Ukuba ufumanisa uhlala uxelela umntu ukuba umthanda kangakanani, unokuziva ngathi igama liphulukana nentsingiselo yalo.
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Xa uxelela umntu ukuba uyamthanda, ufuna ukuba azi ukuba uthetha ukuthini, kodwa ukuba bayaqhubeka nokukuva, ingaqala ukuziva… unyanzelwe, unganyanisekanga, uphinda-phindo.
Sifumene ezinye iindlela ezithandekayo kwigama elithi 'uthando' ukuze ukwazi ukudibanisa izinto-nokuba kukunye neqabane, umhlobo, okanye ilungu losapho.
La magama asafumana inqaku lokuba uyakhathala, kodwa ungatsho nje ngeendlela ezintsha ukuze intsingiselo ive inyani ngalo lonke ixesha…
1. Ukuzinikela - Ndizinikele kuwe.
Oku kugqitha nje ukuthanda umntu kwaye kubonisa ukuba unikela ngako konke kulo mntu.
Icebisa imvakalelo yexesha elide kwaye ibonisa ukuba utyalomali kulwalamano lwakho, nokuba ngaba liqabane okanye ilungu losapho - okanye nokuba ngumhlobo.
Ukubonisa indlela ozibophelele ngayo kubudlelwane kubonisa inqanaba elinzulu lothando kunye nokukhathalela loo mntu.
Ukwazisa umntu ukuba uzinikele kubo kuya kumnceda azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhuselekile, kwaye exabiseke kakhulu ebomini bakho.
2. Ukuzinikela - Ndizinikezele kubuhlobo bethu.
Ukuthi uzinikele emntwini kubonisa ukuba uzibeka phambili kwaye uzenza into ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Kuthetha ukuba uzakumthatha lo mntu xa usenza izigqibo, kwaye uyamlungiselela ebomini bakho kwaye utshintsha izinto ukuvumela oku kuzinikela kubo kuqhubeke nokuchuma.
Onke amaqanda akho akwibhasikithi yabo yokuzekelisa!
3. Ukholo - ndinokholo kuwe.
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba unokholo kubo yindlela entle nenamandla yokudlula usithi uyabathanda.
Kubonisa ukuba uyakholelwa ngokwenyani kwinto abayenzayo kwaye uyazibophelela kwinjongo yabo, nokuba yeyiphi na. Uyakholelwa ngokwenyani kwinto abazama ukuyiphumeza, kwaye nobabini ninomdla kwaye nityala imali kuyo.
Kubantu abangakumbi bokomoya okanye abakholwayo, le nto inentsingiselo enzulu kuloo ngqondo-kwakhona, uyabonisa ukuba uzibophelele ekukholelweni kubo kwaye unikezela iinkalo zobomi bakho kubo nakwiinkolelo nezenzo zabo.
4. Ukuzibophelela - Ndizimisele kuwe.
Ukuba ujonga enye indlela ‘yothando,’ eli ligama elinokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane elithandanayo, umhlobo, okanye ilungu losapho.
Ibonisa ukuba ubathatha ebomini bakho, kwaye babalulekile kuwe.
Niyabazisa ukuba niyabajonga yonke imihla kwaye nakwizenzo enizenzayo- bayanceda ekubumbeni izigqibo zakho kwaye uyazibona njengentsika ebomini bakho ukwakha yonke enye into ejikeleze.
Ukuzibophelela emntwini kukwabonisa inqanaba lokhuseleko- ucinga ixesha elide kwaye uzimisele malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
5. Ndinebhongo - ndiyazingca ngawe.
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba wenze ukuba ube neqhayiya sesinye sezona zipho zibalaseleyo onokubanika zona.
Kubonisa ukuba utyale imali kwizinto abazenzayo kwaye unika ingqalelo kwinto abayiphumezayo.
Kuhle kakhulu ukwazisa umntu ukuba uyavuya ukubabona bephumelela kwaye ufuna ukubhiyozela oku kunye nabo.
6. Lazise-ndiyalixabisa ixesha lam nawe.
Oku kunamandla kunegama elithi 'uthando' kuba libonisa ukuba ulixabisile kangakanani ixesha lokuchitha nabo.
Iyabazisa ukuba uyonwabele kakhulu inkampani yabo kwaye ujonge ukubabona. Ukuxelela umntu ukubaxabisa yindlela entle yokubazisa ukuba babaluleke kangakanani kuwe.
Kumnandi kakhulu ukuva umntu esithi oku kuwe, kwaye kuya kwenza ukuba abo ubathandayo bazive bebaluleke kakhulu kwaye bethathelwa ingqalelo kukhetho lwakho lobomi nakwikamva.
7. Intlonipho - Ndiyazihlonipha izimvo zakho.
Ukwazisa umntu ukuba uyabahlonipha kubonisa ukuba unomdla wokwenene kwinto abayithethayo kwaye uyayixabisa indlela abacinga nabaziva ngayo.
Ibenza bazive bebonwe kwaye beviwe, kwaye kuya kubanika ukuzithemba ukuze baqhubeke bethembekile kuwe.
Oku kunceda ukwakha unxibelelwano olomeleleyo, olunzulu njengoko kukho indawo yokwenza iimpazamo kunye nokukhula, usazi ukuba niyahloniphana.
Ikwabonisa inqanaba lokuthenjwa - uyazihlonipha izigqibo zabo kwaye uyathemba ukuba benza ezilungileyo!
8. Inkanuko - Ndiyakunqwenela.
Le yenye yamaqabane athandanayo! Ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba uziva unenkanuko kubo kuya kubenza bazive befunwa kwaye benomdla.
Yindlela elungileyo yokunyusa ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye ubakhumbuze ukuba bangabantu besini.
Inokukunceda ukwakha unxibelelwano olomeleleyo phakathi kwenu nobabini, kwaye idlulele ngaphaya komnqweno wenyama.
Zama ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba kutheni ubarhalela- ngaba sisinxibo sabo, kukuhleka kwabo, kukubengezela emehlweni abo?
9.Ndithanda - ndiyakuthanda.
Eli gama liyindlela elungileyo eya 'kuthando' kwaye ngokucacileyo yenza kucace ukuba uthathekile (ngendlela esempilweni!) Nalo mntu.
Oko kuthetha ukuba ucinga nje ukuba yonke into ngabo iyamangalisa kwaye ubathanda ngokwenene, kunokuba ubathande nje.
Ukuthanda umntu kuyafana nokuthatheka, kodwa kuya kungena nzulu kunoko. Kuphantse ukuba kube kukungxama okungathi ngumntwana okukwenza uzive ungonwabanga kwaye unemincili- kwaye yeyiphi indlela engcono yokwenza umntu azi ukuba uyamthanda kunaleyo?
10. Ubuncwane - ndiyalixabisa ixesha kunye nawe.
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba uyabaxabisa okanye ixesha olichithe naye yinto entle onokuyithetha.
Kubakhumbuza ukuba ubabamba ubathanda kakhulu, kwaye ubona ixabiso elikhulu kubo nakwinkampani yabo.
Oku kudlula ukuthanda umntu kwaye kumqinisekisa ngokwenyani ukuba uthetha ukuthini kuwe.
Ubuncwane baziwa ngokucacileyo ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu, ngexabiso eliphezulu kwaye kufunwa kakhulu kwaye kunqabile. Yintoni engcono kunokuba ubhekiswe ngendlela efanayo?
11.Ukusondelelana- ndiyabuthanda ubusondelelo beemvakalelo zethu.
Le yenye yeqabane elithandanayo, kwaye inokusetyenziselwa ukubonisa indlela oziva usondele ngayo kubo.
Uthando ngamanye amaxesha lunokubonwa lubhekisa kwintabatheko okanye inkanuko, kodwa ukusondelelana kuya nzulu kunoko.
Ukusondelana konke malunga nenyani uyabona omnye nomnye kunye nokwabelana ngaphaya komgangatho womhlaba. Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nomntu kubonisa unxibelelwano lokwenyani.
12. Ithemba - Ndithembe wena ngentliziyo yam.
Ithemba alixabiswanga kakhulu kubudlelwane bazo zonke iintlobo.
Uninzi lwethu luziva ngathi ukuthembela kubudlelwane malunga nokuthemba iqabane lakho ukuba lingakuqhathi. Nangona kunjalo, iya ngaphaya koko!
Ukuba nomntu, ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokunyaniseka malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, konke malunga nokumthemba.
Awumyeki umlindi wakho nakubani na, ke ukuxelela umntu ukuba uyamthemba kuthetha ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho unxibelelwano olomeleleyo olwaneleyo apho unokuzintywilisela kubo kwaye ubayeke babe yinxalenye yehlabathi lakho.
Isenokuba ngumhlobo omthembileyo ngemfihlo, iqabane olithembileyo ngentliziyo yakho kunye nokuba sesichengeni kwakho, okanye ilungu losapho omthembileyo kwaye othembele kuye.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuxelela umntu ukuba uyabathemba kukuncoma okukhulu kwaye kudlulela ngaphaya kokubathanda.
13. Ally - Ndilidlelane lakho ebomini.
Ingavakala ngathi inzima, kodwa ukwenza ukuthembana nomntu kubalulekile ukubaxelela ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ufuna ukuzibophelela kubo.
Ibabonisa ukuba usecaleni kwabo kwaye uyakholelwa kubo. Ukuba ngumlingane womntu malunga nokubamela kunye nokuxhasa izimvo zabo, iinkolelo kunye nezenzo zabo.
Ukuxelela umntu olidlelane labo kubazise ukuba ungakwicala labo kwaye unemqolo- yeyiphi indlela ebhetele yokubonisa uthando oluqhubekayo, olungenamiqathango?
14. Ixabiso - ndiyayixabisa inkampani yakho.
Ukuxelela umntu obaxabisileyo okanye inkampani yabo yenye into ebalulekileyo kwigama lothando, kwaye linentsingiselo enzulu.
Ibonisa ukuba zibaluleke kangakanani kuwe, kwaye uyakonwabela kangakanani ukuba phakathi kwazo.
Umntu obona ixabiso kuwe ulungile, unemvakalelo enzulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo yinto esiya kucebisa ukuba sabelane nabantu obathandayo.
15. Ndonwabe- Uyandonwabisa.
Le yintandokazi! Ukuva umntu ekuxelela ukuba uyabonwabisa kufuneka ibe yeyona mvakalelo ibalaseleyo emhlabeni.
Ewe kunjalo, sonke sizenzela ukonwaba kunokuba sithembele komnye umntu ukuba akwenzele oko, kodwa… iseyimvakalelo entle kangaka!
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba bakwenza uncume kwaye uhleke, ukuba bakwenza uzive unomdla kwaye unemincili, ukuba bakwenze ukuba ufune ukudanisa ujikeleze umphunga yinto entle onokuyixelela umntu!
Ndicinga ukuba le iya ngaphaya 'Ndiyakuthanda' kuba ibonisa nje ukuba zinempembelelo enjani kwiimvakalelo zakho.
Mhlawumbi sonke sichaza 'uthando' ngokungafaniyo, kwaye sonke sinamava ahlukeneyo othando kunye namaqabane ahlukeneyo kunye nabahlobo.
Ukonwaba, nangona kunjalo, kukuziva wonwabile kwindalo iphela- kwaye sesona sipho sibalaseleyo onokuthi usinike umntu.
Ukuxelela umntu ukuba bakonwabise yenye indlela engummangaliso endaweni yegama elithi uthando, kwaye kuya kusiba nzulu ngokubaxelela ukuba bakwenza njani zive ngendlela engaphaya kwamagama…
Ke, ngamagama ali-15 anamandla kunothando - nakhona unayo. Inombolo 15 yeyona siyithandayo, yeyiphi eyakho? Zizame, ubone ukuba zeziphi ezisebenzayo kuwe, kwaye ungoyiki ukuxelela abantu obathandayo ukuba uziva njani…
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