Ngesihloko sesi siqwenga, unokucinga ukuba isisombululo kukususa ii-hallucinogens, kodwa hayi.
'Iinkawu ezibhabhayo' ligama elisetyenziswe kwizifundo zengqondo ukuchaza ii-sycophantic hanger-on zihlala zijikeleza ii-narcissists, kwaye zixhase / zikhusele yonke into abayenzayo.
Njengomgqwirha okhohlakeleyo weenkawu eziphaphazelayo zaseNtshona kwiWizard yeOz, 'iiFlying Monkeys' (ukusukela ngoku zibizwa ngokuba 'ziiFM') ziingqondo ezihlanjululwe yingqondo ezisetyenziswa ngumnxibelelanisi ukwenza ukuthanda kwabo.
Oku kunokuvakala kungavuthwanga kwaye kuyaphazamiseka engqondweni, kwaye kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba nabani na angazithoba ukuze asebenzise abanye ukwenza umsebenzi wabo omdaka, kodwa ke. Kwenzeka rhoqo kunokuba ungaziqonda.
Apha ngezantsi kukho imizekelo embalwa yendlela enokwenzeka ngayo le, kunye nendlela yokuphepha ezo jerks zinobuqili.
Zisebenzisa njani iiNkawu ezibhabhayo
Ukuba ubukhe wabandakanyeka kwi-narc ixesha elithile, uyazi kakuhle ukuba bangabakhohlisa njani abanye abantu ukuze bahambelane neemfuno zabo kunye neemfuno zabo.
Imeko enye eqhelekileyo apho ii-FM zigaywa emva koqhawulo-mtshato. I-narc ngokungathandabuzekiyo iya kuba nomtsalane kubantu abambalwa abatsha ukomeleza i-ego yayo, kwaye ezi newbies ziya kuxelelwa konke malunga nendlela eyoyikeka ngayo, ephambeneyo, kwaye mhlawumbi nokuhlukumeza i-ex yabo.
Aba bantu batsha kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nemfesane, iintlobo zovelwano, kwaye baya kufuna kwangoko ukuthuthuzela nokukhusela i-narc kangangoko banako.
Banokunikezela ngokunceda nangona benako, okunika i-narc ithuba elifanelekileyo lokuqhubeka nokusebenza kwabo kumlingo wobubi ebomini bakho.
Ezi nkawu zibhabhayo zinokusetyenziswa ngobuqhetseba ngokunceda…
1. Ukuhlola
Masithi nguwe ophelise ubudlelwane, kwaye uhambe ' akukho nxibelelwano ”Kwilinge lokuziqhela kwaye uphilise kuloo ngxaki .
INarc inokufumana i-FM enye okanye ezimbini ukuba zihlole iiakhawunti zakho zemidiya yoluntu ukuze ubone ukuba uphi, kwaye uxele.
kutheni ndingenamdla
Ungakuphepha Njani Oku:
Cwangcisa iiprofayili zakho kwimidiya yoluntu, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyabakhetha kakhulu abo ubanika izicelo zabahlobo.
Yamkela kuphela izicelo zabahlobo babahlobo, kwaye ubuze ukunxibelelana okuninzi kangangoko unakho ukuba ngoobani aba bafikayo. Yenza i-recon encinci ngaphambi kokubanika imvume.
Oku kunokubonakala ngathi kuyaphambanisa, kodwa ukuba usebenze nzima ukuphuma ngaphakathi kwezikhonkwane ze-narcissist, kufanelekile umzamo owongezelelweyo wokuzigcina ukhuselekile.
Ukuthatha la manyathelo kuthetha ukuba awuzukuba naxhala nangalo naluphi na ulwazi malunga nokubuyela kwi-ex yakho. Iimpazamo zakhe azinakukwazi ukufikelela nantoni na ngawe ongabelani ngayo noluntu ngokubanzi.
2. Amaphulo okuhleba / okuSmear
Uninzi lwethu lunomdla wokuhleba ngokufuthi, kodwa xa luthatyathwa lwakwelinye inqanaba kwaye ungoyena usweleyo kuthethwa ngaye, kunokukwenza uzive umbi.
Okulusizi kukuba, ii-narcissists kunye ne-minions yabo bayazibandakanya kolu hlobo lokuziphatha okuxhaphazayo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Yinto enesidima ngokwenene, into yolutsha ukuyenza, kodwa ukuba baziva nangayiphi na indlela betyeshelwe kwaye bafuna ukohlwaya ngokuzama ukumisa uhambo lwabo lwamandla kunye nokulawula phezu kwakho, banokugoba kumkhankaso we-smear.
Ukuba awuqhelekanga ngale nto, umbono osisiseko kukujika abanye abantu bakuchase.
Benza oku ngokubaxelela ubuxoki malunga nezinto ezoyikisayo ozithethileyo okanye ozenzileyo, okanye ukuthatha izinto obuzixelele ngokuzithemba (emva xa wawunele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubathembe) kwaye ubenze babonakale esidlangalaleni.
Injongo kukusohlwaya nangayiphi na into engalunganga oyicingileyo ngabo, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bathatha inyathelo lokuqala kwaye bakupeyinte 'njengomntu ombi' ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokwenza into efanayo kubo.
Ii-FM zinokunceda kule ndlela ngokongeza amazwi ongezelelweyo kwi-chorus ye-sh * t yokutsalwa malunga nawe.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umntu owayekade engonwabanga ugxothwa ngokulula ngolo hlobo, kodwa ukuba abantu abaliqela bathetha into enye, kwizangqa ezahlukeneyo zoluntu… kulungile, kufanele ukuba kubekho inyani kuloo nto, akunjalo?
Ncwina.
Rhoqo, iphulo le-smear liya kubandakanya izihlobo ezifanayo kunye nosapho lwakho oluza kuba nomtsalane kubudlelwane bakho.
Oku kuyonakalisa kakhulu kwaye kungakhokelela ekonakaleni kobudlelwane obubalulekileyo ngexesha elinye.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
ungangena njani kwi-wwe thunderdome
- Indlela yeGrey Rock yokuSebenzisana ne-Narcissist xa ungekhe uhambe noNxibelelwano
- Ukukhanyisa ngegesi: Imizekelo engama-22 yale Migaqo yokuLawulwa kobuGwenxa * ck
- Kutheni le nto UNGAFUNI UKUZE uzame iTherapy yoNyango ngeNarcissist
- Iindlela ezi-5 zamaNarcissist aThintela amaXhoba abo ukuba angahambi
- Izinto ezi-8 i-Narcissist ayinakukwenza yona (okanye nabani na ongomnye)
- I-Rollercoaster yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwi-Narcissistic Abuse
Ungakuphepha Njani Oku:
'Phakama Phezulu' kuvakala ngathi yinto encinci kunye nokusetyenziswa gwenxa, kodwa kufanelekile. Yiba lolona hlobo lubalaseleyo, olunyanisekileyo, endaweni yokuzama ukuziphindezela okanye ukuzikhusela.
Ukuba umntu othile ukubiza malunga nezinto ezoyikisayo ekucingelwa ukuba uzenzile kwi-narc ekuthethwa ngayo, veza nje ukuba uyinqwenelela i-narc yolonwabo kwaye ubanqwenelele okuhle.
Oku kuyakudida iinkawu kwaye kuzenze ukuba ziqikelele okwesibini ukuba ulwazi abalufumeneyo luyinyani.
Ngokusisiseko, ukuba awuziphathi njengomntu owoyikekayo abathi unguye, kunokwenzeka ukuba banikezele kwaye babhabhe bemke.
Inokude ihluthe abanye abantu-ngakumbi abo bebekwazi ngaphambi kwe-narc- kwimeko yabo yokulala kwaye ubakhumbuze ukuba ungubani ngokwenene Ungabo kwaye ayisiyiyo le narc ikwenza ube yiyo.
Ungayihoyi le nto ithethwayo, thintela abo bantu bangaphandle abahlasimlisayo nabakuhlukumezayo, kwaye uqhubeke.
3. Ukuhlaselwa kwamaqela kunye nongenelelo
Eli qhinga libandakanya iqela leenkawu ezibhabhayo ezisebenza kunye ukuzama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha lunomdla kuwe.
Kuphela kungenxa yabo / ye-narc abamele.
izinto onokuzenza xa udikiwe
Kuqheleke kakhulu kwiintsapho apho i-narc ekuthethwa ngayo ingumzali, njengoko umzali esitsho unokuhlala enetyhefu abantakwenu kunye namalungu osapho awandileyo ngokuchasene nawe ngokuwaxelela ukuba ubakhathaze kangakanani, nokuba zange benze nto imbi, njl.
Ungazifumana ukwimeko apho abantakwenu, oodadewenu, abazala bakho, oomakazi bakho, kunye / okanye omnye umzali wakho ekuxelela ukuba bayayazi yonke le meko kwaye bayayazi indlela ekufuneka uziphathe ngayo ukuze uyilungise.
Ungakuphepha njani / uyeke oku:
Ukuba awukwazi (okanye ungafuni) ukusika bonke ebomini bakho ngoko nangoko, ke eyona nto unokuyenza kukuba ukwala ukusabela .
Qaphela ukwenziwa kwabo ngobuqhetseba kunye nokuzama kwi-FOG (uloyiko, uxanduva, kunye netyala), kwaye ungazibandakanyi nabo.
Inkqubo elungileyo kukuba, xa bethetha, ukubenza bachaze ukuma kwabo kunye nezizathu zabo malunga noko bakuthethayo.
Qhubeka ubuza imibuzo, qhubeka ubabuze ukuba bathethe malunga nento abayixelelweyo, abakwaziyo, “into abayifunayo, njlnjl.… Kodwa ungazami ukukhusela indlela oziphethe ngayo okanye wenze naliphi na ilinge lokuxelela elakho icala lebali .
Into yokuba bathabathe eli nyathelo lokungenelela lithetha ukuba abanamdla umncinci kuyo nantoni na oyithethayo, kwaye bazivumele ukuba baphenjelelwe ngokupheleleyo kwaye baphathwe ngumxhaphazi we-narc.
Nje ukuba bathethe, ungabonisa ukuba ngokucacileyo beze kwezabo izimvo kunye nezigqibo ngaphandle kokuthetha nawe wedwa kwaye ufumane elakho icala lebali, ke izimvo zabo azisebenzi, kwaye awunamdla Nantoni na abanokuyithetha.
Ukuphela kwengxoxo.
Qiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uhlala uzolile kwaye unxunguphele ngokweemvakalelo kuwo onke amava.
Injongo yabo kukukwenza ube novalo kwaye utyhafise, kwaye ukuba uhlala unenjongo, uzolile, kwaye ubonise okuncinci kutyalo-mali lweemvakalelo, emva koko uzuzile kwaye abanakukuchaphazela konke konke.
Abantu abanakukukhathaza xa ungabaniki ukufikelela kuwe, nokuba kungokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuzisusa ngokwasemzimbeni kwi-narcissist kunye ne-Flying Monkey brigade yabo, ke ubuncinci, unokuzisusa ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Umzekelo olungileyo woku ingayingcinga 'yesuti engenanto' eAikido: ukuba uyisitya esingenanto, kwaye usebenzise amandla elinye iqela ukuphumelela umlo. Yidinise, emva koko uhambe.
Ngapha koko, ukuhamba kude yeyona ndlela ilungileyo onokuthi ususe zombini i-narcissist kunye ne-monkey minions ebomini bakho, ngokusisigxina.
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kubuhlungu ukwenza oku, ngakumbi ukuba iiMonkey Flying zingamalungu osapho okanye ziboshwe ngokusondeleyo kubomi bakho, kodwa kufuneka uzikhathalele ngazo naziphi na iindlela eziyimfuneko.
Ukuba oko kuthetha ukutshintsha igama lakho, ukupakisha izinto zakho, kunye nokuhamba kwilizwe liphela ukuqala ubomi obutsha ngokupheleleyo ngesileyiti esingenanto, kude nomxhaphazi (abantu) bakho, yenze.
