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Ziqhelise ukuthi “Molo.” Siza kuqala encinci, iileta ezimbini ezincinci, isilayidi enye emfutshane, phantse akukho nto ngaphandle komphunga.
'Mholweni.'
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Nangona kunjalo lilitye lembombo phantse kuwo onke amalinge abantu abawenzayo ukufikelela komnye nomnye, kubalulekile kubomi bethu bothando, ezopolitiko, imisebenzi, ukuvumelana kosapho, ubuhlobo, amaqabane, nokuba ngabafazi.
'Mholweni.' Abanye bethu bakufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha elo gama ngokucacileyo, ngokucacileyo, kunye namandla obuntu elingenakuphikwa igama liba sisishwankathelo esipheleleyo sedatha esilungele ukukhuphela ngokupheleleyo nangokukhawulezileyo ukufikelela ngokusisigxina kwiprosesa yomnye umntu.
Sifumana kunzima ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Mhlawumbi ukuzithemba kwethu kuphantsi. Mhlawumbi sithandabuza ukuphazamisa. Okanye siyazicombulula ukuba siyazicima.
Mna nawe siza kujongana naloo nto kanye ngoku, ngoku. Siza kuthi hi ebantwini kwaye bazokwazi ukuba kuthiwe sawubona, ngu-gosh, okanye sinokupakisha le nto yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwaye sigoduke!
1. Khwela iBull Mechanical
Ukuthetha sisenzo sokulinganisa ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni.
Zininzi izinto eziguquguqukayo ezilungelelaniswayo ngaxeshanye, ukusuka kubushushu (sithetha ngokukhawuleza xa sibanda kakhulu), kwimpilo yethu ngokubanzi, kwindlela esiphefumla ngayo, kwanezigqibo zethu zentetho zentetho ( ezahluka ngokubanzi kumntu ngamnye).
Singathetha ngokucacileyo ngakumbi kunye nefuthe elikhulu ukuba sizikhathalele ezi zinto zixabisekileyo kwaye sizisebenzise ukuze sizuze.
Ukuphefumla kubalulekile. Xa amagama ebhlokiwe okanye edanyazisiwe, kukho utyekelo lokuwakhupha ngokungathi isantya siya kusombulula ingxaki. Endaweni yoko, thatha umzuzwana, thatha umoya… emva koko uthethe ngokungathi uqinisekile ngomonde womnye umntu.
Kwincoko, kulungile ukulinda (kunye nabanye abantu balinde) amagama.
Abanyangi bokuthetha bacebisa ukuba baphefumle ngokuthamba, okusinceda (a) ukuba sazi indlela yokuphefumla ukuya kwisifuba sethu, (b) siphefumle ngaphambi kokuba siqale ukuthetha, emva koko (c) sitsale kakuhle ngeempumlo zethu kwaye sikhuphe kancinci emlonyeni misela isingqisho phakathi kwengqondo, umlomo, kunye nokusingqongileyo.
ukudikwa ngobomi kufuna utshintsho
Siza kufuna kwakhona Asitshintshi isantya sokuthetha kunye nokunyusa.
Abanye bethu bathetha kancinci, nto yona ngokwayo ayisiyonto imbi, kodwa kufuneka sikwazi 'ukufunda igumbi,' ngokutsho.
Ukuba ingqalelo yabaphulaphuli bethu iyabhadula, isenokungabi nanto ingako inomdla kwinto esiyithethayo nangakumbi malunga nokuba sele befikile esiphelweni sencoko kwaye balindele ukuba sibambe.
Abo bathetha ngokukhawuleza, kwelinye icala, badla ngokuphulukana nabaphulaphuli ngaphambi kokuba siqale.
Bhangqa isantya esingafaniyo kunye nethoni engaguqukiyo, kwaye sinesiphepho esigqibeleleyo senkungu yokunxibelelana.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba, amaxesha amaninzi, asithethi ngokucacileyo kuba sele sizixelele akukho mntu unokumamela nakanjani . Ewe, loo nkungu ayincedi.
I-monotone ifuna ukuba i-goosed, i-fry yezwi isihogo eMhlabeni, ukukhwaza okuphezulu kulungele kuphela iimpuku zekhathuni, kwaye ukukhwaza kuqinisekisa abantu ngokukhawuleza ukuba bavale iindlebe zabo.
Guqula izinto phezulu. Mamela kwiincwadi zomsindo zemizekelo. Bukela iividiyo zabadlali bemidlalo yeqonga kunye nezithethi zezikhombisi. Ayithathi lutshintsho lukhulu kubuntu ukuzisa ubuqili, kodwa utshintsho olubalulekileyo kwithoni nasekuhambiseni.
Okukhona sichonga oomatshini bethu bokuthetha, kokukhona kuya kuncipha ukukhubazeka luloyiko lokuphoswa kwiinkunzi zethu zomlomo ezilindelekileyo.
2. Gxila
Xa sithetha, iingqondo zethu zihlala zihamba kumacala angamashumi amabini ngaxeshanye. Ngaba sijongeka ngathi asonwabanga? Ngaba siyanuka? Ngaba omnye umntu uyanuka, kwaye singahoya njani? Ngaba sinomdla ngokwesondo kuloo mntu? Ngaba banokutsala kuthi ? Loluphi usuku? Ngaba baya kuyazi ukuba siyabathanda Ngorhatya ngaphezu kokuba siye samkela?
Rhoqo, asithethi ukuya umntu, sine-monologue yangaphakathi evelisa ukugcuma okumbalwa kunye nokumbombozela ukuba omnye umntu ushiywe ukuba acacise.
Endaweni yokujonga yonke indlela esinokuphendula ngayo komnye umntu, zama ukugxila kuloo mntu. Zibone. Yiphulaphule, ingekuko ukuva nje kuphela, kodwa mamela .
Kukangaphi isizathu sokuba singazi ukuba sithini (kwaye ke sizenze iimpendulo zethu) ngenxa nje yokuba sixakeke kakhulu ukuba sizithandaze?
Gxila kwimood yomnye umntu ngumguquleli omkhulu wamagama. Gxila kumxholo wokudibana: ngaba sikwimeko engaqhelekanga okanye esesikweni? Ishishini okanye uyolo?
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Oku kuyakuvumela iingqondo zethu ukuba zazi ukuba zeziphi iishelufu zokutsala amagama kunye namabinzana, endaweni yokuzibeka gwenxa kwaye ngokungathandekiyo ujonge izinto ngaphandle ngethemba lokuba omnye umntu uza kusiqonda.
Xa sigxila kwincoko kwaye kuncinci kwindlela esicinga ukuba siyabonwa ngayo, ngokuzenzekelayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo oko kucinezela ukuzithemba.
3. Iziko Lethu
Iziko, kulo mongo, kuthetha ukuzibona njengeziko lomxhuzulane wenkqubo yelanga yokuxoxa. Ngokusisiseko, siyinkwenkwezi.
Le yinto encinci ye-ego, kodwa iyimfuneko ukuba ngokwendalo sityekele ekuzibambiseni isicheme, kwaye akufuneki sithathwe kude kakhulu. Kukho umahluko phakathi kokugxila kunye nokuba yibhombu.
Imalunga nesazisi. Ukuzazi ukuba singoobani njengoko sinxulumana nabanye (kwaye siqonda ukuba nabantu abazithembileyo ngokungakhathali badlala umdlalo ofanayo we-ego hug) kuvelisa inqanaba lokuthuthuzela kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo.
Cinga ngomntu esimthandileyo ngokukwazi kwakhe ukuthetha naye nawuphina umntu nakuyiphi na imeko. Ngaba ukuqikelela kwethu loo mntu ngokubanzi, 'Gee, badibene ngokwenene!' Hayi 'Gawd yam, yintoni le prat narcissistic!'
Loo mntu ugxile, uyazithemba, kwaye ubonakalisa umdla owaneleyo malunga nehlabathi elibajikelezileyo, ukuze, yiba nomdla .
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4. Lihlonele iGunya lethu
Singcolisa ulwazi lwethu lwendlela ethile yesiqhelo rhoqo.
Kudala ndibhala kwiinkomfa apho bendingathethi kakuhle, kodwa ndinaso isidanga kuncwadi lwesiNgesi kunye nokubhala ngobuchule. Ndiyazi izinto ngamagama, ndenza ngokwenene!
Ndingangabi nguToni Morrison- kodwa uToni Morrison, bahlobo abathandekayo, ayiyonxalenye yakhe, nam. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe acaphule imigca evela kwi-Star Trek ngokungathi ivela kwimidlalo kaShakespearean, kodwa ndiyakwazi, kwaye ndinokubonisa izandi eziphakathi kwezi zimbini.
Ndiyarhana uyazazi izinto nawe.
Ndiyarhana ukuba asithethi ngokucacileyo, siyadumbana, kwaye sihlala sinabantu abathi, 'Uxolo, ikhona into oyithethileyo?' kuba asilihloniphi igunya lethu.
Igunya aliveli ngokwazi yonke into malunga nomxholo, livela kuthi ngokwazi thina ndinento yokuthetha.
Kwilizwe apho abezopolitiko bengabantu abagqwesileyo ngokungathi bayazingca, ngaba ngenene sicinga ukuba kufuneka sibe ziingcali zokufaka isandla kwiincoko ezahlukileyo zosuku?
Thetha uviwe. Kungenzeka ukuba sichanekile, sinokuba siphosakele, kodwa siya kuviwa. (Owu, kwaye ukuba asilunganga, sigxile komnye umntu - kwakhona, ubiziwe ukumamela -Inokubonelela ngemfundo ekhawulezileyo. Konke kudityanisiwe.)
5. Pump Pump Umthamo
Abantu beza baxhotyiswa ngezixhobo ezimangalisayo zezwi. Mamela kuMinnie Ripperton, uLuther Vandross, uLuciano Pavarotti, okanye eBjork.
Okanye nabacebisi bethu: UJames Baldwin, uGloria Steinem, uOprah, uBarack Obama, uGandhi, u-Ursula Le Guin: ebaleka uluhlu ukusuka kuthethwe kamnandi ukubhobhoza, kodwa inye into eqhelekileyo ebabophelelayo. Babeviwa bonke.
Wwe jonh cena vs umngcwabi
Umthamo apha ayisiyongxaki yama-decibel kuphela. Yinto yokuba nento yokuthetha, nokuyithetha ngohlobo lokuba amagama angaphazanyiswa yinto ethile efuna ukungahoywa.
Kuthetha ukuthetha igama ngalinye ngokucacileyo nokuba ilizwi lethu lithambile, lichanekile, livakala kakhulu ekufuneka sililinganise ezantsi, okanye isicaba esiza kuzama ukuphucula kunye nonyango.
Uloyiko lokungaviwa ukuzalisekisa isiprofeto . Ukumpompa ivolumu yethu kwenza ukuba amagama azalise ngenjongo kunye ne-gravitas yenza ukuba abaphulaphuli bathembele ngaphakathi ukuze baphulaphule nangakumbi.
Masenze isibhambathiso sokuthetha ngokungathi siyinyani, nokuba yinto engekhoyo, into yothando, into enengqiqo, okanye mhlawumbi (kwaye ihlala ilungile) umbuzo.
6. Chin Up
Kukho itoni yosizi kulo mhlathi ulandelayo. Kukho amaxesha esivakalelwa kukuba asinanto yokuthetha. Kukho amaxesha esivakalelwa ukuba asinanto kufanelekile ukuthi . Kukho namaxesha okuyeka ukuthetha izinto ezifuna ukuthethwa.
La maxesha anokuphuma ngexesha elingafanelekanga, ajike amazwi ethu abe zizimbumbulu, ukumbombozela, okanye ukungxola okungahambelaniyo.
Kulapho ke kufuneka sizibone siphakamisa iichin zethu, sijonga umhlaba wonke emehlweni, kwaye sibona imbeko nokusithanda kuthi kubonakalise umva. Inkalipho inika isibindi. Siya kumangaliswa kukuba abantu bafuna ukuyiva kangakanani le nto siyithethayo.
Xa izinto zibonakala zisiyatha esenza ukuba sibambe, kuyanceda ukubuyela umva ngengqondo (ukuba asikwazi ukulungiselela kwangaphambili) ukwamkela into esifuna ukuyithetha.
Nika igama ngalinye ukwanga ngokwengqondo kwaye ulihambise kwindawo yalo efanelekileyo. Iingcinga ezilungelelanisiweyo linyathelo lokuqala lokushwankathela ngomlomo, kwaye iqhinga elinye loku-odola iingcinga zethu kukuzinika izikripthi zengqondo kunye namabinzana.
'Ukukopela-kuthetha,' ukuba uyathanda, endaweni yokukhohlisa amaphepha.
Akukho mpendulo zininzi zinkqayiweyo, kodwa iimemori zokubaleka. Ukuba siyazi ukuba sityekele ekuthetheni ngokudibeneyo ngesihloko esithile (okanye kumntu othile), ukuba namabinzana ambalwa akhululekileyo kwaye alungele ukubonakalisa impompo yomlomo kunokuba sisithixo.
'Andikaze ndiyicinge ngoluhlobo, kodwa…'
“Yazi into endihlekisayo…”
“Wowu, inomdla nyani…”
Izinto ezenza ukuba sikhumbule into esiyithandayo malunga nomxholo ekuthethwa ngawo, umntu ekuthethwa ngaye, okanye mhlawumbi umbuzo ebesoloko sizibuza ngawo.
7. Ukuthetha ngokuzithemba
Eyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokuphucula ubuchule bethu bokuncokola kukuphucula ukuzithemba kwethu. Oko kuthetha ukuba yeka ukuhleba izinto ezimbi kuthi ngalo lonke ixesha lokuhamba.
Iimpawu zesini phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
Akukho ziqinisekiso zempumelelo kuyo nayiphi na inzame, ke kutheni le nto singacinga ukuba ukuthetha kungohluka? Kuya kubakho i-gaffes, ngamanye amaxesha asiyi kuba nofifi lokuba sithetha ngantoni, kwaye masingathethi nangokutsala umntu okokuqala!
Kodwa kuya kubakho impumelelo entle engaphaya kwamaphupha ethu.
Ke endaweni yokubeka intetho yethu ngokuthozamileyo, vula umlomo uyeke amagama angamagama abhabhe. Ukuba siyakhubeka, siyaphakama, sizisuse uthuli, size siqhubeke nohambo.
Incoko ayilulo ugqatso okanye umdlalo wewrestling uhamba ecaleni kwabanye, usabelana nabo ngezinto esizibonileyo malunga nehlabathi.
Qhubeka uzilolonge. Thetha isiqwenga sakho. Yitsho ingqondo yakho. Maluthi ulwimi, sithandwa. Thetha into ekufuneka ithethwe, ke ulungele ukwamkela.
Kwincoko, kwanesiteyitimenti esichazayo ngumbuzo. Ukuba sithi 'Molo,' ngubani owaziyo ukuba ngowuphi umlingo oza kulandela?
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