Ukuba ubuze umntu ophakathi ukuba luthando lunjani, amathuba anokuthabatha ixesha elincinci ukuzama ukuluchaza.
Abantu endibacelileyo bavakalise iimvakalelo ezisukela 'ekubeni sesichengeni sokwesaba' ukuya 'kukhuseleko olukhulu,' nayo yonke into ephakathi.
Uthando, isidima, uloyiko, kunye nomnqweno zizinto ezizodwa njengoko abantu besiva ezi mvakalelo. Kananjalo, kuhlala kunzima ukuzisongela iintloko zethu ngqo malunga nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kwaye nangakumbi kukubandezeleka ukuzama ukukuchaza.
Yintoni le uyivayo? Ukunyameka okugqithisileyo kunye nothando, kunye nomnqweno wolonwabo lomnye umntu ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into? Ukonwabisa kunye nenkanuko etshintsha noloyiko lokulahleka? Ubushushu nokwamkelwa?
Kuthiwani malunga nokujonga iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando ezikhoyo apho, kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwabanye.
Mhlawumbi ezi nkcazo zinokukunceda uhlele ukuba uhlangabezana nantoni na.
Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zothando, nendlela umntu ngamnye avakalelwa ngayo.
Abanye abantu banokuthi zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziva uthando njengoko kukho abantu emhlabeni.
Ukwenza lula izinto kancinci, amaGrike amandulo anciphisa iimvakalelo zothando kwiindidi ezininzi: I-United States, iPragma, umdlalo, uPhil-uthando, uthando lwabazali, kunye ne-agape .
Uninzi lweemvakalelo zothando esinazo zinokufakwa kwezi zinto, kwaye nganye inamandla ngokwayo.
Shiya
Njengoko unokucinga ngegama layo, ' ipeanut 'Ligama lengcambu' inkanuko. 'Lidangatye lokuqala lomtsalane, kwaye linokuchazwa njengohlobo inkanuko egqithisileyo.
Olu hlobo lothando alufane luhlale ixesha elide. Ngumlilo wasendle onokudla yonke into oyichukumisayo, kodwa utshise ngokukhawuleza.
Okwangoku, yiyo ndinomdla kwaye kakhulu , kwaye ihlala ingoyena mntu uqhuba ukuzala. Inkqubo ye- ukubetha kwentliziyo kuyakhawuleza , kunye yonke ingqalelo yomnye ijolise komnye umntu.
Ezinye zezibongo zothando ezimangalisayo zikhuthazwe zii-eros, njengoko siphela Ungenelele kakhulu, uthe phithi , ukuba iba luhlobo lwe-mania efuna ukubonakaliswa.
Abo bathe phithi zi-eros bahlala benobunzima bokutya okanye ukulala, ungaze ucinge ngokugxila. Yonke ingqalelo yabo igxile kwinto yothando lwabo, kwaye Uthando lwabo lupheleleyo-lomzimba-womphefumlo womlilo.
Ndidikiwe ndenze ntoni
Lo mbongo usishwankathela:
Akusebenzi
Mama othandekayo, mna
andinakukugqiba
ukwaluka.
Unga
ityala uAphrodite
uthambile njengoko enjalo
Uphantse
undibulale nge
uthando lwenkwenkwe leyo.- Utyhola uAphrodite nguSappho
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe, le mililo itsha ngokukhawuleza. Ngenxa yale nto, ipeanut kunokukhokelela kwintliziyo eyaphukileyo ukuba omnye unamathele ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo kunomnye.
IPragma
Ngokuchasene ne ipeanut umlilo wasendle, ipragma ngumlilo weziko. Luthando olomeleleyo, oluhlala luhleli oluye lwamelana neemvavanyo zexesha kunye nokuba mdala ube yimbonakalo entle.
Njengabantu abatshatileyo iminyaka engama-50. Banyamezele ubunzima obuninzi kunye, kunye namava amaninzi amahle, kwaye baxhasana kuko konke.
I-Pragma ikwafumaneka kubuhlobo obusondeleyo, ngakumbi abo basinde kubunzima obukhulu.
Ifuna inani elimangalisayo lomonde kunye nokuqonda, kunye nonxibelelwano ... kodwa uyakuyiqonda ngu iimvakalelo ezinamandla zokhathalelo, ukuzinikela, ukuzincama, kunye nomnqweno wolonwabo lomnye umntu.
Olu hlobo lothando luhlala luthintelwa luluntu lwanamhlanje. Uninzi lwabantu lukhetha ukulungisa kwi-blooms ethandekayo yothando lokuqala, kwaye babaleke xa izinto zinzima.
Nini kwaye ukuba uyifumana ipragma, qiniseka ukuyithala ngononophelo olukhulu, njengoko sesinye sezona zipho zihle onokufumana.
IBard iluchaza kakuhle olu thando:
Uthando aluthando
Nguwuphi otshintsha xa utshintsho lufumana,
Okanye ugoba ngesususi ukususa:
Hayi, hayi! luphawu oluhlala luhleli,
Oko kujonga uqhwithela kwaye akuze kushukunyiswe- Ukusuka ISonnet 116 , nguWilliam Shakespeare
ULudus
Ngaba uyalikhumbula ixesha lokuqala xa ubunothando olukhulu? Usenokuba ukhe waziva into efana nayo isicaphucaphu okanye ukuqunjelwa xa omnye umntu wayesondele, ngokunjalo giddiness , kunye Ukungaqiniseki okungakholekiyo.
ULudus luhlobo lothando lokudlala oluhlala lufunyanwa ngabantu abancinci. Kuquka ukuhlekisa kunye nokudlala ngothando okulula okubandakanya abantu xa betsala kunye. Kukho imincili , kwaye ikwayiyo ngokupheleleyo I-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo ukuba kukho ixhala lokuba omnye umntu angaphindisi.
Luhlobo lothando olukhuthaza imibongo eyoyikisayo, kodwa kunye neziganeko ezinje ngeepikniksi ezinzulwini zobusuku kunye namatikiti angenakuphikiswa ePrague.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buqhakazile kunye ludus , emva koko ukugcina oko kudlala kulutsha kunye nokusebenza kakuhle kuya kuba yinto ephambili yokwenza ubudlelwane bakho buhlale. Ngaphandle koko, inokuphuma ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ipeanut ithambekele ku.
UPhilia
Ngaba ukhe wamthanda umhlobo othandekayo ngokunzulu kangangokuba ubuya kubenzela nantoni na , kodwa ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lomtsalane wesini?
Yiyo philia.
Luhlobo lothando olwaluxatyiswe kakhulu nguPlato, yiyo loo nto igama elithi “ iplonic ”Isetyenziselwa ukuchaza olu hlobo lothando olunzulu, ngaphandle kolwalamano olusenyameni.
Njenge-pragma, i-philia ikwanamava kwabo bazanayo ixesha elide, kwaye babenamava obunzima kunye.
Ukuba ufumana i-philia komnye umntu, ungonwabela ukuchitha ixesha nalo mntu, kwaye ubakhumbule kakhulu xa uhlukene ixesha elide.
xa umthanda nyhani umntu
Mhlawumbi kunjalo Ndiziva ndonwabile xa ndikunye nabo, kwaye unga phuma kwindlela yakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuba bafumana izinto ezintle. Kuxhomekeka kweyakho ulwimi lothando , usenokubanika izipho, okanye wenze umsebenzi wenkonzo ukuzama ukubonwabisa.
I-Philia inokuba luhlobo oluhle lokwenene lothando, kodwa inokubanzima nakubudlelwane, kuxhomekeka ekubeni omi phi na amaqela omabini. Umzekelo, isibini sinokuthandana ngokunzulu kakhulu, kodwa ukuba luhlobo lwe-philia yothando, ubudlelwane bezesondo bungaphazamiseka, okanye kude nokubeka.
Ngu olunzulu, uhlobo oluhle lothando kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo. Ngokusisiseko, unokuzimisela ukuziphosa kwizithuthi ezizayo ukusindisa lo mntu, kodwa awufuni ukulala kubo.
Ukuzimela
Kude ekubeni yonke into malunga ne-narcissism kunye nokuzingca, uhlobo lokuzithanda olwaziwa ngokuba yi-philautia lufana kakhulu… ukuqonda kunye novelwano kuye.
Ngokwazi ukuzibona sinolu hlobo lobulali kunye nomonde, sinokuthanda abanye ngendlela efanayo.
Uya uzive ukhululekile kulusu lwakho , ngaphandle kokuthetha kakubi?
Emva koko unokuthanda abanye ngaphandle kogwebo okanye ukugxeka.
U-Aristotle wayelusongela kakuhle olu luvo xa wathi: 'Zonke iimvakalelo zobuhlobo zabanye abantu zandisa iimvakalelo zethu kuthi'. (Umiselwe ukubandakanywa kwesini.)
Storge
Uthando esinalo ngabazali bethu okanye abantwana alufani nothando esinalo kumaqabane ethu, kodwa alunamandla angaphantsi. Ewe inokuba yenye yezona ntlobo zinamandla zothando konke konke.
Storge ngu uthando, uhlobo olukhuselayo lothando oku kusoloko kunxulunyaniswa nolwalamano. Inokuba phakathi kwamalungu osapho asondeleyo, abahlobo abasenyongweni, abadlali beqela, kunye noluntu lwethu olude, kuxhomekeka kufutshane.
Olu hlobo luthando olusikhuthazayo ukuba sigcine umlindo ecaleni kwebhedi ecaleni komntu ogulayo, okanye uhambe iimayile kwimvula egalela ukugcina isithembiso.
Le yenye yeendlela ezilula zothando ukunxibelelana nazo. Usapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo abasenyongweni banokukuqhubela ekubeni uphambane, kodwa baya kuhlala bekulo. Ungaluthembela olu hlobo lothando, njengoko yomelele kwaye ithembekile.
Ikwaluhlobo lothando olunokukhokelela ekubeni abantu baphazamise ekukhetheni ubomi babanye abantu, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubakhusela kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwengozi okanye usizi olubonakalayo. Oku kungakhokelela kukungqubana okuninzi ukuba akukho unxibelelwano olucacileyo, kunye nokumakisha umda.
Agape
Okokugqibela, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ubuncinci, kunjalo agape .
Abantu abanokholo olomeleleyo lwenkolo baqhelene kakhulu nale. Ihlala isetyenziswa ukuchaza uthando lomntu kaThixo, kunye nothando olungenamiqathango lukaThixo eluntwini.
Inokuchazwa ngakumbi njenge uthando olushushu, olwamkela konke umntu unokuba neqabane, abantwana / abazukulwana, njl.
Kuthathwa njengenye yeendlela ezibalaseleyo zothando, kwaye kuye kwadunyiswa zizithandi zobulumko ezivela kuzo zonke iinkolo zonqulo amawaka eminyaka.
Ngubani u-barry gibb otshatele kuye
Uyazi ukuba uhlangabezana ne-agape xa uziva uluvo olugqithisileyo lobubele kunye nobushushu kwabanye. Njengohlobo lobushushu kunye novuyo uziva xa ilanga lihlamba phezu kobuso bakho ngemini egqibeleleyo yehlobo.
Ke, uziva njani uthando lwakho?
Uninzi lwezi ntlobo zothando zinokuhamba, kwaye ezinye zinokuguquka zivele kwenye ziye kwenye.
ILudus inokuba yipragma. I-Philia kunye ne-storge zingahamba kunye, kwaye i-eros inokuvela xa kungalindelekanga.
Uthando lunokuziva ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, ngokusekwe kwimood yakho kunye nophawu. Kuba inobuso obuninzi, unokuziva iintlobo ezininzi zothando lwabantu abaninzi kwisangqa sakho sentlalo.
Ngomlingane omtsha, kunokuba njalo yomdlalo ukudlala nge eros ' inkanuko yenyama.
Kuxhomekeka kwindlela oziphethe ngayo, unokufumana amava omninzi, umnqweno wokubulala ingqondo , okanye a inzulu, ukulawula, ukuthanda uthando oko kuyakukhuthaza ukuba wenze malunga nayo nayiphi na into ukunqanda ukuphulukana nento oyithandayo.
Ngenye indlela, inokuba inyulu, inyulu, uthando olungenanceba. Okanye i-banter eqinisekisayo, ethenda eza kuphela kwiminyaka yokwazana ngaphakathi nangaphandle, apho uyazi ukuba ungaxhomekeka kulo mntu ukuba akuxhase kwaye akuthande, nokuba ungalwa umbi. Ngenxa yokuba bayintsapho.
Nangona ulufumana uthando, ngamana lungaba luhle.
Yibhiyozele, bhala malunga nayo, ubekhona nayo kangangoko unakho. Kwaye ukuba unethamsanqa elaneleyo lokufumana zonke ezi ntlobo zothando, usikelelwe ngokwenene.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga nokuba uziva luthando? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
Uthando aluphelelanga apho: ayisiyiyo inyama okanye ayiseli
Akukho kulala okanye uphahla kwimvula
Okwangoku ayisiyonto yokudada emadodeni atshonayo
Kwaye phakama kwaye uzike uphinde uphakame kwaye uphinde uzike
Uthando alunako ukuzalisa umphunga otyebileyo ngomphefumlo,
Nokuba uhlambulule igazi, okanye ubeke amathambo aqhekekileyo
Ukanti baninzi abantu abazenzela abahlobo ngokufa
Nangona ndithetha, ngenxa yokungabikho kothando kuphela.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ngelixa elinzima,
Ukuxhonywa phantsi kwintlungu kunye nokugcuma ukuba kukhululwe,
Okanye ukrokrelwe kukufuna amandla okudlula,
Ndinganyanzelwa ukuba ndithengise uthando lwakho ngoxolo,
Okanye urhwebe inkumbulo yobu busuku ngokutya.
Kusenokwenzeka. Andiqondi ukuba ndingathanda.- Uthando alukho konke (Sonnet XXX), nguEdna St. Vincent Millay
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