Uhlobo lwe-narcissist uninzi lwethu olucinga ukuba siyalwazi lolona luqhelekileyo oluvezwa kwiifilimu nakumabonwakude. Lo ngumntu ongxolayo nonoburhalarhume, ebeka abanye phantsi ukuzonwabisa kwabo, kufuneka abe liziko lokuqwalaselwa ngawo onke amaxesha, kwaye ungaze uyikhathalele into oyithethayo: masiphinde sithethe ngabo!
Ngokwahlukileyo, i-narcissist eyangenisiweyo kunzima ngakumbi ukuyibona. Kananjalo banqwenela ukuhoywa nokunconywa, kodwa baya kukwenza oko ngeendlela ezizezinye. Banokuzibulala ngenxa yesizathu ukuze abanye bancome ukungazithembi kwabo, okanye badlale ixhoba kwimeko ukuze bafumane uvelwano.
Baza kusebenzisa iintloni zabo ukubopha ngentambo abantu abaza kwenza konke okusemandleni ukubakhulisa, babaqinisekise ngendlela abakhetheke ngayo, kwaye banobubele, emva koko bajike benyelise i-White Knight yabo ukuba bangazama ukubuyela umva bayeke ukubadumisa. ngendumiso.
Olu hlobo lwe-narcissist efihlakeleyo lunokulonakalisa ngokulinganayo ebantwini njengolugqithisileyo, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukulubona. Kulula kakhulu ukuqaphela i-narcissist esemgangathweni esekwe ekuziphatheni kwabo, kodwa ukufihla kunokuthatha iinyanga ukuzityhila ... kwaye ngelo xesha, umonakalo sele wenziwe.
Nazi ezinye zezinto ekufuneka uzilumkele xa ucinga ukuba unokujongana ne-narcissist efihlakeleyo:
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Ubundlongondlongo bodwa kunye nokuPhathwa
I-narcissist ebekelwe bucala efuna ukuthandwa nokunconywa ngenxa yokoyikeka kwabo inokucaphukisa naziphi na iimfuno ozenzayo kubo. Nini kwaye ukuba ufuna into kubo, baya kuthi 'ngokuqinisekileyo' kwaye bakuqinisekise ukuba bayakuyikhathalela, akukho ngxaki, emva koko baya kuthukuthela bathule cwaka kuba beziva ngathi bakhutshiwe ngenxa yokuba Ukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla
Bayakuphepha ukwenza le nto ubuyicelwe kubo, emva koko bakuphephe xa uzama ukubalandela. Nini kwaye ukuba ekugqibeleni ujongane nabo malunga nokuziphatha kwabo, baya kuphuma baqhubeke malunga nendlela abebexakeke ngayo kunye nendlela ongabacingeli ngayo ekwenzeni izinto ezingenangqondo zexesha labo.
Basenokwenza le nto ubuyicelile kubo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba awusoze usive isiphelo sayo, kwaye baya kuxelela wonke umntu ukuba wawubuhlungu kangakanani kubo ukuze bafumane uvelwano lwabanye abantu ngelixa babonakala njengabafeli-nkolo abancomekayo.
Ezi narcissists nazo azinangxaki yokugoba kwezona zinto ziphantsi, ezona zikhubekisayo zinetyala ukuze bafumane indlela yabo. Umzekelo unokuba ngumntu ofuna ukuba iqabane lakhe lihlale nabo ekhaya kuba bengaziva mnandi. Xa iqabane liqinisekisa ukuba bayakulunga okwethutyana ngaphandle kwabo, i-narcissist inokuphikisana nento enje, 'Kulungile, kulungile. Uyaphuma uyokonwaba nabahlobo bakho. Ukuze uyazi, ndinengxaki yokuphefumla, ke ukuba ndihlaselwa sisifuba kwaye ndife kuba ndilapha ngokwam, kuya kufuneka uphile naloo nto. ”
Oko kunokubonakala ngathi kuyingoma emandundu, kodwa lowo ngumzekelo ophantse ubhalwe ngqo womntu ekuye kwafuneka ajongane namaqhinga anje kwilungu losapho. Ngokwesiqhelo, oku kuhamba kanye…
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Ukungabikho kovelwano
Usenokuba ulele ebhedini unefiva ephezulu kakhulu kangangokuba uyabona, kodwa ke, uthembisile ukuba uzokuya kwisidlo sangokuhlwa ngokuhlwa, kwaye ukuba usaphula eso sithembiso, uya kuba yi-assh * le yokuzingca. Le yinto umntu onokufihla into anokukutyhola ngayo, kuba konke abanako ukugxila kuko kukuba izicwangciso zabo ezixabisekileyo ziya kuphazamiseka, nto leyo iyabacaphukisa. Ngokwenene abayithathi ingqalelo indlela onokuziva ngayo. Kungenzeka ukuba abanako nokwenza njalo.
Oku ukungabikho kovelwano inokubenzakalisa kakhulu abantu ababangqongileyo, kuba ayinakuba nanjongo malunga neziphumo zezenzo zabo (okanye ukusilela kwazo) kwabanye.
Umzali ofihlakeleyo we-narcissist kwimpilo enkenenkene angenza amabango ngokungekho ngqiqweni kumalungu osapho ade amaqabane abo, abantwana, kunye nabantakwabo batyhalelwe kwinqanaba lokuhlutha, kodwa abanakuyibona. Ekuphela kwento abanokuthi bajonge kuyo kukugula kwabo, iimfuno zabo, iimfuno zabo, kwaye nabani na ongayenziyo into ayifunayo ukuba abenze bazive bhetele / bonwabile ngumntu okhohlakeleyo, ongenalusini ongakhathaliyo ngabo.
Ukuzibamba kwabo kunye nokungabikho kwemfesane kwabanye kunokubachaphazela abo bangaphandle kwesangqa sabo sentlalo. I-narcissist inokonakalisa ubuhlobo bamaqabane abo okanye babantwana, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, imfundo, okanye kwanomsebenzi wabo ngeendlela zobuqhetseba.
Xa aba bantu bebizelwa ngaphandle ngezenzo zabo, baya kuthi badlale ixhoba kwangoko. Baza kukupeyinta njengomntu owoyikekayo ongababonisiyo uvelwano okanye uvelwano, bakunike impatho ethe cwaka, kwaye ube yinto nje ekrakra ngokothusayo ude ubanike into abayifunayo kwakhona.
xa uneemvakalelo ngomntu
Ukufunda okubaluleke ngakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Izinto ezi-8 i-Narcissist ayinakukwenza yona (okanye nabani na ongomnye)
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Ukususwa kubuntu: Inkqubo yooNarcissists kunye neeSociopaths zokuphatha kakubi abanye
- Ngaba Uyaphazama iMacaavellianism yeNarcissism?
- Ukulahlekiswa ngu-Narcissist ngobuGcisa kubathintela njani ekukuthandeni
- Iimaski ezi-6 i-Narcissist inokuthi inxibe (kunye nendlela yokuzibona)
Hypersensitivity, ngakumbi ukugxeka
Zombini ii-narcissist ezisemgangathweni nezisitheleyo ziyakucaphukela ukugxekwa, kodwa ngelixa eyona nto iphambili, i-megalomaniacal standard narcissist inemvakalelo egqithileyo yokuzibona ibalulekile kwaye iya kuphendula ngeempendulo ezibi, i-narcissist efihlakeleyo ihlala ineengxaki nokuzithemba, kwaye iyakuphendula ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Uninzi lwee-narcissists ezazisa rhoqo zihlala ziphendula kwinto encinci ehlaselweyo yokujongela phantsi. Baza kuzama ukuxhaphaza omnye umntu ngento abaziva ngathi bubukrelekrele babo obuphezulu, bathetha izangqa ezibangqongileyo ukuze bababhidise zibenze bazive bebancinci, kwaye emva koko bahlekise ngokungakwazi 'ukuqhubeka.'
Le yindlela i-narcissist efihlakeleyo egcina ngayo imeko yabo yokuzixabisa: ngokwaphula phantsi nabani na ozama ukubabetha kumanqwanqwa abo, nangayiphi na indlela eyimfuneko. Akufuneki nokuba kukugxeka okugqithisileyo okuya kubaphonsa kwi-furor: kunokuba yimeko elula njengokubuza kwemikhwa yabo, okanye ukubonisa ukuba enye inyathelo lesenzo ingaba ngumbono ongcono kunenye babenazo engqondweni.
Ngokukhawuleza baya kuzama ukumbuyisela kwindawo ebuzayo kwindawo yabo, bahlala befuna ukuba bakhusele umbono wabo, emva koko batshabalalise yonke into abayithethayo ngengcaciso ebunayo. Ngokusisiseko babaxhaphaza ukuba bangenise kwaye babathulise ngehlazo kunye nokuzithemba. Ke, wakuba ucinyiwe amandla amancinci acinyiwe, i-narcissist iya kuthi uthando-ibhombu obuzayo kwaye axolise kwaye athethe ngomonakalo wabo kunye nokuba semngciphekweni ukuze baphinde bafumane uvelwano kunye nokuqubuda kwabo, kwaye wonke umjikelo uqala ngokutsha.
Ndidinga uxolo kubomi bam
I-covert narcissists ikwanomdla wokuziva uxinzelelo kunye nobunzima bemihla ngemihla. Ngelixa i-narcissist ephumayo iya kuthi nje ibhuqe indlela yayo ebomini ingakhathalele monakalo owenzakeleyo, uhlobo olufihlakeleyo lunokubangela izinto zangaphakathi, zigqithise, kwaye zithwale uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu. Banokude banqande umhlaba obanzi kwaye bafumane ukubonelelwa kwabo ngokukhethekileyo kwinani elincinci labantu abahlala kufutshane nabo.
Ngokungafaniyo noogxa babo abakholelwa ukuba basisipho sikaThixo, i-narcissist efihlakeleyo inokuba neemvakalelo ezifihlakeleyo zentloni, kunye nokusilela. Bayakuphepha ukudibana naye nawuphina impumelelo abayithandayo ngokufihlakeleyo, kuba abanakho ukumelana nokungazithembi okunokubangelwa yile ntlanganiso. Ke bayangqongwa ngabantu ababona njengabaphantsi, ukuze bagcine umbono othe nkqi kubo.
Wangenisa, kodwa hayi ngokweNdabuko
I-covert narcissists inokuvela njengabangenisi, kwaye kwezinye iindlela banjalo, kodwa kwezinye bahluke ngokuqinisekileyo kwinto obuya kuyilindela ngokungagungqiyo.
Kwelinye, ngokuchaseneyo nabangeneleli abaninzi, bangabaphulaphuli benkunkuma. Abaniki nje ii-hoots ezimbini malunga nobomi bakho okanye iingxaki zakho kunokuba bathethe nje ngokwabo.
Oku kuzithathela kukwathetha ukuba, ngokungafaniyo nabangenisi bokwenyani, abanamdla wokulandela izinto ezifana nokufunda, ukunyuka intaba, ezemidlalo zodwa, ukubhaka, ukuhamba bhanyabhanya, izixhobo zomculo, iiphazili, njl. indlela ethile ibaxhamlayo-ukuzilungisa, ukuya ezivenkileni, ukuya kwiivenkile zokutyela ezibiza kakhulu (ukuze bakwazi ukuziqhayisa kamva), kunye nantoni na enokubakhuthaza emehlweni abanye.
Njengongeniso oluninzi, bachitha ixesha elininzi ezintlokweni zabo, kodwa ayisiyongcinga yoyilo ebambe ingqalelo yabo, kodwa kukungazithembi kwabo okutshabalalisayo, iingcinga ezixineneyo. Batyiwa yingxaki yabo (yokwenyani okanye eyaziwayo), ubudlelwane babo (iimvakalelo zomona, umona, kunye nenzondo ukubala kodwa zimbalwa), kunye nokuceba ngokubanzi iindlela zokukhohlisa abanye.
Guqula, ewe. Qalisa, hayi ngenene.
Ukuzikhathaza kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist efihlakeleyo kunokuba nzima kakhulu: baya kuhlala befumana imfesane kunye nosizi abakukhuthaze kuwe ukuqala, ukuzama ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ungarhoxisi ititi yokunika amandla kubo. Ukuba bebekhe bakukhanyisa ngegesi , usenokuba nobunzima ekukholelweni ezakho iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo njengezokwenene nezinyanisekileyo.
Akukho hlazo ekufuneni iingcebiso zokukunceda uhambe okanye uzisuse kulwalamano olunje, nokuba lilungu losapho elikufutshane, iqabane, okanye umntu obizwa ngokuba ngumhlobo. Ufanelwe yintlonipho, ukunyaniseka, nothando, kwaye ngekhe ufumane naliphi na kulawo avela kwi-narcissist, nanini na, nokuba angaluhlobo luni na.
izinto ezili-10 eziphezulu onokuzenza xa udikiwe
Ngaba ukhe wanxibelelana ne-narcissist efihlakeleyo? Ucinga ukuba yeyiphi enye indlela ohluke ngayo kwi-narcissist ethe kratya? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi ukuze wabelane ngeengcinga zakho.
