Iimpawu ezi-17 eziLusizi akasakuphindi akuthande: Ngaba iNkwenkwe ethandana nayo inguwe?

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Unemvakalelo embi ngale nto. Isithandwa sakho khange sifane kutshanje, kwaye uqala ukucinga ukuba akusakuthandi.



Kwaye ke ukrazukile.

Uqhekekile phakathi kokufuna ukwazi ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zitshintshile, kwaye ubeka nje intloko entlabathini, ngethemba lokuba ukuba awuyikujongana nemeko yezinto izinto ziya kubuyela kwindlela ebeziyiyo ngaphambili.



Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyazi ukuba ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akakuthandi, kuya kufuneka wenze into malunga naloo nto.

Ngelixa iimeko ezixakayo zithetha ukuba abanye abantu bathatha isigqibo sokuhlala kubudlelwane obungenaluthando, ukuba awunanto ikubophayo kulo mfana kodwa uthando lwakho ngaye, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uhambe.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba sihambe phambi kwethu, inyathelo lokuqala kukubona ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zitshintshile na, okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo inokuba iye kwenye into.

Oku kunokwenza ukufunda okunzima ukuba usathandana naye, kodwa ukuba uwile eluthandweni nawe emva koko unokujongana nayo ngokukhawuleza, kungcono.

Nazi iimpawu eziphambili zokuba isithandwa sakho asikuthandi.

1. Akanawo umdla ebomini bakho.

Wayekade enomdla kumhla wakho. Umsebenzi wakho. Abahlobo bakho. Usapho lwakho. Iminqweno namaphupha akho.

Ubukade ukwazi ukuthetha iiyure ezininzi kwaye usenezinto ezininzi onokuthetha ngazo.

Kodwa mva nje, kubonakala ngathi akafuni kwazi.

Akakubuzi imibuzo, kwaye xa ezihlupha ngokubuza ukuba ibinjani imini yakho, akaphulaphuli kwaye uhlala elibala nantoni na omxelela yona.

Xa uthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwaye umqala ukumxelela ngento eyenzekileyo kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni okanye ngento ayithethileyo umntu osebenza naye eofisini namhlanje, uyabona nje emehlweni ukuba akanikeli ngqalelo kwaye akabufumani ubomi bakho bunomdla akusekho.

2. Uchitha ixesha elincinane nawe.

Ukuba akakuthandi njengangaphambili, ngekhe enze naliphi na ixesha lokuchitha nawe.

Uya kuhlala esemsebenzini, okanye nabahlobo bakhe, okanye usapho lwakhe, kwaye akazukuzama ukukubandakanya kubomi bakhe boluntu.

Ukuba nihlala kunye, angaba usendlwini kodwa kwilizwe lakhe ngokupheleleyo.

Ukuba nendawo yakho kubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kodwa ukuba uhlala ethe njo emsebenzini wakhe, kuthotho lweTV, okanye kumdlalo, kwaye nobabini anisadli kunye okanye niphumle kunye ngokuhlwa njengawe, Ngokuqinisekileyo ikhona into eyenzekayo.

3. Akakwenzi ube kwindawo ephambili.

Xa indoda ikuthanda, uyazi ngayo kuba uyinxalenye enkulu yehlabathi lakhe. Unokuba nobomi obuxakekileyo kunye nezinye izibophelelo, kodwa usaya kukubeka phambili kwinqanaba elithile.

Ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngoku usezantsi kuluhlu lwezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka emva komsebenzi wakhe, izihlobo, usapho, izinto azithandayo kwaye mhlawumbi nenja yakhe, iimvakalelo zakhe ngawe azisiyiyo le nto bafanele ukuba yiyo.

4. Wenza izicwangciso ezingakubandakanyi.

Ewe, kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba isibini sobabini sinomdla wabo kunye nabahlobo, kwaye ingavumeli nje ukuba ubudlelwane buphathe.

Kodwa ngoku uyisa kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Uhlala esenza izicwangciso nabahlobo bakhe kunye nosapho ongaze ube yinxalenye yayo.

Uzigcina exakekile ngorhatya nangeempela-veki ukuze angabi kufutshane nawe acinge okanye ajongane nenyaniso yokuba akakuthandi.

5. Akaqalisi unxibelelwano.

Kwiflush yokuqala yothando, uninzi lwezibini zihlala zithetha omnye komnye 24/7. Ukuba abekho kunye, banxibelelana nedijithali.

Kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba yehlise umoya kancinci njengoko ubudlelwane buqhubeka kwaye nobabini niphumle ningena kwaye niqinisekile ngakumbi ukuba omnye uziva njani.

Kodwa kuxa ekhululeka kakhulu kunokuba ngumqondiso ombi.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uhlala ungena kuye, umthumelela imiyalezo emini, kwaye ucebisa ukuba ufowunele xa uhlukene, kunokuba kukho into engalunganga.

6. Akayithandi.

Isithandwa sakho asikuthandi ngokwasemzimbeni kuwe kwakhona.

Mhlawumbi wayengazange achukumise ngokukhethekileyo, okanye mhlawumbi wayehlala efika kuwe ebhedini ubusuku bonke, kodwa nayiphi na indlela, ngoku akanalo uthando.

Kwaye akaphenduli kakuhle ukuba uzama ukumbonisa uthando nokuba, akushukumise, akuqhwabe, okanye akuxelele ngokungqalileyo ukuba akuthandi.

Kukho ezinye izizathu zokuba abafana bayeke ukuthandana nawe, ngakumbi ukuba banestresi okanye badlula kwixesha elinzima, kodwa utshintsho olufana nolu luphawu lwesilumkiso olucacileyo lokuba into ayilunganga.

7. Akanomdla kwisini.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubomi bakho bobulili buhlala bubukeka njani, ngoku kungabonakali ngokupheleleyo. Akabonakali enomdla wokulala nawe kwakhona.

Ukwabelana ngesondo sisenzo esithandekayo, kwaye ukuba akasakuthandi kodwa akafikanga kwimvumelwano nayo, usenokuba nexhala lokuba uhlobo olusondeleyo luya kumlahla ngokupheleleyo.

Mhlawumbi uyaphendula ukuba uqala izinto, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba zihle kakhulu kwaye ziyazimela.

Kodwa mhlawumbi wenza izizathu kwaye afumane iindlela zokuphuma kuyo ukuba uyenza icace ukuba ufuna ukumkhwelisa ebhedini.

Kwaye mhlawumbi ubusokolisa ukuqalisa izinto, usazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga phakathi kwakho.

8. Akakuqapheli ukubonakala kwakho.

Wayeyithanda xa unxibe ubusuku obunye okanye wayeza kukuxelela xa ukhazimla.

Kodwa ngoku, kubonakala ngathi akayiboni. Uziva ngathi ungayicheba intloko yakho kwaye angade aphawule ngayo.

9. Awusoze ube nalo naliphi na ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye.

Ukuba ubudlelwane buza kusebenza, nobabini kufuneka nisebenze kuyo, kwaye oko kubandakanya ukubekela bucala usuku lobusuku okanye ixesha xa nijolise ngokukodwa komnye nomnye, ngaphandle kweziphazamiso.

Unokuba ukulungele ukubukela imuvi kunye nawe, njengoko kungafuneki ukuba uthethe, kodwa kuyacaca ukuba uzama ukunqanda ukuhlala ngokuchasene nawe kwindawo yokutyela kwaye enencoko efanelekileyo.

10. Uvuthela ubushushu nobushushu.

Ukuba uye waqonda ukuba akasakuthandi okanye uzama ukulwa naloo nyani, mhlawumbi uza kuhamba ngerollercoaster, kwaye uyakuba kwisiphelo sokwamkela oko.

Uyakube ejinga phakathi kokuziva ngathi usathandana nawe kwaye eqonda ukuba kukho into engekhoyo. Xa evakalelwa kwangaphambili, uya kuba nothando kunye nothando kuwe ngaphandle kohlaza.

Kwaye xa eqonda le yokugqibela, uya kuthi ngequbuliso ajike akubande, okanye aqale ngokukuqhawula ngaphandle kwengxaki avakalelwa yiyo.

Uyakwazi ukuxelela ukuba usesikhundleni esibi sekhanda.

Ewe, ukuvutha kushushu kwaye kuyabanda kunokuthetha ukuba ujongana neminye imicimbi, kodwa ukuba iyadibana nezinye izinto ezikolu luhlu ke ayizukuhlala kakuhle.

11. Uhlala ecaphuka kuwe.

Awunakho ukwenza nantoni na ngokufanelekileyo kwakhona. Uhlala ecaphuka zezona zinto zincinci, kwaye iiquirks awayezithanda ngawe uyazi zibonakala nje ukuba zingena luvo.

Kwaye, akazikhathazi ngokufihla ukucaphuka kwakhe. Uhlala esenza intetho ekhathazayo, yokulahla okusika nzulu. Wayenokwenza kuphela loo nto ukuba wayengasakuthandi.

12. Uyakukuthethela phantsi phambi kwabanye.

Akenzi nje la mazwi ngasese. Uyonwabile ukukugxeka kunye nokuziphatha kwakho okanye enze 'iziqhulo' ngawe phambi kwabanye abantu, enkqonkqoza ukuzithemba kwakho.

13. Akakulungelanga ukuphuma endleleni yakhe ngenxa yakho.

Emuva xa wawuqala ukuthandana, wayenokwenza nantoni na entle ukukonwabisa. Wayenokulindela iimfuno zakho, kwaye ukuba umcele ukuba akwenzele ubabalo angathanda kakhulu.

Kodwa ngoku, wayengenakukwazi ukuzimisela. Wenza kubonakale ngathi umcela umhlaba xa usenza esona sicelo sincinci, kwaye uhlala ekwazi ukuza nezizathu zokuba kutheni engakwazi okanye angancedi.

14. Akayi kulalanisa ngenxa yakho.

Xa uthanda umntu, uyaqonda ukuba nobabini ninemfuno ezahlukeneyo kunye neemfuno kwaye nenza umzamo wokufumana umhlaba ophakathi.

Kodwa akasayi kuphinda ayenze loo nto. Ngokwandayo, yindlela yesoka lakho okanye uhola wendlela.

15. Akathethi ngekamva.

Iintsuku zokuba nobabini uphupha ngendawo onokuhlala kuyo, abantwana onokuba nabo, okanye iihambo onokuthi uqhubeke kuzo zidlulile.

Ngoku uyakwazi ukutshintsha nayiphi na incoko ngekamva, kokubini kufutshane nakude, kuba akakholelwa nje ukuba kuya kubakho enye.

16. Akafuni kusebenza kwizinto.

Mhlawumbi sele uzame ukuthetha naye malunga nento eyenzekayo kubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuba usathandana nawe, ke impendulo yakhe kwinkxalabo yakho kufuneka ibe kukuchaza into ebangele ukuba aziphathe kakuhle kwaye athethe ngendlela eninokusebenza ngayo nobabini.

ungaxelela njani ukuba umntu osebenzayo unomdla

Kodwa ukuba uzivalela nje kwaye uyala ukubandakanyeka okanye ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zakho, ke loo nto luphawu olucacileyo ukuba akasakuthandi.

17. Amathumbu akho akuxelela into engalunganga.

Kulungile, ke izibilini zethu azisoloko zisixelela inyani, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinokuqalisa ukukhathazeka umntu akasasithandi ngenxa nje yokuzithemba okuphantsi.

Ukuba unexesha elibi emsebenzini okanye nosapho, oko kunokubangela ukuba aphazamiseke kwaye abekude kuwe, nokuba ayinanto yakwenza nawe.

Kodwa ukuba nzulu ezantsi kukho into ekuxelela ukuba uwile othandweni nawe, emva koko uyikhuphele loo mvakalelo kwaye ubone ukuba isuka phi.

Ukuba yiparanoia yakho kuphela, yinto ekufuneka uyenzile leyo.

Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba yinto engaphezulu, themba amathumbu akho kwaye ucinge ngenyathelo lakho elilandelayo.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga nokuba umfana wakho uyakuthanda okanye cha? Ngaba ufuna ingcebiso ukuba akafuni? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.

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