Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu abadala kunqabile ukuba kujongwane nako. Nangona kunjalo, amaqela entlalontle anokuhlala ebonelela ngeseti yomzabalazo wamandla, kwaye ke oko kuza nemidlalo yengqondo kunye nehlabathi elikhohlakeleyo lolawulo.
Zimnkile iintsuku apho izihlunu zokudlala zikuncamathele eludongeni ngemali yakho yesidlo sangokuhlwa. Oko kwakothusa ngokwaneleyo, kodwa ukuba unethamsanqa umntu omdala angenelela.
Ngoku umdala. Isidima sakho sinokuba semgangathweni, kwaye abantu abadala abahlupha babuphucula ubuchule babo. Kusenokuba nzima ukubhenca iindlela ezichuliweyo, ezinobuqhophololo nezikhohlisayo. Isigqumathelo segunya, imali, okanye ulwazi oluphezulu kunika le miphefumlo ingoyikiyo amandla, ikushiye ubuza isigwebo sakho ngale meko.
Ke umazi njani umntu okuxhaphaza umntu omdala, ngelixa usilwa noloyiko lwakho lweparanoia?
1. Ubulolo be-Ostracism
Ukuba amaqela kunye namaqela ayile kwaye uzifumanisa ungaphandle, inokuba icwangciswe ngumntu onwabele ubuqhetseba beqela. Bayingcuka enganxibanga mpahla yegusha, kodwa enxibe iimpahla zomalusi, besalusa umhlambi wabo.
Xa ujongene nazo wedwa, unakho ndiziva ndililolo kwaye sesichengeni. Ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle kunika isiphoso esiphindiweyo. Ubume bakho bodwa bunokukwenza ukuba ujolise kwabanye abaxhaphazi, kwaye ubonwe isizungu , kunokuba nzima ukwakha ubuhlobo.
Ilizwe labantu abadala elinamagxa abandayo-ukungahoywa ngabom-kunokukwenza uzive ungakhuselekanga kwaye ungabalulekanga. Oku kunokuhlala kungqinwa phakathi kwabazali ebaleni lokudlala lesikolo, okanye kwikhatyi yabasebenzi. Musa ukuzijongela phantsi ezi ndlongondlongo Ukwenza amandla abo okunyusa iimvakalelo zakho zoxinzelelo kunokubangela amandla. Ngapha koko, ukushiywa ngaphandle 'emsebenzini' kungathintela ukubanakho ukufezekisa uxanduva lwakho kwaye kungonakalisa nomsebenzi wakho.
2. Iintloni zokuba ujongelwe phantsi ekuhlaleni
I-Ostracism inokukhula ibe yenye indlela yokuziphatha enxulunyaniswa nokusingelwa phantsi eluntwini. Izenzo eziqhelekileyo zikushiya udidekile kwaye ungaqinisekanga ngendlela oza kusabela ngayo. Ukuziphatha okufana nokuthethelelwa phantsi phambi koontanga bakho, okanye ukufumana ulwazi olugcinwe kuwe olukushiya ujongeka ungenampumelelo, zezinye zeendlela umntu ongcungcuthekisayo anokukujongela phantsi ngazo ekuhlaleni.
Ezi zinokuhanjiswa zombini ngendlela ecacileyo, ekushiya ujubeka uneentloni, okanye ngobuqhetseba, apho ushiyeke ukholelwa ekubeni ungaphezulu uvakalelo okanye mhlawumbi i-paranoid encinci. Amanqaku angatshintshiyo angathethiyo ukungabi nantlonelo , njengokuqengqeleka kwamehlo, kunokukushiya woyike kwaye kunokuba nefuthe lokuvala ukuthula kwakho kunxibelelwano lweqela. Zonke ezi zenzo ziyadlalwa kwiforum kawonke-wonke, inika ukhuseleko kulowo ungcungcuthekisayo, kodwa isenza ukuba kube nzima kuwe ukuba uthethathethane.
3. Ukuziva uluvo lokuThotywa koLuntu
Ukudibanisa ngokuthe ngqo nokusingela phantsi intlalo yintlungu evayo ngenxa yokuthotywa esidlangalaleni. Esi siqhulo singafanelekanga esikushiya ngonyawo lwangasemva, intetho etshabhisayo ezenza izidlele zakho zivuthe zihlazo, kunye nokugweba okungqwabalala kunye nokubeka ezantsi okwenza ukuba uzive usengozini kwaye ubhencekile, zonke ziyinxalenye yokuthotywa esidlangalaleni.
Rhoqo, olu hlobo lokuxhaphaza lwenzeka emsebenzini kwaye lwenziwa ngabaphathi bakho. Ukongeza, iqondo lamagqabantshintshi ngokubhekisele kwisini, ubuhlanga, kunye nokukhetha ngokwesondo kusephezulu kakhulu. Uphuculo lwenkcubeko lwenziwe kwezi ndawo, nangona ngelishwa uninzi lwabaxhaphazi lubambelele kukhetho olungafanelekanga kwaye bayakhawuleza ukuluhambisa.
Ukongeza kolu hlaselo ngqo, ukuthotywa esidlangalaleni kunokuthatha indlela yobuqhetseba yokusasaza intlebendwane malunga nexhoba. Ngelishwa, ngenkqubela phambili kwezobuchwephesha, le ndlela ifihlakeleyo yokuxhatshazwa ifikeleleka ngokulula ngokubhaliweyo kunye nezinye iindlela zosasazo lwasentlalweni. Ukuxhaphaza nge-cyber ayisiyonto yokuziphatha kakubi ebiyelweyo ngobudala.
4. Ukukhohliswa Komsebenzi Wakho Nezimvo
Enye imeko exhaphakileyo yokuxhaphaza emsebenzini kukuba izimvo zakho zilawulwe ngabom. Kumaxesha amaninzi, umntu omdala ohluphayo uyakuthatha ikhredithi ngomsebenzi wakho kwaye akukhanyele ukuba ufanele ukudunyiswa. Le ndumiso inokuthi ithathe uhlobo lwemivuzo yezemali okanye unyuselo.
Ukuphikisana nezenzo zabo kunokuziva ngathi ujongana ngokungeyomfuneko nokungabi 'ngumdlali weqela.' Umphathi olungileyo uyakonwabela uzuko lwakho olubonakalisiweyo kwaye akuncede ekucebiseni ngomsebenzi wakho. Umntu okuhlukumezayo uya kuziba izimvo zakho njengezabo kwaye onwabile avune umvuzo.
Ngenye indlela, iingcebiso zakho zinokutshabalaliswa, unxibelelwano 'lulahlekile' okanye aluzange lufumaneke. Okubi nangakumbi, unokwenziwa i-scapegoat yezimvo kunye nezicwangciso zabo ezisileleyo. Ngaphandle kobungqina obuchasene nomphezulu wakho, iyabila 'kwilizwi lakho ngokuchasene nelabo,' ikwenza uzive ngathi babambe onke amakhadi.
5. Ukuba Wongamele
Ngaba uziva ukuba umntu okwisikhundla esiphakamileyo usebenzisa igunya lakhe ngendlela engeyiyo? Babonakala ngathi bonwabele ukuthotyelwa kwabo bangaphantsi kunye noontanga ngokufanayo. Izakhiwo zemibutho ezinokulandelelana zinokuququzelela oku: abaphathi emsebenzini, amalungu amadala osapho lwakho, abantu abakwizikhundla ezigqwesileyo ngaphakathi kweeklabhu kunye noluntu, izihloko ezihloniphekileyo kumaqela ezenkolo okanye kuluntu ngokwalo (amapolisa okanye abezopolitiko umzekelo), ngamanye amaxesha bayakusebenzisa gwenxa isikhundla sabo igunya.
Obu buntu buphetheyo, obunoburharha bunokwaziwa ngabantu abangaphantsi kwabo, kodwa kunqabile ukuba bajongane nezenzo zabo. Izenzo ezichuliweyo ezinje ngokwenza amabango angeyomfuneko kwixesha lakho ukuya ekuziphatheni okuvulekileyo ngakumbi ngenjongo yokubangela ukwenzakala kwengqondo kunye / okanye ukwenzakala emzimbeni kungabonakaliswa.
Inqanaba lentlalontle lomxhaphazi, ubuhlanga, okanye isini kuvumela abantu abalawulayo ukuba bazimele ngokucacileyo. Ukuchasa, ukulawula ubuntu , Baza kuphosa ingqumbo yomsindo kwithontsi ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo. Ukongeza, zinokuba 'nomtsalane ngokupheleleyo' kwabo bakungqongileyo. Basenokuba bobona buntu ‘bumnandi’ koontanga bakho, bephika izityholo zakho nabuphi na ubunyani.
6. Imvakalelo yoloyiko olungaxheleli entliziyweni
Izisongelo zokwenzakalisa impahla yakho, ipropathi yakho, abo ubathandayo, okanye ukhuseleko lwakho zizenzo ezingenakuphikiswa zomxhaphazi. Oku kungabonakalisa kwizikhuselo eziphambili kwimizobo yepeyinti yemoto yakho, ukungena ngokungekho mthethweni kwipropathi yakho, okanye ukukuxela emapoliseni ‘njengomrhanelwa’ ngaphandle kwesizathu.
ukuqala njani ubomi obutsha
Ukunyuka kwale ndlela yoyikisayo kunokwenzeka kancinci, kukunxibe kancinci kancinci, okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza okukhawulezayo, kukushiye wothukile. Ukuhlaselwa ngomlomo kunokunyuka ngokukhawuleza kube kukuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwesondo. Oku kunokuvela kumntu ongamaziyo okanye umntu othandana naye. Ingathatha uhlobo lokuhlukumeza kunye / okanye ukulandela kunye nokuqinisa kuhlaselo olubi. Ngokudabukisayo, eli nqanaba eliphezulu lokuxhatshazwa linokuthi livele kumntu esimthandayo / esimthandayo, sijije iimvakalelo zethu kwi-gag.
Umntu okhohlakele ngabom, nangayiphi na indlela, kunjalo Inetyhefu . Akukho mntu unelungelo lokukuhlukumeza ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni. Isigaba sokuqala kukuqonda ukuba umntu uzama ukukhohlisa kwindima yexhoba. Nangona beziva bengekho ngqondweni, qaphela ukuba unokhetho. Intshukumo okhetha ukuyithatha iya kuba yeyakho kuwe nakwiimeko zakho. Funa inkxaso kubudlelwane obuthembekileyo okanye unxibelelane nesisa esifanelekileyo. Sukuyenza impazamo, phantsi kwezizathu 'ezinengqiqo,' umntu ohluphayo uzimisele ukwenzakalisa.
