Inye kuphela Inkqubo yokubuyisa gadalala uyakuze ufune.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
ibhola yedragini super arc entsha
I-rollercoaster ekrakra kakhulu yeemvakalelo kunye namava yindlela uninzi lwamaxhoba anokuchaza ngayo ixesha labo abalichithe kunye narcissist. Uyathemba, ke, ukuba wakuba ukhululeke ekubambeni kwabo, olu hambo lubi luza kuphela… kodwa uya kube uphosakele.
Amahla ndenyuka ahlala ixesha elide emva kokuba ubashiyile ngasemva, ngokungathi ityhefu yabo isahamba ngemithambo yakho. Ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ekuphathweni kakubi kwe-narcissist kufana nayo nayiphi na indlela yokubuyiswa kwengqondo okanye umzimba-kuthatha ixesha, ukusebenza kunye nokuzimisela kwamanxeba okuphola.
Zininzi izinto zale nkqubo kangangokuba kusengqiqweni ukujongana nenye nenye ngokwahlukeneyo.
Iimvakalelo zabalingane bangaphandle
Ngaphandle kwayo yonke into abakubeka kuyo, ngekhe ucofe nje iswitshi kwaye ucime iimvakalelo onazo kwiqabane othandana nalo. Oku kuyinyani ephindwe kabini kwi-narcissistic ex ngenxa yamanqanaba okuphatha abawasebenzisayo ukunyusa imeko yeemvakalelo ezinamandla kumaxhoba abo.
Ukubashiya ngokuqinisekileyo kwakungumzabalazo ngokwawo, kodwa ukuhlala kude nabo kunzima. Njengalo naluphi na ulwalamano, uya kuva imvakalelo yelahleko kunye nenye yosizi.
Uya kuzifumana ulwa nomnqweno wokuvuselela idangatye eliqale lakutsalele kubo uya kunqwenela ukubuya kwaye 'wenze izinto zisebenze' nangona uyazi ukuba abanako. Intliziyo yakho iya kukutsalela emva ngelixa icala lakho elinengqondo liya kukukhumbuza onke amaxesha amabi akwenzileyo wemka kwasekuqaleni.
Le nkqubo yokulangazelela i-ex yakho ngelixa ukhumbula ixesha olichithe kunye nabo kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu. Uya kuziva ungqubana kwaye udidekile njengoko wenzayo ngexesha lolwalamano ngokwalo.
Oku kwenziwa kubi ngakumbi xa i-narcissist ibuyela ebomini bakho ukuzama ukukubuyisa. Baza kugalela ikhubalo kwakhona kwaye kuya kufuneka ulwe neminqweno yakho kwaye ume umhlaba wakho akusoloko kulula njengoko kuvakala.
Ukwahlula kumalungu osapho
Akukho nzima kangako yinkqubo yokuziqhekeza kumalungu osapho lwakho angaba ngu-narcissists okanye kwicala le-narcissist ebomini bakho.
Usapho lubaluleke kakhulu kubomi bethu kwaye xa olu nxibelelwano luza kuba semngciphekweni, lunokucaphukisa kakhulu. Aba ngabantu ebebe yinxalenye yobomi bakho ixesha elide kakhulu- mhlawumbi ukusukela oko wazalwa- kwaye nefuthe labo lincedile ekubumbeni ukuba ungubani.
Abazali be-narcissistic banzima ngakumbi kuba bemele ixesha lakho elidlulileyo, ukukhula kwakho, kunye nokwazisa kwakho kweli hlabathi. Ubudlelwane bakho kubo bunokungomelele njengolwalamano lomzali nomntwana ngokwesiko, kodwa njengomama notata wakho, baya kuhlala benendawo entliziyweni yakho.
Ukwahlulwa kwamalungu osapho lwakho akufuneki kuhlala kungokuba bangama-narcissist. Ngamanye amaxesha iqabane lakho elalikade lithandana naye liyakucenga kwaye libala ukuba usapho lwakho luyakukubeka ityala ngokuqhekeka kobudlelwane. Isenokuba yimeko apho umntu wakho wangaphambili kunye nosapho lwakho benokunxibelelana, kwaye ukuze ususe enye ebomini bakho, kuya kufuneka, ungathandabuzi, uthethe kakuhle komnye.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, ukusika amaqhina namalungu osapho lwakho kuya kuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu. Kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nemicimbi efana nokuzalwa, iKrisimesi kunye nemingcwabo ukuze ungayiboni. Izihlandlo zakho ezizodwa zisenokungqineka kunzima ngenxa yamaqhina osapho asekhona thatha umtshato wakho okanye ukuzalwa komntwana, umzekelo, kunye nokungabikho kwamalungu osapho athile.
Uya kuba nenani elimangalisayo leenkumbulo-ezilungileyo nezimbi-eziza kungena engqondweni yakho amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye ezi ziya kuhlanganiswa nazo zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo ezinokuphinda ziye phezulu kwakhona.
Ubulolo kunye noKwahlula
I-narcissist ihlala izama ukutyhala abanye abantu ababalulekileyo kude nawe ukuze ugcine ulawulo lwayo. Amaqabane eNarcissist aya kuzama ukukugcina ukude nosapho kunye nabahlobo, ngelixa amalungu osapho angama-narcissist agxotha abahlobo kunye nothando.
Nje ukuba ukhululeke, unokufumanisa ukuba ujongene nexesha elininzi wedwa. Ezinye zezi zinto zinokuba ngaphandle kokhetho njengoko uzama ukuzifumanisa kwakhona kwaye uphilise kumava akho. Ngamanye amaxesha, unokufuna ukuba nentlalontle, kodwa ujongane nemeko apho ungasenabo abahlobo abaninzi abalungileyo onokuthembela kubo okanye amalungu osapho osondeleyo kuwe.
Inkululeko yakho inokuthi ikhulule kwaye ityhafise ngokulinganayo kwaye iya kuhlala ibuyela umva isiya kwenye iye kwenye.
Ukuzakha ngokutsha
Emva kokuba uziva ukhululekile ekuchaseni i-narcissist kwixa elidlulileyo, uya kujongana nomsebenzi wokuyakha kwakhona wakuba ubashiyile ngasemva.
Le nkqubo ayithathi kuphela ixesha elibalulekileyo, kodwa ifuna ukuba ujongane needemon zakho kwaye uzikhuphe. Ezi demon ziyiintsalela ze-narcissist iziva ezikushiye kuwe. Ziinkolelo ezingeyonyani malunga nawe ezikhule zivela kumava akho kwaye kufuneka zichithwe ngaphambi kokuba uqale ngokwakha ngokutsha isiqu sakho.
Ngelishwa, kunqabile ukuba ube ngumsebenzi othe ngqo oya kuba neentsuku xa uziva ngathi wenza inyathelo elikhulu, kodwa kuya kubakho neentsuku apho kuya kubonakala ngathi ubuyile kwisikwere sokuqala. I-Elation kunye nokuzithemba kungenza ngokukhawuleza indlela yokuphelelwa lithemba kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kukuhamba ngenqwelomoya.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuqinisekisa ngokunyanga amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- Iikhonkco ezi-5 ezisetyenziswa ngabaNarcissist ukukugcina ubuya kwakhona
- I-4 Ngokunyaniseka Inokunyaniseka Izinto Abantu Abasindileyo Kwimpatho-mbi ye-Narcissistic Bafuna Ukuthetha Kubahlukumezi babo
- Ungamenzakalisa njani uNarcissist
Ukufuna Impindezelo
Esinye sezigaba onokuhamba kuzo amaxesha ngamaxesha xa uchacha ngumnqweno wokufumana eyakho i-narcissist. Unokufuna ukuba bahlupheke kwaye bazi indlela oziva ngayo ngexesha lakho kunye nabo.
Impindezelo inokuvakala njengesibheno, kodwa sihlandlo ngasinye ubuyela kulo mnqweno, uvula amanxeba amadala kwakhona. Uvuselela iimvakalelo ezingamkelekanga kwaye ubuyise iinkumbulo ezingathandekiyo ezikubuyisela umva inyathelo kwindlela yakho eya kubomi obungenasiphelo.
Ingxaki kukuba, ingqondo yakho enengqiqo iyazi ukuba ngumbono osileyo, kodwa intliziyo yakho yeemvakalelo ayinakukunceda kodwa ubuyele kuyo iphindaphindwe.
Ifowuni yokufuna ukwazi
Esinye isizathu sokuba iimvakalelo zakho zibe kuyo yonke indawo emva kokushiya i-narcissist inomdla. Ukufuna ukwazi ukuba baphi na kwaye ngoobani ababonayo ngamanye amaxesha kufana nokuba nokurhawuzelela kufuneka ukrwele nje imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo kwenza lo mgibe ekulula kakhulu ukuwela kuwo.
ungathanda kwaye ukhanuke kwangaxeshanye
Ukubona nje imifanekiso ye-narcissist evela kwixa elidlulileyo kunokuvuselela zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo eziphikisanayo.
Eyona nto ibangela ukuba ingancedi nganto kukuba kunqabile ukuba babonise ukungcungcutheka ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukuba nomsindo kwaye banokubonakala behamba ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Oku kunokwenza iimvakalelo zakho zibonakale zingenangqondo ngakumbi, nangona ziyi-100% yendalo kwaye ziyaqondakala.
Uzibuza
Kuya kufuneka ujongane nemibuzo engqondweni yakho malunga nokuba kutheni ungakhange uzibone iiflegi ezibomvu ngaphambili kubudlelwane (oku ikakhulu kusebenza ikakhulu ekuthandeni kwezothando).
Kungaba lula ukuzibetha kwaye uzithobe ekugculelweni ngenxa yokujonga izinto esele zibonakala ngoku. Ewe, yonke into icacile ngasemva, kodwa ayisiyiyo indlela oya kuyibona ngayo.
Uyakutshintsha phakathi kokuzixolela nokuzigxeka kwaye umjikelo ngamnye uya kubangela isiphithiphithi sangaphakathi nokucaphuka.
Ngaphezulu koku, uya kubuza ukuba ungaze ukwazi ukuthembela kwakhona , kwaye intandabuzo iyakwenza uzive uphelelwe lithemba kakhulu ngekamva lakho elizayo. Uya kucinga ubomi bakho wedwa, ungaze uphinde ube nakho ukuzibophelela komnye umntu ngendlela othanda ngayo. Ewe, le mvakalelo ayizukuhlala isigxina, kodwa inokuphinda ibuyele engqondweni yakho amaxesha amaninzi ngaphambi kokuba inyamalale ngokulungileyo.
Ingqele yaseTurkey kunye nexesha
Ezi zinto zimbini oza kuzidinga kakhulu ukuze uzise eyakho i-rollercoaster yakho.
Njengokuba kwakunjalo igubungele ngokubanzi kwelinye inqaku , ekuphela kwendlela yokujongana ngenene nokudlulela phambili kwi-narcissist kukushiya ngasemva ngokupheleleyo nonxibelelwano. Xa sele ukwenzile oku, kungakho ixesha lokuqala ukuphola konzakele.
Iiveki zokuqala neenyanga ziya kuba zezona zinzima, kodwa njengoko ixesha lihamba, amahla ndinyuka e-rollercoaster yeemvakalelo aya kuba mancinci kwaye anciphe de, ekugqibeleni, abekho.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ngekhe, ngamanye amaxesha, ube namava ezantsi xa kukho into kubangela impendulo , kodwa baya kuba mbalwa yaye baqhubeke phakathi kweminyaka.
Jonga oku ikhosi ekwi-intanethi yenzelwe ukunceda umntu Philisa kuphatho gadalala .
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Ngaba uhamba indlela yokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo yokuxhatshazwa? Ngaba amanye ala manqaku avakala uqhelekile kuwe? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi ukuze wabelane ngeengcinga zakho kunye namava.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
