Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba sivelane nabakwa-narcissist phakathi kwethu?
Lowo ngumbuzo onzima obuzwe kweli nqaku.
Phezulu kwayo, unokucinga ukuba ngumbuzo ongenangqondo ukubuza- kutheni le nto kufuneka sikhathalele nabani na ongakhathaliyo kwabanye?
Jonga kancinci, nangona kunjalo, kwaye kukho iingxoxo eziyinyani ezibonisa ukuba kufanele siyisizele le miphefumlo ihlwempuzekileyo kunokuba siyijonge njengeyityhefu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ikrele elintlangothi-mbini, nangona kunjalo.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuziva kungekho nto ngaphandle kwenzondo kubo, kwaye siza kuzama ukujonga omabini amacala empikiswano engezantsi.
Imfesane Vs. Ndiziva Ndixolile Okanye Ndibi
Isihloko seli nqaku besinokusebenzisa ngokulula amagama athi 'uxolo' okanye 'mbi' endaweni yovelwano, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ezi zizinto ezimbini ekungafanelekanga ukuba uzive usiya kwi-narcissist.
Okokuqala, awunanto uzisolayo ngayo xa isiza kwi-narcissists.
Awuzange ubenze ngale ndlela bayiyo, awunatyala kubo, kwaye ukuzikhwebula kubo ayisosenzo sikhohlakeleyo nangayiphi na indlela.
Kwangokunjalo, ukuba uziva ungalunganga ngenxa ye-narcissist, uya kuphinda uwele phantsi kopelo lwabo.
Awudingi ukuveza iimvakalelo ezingalunganga egameni labo akufuneki uvumele imeko yabo ukuba ikuwise nangayiphi na indlela.
Imfesane, kwelinye icala, ayisiyonto imbi kwaye ayithethi ukuba unetyala.
Uvelwano yimvakalelo enengcambu zothando, ukukhathalela kunye nemfesane.
Izizathu zokuba kufuneka sivelane neNarcissists
Masenze enye into icace: ukuziva uvelwano ngokubhekisele kwi-narcissist akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhuthaze isenzo sabo.
Xa usiza kuqwalasela le meko ngokuzithoba, nangona kunjalo, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba eyona mpendulo intle kuyo kukukhathalela.
I-Narcissism kunokuthathwa njengokugula ngengqondo kangangokuba sisiphazamiso sengqondo esichaphazela kakubi ubomi babo bantu banesi sifo.
Oyena nobangela awaziwa kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezikhokelela abantu kwi-narcissism.
Njengobuntu bakho, iya kuba yindibaniselwano yemfuza kunye namava obomi.
Le yingxoxo ebalulekileyo yokuziva uvelwano ngokubhekisele kwi-narcissists.
andingowalapha kweli hlabathi
Baye bakhula ngale ndlela ngenxa yezinto ezingaphaya kwamandla abo ekukhuleni.
Basenokungabi luxanduva kwimicimbi yabo kunomntu onesifo esibuhlungu okanye one-bipolar.
Kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba ngaba narcissist ukhetha ukuba yile ndlela ngokuzikhethela.
Sinokuvelana no-narcissist xa sifumanisa ukuba bangonwabi kangakanani (kodwa ayingabo bonke) abanokubakho.
Uninzi lweendlela zabo zokuziphatha zivela kwi- a ukuzicekisa oko kubashiya benomsindo kwaye bekhathazekile.
Bayayikhupha le nto bayenze kwabanye njengesixhobo sokulwa, kodwa ayiyifihli into yokuba ezantsi, bafumana iintlungu ezinkulu.
Enye into yinyani ebuhlungu yabaninzi be-narcissists kukuba bayasokola ekwakheni nasekugcineni naluphi na ubudlelwane bokwenyani.
Banokuziva bencinci kunxibelelwano kwiintsapho zabo, banabahlobo abambalwa abanokuthembela kubo, kwaye baphume kulwalamano olubi ukuya kolunye.
Ngoku zibeke ezihlangwini zabo okomzuzwana kwaye ucinge indlela evakalelwa ngayo (into ethi yona i-narcissists ayinakukwazi ukuyenza).
Yiba nomfanekiso wobomi apho ungenakukwazi ukuziva uthando, ukusondelana, imfesane kunye nothando.
Ucinga ukuba ulilolo kangakanani?
Ixesha elingaphezulu, baya kuqhuba inani elikhulu labo babakhathaleleyo kude kwaye bashiyeke bengenanto ngaphandle kwamakhoba angenanto yenzondo kunye nokwenzakala.
Okokugqibela, unokuziva unovelwano ngokubhekisele kwi-narcissists kuba abanamandla okukhula- bobabini buqu nangokomoya.
Uninzi alunakuze uliqonde ilizwe kunye nendawo yalo kulo, ungaze uzive unxibelelwano olunzulu kwindalo iphela, kwaye ungaze ube nakho ukuziphucula njengabantu.
izinto zokwenza ekhaya wedwa
Beka konke oku kungasentla kunye kwaye ungaqala ukuqonda ukuba umntu angabonisa njani uvelwano ngakwi-narcissists.
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungamenzakalisa njani uNarcissist
- ICoververt Narcissist: Iintloni, iintlobo eziNgenisiweyo zinokuba ziiNarcissists
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Izinto ezi-8 i-Narcissist ayinakuze ikwenzele yona (okanye nabani na ongomnye)
- I-Rollercoaster yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwiNarcissistic Abuse
- Uthando lweBhombu: Umqondiso osisilumkiso kwangethuba wokuba uthandana neNarcissist
Izizathu zokuba singafanele sivelane neNarcissists
Abo baphantsi kwenkampani ye-narcissist nangaliphi na ixesha elide ngokuqinisekileyo baya kukuxelela indlela abanokuhlawulwa ngayo.
Akumangalisi ke ngoko, ukuba iimpikiswano eziphambili ngokuchasene nokuziva unovelwano ngabo ziyindlela yokuziphatha kwabo kunye nonyango lwabo kwabanye abantu.
Kwaye iphantse yabakho jikelele imeko yokuba ii-narcissists zizinto ezonakalisayo ngokukodwa ukuba zibekho.
Abazizo izibane zoxolo noxolo nakancinane. Kubonakala ngathi bayavuya kwisiphithiphithi nakwidrama.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba nayiphi na indlela yozinzo inika iingqondo zabo ixesha lokucingisisa ngokwabo ukungonwabi abahlala bekhangela iindlela zokuphazamisa.
Ngaphaya koko, abo bazifumana benobudlelwane obusondeleyo ne-narcissist-zombini amaqabane kunye namalungu osapho ngokufanayo-amava okuziphatha aya esiba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Okokugqibela, indlela umntu obaphatha ngayo umntu onoburharha ifana nokuxhatshazwa.
Banoxanduva lokutshabalalisa ubomi nokwenza ukuba abanye bazive bengento yanto.
Bayakwazi ukuhlaselwa ngokuqatha ezingqondweni zabo basondele kubo kwaye banokushiya amaxhoba abo enqabile ebomini.
Ngaphezu koko uluntu ngokubanzi lucace gca malunga nokuziphatha okungamkelekanga, kwaye ke ii-narcissists ziyazi kakuhle ukuba izenzo zazo zithathwa njengezichasayo ngabanye.
Kufuneka kuthiwe, ke, ukuba benza ngolwazi olupheleleyo lokungalunganga abakwenzayo kunye nobomi ababuchaphazelayo.
Eyona nto inzima kakhulu kwisisu kukuba uninzi lwama-narcissists ahlala ebonisa ukuzisola okuncinci okanye ukungazisoli ngendlela aziphethe ngayo, kodwa azame ukubeka ityala kubo bonke abanye abantu.
Bafika bebanda kwaye bebala, bengachaphazeleki kwaphela kukubandezeleka kwabo.
Kwaye okulusizi kunako konke, mhlawumbi, kukuba bambalwa kakhulu abantu abenza i-narcissists abaya kuze benze iintlobo zotshintsho eziyimfuneko ukunciphisa impembelelo yabo embi.
Unyango lunokunceda abanye ukuba bayenze ithambe indlela yabo yokuya kwabanye, kodwa 'ukuphilisa' ukuphazamiseka kobuntu ngokuzibamba phantse kungavakali.
Ngaba ke kufanelekile ukuba Sive ukuba kukho uvelwano olujolise kwiiNarcissists?
Lo ngumbuzo oya kuyidinga ukuphendula wona.
Iimpikiswano ezingasentla aziphelelanga nangayiphi na indlela kwaye, eneneni, kukho iincwadi ezipheleleyo ezixoxa ngesi sifo kunye nendawo yaso eluntwini.
Indlela oziva ngayo malunga ne-narcissists iya kuthi, kwinqanaba elikhulu, ixhomekeke kumava akho kubo.
Ekugqibeleni, akukho mntu unokukwenza uvelane nengxaki ye-narcissist kwaye nokubeka iingxoxo kunye nokuchasana ngendlela enengqondo akunakunceda.
Ukhetho lolwakho wedwa ekufuneka ulwenzile.
