukhumbule izinto ezingalunganga - ukuze bakhululwe kuwo onke amatyala. Ukuba eyabo ukukhanyisa ngegesi ayisebenzi, baya kuhamba ngokuzikhusela kwaye bazame ukuhambisa incoko kwinto oyenzileyo engalunganga.
Ukuba ngommangaliso othile ufumana uxolo, luyakuba sisiqingatha-esile, bitchy, kwaye unganyaniseki. Cinga ngale migca:
“NDIXOLILE, kulungile? Ngoku uza kuthula? ”
Okanye
'Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ubuthathaka kwaye uthathe yonke into ngendlela engeyiyo.'
Khumbula, akukho nto iphosakeleyo bayenzileyo. Bafezekile kwaye bayamangalisa kwaye ukuba unengxaki ngento abayenzileyo, konke oko kukuphezu kwakho.
4. Yenza ukuba uzive wonwabile ngesiqu sakho
AmaNarcissist athambekele ekuzameni ukuzenza akhanye ngokubeka abanye phantsi, ngakumbi kwindawo kawonke-wonke. Baza kuhlala bengabahlobo kwabo bacinga ukuba abathandeki kangako kunaye ukuze babe ziziko lokuqwalaselwa naphina apho baya khona, kwaye baya kwenza inyoka, Ukuba nomsindo Amagqabantshintshi kwabo babizwa ngokuba ngabahlobo babo. Oku kuncipha kubenza bazive banamandla, njengoko zimbalwa izinto i-narcissist engazithandiyo nokuba ikweyiphi na indawo kodwa ephezulu kwiphiramidi.
njani ukuba intombazana iyakuthanda
Ngelixa uphumileyo esidlweni, umntu osebenzisa iziyobisi unokubeka izimvo kukhetho lokutya lomlingane, ebuza ukuba bayazidinga ngokwenene iikhalori ezininzi, ejonga indlela ezizinxiba ngayo iimpahla zabo. Okanye, xa bejikelezwe liqela, banokubamba into yomnye wabo 'bahlobo' kwaye babazise ukuba bayayiboleka, besazi ukuba umntu uya kuziva engakhululekanga ephikisa ngaphandle kokubonakala ngathi li-esile. Ukuba umntu uyacaphuka, i-narcissist iya kuwaqengqisa amehlo kwaye ibatyhole ngokungakhathali. Kwakukho nje isiqhulo , Yintoni.
Izithuba ezihambelanayo (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Uthando lweBhombu: Umqondiso osisilumkiso kwangethuba wokuba uthandana neNarcissist
- Ngaba Uyaphazama iMachiavellianism yeNarcissism?
- Ukuqinisekisa ngokunyanga amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa
5. Baphendule ngezenzo zabo
… Kuba akukho nto iyimpazamo kubo. Khumbula?
Nawuphi na umba ababandakanyeka kuwo onokuthi uye esihogweni uye wadutyulwa ukuze atshintshe ngenxa yempazamo yomnye umntu - hayi eyabo. Obo budlelwane bangaphambili obuye basilela kabuhlungu? Ewe, kungenxa yokuba babethandana nabantu aboyikekayo abangazange babathande ngokwenyani okanye bangabaxabisi. Ngaba kukho into ehamba kakubi emsebenzini? Kungenxa yokuba abantu abasebenza nabo bengaziphathi kakuhle. Balibele ukuya kwintlanganiso ebalulekileyo yabazali / yootitshala? Ewe, kufanele ukuba ubakhumbuze: awunakulindela ukuba bakhumbule yonke into, akunjalo?
AbakwaNarcissists abanako, ngekhe, bathathe uxanduva nakuphi na ukungalunganga, kuba ezingqondweni zabo, abenzi nto iphosakeleyo. Ngoyena mntu ulungileyo, umsebenzi olungileyo, iqabane / iqabane eligqibeleleyo, ke ukuba kukho nantoni na ebomini babo engahambi kakuhle, yimpazamo yomnye umntu emhlabeni ngaphandle kweyakhe.
6. Kukuxhasa ngokweemvakalelo
Ukwenza abanye bazive ngathi sh * t malunga nabo yeyona nto i-narcissist iyenza kakuhle, ke sukulindela ukuba banikele ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lwenkxaso yeemvakalelo xa uyidinga. Ukuba i-narcissist liqabane lakho lothando, yazi ukuba ukulawula abanye abantu kwaye ubenze bazive bengenamandla kwaye bengenakuzinceda yinto eqhelekileyo phakathi kwezo mpahla.
Emva koko, nje ukuba ube sisidalwa esingenamandla, esingenakuzinceda esidalile, baya kukuphatha ngendelelo yokuba buthathaka kunye nosweleyo.
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7. Yixabise into Obenzela yona
Ukuba ubandakanyeka kwezothando kunye ne-narcissist (unesibindi, umphefumlo olahlekisiweyo) kwaye wenze izicwangciso zokubakhupha ngaphandle kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, iintyatyambo zisiwe etafileni, kwaye ukhethe iwayini entle, njl. Endaweni yokubonisa nawuphina umlinganiselo wombulelo, bayakukhalaza ngelithi ngebakhethe enye irestyu, iintyatyambo aziyizithandwa zabo, kwaye bekufanele ukuba uyi-odile iPinot Noir endaweni kaMalbec. Ncwina.
Iimvakalelo neengcinga ezisemva kokuthinta komzimba wakho azinamsebenzi bakhathalele kuphela iimfuno zabo kunye neemfuno zabo, kwaye intle kakhulu yonke into oyenzayo iya kuba iphosakele, ngandlela thile. Ukuba bayangxama ngento obanike yona xa bengayithandi, uya kuba nakho ukuxelela ukuba bayayenza, kwaye unokuqiniseka ukuba baya kukucela enye into abayifunayo malunga neeyure ezi-3.
8. Ndiyakuthanda
Hayi ncma. Banokuziva zizinto ezithile, kodwa uthando lwabo kuwe luya kujikeleza kuphela kwinto onokubenzela yona, kwaye njani wena yenza kubo zive. Ukuba bayaziphatha ngokungathi bayakuthanda, kungenxa yokuba abanye abantu baya kuzuza ukuze bamangaliswe kwaye bachukunyiswe kukungazingci kunye nokuzinikela kweqabane lakho. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba abaphulaphuli babo bemkile, ingqalelo yabo kunye nothando lwabo luyakunyamalala ngokunjalo, kwaye baya kubuyela ekubeni ngabantu babo abathandabuzekayo, abazidlayo emva kweengcango ezivaliweyo.
Ukuba kwintsebenziswano yothando kunye ne-narcissist kunokubangela umonakalo ongathethekiyo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo, ke ukuba uyayiqonda nayiphi na kwezi mpawu kumntu othandana naye, yazi kakuhle ukuba uhamba emanzini ayingozi kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okuzikhusela.
Ukuba, endaweni yoko, unxulumene narcissist, uzifumanele ugqirha olungileyo onokukunceda ujongane nomsindo, unxunguphalo, kunye nenzondo eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ivele kubudlelwane bosapho nolu hlobo lomxhaphazi. Ngomntu ohambisa iziyobisi, uya kuthi ungaze uphumelele kwimpikiswano , Benze ukuba bayiqonde imbono yakho, okanye banalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obusempilweni nantoni na, kwaye oko kunokuba yinto ebuhlungu ngakumbi xa kusithiwa yi-narcissist ngumzali wakho. Nceda ufumane uncedo, kwaye uhlale womelele.
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