Ukuba ulawula abazali, UNGAZE unyamezele ezi zinto zintathu kubo

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Abanye abantu banethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba nabazali ababathandayo ngaphandle kwemiqathango, bakhuthaze izinto abazenzayo, kunye nentlonipho (kunye nenkxaso!) Ukhetho lwabo lobomi.



Abanye abanathamsanqa, kwaye endaweni yoko banabazali abagxeka kwaye bathobele yonke into abayenzayo, okanye kungenjalo bayanyanzelisa ukuba bazi okona kulungele abantwana babo kwaye balindele ukuba bamanyelwe… naxa kusithiwa 'abantwana' sele bekwiminyaka yabo yokudlala.

Emva kwexesha kwinqaku, siza kujonga ezinye zeendlela zokujongana nokulawula abazali.



ndingathini ukuba andilufumani uthando

Kuqala, makhe sihlolisise amatyala amathathu xa enqumla imigca ongafanelekanga ukuyinyamezela. Kwezi meko, kuya kufuneka uyenze icace gca kubo ukuba amazwi nezenzo zabo azamkelekanga.

Ukungabi nantlonelo, ngakumbi esidlangalaleni

Abazali bakho banokungavumelani nolunye ukhetho ebomini bakho, kodwa bagwetywe kakuhle ukuba bayihlonele into yokuba, enyanisweni, ukhetho lwakho.

Uninzi lwabazali lubonakala ngathi luyalibala ukuba abantwana babo abazongezeli ngokwabo, kodwa zizinto ezizimeleyo ezifanelwe yimbeko nentlonipho njengaye nawuphi na umntu.

Izinto zinokuba mbi ngakumbi ukuba unoluhlobo lomzali othanda ukukujongela phantsi esidlangalaleni, nokuba kungenxa yokonwabisa kwabo, okanye ngenxa yokuba becinga ukuba ukufumana oontanga babo ngakubo kuya kuyomeleza imeko yabo kuwe kwaye kukunyanzele ukuba utshintshe Ingqondo yakho ukuba ihambelane neyabo.

Yenye into ukuba umzali wakho ukuxelela ukuba abayithandi imihombiso ekhayeni lakho, ukhetho lomsebenzi, umbala weenwele zakho, okanye ikhabethe lakho.

Kodwa yenye into ngokupheleleyo ukuba bayakuhleka okanye bakudele phambi kwabanye abantu.

Ukuba unamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubaxelele - phambi kwabahlobo okanye izalamane - ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ayamkelekanga kwaye ayizukunyanyezelwa, yenze njalo.

Yilungele nje ukuba banokwenza inzame zokuyihleka, kwaye abaxhasi babo banokunyuka baye kukuxhasa kwaye bahlasele ngokuchasene nawe njengeqela iinkawu eziphaphazelayo .

Eyona ndlela isebenzayo, nangona 'kukulwa ukungcola', kukuzisa imfihlo yosapho eyoyikisayo abangayifuniyo ukuba ibasaze ukuze babavalele isihogo.

Umzekelo:

Umzali - “Uqinisekile ukuba uyayifuna idessert? Sele utyebile kunokuba kufanelekile ukuphakama kwakho. Ndilungile? Ngaba ebengayi kujongeka ngcono kakhulu ukuba wehlile emzimbeni? Beka nje ifolokhwe phantsi, sithandwa. ”

Wena - 'Ewe, AKUKHO KUFUNEKA ukukopela (omnye umzali) nge-X, kodwa uyenzile kunjalo. Wowu, le mousse yetshokholethi imnandi… ”

Le ndlela inokubangela umonakalo othile, kodwa iya kusebenza ekubathuliseni kolu hlobo lobunkunkqele kwixa elizayo.

Ngaphandle koko, ukuba sele unolwalamano olubi kunye nomzali ophethe gadalala ngokweemvakalelo, olawulayo, kunokuba kubi kangakanani?

Ngamanye amaxesha, okugabadeleyo kuyafuneka ukuqinisekisa ukuba soze, baphinde olu hlobo lokuziphatha kuwe kwakhona.

Nceda uqaphele: ukuba uchonge umzali wakho njenge-narcissist (kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukulawula akwenzeki ukuba umntu abe li-narcissist), le ndlela ayicetyiswa.

Xa ujongene narcissist, ukuba awukwazi ungayi kunxibelelana nabo, emva koko ukubheja kwakho okona kulungileyo kukwamkela indlela yegrey rock kwaye bangaphenduli ngokweemvakalelo kwii-jibes zabo.

Izisongelo, Zombini ezinxamnye nawe, okanye eziya kubo

Kwakukho indoda eyayigulelwa ngumama wayigcina ngokupheleleyo phantsi kobhontsi wayo ngokusongela ngokuzenzakalisa ukuba ayenzi le nto ifuna yona, xa ifuna.

Wayekhubazekile, kwaye ukuba wayengabuyanga ekhaya ngokukhawuleza xa efuna, wayemthumelela umyalezo othi “Ndizokwenza into eyi-X, kwaye ukuba ndingawa phantsi ndizenzakalise okanye ndife ngenxa yokuba ubungekho Ukuba apha uza kundikhathalela, iya kuba yityala lakho. ”

Ukuba luhlobo olunobuntununtunu, wayesazi ukuba uza kugxeka yena ukuba ikhona into eyenzekileyo, ngenxa yoko wayevele ancwine kwaye athobele ngalo lonke ixesha, ezithiyile ngokumvumela ukuba amphathe gadalala.

Olu hlobo lokuziphatha okulawulayo alunampilo, kwaye alwamkelekanga njengomzali onokugrogrisa ngokukusika kwintando yabo ukuba awukwenzi ukhetho lobomi abalufuna kuwe.

Ukuba olu hlobo lwento luye lwanyamezelwa kwixa elidlulileyo, kufuneka luyeke, ngoku.

Yazi kakuhle ukuba abantu kunqabile (ukuba bakhe bakho) benza okuhle kwezi ntlobo zoyikiso- bafunde nje ukuba banokubalawula abanye abantu ngenxa yokoyika kunye nenkohlakalo, ke ngoko basebenzise oko sele bekwi repertoire yabo ukufumana oko bakufunayo.

Ukubabizela ngaphandle kwezisongelo zabo ezingenanto kwaye ubaxelele ukuba bahambe phambili ngokwesiqhelo kuyabothusa kuba ayisiyiyo le nto bayilindeleyo, kwaye inokukunika ithuba lokuzixhobisa ngokwakho kunye nokuzithemba.

Ngokusisiseko, kuya kufuneka ulungele ukuhamba, nangona kukho elona thuba lincinci lokuba usenokufuneka ukwenze oko.

Ukwazisa ukuba ungayenza loo nto, ngaloo ndlela uphelise ulawulo lwabo lokoyikeka, kuhlala kufanelekile ukubenza ukuba bahlengahlengise izenzo zabo.

Ubukrwada kwigama / iqabane lakho

Ngoku, kubi ngokwaneleyo ukuba umzali (abazali) wakho akuphathe njengoburhabaxa, kodwa lelinye inqanaba lokoyikeka ukuba bajika inyongo yabo iqabane lakho lobomi.

Abazali bakho banokungamthandi umntu okhethe ukuchitha ubomi bakho naye, kodwa loo mbambano iwela phantsi kwayo yonke 'ukuba awunanto intle ongayithetha, ungathethi kwanto' imeko.

Abanye abantu baye bajongana neemeko apho abazali babo babakhuthazayo ukuba baqhathe amaqabane abo, okanye babashiyele amaqabane abo (abazali) abawabona amkelekile / enomtsalane emehlweni abo.

Okulusizi kukuba, abo bakhethwe ngabazali (i) ngabazali babo bahlala befumana abo banomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye abanemisebenzi (kunye nengeniso…) ezihambelana nokhetho lwabo.

Ngokusisiseko, bazama ukuhlala ngokungenantlonelo ngabantwana babo, kwaye ukuba 'abantwana' babo abadala abazenzi ukhetho abalufunayo, emva koko baziva bekhohlisiwe, ngandlela thile.

Banokufumana isothuso ngokukodwa ukuba banobuhlanga, abantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo okanye abathandanayo kwaye ulwalamano nomntu ongavumelani nemvelaphi yakhe okanye isini sakhe, okanye ukuba iqabane lakho likhubazekile, okanye alithandeki nje Ndifuna ukuba babe.

Banokwenza amagqabantshintshi xa nonke nidibene- nokuba niyangxola okanye nibaxekile - okanye bade bahlasele iqabane lakho ngqo, befuna ukuba bazikhusele ngokwabo ukuze babenze ngandlela thile 'bafaneleke' emehlweni abazali bakho.

Nini kwaye ukuba olu hlobo lweemeko lwenzeka nini, inene zimbini kuphela iimpendulo ezamkelekileyo: biza umzali kwangoko kwaye uyenze icace into yokuba indlela yokuziphatha ayinakuphinda inyanyezelwe, okanye ushiye imeko, ikwenza kucace ukuba kutheni usenza njalo .

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Ukhethe iqabane lakho ngesizathu, kwaye ukuba abazali bakho abanantlonelo kwaye bakhohlakele kubo, kuya kufuneka ke ube nakho ukunyuka kwaye ukhusele umntu omthandayo.

Ukuba ujongene nezenzo ezothusayo zokulawula ezivela kubazali bakho iminyaka, akunakulindeleka ukuba batshintshe naliphi na ixesha kungekudala.

Ngexesha umntu efikelela kwiminyaka yabo yama-20, isimo sabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo kuya kuba kubhetyebhetye, ngenxa yoko unokuqiniseka ukuba abantu abakwiminyaka engama-50, 60, nangaphaya sele behleli bezimisele ngandlela zonke.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ekuphela kwento umntu anokuyenza ukuphelisa ukulawula ukuxhatshazwa kukwenza umgama ukusuka kumxhaphazi.

Igazi elipheleleyo 'liyajiya kunamanzi' lisetyenziswe rhoqo kakhulu xa kusiziwa ekunyamezeleni nasekwamkeleni isimilo esibi, esiphela nje sidala umonakalo onokuthi ungalungiseki.

Abazali bakho abayi kubakho ngonaphakade, kodwa ilifa abaye bavunyelwa ukulenza kuwe liya kuba, ngaphandle kokuba uthathe inyathelo lokuzikhusela.

Bazibonakalisile ukuba abazukukwenza ukuba ubaluleke okanye babonakalise uthando lwenene kunye nenkathalo kuwe, ke kufuneka uzibonakalise uthando olungenamiqathango kunye nenkathalo ongazange uyifumane, kwaye uyiphelise inkohlakalo yabo nangayiphi na indlela eyimfuneko.

Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):

Indlela yokujongana nokuLawula abazali

Ngaphambi kokuba siphonononge iindlela onokuthi ujongane nomama okanye utata olawulayo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kukho isikali sendlela abalawula ngayo.

Apho abazali bakho bawela khona kweli nqanaba liya kugqiba ngendlela onokuthi ubasondele ngayo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo.

Kwinqanaba elisezantsi, unabazali onokuthi ubabambe ngaphezulu kunokuba ulawule. Banokunika iingcebiso ezingacelwanga, benze izimvo zabo malunga nokhetho lwakho lobomi, kwaye bakwenzele izigqibo ezincinci ngaphandle kokutsho.

Kwelinye icala, uninzi lwabazali abalawulayo baya kusebenzisa inkohliso, ukuziva benetyala, umsindo, kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ngobuqhetseba ukwenza umntwana wabo unodoli wabo. Banokukunyanzela ukuba uhambe ngeendlela ezithile ezingezizo ozifunayo.

Ngelixa uzama ukufumanisa ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwabazali (abazali) abalawulayo onalo, ikwalicebo elilungileyo ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zabo kwaye ubuze ukuba kutheni benale mfuneko yolawulo.

Ngaba baziva ngathi basilele ukulawula ubomi babo kangangokuba kufuneka balawule eyakho endaweni?

Ngaba bayaphoxeka yindlela obuye baphelela ngayo ubomi babo? Ngaba oku kubashiye bekrakra, benomsindo, kwaye benomsindo ngolonwabo lwakho?

Ngaba abazali babo bebephethe gadalala kwaye yiyo kuphela kwendlela abayaziyo ngayo ukuba ngabazali?

Ngaba bayadika kwaye banexesha elininzi ezandleni zabo kangangokuba bangenelela kwimicimbi yakho ukuze babanike ingqiqo yenjongo?

Ngaba bafuna okona kulungileyo ebomini bakho, kodwa babe bhetyebhetye koko bakuthatha njengeyona 'ilungileyo' ukuba ibe yiyo?

Ukufumanisa ezona njongo zolawulo lokuziphatha kwabazali bakho kuya kukunceda ubone apho bahlala khona kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nabo.

Ukujongana nabo engqondweni yakho

Kukho amacala amabini okusondela kubazali abalawulayo. Eyokuqala idabi oza kujongana nalo engqondweni yakho.

Indlela ocinga ngayo kwaye owenza ngayo xa ujikeleze abazali bakho iyimveliso yeminyaka yokuziphatha okungenampilo ekufuneka ubunyamezele kubo.

Ukuze usebenzise ezakho iindlela zokulwa impilo esempilweni, kuya kufuneka utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo malunga nemeko.

Oku kubandakanya…

Ukwamkela Abazali Bakho Ngendlela Abayiyo

Njengoko besitshilo ngaphambili, mancinci amathuba okuba abazali bakho batshintshe ngokuqatha.

Ukuba bahlala emazantsi esikali esilawulayo, banokukwazi ukutshintsha ezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha ozifumanayo ziyacaphukisa okanye ziyacaphukisa.

Kodwa nalapha, sukulindela imimangaliso kwaye ungalindeli ukuba utshintsho luza ngokukhawuleza.

Kwaye okukhona usiya phezulu isikali oya kuso, kokukhona kungayi kubakho amathuba okuba ubone naluphi na utshintsho olukhulu kubazali bakho.

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Unokukhetha ezimbini:

1) Yilwa kwaye ulwe nembono yabazali bakho njengabantu abalawulayo nabanzima, lonke eli xesha uzama ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo.

2) Yamkela abazali bakho kunye neendlela zabo zokulawula ukuba bangobani kwaye ngubani onokuhlala.

Okokugqibela lukhetho olungcono kuwe, ngokwasemphefumlweni nasengqondweni, kuba ukwamkelwa ifuna amandla amancinci kunokuxhathisa.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubathande abazali bakho okanye iindlela zabo, kodwa ungamkela ukuba aba ngabantu ekufuneka ulwe nabo.

Yaphule Imfuno Yakho Ukukholisa Abazali Bakho

Kwezinye, kodwa ayizizo zonke, iimeko, uvumela indlela yokuziphatha yomzali wakho iqhubeke ngenxa yokuba awufuni ukubadanisa.

Ukukhula kwindawo apho kufuneka uhambelane nemigangatho ethile kwaye uziphathe ngendlela ekhethekileyo kunokushiya umntu enezimvo ezingachazwanga kakuhle.

Unokwazi kuphela ukunxibelelanisa ukuzixabisa kwakho nexabiso olinikwe ngabazali bakho. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kuthabatha ukunkqonkqoza ngalo lonke ixesha begxeka izigqibo zakho, bethoba ubuchule bakho, okanye bezama ukubanga iinkolelo zabo kuwe ngandlela thile.

Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba kuqhubeke ixesha elide. Mhlawumbi awufumananga amabanga amahle abalindeleyo kuwe kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Okanye mhlawumbi ubomi bakho bentlalo abuyithandi.

Ukuba unokususa ukuzithemba kwakho ekuvunyelweni ngabazali bakho, awuzukunyanzeleka ukuba wenze ngeendlela ezibakholisayo.

Uya kukhululeka ukwenza isigqibo malunga nendlela yokuphila ubomi bakho kwaye awuyi kuziva ungalunganga ngayo.

Ngelixa ungafanelekanga ukungahoyi iimvakalelo zikanyoko notata wakho, sukubavumela ukuba babe ngumba ophambili kwizigqibo ozenzayo.

Ewe, oku kulula ukukuthetha kunokwenza kwaye kuhlala kufuna uncedo lomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo okanye ingcali.

Kodwa ngokusebenza kweli candelo lengqondo yakho, uya kubekwa ngcono ukuba uphumeze ezinye zeengcebiso eziza kamva.

Funda ukuba ungaSebenza njani ngaphandle kweeMvakalelo zakho

Xa ujongene nemeko apho abazali bakho bezama ukukulawula, kungokwemvelo ukuvumela iimvakalelo zakho ukuba zikhokele indlela ophendula ngayo.

Okwangoku, le yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokuthatha.

Inzondo, uloyiko, umsindo, usizi, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ziyasiphazamisa isigwebo sakho kwaye zikunike amandla okwenza ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Xa ufunda ukupholisa iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uzikhuphe ezingcingeni nasezenzweni zakho, ungaphendula indlela yokuziphatha kwabazali bakho ngeendlela eziza kuyiphucula imeko kuwe, endaweni yokwenza mandundu ngakumbi.

Kwakhona, akukho lula ukuyenza xa abazali bakho beyinxalenye enkulu kangaka yobomi bakho kunye nexesha elidlulileyo owabelana ngalo lizaliswe ziinkumbulo ezingokweemvakalelo.

Kodwa isimilo esizolileyo kunye nengqondo, nokuba ulwa nokubamba impendulo, kukhethwa.

Qonda ukuba ubomi bakho bunomda

Nokuba uphila ebudaleni, ekugqibeleni uyakushiya le ndawo ngasemva. Umbuzo ke, uthi, ingaba ufuna ukuphila ubomi kabani: obufuna uphile abazali bakho, okanye obufuna ukuphila?

Ukwazi ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha unikezela kwiimfuno zabo, uyalahla ithuba lokukhetha elinye ikamva, unokuqina kwizimvo zakho nakwiinkolelo zakho.

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Okokulungileyo nokungalunganga, kuya kufuneka ube nezwi lokugqibela kwindlela ophila ngayo ubomi bakho.

Abazali bakho babenethuba lokuyila ubomi ababebufuna. Musa ukuvumela ukuba bakuyalele ukuba yeyakho kufuneka ijongeke njani.

Beka ixabiso kulwalamano onalo nabazali bakho

Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona nto unokuyenza ukugcina ingqondo yakho ikukuzihlukanisa nabazali bakho.

Ukuba bahlala bekucaphukisa ngalo lonke ixesha ubabona, akukho mdla wakho ukubabona rhoqo.

Kunzima ukuyamkela, kunokuba bhetele ukuba ubeke umgama phakathi kwakho nabazali bakho.

Ukuba awukwazi ukuzihlukanisa ngokwasemzimbeni kwixesha elifutshane- mhlawumbi uhlala nabo kwaye / okanye usengumntwana ngokwakho - ungafunda ukuzihlukanisa ngokweemvakalelo.

Isigqibo ekufuneka usenzile kukuba uluxabise kangakanani ulwalamano lwakho nabazali bakho.

Ngaba wabelana ngamanye amaxesha amnandi ngokwenyani kunye nokuziphatha okulawulayo kukungcoliseka kolwalamano olungelulo?

Okanye uzaliswe kukuxhalaba okanye umsindo qho xa ubabona kwaye ngekhe ubaphose ukuba awuzange uphinde ubabone?

Iindlela ezisebenzayo zokujongana nokuLawula abazali

Ngoku ukuba sihlolisise ezinye zeendlela onokuzihlengahlengisa ukucinga kwakho, makhe sijonge kwinto esiyenzayo ngokubonakalayo.

Ungaguquguquki kwindlela yakho

Kuyanceda ukuba nesicwangciso endaweni yokujongana nabazali bakho. Esi sicwangciso siya kuba ngqo kuwe nakwiimeko zakho.

Nantoni na oyenzayo, bambelela kwesi sicwangciso.

Into ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo abazali bakho, kwinqanaba elithile, yimpendulo yokufunda. Iguqukile ngokuhamba kwexesha ngokusekwe kumava abo kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho.

Nangona kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba, njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, abazali bakho abanakulindeleka ukuba batshintshe eyona nto bayiyo, banokuthi, kwinqanaba elithile, batshintshe indlela abaziphatha ngayo kuwe.

Kodwa baya kwenza kuphela ukuba uyakwazi ukuhlala uqinile kwisicwangciso sakho.

Ukuba uzama indlela amaxesha ambalwa, ungaboni mahluko kwisiphumo sokugqibela, emva koko uqhubeke utshintshele kwiindlela zakho zakudala, abazali bakho abasayi kubona sizathu sokutshintsha.

Kodwa ukuba uyayigcina loo nto, ekugqibeleni banokuyeka kwaye 'bafunde' ukuthatha enye indlela.

Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umnqweno wabo wokulawula ufuna ukuba bachithe inani elininzi lamandla-ngokwengqondo, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni.

Ukuba bayabona ukuba la mandla ayamoshwa, banokutshintsha indlela abajongana ngayo nawe ukuyigcina.

Susa konke ukuxhomekeka osenokuba unabo kubo

Ukuba uhlala uxhomekeke kubazali bakho ixesha elide, baya kuziva ngathi banelungelo lokuvakalisa izimvo zabo kwaye bakuxelele indlela ophila ngayo.

Ukuba uhlala ekhaya, unetyala kubo nantoni na, okanye uthembele kubo kwezinye izinto ezinje ngokunceda abantwana bakho, kuya kufuneka unqumle olo qhagamshelo.

Kuyavunywa, oku akusoloko kulula okanye kungqala. Usenokungabi nalo elo thuba ngoku, kodwa unokucwangcisela oko.

Ixesha elininzi lihla liye emalini, ke lumka ngokwezemali kwaye ugcine kangangoko unako. Kwaye musa ukubaxelela ngayo.

Thatha umsebenzi naphina apho unokufumana khona kwaye uchithe imali encinci kangangoko. Abazali bakho banokuhlekisa ngomsebenzi owukhethileyo okanye bazame ukukuyekisa ukusebenza, kodwa kufuneka uhlale uqinile kwisigqibo sakho sokuzimela geqe.

Bhatala nantoni na oyityala yona, nokuba uyinikiwe njengesipho. Ukuba bathenga imoto yakho okanye enye into eyeyakho, babuyekeze nayo.

Musa ukuxhomekeka kubo ukuba bakuncede nangayiphi na indlela. Thatha naziphi na izizathu abanokuziva benazo zokulawula into oyenzayo.

Phuma uye kuzifunela indawo yakho ngokukhawuleza, nokuba oku kuthetha ukufudukela kwindawo enexabiso eliphantsi uye kwipropathi engenakulunga ngokwaneleyo. Akudingeki ukuba ube likhaya lakho laphakade, endaweni ethile ukuze ubaleke indlela yokuziphatha kwabazali bakho.

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Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba yeyiphi imigca yakho ebomvu kukuba ziziphi iindlela zokuziphatha ezingaphaya kwento oya kuyamkela.

Kwaye wakuba uzijongile ezi zinto, kuya kufuneka uzinze kwisicelo sakho.

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Sithethe ngemizekelo emi-3 emikhulu yemigca ebomvu ngaphambili, kodwa unganalo naliphi na inani lezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ozifumana zinganyamezeleki.

Yonke le yinxalenye yesicwangciso sakho sokujongana nabazali bakho. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba leliphi inyathelo oza kulithatha xa umda othile uwelisiwe.

Ngaba uyayishiya imeko kwangoko ukubonisa ukuba awonwabanga yindlela abaziphethe ngayo?

Ngaba ubanike isitrayikhi esi-3 ngaphambi kokuba uhambe?

Ngaba uhlala uthule kwaye uyala ukubandakanya?

Ngaba ulwa nekona yakho?

Nantoni na oyenzayo, iphinda ifike ekungqinelaneni.

Kwezinye iimeko, ukuba abazali bakho bazikhusela ngakumbi xa uzama ukuthetha ngokuziphatha kwabo, awudingi nokubaxelela ukuba yeyiphi imida yakho.

Ngapha koko, ayizukunceda nganto ukubaxelela. Inokude yenze mandundu indlela abaziphethe ngayo.

Kodwa usenokulandela isicwangciso sakho ngalo lonke ixesha imigca yakho ebomvu iwele. Ungazithathela inyathelo kunye nabo ubakhathaleleyo abanokuthi babe phantsi kwendlela yokuziphatha kwabazali bakho.

Konke kuyehla ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokulawula abakulo.

Ukuba bayanyanzela, kodwa usenolwalamano oluhle, ukuthetha nabazali bakho kwaye uchaze ukuba kutheni indlela yokuziphatha kwabo ibenzakalisa sisicwangciso esifanelekileyo.

Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha amagama amabini kubazali bakho ngaphambi kokuba ucaphuke, okanye ukuba bayala nje ukumamela nantoni na oyithethayo, akukho nto incinci ekutyhilweni kwemida yakho.

Ungaze uyijongele phantsi iMzabalazo

Akukho mntu unqwenela ukuba abazali babo balawule, kodwa okwakho kunjalo. Kufuneka ujongane nayo.

Kodwa akukho lula.

Uya kujongana nalo lonke uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezimbi zabantu kwaye uya kusokola. Inokuvavanya impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nentlalo-ntle yakho.

Ukuba unako, yenza ulwakhiwo lwenkxaso ekujikelezile. Abahlobo abasondeleyo, amaqabane, iingcali zonyango, kunye namanye amalungu osapho anokukunceda ngamaxesha anzima.

Kwilizwe elifanelekileyo, ubudlelwane bethu bobuzali buya kuba yeyona nto sinokuqiniseka ngayo, kodwa eli hlabathi alikho mgangathweni.

Indlela ojamelana ngayo nale nyaniso ixhomekeke kuwe. Ndiyathemba ukuba esi sikhokelo sikunike ezinye zeendlela zokujongana nokuwa kwabazali abalawulayo.

Dibana ngcono nabazali abalawulayo ngokufunda le ncwadi ibalaseleyo.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi .

Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.