Inye kuphela Inkqubo yokubuyisa gadalala uyakuze ufune.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Umyeni wam wandishiya waya komnye umfazi
Nokuba yeyiphi eyona nto ingunobangela wokuziphatha kwabo, i-narcissist iya kubangela ukubandezeleka okungathethekiyo kwabo babaphethe gadalala.
Bangabatyumzi bomoya abathatha umntu kwaye bayabalawula, babadidise, kwaye babangcungcuthekise ngoludwe oluxakayo lwezixhobo zomlomo nezomzimba ukuze banelise iingqondo zabo ezingonelisekiyo, zokuzingca.
Emva kokubaleka obu buntu bunetyhefu, kunokuthatha ixhoba ixesha elininzi ukuphinda libonakalise ukufana kwabo ngaphambili, kodwa abasokuze bafanane nomntu ababefudula benguye.
Ngaphandle koku, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bafikelele kwindawo apho bekwazi ukujonga ngasemva kumava abo ezandleni zenarcissist nabanye encinci isixa sokwamkelwa.
Abasokuze basiqonde ngokupheleleyo isizathu sokuba banyamezele ukubandezeleka okunje, kodwa abasayi kuphinda bavalelwe ngenxa yempembelelo yomzabalazo wabo.
Ngelixa kucetyiswa ukuba umntu okhe wadibana nobunzima obunjalo angaze aphinde adibane naloo mntu kuthethwa ngaye, zikhona izinto ezimbalwa abantu abaninzi abanokuthanda ukuba bakwazi ukuzithetha kumxhaphazi lowo wakhe.
Nazi ezine iingxelo ezinokuthi zithiwe.
1. AWUKHO WANDIPHULA
Undenzakalisa ngeendlela ongasoze uziqonde.
Ngamaxesha athile, ubomi kunye nawe babuziva ngathi luhlobo lokungcungcuthekiswa kwengqondo njengoko wawundityhalela kufutshane nonxweme lwenzonzobila.
Undithathile, wandihlafuna, uphinde wandiphalaza.
Unditshintshe ngonaphakade ngeendlela endisaya kuza nazo.
Undijonge njengesixhobo kwaye undisebenzise njengaleyo nje.
Khange undikhathalele yonke into oyifunayo kum ibikukunqula nengqwalaselo oyirhalelayo.
Ndifuna nje uyazi ukuba khange undophule.
Umoya wam unokukhathazeka, kodwa ukushiya ngasemva, uye wabuya wadubula kwaye wachuma.
Ngaphandle kwako konke ukuzama ukundidelela nokunditshabalalisa, akuphumelelanga.
Ndimi apha namhlanje ndichasene nawe nayo yonke into oyenze kum.
2. Awusenayo indawo entliziyweni yam (kwaye yilahleko yakho)
Kudala, intliziyo yam yayiyeyakho.
Ubunothando lwam, inkathalo yam, kunye nokuzinikela kwam, kodwa umoshe kwaye ngoku kuphelile.
Akusekho ndawo yakho entliziyweni yam kwaye ndifuna uyazi ukuba akusayi kuphinda kubekho.
Into owawunayo yayililungelo kunye nembeko, kodwa uyazi ukuba awuhloniphi izinto ezinjalo.
Unokucinga ukuba unokuninzi ebomini bakho, kodwa uthando lwam-nothando lwabo bonke abo bakushiye ngasemva-yinto oza kuba lihlwempu ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- Ungamenzakalisa njani uNarcissist
- Uvakalelo lovelwano lwaNarcissists: Iimpikiswano ngokuchasene nazo
- Ukulahlekiswa ngu-Narcissist ngobuGcisa kubathintela njani ekukuthandeni
- Ukuqinisekisa ngokunyanga amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa
- Iikhonkco ezi-5 ezisetyenziswa ngabaNarcissist ukukugcina ubuya kwakhona
3. Undifundisile Isifundo Endisifunayo
Ungakholelwa nje ukuba uhleke okokugqibela kubudlelwane bethu, ukuba akukho nto ndinokuyithatha kwithuba endilichithe nawe.
Makhe ndikuxelele ngoku ukuba uphosakele.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba undisebenzisile ngaphandle kokucinga ngempilo yam, kwaye awunakukhathalela ukuba ndinjani ngoku, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba le nto uyenzileyo kum indifundise izixa ezikhulu.
Wena kunye nokuziphatha kwakho okukhohlakeleyo bekuzifundo zobomi endinombulelo ngazo.
Andikubuleli ngale nto ndizibulela ngokwazi ukubona intsingiselo kwiindlela zakho zobundlobongela kwaye ndifunde kubo oko bendifuna ukukufunda.
4. Ndiyakusizela
Imvakalelo endikushiyele yona ngoku inemfesane.
Kubuhlungu ukucinga ukuba awusoze wazi ukuba kunjani ukuthanda, ukuziva uvelwano, okanye nokuziva usondele ngokwenene komnye umntu ophilayo.
Ndinqwenela ukuba nibe nokuyiqonda into enisweleyo, kodwa ndiyathandabuza ukuba niyakuze niyazi.
Ayilulo uthando lwabanye, kodwa le nto uziva uzicingela ngokwakho nayo andiqondi ukuba uyayiva le nto.
Andinakucinga ngehlabathi elingenalo uthando, kodwa yile nto kufuneka ukuba uhlala kuyo.
Ngelixa abanye banokubonisa uthando, awunakuva iziphumo zalo, kwaye awuyivumeli imfudumalo nobuhle bayo.
Kuko konke oku, ndingaba nosizi ngawe kuphela.
umfana wam akanaxesha lam ngenxa yomsebenzi
Jonga oku ikhosi ekwi-intanethi yenzelwe ukunceda umntu Philisa kuphatho gadalala .
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
