Abantu zizidalwa ezingcolileyo, nakumaxesha amahle. Uninzi lwabantu ngamanye amaxesha luya kufumanisa ukuba iingxaki zabo zopha imida edlulileyo nakubantu ababangqongileyo.
Ubomi buxakekile, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha asazi ukuba sibabeka kangakanani abanye.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kangaka ukuba nemida esempilweni ngokweemvakalelo.
Akukho ngqiqweni ukulindela ukuba abanye abantu bazi ukuba iphi imida yakho ngaphandle kokuba unakho ukunxibelelana kwaye ubanyanzelise.
Ukunyanzeliswa kwemida yakho kubalulekile, nkqu nabantu oqhele ukuba nabo ubudlelwane obuhle. Bona fundisa abanye abantu indlela ozimisele ngayo ukuphathwa nento ozimisele ukujongana nayo.
Ukuba awunyanzelisi imida yakho, abanye abantu baya kuhlala bewela kuba becinga ukuba ulungile kuyo.
Imida esempilweni yeemvakalelo ayincedi kuphela ukukhokela ubudlelwane bakho obuhle, kodwa ziyakukhusela kwizinto ezimbi. Ukuba uyazi kakuhle ukuba awuzimisele ukwenza into ethile, yazisa ngokucacileyo komnye umntu, kwaye bayayenza loo nto? Ewe, emva koko awunanto unokuziva ungonwabanga ngayo xa ugqiba kwelokuba ushiye imeko leyo engasakusebenzi.
Loo mida ikunika amandla okuba ubancede ngcono abantu obakhathaleleyo okanye abanye abantu abasokolayo. Basebenza njengesixhobo sokuzikhusela kumthwalo weemvakalelo kunye nesiphithiphithi sabanye abantu.
Kulula kakhulu ukungena kwisithuba esinengxaki xa imida yakho ihleli. Kulula kakhulu ukubuyela umva ushiye ezo ngxaki apho zikhona.
wazi njani ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile
Yeyiphi imida yeemvakalelo?
Eyona ndlela ilula yokucinga ngomda weemvakalelo yile umgca ocacileyo wento engeyiyo eyakho ukuba ujongane nayo.
Oko kunokuba yinto umntu ozama ukuyibeka kuwe, okanye kunokuba yimeko apho abangaqondi ukuba izenzo zabo zikuchaphazela njani.
Makhe sijonge imizekelo embalwa ukuze ufumane umbono ocacileyo.
Kutshanje uSara uphume kubudlelwane obubi apho waqhathwa khona. Kumenze waziva engakhuselekanga kwaye enexhala lokuba iqabane lakhe elitsha, uJacob, naye uza kumkhohlisa. Olo xinzelelo lunokubonakalisa njengoSarah efuna ukuhlala esazi ukuba uphi uYakobi, ufuna ukujonga kwifowuni yakhe, okanye ukujonga kwimithombo yeendaba zakhe ukukhangela imikhondo ebonisa ukungathembeki.
Uxinzelelo lukaSarah lunokuba sengqiqweni kwimeko yokuba engekaqhubeki kwaye aphilise kumonzakalo owabangelwa bubudlelwane bakhe bangaphambili. Okwangoku, akukho sengqiqweni ngendlela yokwenza ubudlelwane. Umntu onemida esempilweni akazukuvuma ukuphathwa ngoluhlobo. Ukuthembana sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye izenzo zikaSara zibonisa ukuba akathembi iqabane lakhe.
wwe eluhlaza ngoMvulo ebusuku iziphumo eziluhlaza
Imida kaYakobi iya kunceda ekuchazeni indlela uSara amphatha ngayo. Unokungavumi ukukhangelwa, vumela ifowuni yakhe ihlolwe, okanye asete imithombo yeendaba zakhe ngasese. Unokukhetha ukuxhasa uSarah kwaye amkhuthaze ukuba afumane uncedo olufanelekileyo lokuphilisa kumava akhe angaphambili.
Unokugqiba ekubeni ayongxaki yakhe, akafuni kujongana nayo, kwaye ahlukane nayo. Unokukhetha ukwahlukana naye ukuba uyala ukubona ingxaki okanye uyayivuma ingxaki kodwa akazukuyisebenza.
Ngokufanelekileyo, uYakobi wayekulungele ukunceda nokuxhasa uSarah njengoko esebenza ngayo, kodwa abanye abantu abafuni ukuyenza loo nto, kwaye lukhetho lwabo olo.
USarah akangomntu ombi, kananjalo noYakobi. Unolwalamano lokuxhalaba oludlulileyo ekufuneka alilungisile ngaphambi kokuba abe liqabane elithembayo kubudlelwane obunothando kwakhona. Imida kaJacob ikhona ukumkhusela kwiimvakalelo ezinzulu zikaSara kunye nokunye.
Ngamanye amaxesha ayimsulwa kangako, nangona. Makhe sijonge komnye umzekelo apho imida yeemvakalelo iyimfuneko nge Umzali onetyhefu .
Umama kaLindsey, uJennifer, ngumchasi obekade exhaphaza kwaye exhaphaza abantu abamngqongileyo ekubeni angenise ukusukela oko uLindsey wayeyintombazana encinci. ULindsey uye wajongana nesabelo sakhe esilungileyo sobundlongondlongo bukanina kunye nokukhohlisa ukumgcina elawulwa ngokulula. Emva kwethutyana, uLindsey uqala ukuqonda imeko kamama wakhe kwaye ufuna ukwenza imida esempilweni kunye nonina.
Ekwenzeni lukhuni imida yakhe yeemvakalelo, uLindsey akanakufane abe lixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala ngunina kunye nokuxhatshazwa. ULindsey uyayiqonda into yokuba ingqumbo kaJennifer ikhona kuphela ukubangela uloyiko nokumnyanzela ukuba enze isenzo. ULindsey uyaqonda ukuba amazwi kaJennifer okudumisa ayize kwaye athetha ukumchaphazela kuphela, hayi ukumakha.
Nje ukuba uLindsey aqonde ukuba umama wakhe usebenza njani kwaye uyala ukwamkela ingqumbo, ububele bobuxoki, okanye ubundlobongela obusetyenziswa ngunina ukumxhaphaza, ekugqibeleni angaqonda ukuba isenzo sikanina besingakhange silungele yena. ULindsey ngoku uyazi ukuba izenzo zikaJennifer zazizuzisa uJennifer kuphela.
Imida yeemvakalelo ukwahlula okucacileyo kwinto oyichasayo xa kuthelekiswa nelinye ilizwe.
Ubeka njani imida esempilweni ngokweemvakalelo?
Isenzo sokubeka imida esempilweni ngokweemvakalelo sihla ngokubeka wena kuqala. Oko kukuhlonipha ukuba ungubani njengomntu, ubuwena, ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo onayo, yintoni oyifunayo, iinjongo zakho, iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye kulungile ukuba ube nguwe.
Umda weemvakalelo ophilileyo ayisiyiyo yonke into okanye-ayikho. Singabantu. Akukho namnye kuthi ogqibeleleyo. Sonke sinendawo yokukhula nokuziphucula. Kulungile komnye umntu ukuba abe noluvo.
Umda weemvakalelo osempilweni awuthethi ukuba ulahle ngokuzenzekelayo zonke izimvo eziphikisanayo. Endaweni yoko, ufuna ukuyichola, uyijonge, ujonge ukuba ingaba iyasebenza na, emva koko uyibeke phantsi.
Le mida uyakhayo kufuneka yenze kube lula ukuyenza loo nto. Kuya kufuneka benze kube lula kuwe ukuba umelane xa abanye abantu bezama ukunyanzela umbono wabo kuwe, njengoko kunokwenzeka kubudlelwane ...
“Owu, kufanele ukuba ube yilento” okanye “Owu, kufuneka uyenze lonto” xa enyanisweni, konke ekufuneka ukwenzile kukuzama ukuba ngumntu ophilileyo kunokuba wawunjalo izolo. Abanye abantu banokucinga ukuba bayayazi eyona nto ilungele wena, kanti abazi. Kuya kufuneka uzifumanele ngokwakho.
uyenza njani iyure ngokukhawuleza
Zininzi iindawo ezahlukeneyo apho imida yeemvakalelo ingena khona kunye nemizekelo engapheliyo kwezi ndawo. Ezi ndawo kunye nemizekelo ibandakanya:
Ixesha -Ungazibopheleli kakhulu, kwaye musa ukuzibophelela kwizinto ongafuniyo ukuzenza.
- Cela uncedo ungaziva unetyala.
- Yabela abanye abantu imisebenzi xa unokuninzi kakhulu ekufuneka ukwenzile.
- Yithi hayi ebantwini kuba awufuni kuyenza loo nto okanye awunalo ixesha lokwenza into.
- Thatha ixesha lakho ngokwakho ukubuyisela iziko kunye nokulinganisa kwakhona ngaphandle kwetyala.
Buqu - sukuvuma okanye wamkele isimilo esingakuhloniphiyo.
- Sukuvumela abantu baxoke, bakuxhaphaze, okanye bakukhohlise.
- Thetha phezulu xa uziva ukuba iimfuno zakho azifezekiswa.
- Musa ukwamkela uxanduva, ityala, okanye ucele uxolo ngezenzo zomnye umntu.
- Xabisa umbono wakho kunye namava.
Ubudlelwane -Ungamkeli ngokuqhubekekayo okubi okanye ukungazihloniphi.
- Musa ukulinda ujikeleze kubantu abangenakubonakala ngexesha okanye bahloniphe ukuzibophelela kwabo.
- Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho nabantu abanqwenelekayo.
- Ungavumeli iqabane ukuba likunyanzelise okanye likwenze ukuba wenze izinto ongafuni kuzenza.
- Sukuvumela ezinye iingxaki zabantu ukuba zilawule ubomi bakho.
ndiyazi njani ukuba uyandithanda
Into emnandi malunga nokuseta kunye nokuba nemida esempilweni yeemvakalelo kukuba kugcina abantu kude abangayi kubahlonipha.
Ixesha ophulukene nalo uzama ukwenza ukuba unxibelelwano olubi lusebenze lixesha lokuba uzuze ukwenza ubudlelwane obutsha nabantu abasempilweni.
Ikwangumbane omkhulu weemvakalelo ongasathululi ngaphandle kokuphalaza kuwe.
Musa ukulindela ukuseta imida ukuba ibe yinkqubo egudileyo okanye engenabuhlungu, nokuba. Ukuseka kwakhona imida kunye nabantu ebomini bakho kunokubangela iimpikiswano kunye neengxabano, kwaye kulungile. Ungquzulwano yinxalenye yendalo yokunxibelelana kwabantu.
Into ebalulekileyo yindlela abasabela ngayo kuyo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ukuba bayakuhlonipha, bayakuhlonipha ukukhula kwakho kunye nomnqweno wokuba ngumntu osempilweni. Kungathatha ukuqheleka, kodwa baya kuzama ubuncinci.
Ukuba abazami, kulungile, ke lixesha lokuba uvavanye ngokwenene ukuba ingaba olu ubudlelwane obufunekayo ebomini bakho.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuyenza njani ngokubeka imida esempilweni ngokweemvakalelo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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