Akunakuphepheka ukuba ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho, uya kudibana nomntu ofuna ukulawula indlela oziphethe ngayo ngandlela thile. Oku kunokuba sisithandwa, iqabane, umhlobo osenyongweni, okanye umqeshi okanye umntu osebenza naye ozama ukulawula amagama okanye izenzo zakho ukuze ufumane oko bakufunayo.
Izenzo zabo zisenokubonakala zingenabungozi ekuqaleni, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha uyakuqaphela indlela yokuziphatha enokuthi isuke kobuqhetseba iye kubukhali, kodwa iindidi zolawulo zonke ziyonakalisa ngendlela yazo.
1. Isolator
Ukuba usebudlelwaneni okanye kubuhlobo kolu hlobo lomntu, kuya kufuneka ubenze babe yeyakho kuphela, okanye kuya kubakho isihogo sokuhlawula. Kufuneka babe lihlabathi lakho liphela, ke baya kusebenza ekukuhlukaniseni nabanye abantu kwizangqa zakho zentlalo ukuze bafumane into abayifunayo.
Baza kudlala izinto ezingathandekiyo zabanye abahlobo bakho, bathethe ngendlela ekuphatha kakubi ngayo usapho lwakho kunye nendlela abakwazi ngayo kuphela, abakuqondayo, nabanokonwabisa ngayo. Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, wena awunabahlobo ngasekhohlo, usapho lwakho alunakuthetha nawe, kwaye omnye wakho obalulekileyo ngoyena mntu kufuneka unxibelelane naye.
Kanye njengoko babefuna.
2. Umfundi oFunda ngengqondo
Lo ngumntu okholelwa ukuba bayayazi into ocinga ngayo okanye uziva ngayo nangaliphi na ixesha, kwaye kukuwe ukubabonisa ngenye indlela. Baza kuqala izivakalisi ngo 'Ucinga ____' okanye 'Uyakholelwa ____,' bakutyhola ngokuba neengcinga ezithile ngaphandle ukubuza wena.
Ukuba nomona, Iindidi zezinto , Banokuhamba ngeakhawunti yakho yemidiya yoluntu kwaye benze iingxelo ezingqondweni zabo malunga noko bacinga ukuba banokukufumana kunxibelelwano lwakho. Emva koko baya kujika batshintshe iingcinga zabo zibe zizityholo… kwaye ekuphela kwendlela onokuthi ubabonakalise ukuba ayilunganga zizenzo, njengokuqhawula ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo abathile, okanye ungaphindi uye kwindawo othanda ukuya kuyo.
Unokucinga ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ibonisa indlela abakuthanda ngayo, kodwa inene kukuba boyika ukushiywa, kwaye baya kwenza nantoni na ukuze bakhusele kwaye bagcine oko bakubona “njenge kwabo.”
Inokuba njalo wena .
3. Umntu oChukumisayo
Olu hlobo lomntu luthatha inxaxheba kwabo bazithobayo, njengoko besazi ukuba banokusongela loo mntu ngomnwe wabo ngokulula. Bayomtshata omnye umntu, bonyuse ukuzingca kwabo, babenze bazive bethandwa ngokupheleleyo… kwaye baya kuthi emva koko barhoxe umdla nothando njengoko kufuneka ukuze balawule omnye ngendlela abona kufanelekile.
Umlingane wabo (okanye umhlobo) uyakube enqwenela ukuhoywa, azive encitshisiwe kukusilela kwayo, kwaye aya kwenza nantoni na ayifunayo ukuze ayifumane- nkqu nakubo.
Banokuphela bekwiimeko ezibenza babe lusizi ngenxa yokuba bengamakhoboka okomeleza abafumene kwiqabane / kumhlobo / komnye, befumana ukuzithemba kwabo kuloo ngqalelo, kwaye bayoyika ukuba kubi kangakanani Bayakuva ukuba bayemka.
4. Umntu ogocagocayo
Usenokuba ukhe wadibana nalo mntu ngaphambili, nokuba kubudlelwane okanye kwindawo yomsebenzi. Olu hlobo lugcina isikhundla solawulo (okanye igunya) ngokukubuza imibuzo emininzi nangaliphi na ixesha ozama ukuziqinisekisa ngalo.
Banokubhenela kumava abo ukuze baphikisane nayo nayiphi na impikiswano oyenzayo, bekucela ukuba ukhusele ukuma kwakho, emva koko uhlasele nantoni na oyithethayo kwaye uthoba isidima sakho de bakuphelise kwaye bakunyanzele ukuba ubuye umva.
Ngokwenene, baziphatha njengababuza imibuzo beGestapo, bekhonkotha imibuzo kuwe, behlekisa ngeempendulo zakho, bekujongela phantsi, kwaye bekubeka ekuzikhuseleni… de ekugqibeleni uvume ukuba ewe, banyanisile, kwaye ucele uxolo ngokuzama ukuthetha nantoni na kwaphela.
Isifundo esifundwayo.
5. Ukuzisizela, ukunceda Ixhoba
Uya kuzifaka kwiintlungu zabo kunye nosizi ukuze abanye babasizele kwaye benze konke okusemandleni abo ukwenza ukuba intlungu iphele. Banokuba babenobuntwana obenzakeleyo okanye isiganeko esitshintsha ubomi sabenza buhlungu, kodwa bafunda ukuba ukungabikho koncedo kunye nokubandezeleka = ukudibanisa nokuxambulisana, kwaye bayayithanda.
Baye bathanda kakhulu kangangokuba bayala ukufunda nokukhula kumava abo, endaweni yoko bakhetha ukuzingxuba kwiintlungu zabo. Ngokwenza njalo, banokuphepha ukuziphendulela kuyo nayiphi na into embi okanye eyenzakalisayo kwicala labo: bonakale nje kangangokuba abanakukunceda, akunjalo?
Ukuba umntu abamenzakalisileyo ugqibela ngokuba nomsindo okanye aqumbe, bayaqondwa njengabo ukuswela uvelwano nemfesane: ungamqumbela njani umntu okhathaza kakhulu, ngalo lonke ixesha? Ungumntu onjani owoyikekayo?
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuhamba Umgca oLungileyo phakathi kweNkuthazo kunye nokuPhathwa
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Iimaski ezi-6 i-Narcissist inokuthi inxibe (kunye nendlela yokuzibona)
- Iimpawu zoBuntu ezi-6 uliXhoba lokuXhatshazwa
- Indlela yokujongana nolawulo olungaqhelekanga ebomini bakho
- Ungakuyeka Njani Ukulawula Kubudlelwane
6. IBlackmailer
Le yenye yeentlobo ezenyanyekayo zabantu abalawulayo, njengoko indlela yabo yokuqhatha inokubenzakalisa ubomi bonke bomntu. Umzekelo wolu hlobo unokuba ngumntu ogcina iifoto ezithandanayo ezithunyelwe ngumthandi wakhe, kwaye usongele ngokuzenza zenziwe esidlangalaleni ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lihambelana noko likufunayo.
'Ukuba uzama ukwahlukana nam, ndiza kuthumela iifoto zakho ze kwi-intanethi,' okanye 'ukuba awuyenzi into endiyifunayo, ndiza kuthumela iziphathamandla zakho kuzo zonke iitekisi ezimbi ozithumele kum.' ngaye. ”
Kuyothusa, kukuziphatha okugwenxa okwenzeka rhoqo ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga. Yenzelwe ukoyikisa nokuhlazisa umntu ukuba angenise, kunye nomlawuli onamandla onke, kuba ixhoba labo loyike ukuba bazokufeza izithembiso zabo.
Iifilimu zehalloween (franchise)
7. UMthuli Wetyala Elithuleyo
Ngokuchasene ne-Interrogator, olu hlobo lomntu luya kukukhenkcela kwaye likunike ukungathethi cwaka nanini na ungenzi into abayifunayo. Baza kuhamba bemke kuwe xa uzama ukuthetha nabo, abayi kuphendula imibuzo yakho, okanye ukuba abahlali nawe, abayi kuzihoya iifowuni zakho, imibhalo kunye ne-imeyile. Bayakukugcina ubambekile, uzibuza ukuba kwenzeka ntoni esihogweni ukuze bakubeke kwindawo yokungazithembi.
Olu luhlobo oloyikisayo lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasengqondweni, kwaye kunciphisa umntu ndiziva ndingento yanto nengabonakaliyo. Nguwo isidima , kwaye kunciphisa abanye kwizinto endaweni yabantu abafanelwe yintlonipho nembeko esisiseko.
Ixhoba loku kuziphatha liya kuhlala liphela lisenza nantoni na nayo yonke into esemandleni abo ukuze yamkelwe ngulowo ungabakhathalelanga, kwaye uya kuhamba ngaphezulu nangaphaya ukunqanda ukuhlangabezana nolo hlobo lwentlungu kwakhona.
8. Umgqatswa ngokwasemzimbeni
Kule meko, umntu olawulayo uya kusebenzisa ubundlobongela (okanye isoyikiso esibonakalayo) ukufumana oko bakufunayo kwabanye. Ukuba zide kakhulu okanye zomelele, zinokuphosa amaqabane azo okanye abasebenzi ngendlela eyoyikisayo, zibonakalise ukuba ziyi 'alpha' kwaye kufuneka zithotyelwe. Ukuba yintsebenziswano yokuthandana, banokuphethukela ekuphathweni gadalala ngokomzimba njengokuthabatha iingalo okanye izihlahla ngexesha lencoko, okanye nokubetha okanye ukubetha.
Obu ayibobudlelwane bunokuphucuka ngaphandle konyango olubalulekileyo, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba kunjalo, kungcono nje / kulula ukuzama ukuzikhupha kule meko imbi kangaka.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zonke ezi ndlela zolawulo zivela emthonjeni: ukuba abantu abenzakalayo bahlala begqibela ngokulimaza abanye. Ayisosizathu sokwenza oku, kodwa yingcaciso. Kuyanceda ukukwazi ukuqonda ukuba abantu basuka kwiindawo zentlungu kunye nomonakalo, kodwa kufuneka ukuba baphendule ngezenzo zabo. Ekugqibeleni, sonke sinoxanduva lobomi bethu, kwaye oko kubandakanya ukubeka impilo-ntle yethu kwindawo yokuqala, nokusuka kubudlelwane obusonakalisayo.
