AmaNarcissist ngabantu abadla ngokuzama ukufihla ubuntu babo bokwenyani. Eyona nto iphambili kubo yile nto ingonwabisiyo ngokubonisa ukuba bangoobani kanye kanye.
Oku kuvela kwilonda labo lobuntwana kunye nokungazithembi kunye nokuzazi abanako.
Ngokusekwe kwiinkumbulo zabo ezingacacanga nezicacileyo zeemfuno zobuntwana ezingafezekiswanga, uninzi lwee-narcs zikhulisa umbono wokuba ezo mfuno azisokuze zifezekiswe kamva ebomini. Olu loyiko luphambili lusisiseko sokuncamathisela okungafunekiyo nokungahambelani kwabanye. Babuyisela uloyiko lokungazifezekisi iimfuno zabo ngesimbo esenziwe kakuhle, nesizimeleyo kakhulu.
ingakanani inene leakes
Le cocktail yoloyiko kunye nembuyekezo egqithileyo ikwakhokelela kukungabikho kobuhlobo kunye nabo, isithuba sokuzazi. Ngenxa yoko, baba ngabadlali beqonga abadlala indima engenasiphako ukuze bazidibanise nabanye kwaye bafumane oko bakusemva kwabo, yintoni ephantsi kwe-ajenda yabo eyimfihlo: imali, iwonga, indawo yokuhlala, isini, uthando, ukunconywa,… le yinto yokuhlekisa unikezelo oluyimfuneko ekusebenzeni ebomini. Ukutsalela abantu kwiwebhu yabo kwaye bafumane oku kubonelela nge-narcissistic, banxiba imaski yentlalo enomtsalane.
Zimbini iintlobo eziphambili ze-narcissist: i-cerebral kunye ne-somatic. I-narcissist ye-cerebral iyazi konke, inekratshi, kwaye ikrelekrele 'ikhompyuter' - konke malunga nengqondo. I-Somatic narcissists zixhomekeke kakhulu kwisoma okanye emzimbeni, ukuba ijongeka kanjani intle, inokwenza ntoni, kwaye ilunge kangakanani kwisini.
Ngaphakathi kwezi ntlobo zimbini ziphambili, kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-narcissist ngokuxhomekeke kwi-egos, ubume bengqondo, iimeko, kunye nenkuthazo ababephantsi kwayo ebuntwaneni: ukufihla, ukugqitha, kunye enobungozi phakathi kwabo.
Ezi ntlobo ziya kubumba zibe ziindidi ezahlukeneyo zomntu ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo ukuze unxibelelane nehlabathi: iimaski.
1. Ixhoba
Olu luhlobo lomntu osoloko elixhoba le meko. Bonke abo bakudala bayaphambana, abanakubamba umsebenzi olungileyo ngenxa yamashwa, abanabahlobo kuba abantu banomona ngabo, njalo njalo, ngokungapheliyo.
iindlela zokuxelela umntu omthandayo
Le narcissist ayithathi tyala ngezenzo zabo kuba ezingqondweni zabo abanoxanduva kubo (oku kungenxa yendlela yokhuselo lwe-neurotic ingqikelelo ), Ke onke amabali abakuxelela wona aya kuba nesiphelo esifanayo: nokuba yintoni eyenzekayo, ayilotyala labo ukuba lelomnye umntu.
Ukuba bacinga ukuba ungoyena mntu ujolise kuye, baya kudibana njengomntwana osokolayo osengozini yokufuna ukwamkelwa nokukhuselwa.
2. UMthandi
Ubomi bolu hlobo lwe-narcissist lujikeleze ukwaneliseka kwabo ngokwesondo kwaye baya kufuna ukukhulisa i-ego yabo ngokutsiba ebhedini kunye namaqabane amaninzi ahlukeneyo. Kubo, inani leenotshi kwiiphedi zabo ngumqondiso wokutsala kunye nempumelelo.
Ezi narcs ziincutshe zomtsalane kunye nokuthopha, kwaye bayisebenzisela ukujolisa kwiithagethi zabo / kumaxhoba, kuphela ukuzilahla ecaleni kwendlela xa ukonwaba kokuleqwa kunye nolwaneliseko lwempumelelo yabo luphelile kwaye ubudlelwane obunamandla buba buthuntu emehlweni abo.
Abathandi be-narcissists baneentliziyo ezifihlakeleyo. Baza kusebenzisa amandla abo okulahla ukunxila amaxhoba abo ngaphambi kokuba baphule iintliziyo. Baqala babonakala njengowona mhla ufanelekileyo, kodwa abakhathali mntu ngaphandle kwabo kwaye isenzo sabo sisebenza kuphela ukuhlangabezana neemfuno kunye neminqweno yabo.
Ziya kuba zi-flirt, zinomtsalane, kwaye ngequbuliso ziyafumaneka kuwe nangaliphi na ixesha, kodwa ayizukuhlala ixesha elide. Emva kwethutyana koku kunamandla, baya kukunikezela ngoyiso olutsha ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso.
Ukufundwa okungakumbi kwe-narcissist (inqaku liyaqhubeka apha ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Uthando lweBhombu: Umqondiso osisilumkiso kwangethuba wokuba uthandana neNarcissist
- Ukuqinisekisa ngokunyanga amaxhoba okuxhatshazwa
- ICoververt Narcissist: Iintloni, iintlobo zoTyikityo ezinokuba ziiNarcissists
3. Umsebenzi olikhoboka
Bona zezona zibalaseleyo emsebenzini wabo. Akukho mntu unokukwazi ukusebenza, onoxanduva, ozinikeleyo nophumeleleyo emsebenzini wakhe kunalo mntu. Banokuthetha ngayo ngokungapheliyo (enyanisweni, kunqabile ukuba bathethe ngayo nayiphi na enye into), nokuba ngowuphi na umsebenzi we-narcissist. Ngalo lonke ixesha bethetha, uziva ngathi umamele umnini wenkampani yezizwe ngezizwe, okanye ubuncinci kubonakala ngathi kunjalo.
Ukuba unomlinganiswa onje emsebenzini wakho, yazi. Ukungathethi okungapheliyo malunga nokuba balunge kangakanani ngokwenene kufihla ukungazithembi, kwaye ukuba baziva besoyikiswa, kunokwenzeka babe nogonyamelo ukungcungcuthekisa wena okanye uzame ukukulahla ngephulo lokuthambisa.
Zama ukuhlala kude nabo. Ukuba awukwazi ukuyenza loo nto, yiya eweni engwevu (ukungasebenzi ngokweemvakalelo) xa unxibelelana nabo.
4. UMhlanguli
Bahlala bekho ukulungiselela wena. Ukukunceda ngemisebenzi, ukucwangcisa impelaveki egqibeleleyo, ukuhlamba izitya kunye nawe emva kwepati, ukukunika iingcebiso malunga naloo msebenzi mtsha uthandabuzayo. Baya kuhlala bekho ukukunceda, ukukhusela kwaye bakukhathalele.
wazi njani ukuba intombazana iyakuthanda ngokwenene
Amaxhoba amaninzi ama-narcissists (ngenxa ye-CPTSD- ubunzima be-post traumatic syndrome disorder - ngokufuthi emva kokuxhatshazwa kwiintsapho zabo) banombono wokuba umhlanguli uza kuza ngexesha elithile ukulungisa ubomi babo kwaye yonke into iya kugqibelela ukusukela ngala mzuzu .
Ithemba yile nto ilolu hlobo lwe-narcissist preys. Ngaphandle kokuthetha, akukho luhlangulo luzayo.
5. Elitist
I-elitist narcissist igcwele ukuzithemba okukhulu. Ukuzicingela bodwa nokuzenzisa, banomlutha wokuncoma omnye. Sithetha ngokuqhayisa nangaphezulu kunye nesidingo sokuba ngabona babalaseleyo kwaye bangqine ukuba bangaphezulu ngazo zonke iindlela.
Akukho mbuzo ezingqondweni zabo wokuba bafanelwe unyango olukhethekileyo kuwo wonke umntu, kwaye ukuba abayifumani, baya kuba nomsindo, njengomntwana ophosa umsindo. Bazibona njengo 'alpha' uhlobo lomntu kwaye baya kuqinisekisa ukuzingqunga nabantu abathi, phantsi kweenqobo zabo , bangaphantsi, ukuze kugcinwe intelekelelo yokuba zezona zibalaseleyo.
6. UMfeli-nkolo
Olu hlobo lwe-narcissist lunikela ubomi babo ekuncedeni abanye. Banokuza neengxelo ezinje 'ndingoyena mntu uluncedo endimaziyo,' okanye 'Ndizokwaziwa ngemisebenzi elungileyo endiyenzileyo.' Ngokusisiseko, sithetha ngohlobo lomntu ozingcayo nonokuzincama kangangokuba ingcwele ingabonakala ngathi iyinto yokuzingca xa ithelekiswa nabo.
Baye babe 'ngumfeli-nkolo' njengeyona ndlela yokulawula abanye - ngakumbi amaqabane abo. Le ndima isetyenziswa ikakhulu ngabangaboniyo bodwa, abaphethukela kuyo xa besiva ukuba baphantsi koxinzelelo.
ndingazi njani ukuba unomdla kum
Masithi uceba ukubashiya kwaye ufake ifayile yoqhawulo mtshato. Kwimeko apho baya kudlala indima yexhoba kwi-hilt. Baza kudlala malunga nendlela okhohlakele ngayo kubo, ngazo zonke iimbandezelo abaye bahamba nazo… yonke loo nto ikwenza ubonakale njengomntu ombi webali.
Ukuba umntu okwisangqa sakho sentlalontle, emsebenzini, kubudlelwane, okanye unxulumene ngenye indlela ebonisa iimpawu ezinje ngezi, buyela umva ngcono kwaye ubonakalise ukuba ngaba lo mntu uyile nto babonakala eyiyo. Emva kwexesha lesigaba 'semaski', xa i-narcissist iqinisekile ukuba ubanjiwe, loo maski iya kuqala ukushenxisa, kwaye phantsi kwayo kukho umntu owahluke mpela kulowo umaziyo. Uya kubanjiswa kumdlalo ongaphumeleli.
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