Ukuba ukhe wanobudlelwane okwethutyana, uyakuqaphela ukuba iyatshintsha ngokwendalo ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Abanye abantu, olu tshintsho alunamkeleka kwaye lubenze bakhathazeke malunga nokuba bayathandana okanye hayi.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngeemvakalelo oziva ngazo malunga nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho, umyeni okanye umfazi, ngethemba ukuba esi sikhokelo siza kunceda…
1. Nisathandana.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba lonke ubudlelwane buyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Isenokungagcwali inkanuko ngoku, kodwa ukuba kusekho iimvakalelo zokusondela nokusondelelana, usathandana nabo.
Usenokungabelani ngesondo ngokufuthi njengangaphambili, kodwa ukuba wenza iinzame zokuba usondelelene nabo kwaye usakonwabela ukwabelana ngako oko, ngokucacileyo kukho iimvakalelo ezichaphazelekayo.
Ukuba neentlobano zesini ezingaphantsi kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kunokuba sezantsi kakhulu izinto ekufuneka uzame ukungazikhathazi ngazo-umsebenzi, uxinzelelo, abantwana, nokuba udiniwe!
Kodwa ukuba usalele ebhedini enye, ngamanye amaxesha ulala ngesondo, uthando lwakho luyaphila kwaye luyaphila.
2. Uhlala kwilizwi lokwenyani, hayi intelekelelo.
Kuqhelekile ukuyifuna loo nto Isigaba sokutshata Ukuqhuba ixesha elide, kodwa ayisiyonto ulindelekileyo ukuba nayo.
Izinto zisenokungabi nzulu kwaye zibenomdla njengangaphambili - kulungile ukuba baziva bengumntu nje okanye bekruqula rhoqo!
Ubudlelwane bakho bunokuba buyekile kwisini sasendle kwaye bahlala bethetha kude kube yi-3am ukuya ekuphikisaneni ngokuba ngubani obeka imigqomo kwaye ngubani ohlambayo… kodwa yinto eqhelekileyo leyo!
Zama ukubona ixabiso kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla nomntu kwaye ukhumbule ukuba zezi zinto zincinci ezenza ubudlelwane bakho bube bukhulu. Ukuthuthuzela kulungile!
3. Nixambulisana rhoqo.
Abanye abantu banexhala lokuba naluphi na uhlobo lokungavumelani okanye impikiswano kuthetha ukuba bakubudlelwane obungalunganga-oku akuyonyaniso!
Khawufane ucinge uvumelana nomntu kuyo yonke into-uyadika njani.
Ngaba wena nabahlobo bakho ninoluvo olufanayo malunga nayo yonke into? Akunjalongo noko! Kungokwemvelo ukungavumelani malunga nezinye izinto, kwaye, ukuya kuthi ga, ukuphikisana kubonisa ukuba uyakhathala.
Unokuphikisana malunga nendlu emdaka kuba ufuna ukuba yindawo entle eningahlala kuyo kunye.
Mhlawumbi uyacaphuka kuba bahlala ngaphandle kwexesha nabahlobo ngamanye amaxesha - kungenxa yokuba uyabathanda kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo.
Zama ukwenza kwakhona imilo encinci kunye nezinto ezinje ukubona ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke intshabalalo kunye nobumnyama!
4. Nibona ikamva kunye.
Nokuba bangakucaphukisa okanye bakucaphukise ngamanye amaxesha, usazibona uhlala nabo ixesha elide.
Olu luphawu olucacileyo lokuba usathandana nabo, ngaphandle kobunzima oziva uhleli kubo.
Xa sithandana nothile, sikufumanisa kunzima ukuba nomfanekiso wekamva kunye - inokusenza sizive sinetyala, kuba siziva ngathi sixoka kwiqabane lethu kwaye senza ngathi sonwabile.
Ukuba niyakwazi ukuzibona kunye kwaye niziva nonwabile, ningenatyala, luphawu oluhle.
Awudingi ukuba ujonge kude njengabaneminyaka engama-80 ubudala behleli evarandeni, kodwa uya kuba nakho ukuzibona nihamba ubomi kunye kunye nokwabelana ngazo zonke iintlobo zamava.
5. Usenza izinto abazithiyileyo.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unikezela ngocoselelo ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho likuthiyile ukukwenza, uthando lwakho lusaphila kwaye lumi kakuhle!
Isenokungasoloko ivakalelwa ngathi, kodwa izinto ezilula ezinje zibonisa ukuba usakhathalele iimvakalelo zabo kwaye uyabathathela ingqalelo. Uyazenza izinto abazithiyileyo kuba ungafuni ukuba bazenze.
Ewe, kukho imida kule nto, kodwa, iyonke, ugcina iqabane lakho lonwabile, ugcina uxolo, kwaye ubonakalisa ukuba uyazixabisa iimvakalelo zabo kwaye umamele izinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo. Ukuba olo ayilo thando, yintoni?
6. Usenza izinto abazithandayo.
Mhlawumbi uyayicaphukela ibhola, kodwa iqabane lakho liyalithanda. Ke, rhoqo, ubukela umdlalo kunye nabo.
Kungenxa yokuba ubakhathalele-kwaye, ngokwenza njalo, ukhathalele ukubenza bonwabe ngokukhathalela (ixesha elifutshane!) Malunga nezinto abazithandayo.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba wenza ukulalanisa okanye ukuzincama kwaye wenza izinto kuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyazonwabela, usaluva uthando, akukho mathandabuzo ngalo.
Akudingeki ukuba ube ngumnyango osele wenziwe ngocango okanye uhlale uncama izinto ozithandayo, ukuze ucace gca! Kodwa inqanaba elisempilweni ukulalanisa kulungile kubudlelwane .
7. Usathetha.
Asithethi nje ngentetho, sithetha njalo thetha . Useneencoko ezifanelekileyo malunga neziqu zakho, iimvakalelo zakho, iintsuku zakho - hayi kuphela ukuba ngubani ophekayo kwaye leliphi ixesha abantwana abeza ekhaya!
Xa sikhululekile kubudlelwane, izinto ezinje ngokuzonwabisa kunye nolonwabo luthatha isihlalo sangasemva- njengabo obo busuku bude bokuhlala ungathethi ngamaphupha akho.
Kungokwemvelo ukuba nexhala lokuba intlantsi icinyiwe kwaye ubomi bakho ngoku bungento yanto, kodwa ukuba nobabini nisenza iinzame zokuba nincokole ngenene, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho into apho kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba niyabathanda.
8. Nenza iinzame omnye nomnye.
Akudingeki ukuba uhambe u-glam kwaye ube nemihla yobusuku obuthandekayo rhoqo ngolwesiHlanu, kodwa ukuba usazama ukwenza izinto ezintle, jongeka kakuhle ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ubonise xa kubalulekile, wena ' sobabini sisathandana.
Ukulala ngeenxa zonke kwiipijama zakho kunye nokuba 'yinyani' omnye nomnye kuyinto eqhelekileyo (kwaye usempilweni!) Nayo- kodwa ukuba wenza umgudu wokuchitha ixesha kunye kwaye uzibophelele ekwenzeni omnye nomnye azive elungile, sisalathiso seemvakalelo zakho zokwenyani .
9. Usasondele.
Ukudibana kwamehlo, ukubambana ngesandla, ukusebenzisa amagama okuqala omnye komnye? Yonke le yimiqondiso yokuba usathandana neqabane lakho - nisahleli, nisondelelene (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni), kwaye nobabini nikhona kubudlelwane benu.
Ukuba unabantwana, ungaqhela ukubizana 'Mama' nokuthi 'Tata' (ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukukhuthaza amagama okuqala kwinto encinci) -oku kungangumkhwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye kuyisuse ezothando, kodwa ukuba nobabini nisenza iinzame zokuba nibe ngabantu ababini abadala kwaye ingabi ngabazali ababini kuphela, kulungile.
ucinga ntoni ngokukhohlisa kubudlelwane
Usenokungafumani mabhabhathane ngalo lonke ixesha ejonga emehlweni akho, kodwa kubonisa ukuba kukho inkathalo, kubonisa ukuba uyinyani yazi omnye komnye, kwaye luphawu olucacileyo lokuba usabathanda.
10. Awuyi kulala ekulweni.
Ukuba uyayicaphukela ingcinga yokulala ebhedini ecaleni kweqabane lakho ngengxabano engasonjululwanga emoyeni, unobudlelwane obuhle kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo usabakhathalele!
Xa sithandana nomntu, sihlala siyeka ukukhathalela kakhulu ngeziphumo- sikhathala kancinci malunga nokuba uziva njani omnye umntu, kwaye akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba senze umzamo omkhulu wokuxolisa okanye ukulungisa imeko Yazi ilimaza iqabane lethu.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba wenza phambi kokulala kwaye uthethe izinto ukuze ungayi kulala nobabini unomsindo kwaye ukhathazekile, usabathanda.
Oku kubonisa uvelwano olukhulu kubo bobabini iqabane lakho kunye nawe-izinto ezimbini eziphambili kubudlelwane obusempilweni.
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Njengoko ubudlelwane bethu buvela, izinto ziyatshintsha ngokwendalo. Iimpahla zangaphantsi ezithandekayo zijika zibe zi-thermals, amaxesha okulala agxile ngakumbi ebantwaneni kunalo naluphi na uhlobo lokonwaba, kwaye ukuthanda igumbi lokulala kujika kube ngumsindo onxulumene nomsebenzi.
Oku kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kungakushiya uzibuza ukuba ingaba usamthanda na umlingane wakho, ngakumbi ukuba awukabikho kubudlelwane obubi okanye bexesha elide ngaphambili.
Kulungile ukuba izinto zilinganise kwaye zibe yinto enesithukuthezi ngakumbi- kuyabonisa ukuba ukhululekile omnye komnye kwaye ukwindawo elungileyo.
Ukuba uhlala kwixesha leholideyini ngonaphakade - omnye wenu uyaxoka, uzenza ngathi angaze acaphuke, okanye enze iindlela ezininzi zokuyekelela!
Ukuphikisana, ukungachukumisi kancinci, kunye nobusuku obuncinci bezidlo ezingathandekiyo zeTV luphawu lokuba ulwalamano oluhle- kwaye usabathanda.
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