Imida yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni.
Okumangalisa kukuba, awuva abantu abaninzi bethetha ngokuhlonipha eminye imida xa usebenza uziphucula.
Ewe kunjalo, akhona amaxesha apho sonke sinetyala lokungahloniphi imida yabanye.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngubani ofuna ukuliva ilizwi hayi ? Hayi yeyokwaliwa, kwaye ukwaliwa kunokuba nzima ukufumana ukuba uyithatha njengengcaciso yakho.
'Hayi' yomnye umntu ayisiyo inkcazo ngento oyiyo kwaye ayikho. Ingxelo nje 'yale meko ayilunganga kum.'
umfana wam ubeka umntwana wakhe phambi kwam
Oko kukwazisa ukuba kufuneka ulungise indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuze ulunge okanye ujonge ukuzalisekisa loo mfuno kwenye indawo.
Imida ibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obusempilweni ngenxa yokuba iyanceda ukunxibelelana noko umntu ekhululekile kuko.
Awufuni ukwenza umntu azive engonwabanga okanye engahlonitshwanga, ngakumbi umntu ofuna ukusondela kuye.
Ke kulungile ukuqonda ukuba ujonge ntoni kwaye usabele njani kwimida yomnye umntu.
1. Nxibelelana ngokucacileyo kwaye ubuze imibuzo.
Unxibelelwano olucacileyo lubalulekile ekuqondeni ukuba yeyiphi na imida yomnye umntu.
Nika ingqalelo kwindlela abasabela ngayo kuwe xa bencokola kunye nolwimi lwabo lomzimba. Ngaba baphila kamnandi? Ngaba zijongeka ngathi zivaliwe? Ngaba banika izizathu zokuphelisa incoko okanye ukufudukela kwenye indawo?
Ukuba awuqinisekanga, buza imibuzo. Banike ithuba lokuchaza umda wabo, ukuze wazi ukuba uyangenelela okanye hayi.
Kubudlelwane obusekiwe, unxibelelwano luya kuhlala luqhubeka njengoko nobabini ningena komnye. Uya kufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi imida, kodwa unokufuna ukucacisa amaxesha ngamaxesha.
2. Yamkele le nto athetha ngayo omnye umntu.
Ukwamkela into ethetha ngomnye umntu njengokusemthethweni kunokuba nzima ukuba awuyijwayelanga le meko, ngakumbi ukuba iqhelekile kuwe.
UJohn cena uthetha ngeememes
Umda usenokungabinangqondo kuwe, usenokude uvakale ngathi usisidenge, kodwa ke ingumda wabo kwaye kufuneka uhlonitshwe.
Ukuba uziva ungenako okanye ungafuni, emva koko kunokuba lukhetho olungcono ukwahlukana nomntu kwaye uye komnye umntu ohambelana ngakumbi noko ukufumanisa kwamkelekile.
Njengomzekelo…
UJohn wakhulela kwikhaya apho ukugcoba kunye ne-banter ziqhelekile. Intsapho yakhe yayiya kukhetha kancinci njengophawu lothando nentlonipho, kodwa ingaze ibe nomoya wobubi.
UJohn ubamboze umhlobo wakhe omtsha, uLucas, okhubekisayo xa embamba. U-Lucas wakhulela kwindawo apho kwakungekho ndawo yokudlala, kuphela ukuxhatshazwa okukhohlakeleyo.
U-Lucas akayifumani imbumbulu ehlekisayo kwaphela, kwaye kuyamcaphukisa ukuba lo mhlobo mtsha ukhohlakele kuye, ke yena uthi akaluxabisi olo hlobo lwe-banter.
Phezulu, uJohn usenokungamazi kakuhle uLucas ngokwaneleyo ukuba azi ukuba kutheni engakufumani ukubhanti okumnandi okanye ukubopha. U-Lucas usenokungamazi kakuhle u-John ngokwaneleyo ukuba azive ekhululekile ukutyhila isizathu sakhe kuye.
Indlela elungileyo iya kuba yeyokuba uJohn ayamkele loo ngxelo, axolise ngokubangela naliphi na ityala, kwaye angaphindi abhikishe noLucas. Kodwa loo nto ifuna ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo egameni likaJohn kuba abantu abaninzi banokucinga ukuba uLucas yintonga engenangqondo eludakeni.
UJohn angahlonipha uLucas njengomntu ngokungalahli isigwebo kwimida kaLucas, amkele umda, kwaye angaxumi kwizigqibo zokuba kutheni loo mda ukhona.
3. Hlonipha ukuzimela kwabanye abantu.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu badlula imida kuba becinga ukuba babazi ngcono ubomi bomnye umntu. Banokuba nomnqweno wokwenene wokukhusela noncedo, kodwa banokunyathela kwimida yomnye umntu ukuba benze oko.
Ingxaki ngale ndlela, ngaphandle kokophula imida yomntu, kukuba igcina umntu ekuphuhliseni izakhono kunye namava aza kuyidinga ekuqhubeni ubomi babo.
Umzekelo omkhulu wokuziphatha ngumzali wehelikopta. Njengomzali, ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho akhuselwe kububi nakubuqhetseba bobomi. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukukhusela umntwana kobo bubi ngonaphakade.
ndingazonwabisa njani emtshatweni ongonwabanga
Umzali unokufumanisa ukuba bayamhlukanisa nomntwana wabo. Ngokwala into efunwa ngumntwana aze endaweni yayo acinge ukuba yeyona ilungileyo, umntwana uya kuvukela kwaye angamthembi umzali.
Nangona luphawu lomzali olungileyo nothando ukufuna ukuba umntwana wakhe akhuseleke kwaye onwabe, oko akusoloko kunokwenzeka. Baza kujongana nobubi obuthile ebomini. Basenokugula, benze iingozi, benzakaliswe, babe namava amabi, okanye amava abuhlungu.
Umntwana kufuneka afunde ukuba izigqibo zakhe zineziphumo zokukhula njengomntu kwaye zingagqibi ukoyiswa yimiceli mngeni abaza kujongana nayo ebomini.
Oko kunokusebenza nakolunye ulwalamano. Mhlawumbi liqabane oziva unenkxalabo ngalo, umzali osele ekhulile okhulayo ngeminyaka kwaye ekunokwenzeka ukuba akasenzi kakuhle njengangaphambili, okanye umhlobo owenza izigqibo ezimbi rhoqo.
leliphi igama elinamandla kunothando
Mhlawumbi bafuna uncedo, kwaye mhlawumbi abafuni. Kwaye ukuba abenzi njalo, kuya kufuneka uthi ulungile kwaye ubayeke bazimele (becinga ukuba ayibobomi nokufa, okanye umntu akasenako ukuzikhathalela.)
Qhubeka nokusebenza kuwe.
Ukukwazi ukuhlonipha imida yabanye kuvela kwindawo yokhuseleko lomntu kunye nengqibelelo.
Akufanele uve isidingo sokunyanzela abanye okanye ukuwela imida yabo ngaso nasiphi na isizathu. Awunakho ukulawula ukuba abanye baya kwenza ntoni kwaye abayi kuyenza ntoni. Ungazama ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa kungekudala okanye kamva, baya kuphuma phantsi kolawulo ukuze bafune indlela yabo.
Ngokuhlonipha imida yabanye, uya kubonisa kubo ukuba ungumntu othembekileyo nohloniphekileyo. Oko kuyakuvula iingcango zokwakha ubudlelwane obuqine kunye nabantu onqakraza kakuhle kubo, kwaye nabanye awubenzi!
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ayinguye wonke umntu ofuna ukuba ngabahlobo abangcono okanye abasondele kakhulu. Ukuba nesangqa sabahlobo oqhelene nabo okanye osebenza nabo abahlonitshwayo kubalulekile ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uyihloniphe njani imida yabanye ukuba uyasokola kuloo nto? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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