Wonke umntu uyazi enye. Ngexesha elithile ebomini bakho, nokuba ngumzali, utitshala, umhlobo, okanye iqabane, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kudibana nalo mntu. Ikwangabantu ongenakufuna ukuzingqunga nabo kuba, beka ngokulula: benza ubomi bube nzima.
Ukuhlala ujikeleze indawo yolawulo kukuba kwimeko yokuhlala uphaphile, unxunguphalo kunye noxinzelelo. Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo zichaza imiba yabo, indlela abasebenza ngayo, kunye nendlela yokuphatha kakuhle.
Kutheni Beziphatha Ngale Ndlela?
Ukuba yinto yolawulo kubangelwa kukungabikho kolawulo ebomini bomntu. Bafuna ukumisela kwakhona olo lawulo ngokuzingca kwabanye. Ngendlela engaqhelekanga, bayakholelwa: 'Ewe, andinakubulawula ubomi bam, kodwa ndiziva ndikulawula ngokulawula obakho.'
Ukulawula abanye abantu kubenza bazive ngcono ngeziqu zabo, kwaye kunciphisa amaxhala abo.
Ngelixa ungasoze uqonde indibaniselwano yeziganeko ezibangele umntu othile ukuba abe yinto yolawulo, unokumisela izinto ezininzi malunga nezinto ezibaqhubela ukuba babe yile ndlela.
Kukho izinto ezintathu ezenza ulawulo lolawulo:
1. Ukungazithembi
Isidingo sokulawula abanye sihlala sibangelwa kukungazithembi ngokunzulu. Umntu olawulayo uziva ngathi akonelanga kwaye kufuneka azibeke engxakini ngokulawula abanye kumboniso wamandla onamandla. Kule ndawo, uya kufumana iintlobo ezimbini zolawulo lwe-freaks: Umntu Okungcungcuthekisayo, kwaye uMlawuli onguMlawuli.
Umxhaphazi
Kwabanye abantu, oku kuyinyani, ukuba ndlongondlongo, isimilo sokuchasana, okt.
Kubantu abadala, lo mntu unomsindo omkhulu, oqhayisayo, ohlasela abantu ukuze aboyikise benze into abayifunayo. Ukuba uzama ukuphikisana nabo, baya kusuka baphakamise ngakumbi, kwaye bakunxibe ukuya kwindawo apho ufuna ukuba imeko iphele, ke uyanqumama ubayeke babe nendlela yabo.
Le ndlela yokuziphatha ibonakala rhoqo emadodeni, kunabafazi, kuba amadoda ahlalisene nabantu ukuze basebenzise iindlela ezinobundlongondlongo zokuqinisekisa iimfuno zabo kunye neemfuno zabo. Oku kuziphatha kuqheleke ngakumbi apho amandla okwahluka ngokungafaniyo umzekelo: umqeshi-umqeshwa, utitshala-umfundi, okanye ukuthotyelwa komthetho.
Izikhonkwane ziphezulu kumntu oxhatshazwayo kwaye bayayithobela ukuze bangalahli imisebenzi, bangene engxakini, okanye babeke emngciphekweni amanqaku abo. Izinto ezilawulwayo kule meko ziyazi kakuhle ukuba zinokuhamba nayo, kwaye ngenxa yokuba zikwisikhundla samandla, ziya kujongana nezimbalwa, ukuba kukho naziphi na iziphumo.
Aba baxhaphazi akufuneki babe ziingxilimbela ezizizikhohlisi kufuneka nje baphakamise ngakumbi, kwaye babonakale besoyikisa ngakumbi kunalowo bazama ukumbulala.
Umlawuli
Ngamanye amaxesha, ulawulo lokuziphatha ngendlela engaqhelekanga lubonakalisa ngeendlela ezikhohlisayo, ngokusebenzisa ubuqhetseba kwaye Ubundlongondlongo ijolise ekunxibeni phantsi, ekukhohliseni ukuba nivume, okanye kukwenza uzive umbi ngokungathobeli.
Olu hlobo lwesibini lolawulo lokuxakeka lunokuba mbi ngakumbi, kuba ubuncinci xa kukho umntu okuhlukumezayo, uyazi into oyiyo kwaye ungakuthintela ukuqhuma, okanye uzisuse ngokukhawuleza xa kusenzeka oko. Ukulawulwa okukhohlisayo okulawulayo kukwenza ukuba wenze into abayifunayo ngokusebenzisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo. Baswele ukuzithemba kunye nobukho bomzimba ukukhupha amaqhinga ezoyikiso, ke baya kuwe ngokwenza kwakho ndiziva ndinetyala okanye akukho ngqiqweni xa usala izicelo zabo.
Oku kuhlala kungumntu osebenza naye okanye umhlobo, umzali, kwaye ikakhulu, (nangona, akusoloko kunjalo) ngumfazi. Ngelixa kusenokubakho umahluko kumandla okusebenza, iimeko zihlala zingekho mbi njengakwingcungcuthekiso.
Abaphathi ngokufuthi abakhalazi, kodwa bakwenza uzive umbi ngokwala. Bayasusa kuwe ngokwenza uzive uzingca okanye ungenangqiqo ngokubeka iimfuno zakho ngaphambi kwezabo. Ihlala ilungile kuphela emva kokuba uyiqondile kakuhle into eyenzekileyo, kwaye uzive unomsindo kwaye unomsindo.
2. Imiba yokuThembana
Amaqhekeza olawulo ngabaphathi abancinci. Abathembi abantu ukuba benze nantoni na ebhetele kunale bayenzayo. Bazula ngapha nangapha kuwe, bekhomba indlela abangayenza ngcono ngayo ngelixa bekugxeka.
Bahlala begqibelela kwaye balindele ukuba wonke umntu ojikeleze bona awele emgceni. Oku kwenza ukuba phakathi kwabo kudinise. Ukuba wakha wajikeleza umntu okwenza uzive ngathi akukho nto unokuyenza kakuhle, kwaye uzive ungalunganga nokuba uzama kangakanani, ubukhe wakulawula into engaqhelekanga.
3. Ukugqwesa okuPhezulu
Ukugcina ulawulo, ulawulo lwee-freaks kufuneka lubonakale ngathi ziyayazi into eziyenzayo, okanye zithetha ngantoni. Oku kuthetha isidingo sokugcina ukubonakala.
Lo ngumphathi ongumxhaphazi okholelwa ukuba, ekubeni bebekhona iminyaka emininzi, akukho mfuneko yokuba bafunde ngeenkqubo ezintsha okanye iinkqubo zokunceda abasebenzi babo, kuba indlela yabo ingcono. Lo ngumntu osebenza naye onobuqhetseba oxelela abantu indlela yokwenza imisebenzi yabo, okanye owenzakalisa oontanga ukuze bajongeke kumphathi.
Kwenzeka ntoni apha? Utshintsho lusongela ulawulo lwabo, ke bayemba izithende zabo, kwaye bazame ukugcina ubuso ngazo zonke iindleko. Ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba uyingxwelerha, okanye iindlela zokufikelela esiphelweni, makube njalo.
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Ukulawula iMicromanager
Ke ujongana njani nolawulo lwee-freaks? Ukuba awukwazi ukubaphepha, kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zokunciphisa umonakalo:
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- Ukuba ujongene nohlobo lokuxhaphaza kolawulo kwimo yentsapho / yomhlobo, shiya. Akukho sinyanzelo sokuba uhlale kwaye unyamezele ukuphathwa gadalala. Akukho sixa se-turkey, umakhulu ojongane nosizi, unetyala ngeholide, okanye iminyaka yobuhlobo, ekufuneka ikunyanzele ukuba uyinyamezele loo nto. Ngalo lonke ixesha lo mntu ephakamisa ilizwi lakhe okanye ezama ukukuloba ukuba nibe nembambano, zisuse kule meko. Ukuba abavumi ukutshintsha, yenza oko kususwa kusisigxina.
- Ukuba yimeko yomsebenzi, kunokuba nzima. Ukuba umxhaphazi ngumphathi wakho, baxele indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwaBasebenzi (ukuba isebe elinjalo likho). Isenokuvakala ngathi uyabanika, kodwa qalisa ukukhangela omnye umsebenzi emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngelixa i-HR inokungenelela okanye ibhale phantsi le meko, kungathatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba loo mntu asuswe okanye ungadlulisela kwelinye isebe. .
- Ukuba ujongana nesikhohlisi, njengomntu osebenza naye okanye umhlobo, kanye qhubeka uphinda iimfuno zakho kwaye uthi hayi. Ziqhelise ukuthi hayi qho kusasa kwisipili ukuba kufanelekile, kodwa yitsho. Akukho sixhobo sakho ekulweni namaqhinga abo asezantsi kwaye uziqinisekisile.
- Musa ukubila izinto ezincinci . Nokuba kungakukhathaza njani ukwenza njalo, bayeke baphumelele. Ukuba yinto engenamsebenzi kangako, mhlawumbi ungcono xa uyeka ulawulo lwakho kwaye ubayeke babe nayo. Gcina i-assertive yakho 'hayi' kula maxesha xa unokhetho olomeleleyo lokwenza into ngokwemiqathango yakho. Ngaphandle koko, ubeka umngcipheko kwimpikiswano engapheliyo.
- Musa ukuthatha isimilo sabo sokuziphatha ngokobuqu Isiphene somlinganiswa wabo esinokuba nesinye sezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ayibonisi kuwe, isimilo sakho, okanye amandla akho okuba zinje ngalento kubo bonke abantu. Ayilulo uhlaselo lobuqu kuwe, kodwa endaweni yoko indlela yokujongana nokuqesha abayisebenzisayo nokuba yeyokuvavanya.
- Sukulwa nabo okanye uzame ukubatshintsha -Oku kuyakukhokelela kunyuko kuphela njengoko befuna ukubanga ukuba balawule wena. Endaweni yoko, gcina ingqondo yakho ngokwamkela imeko kwaye ushiye, njengoko kucetyisiwe apha ngasentla, okanye uzikhusele ngokweemvakalelo kwii-odolo zabo ezingapheliyo, iimfuno kunye nokugxekwa.
- Yenza iingcebiso kwaye ungeze ubuqaqawuli bakho, kodwa zilungiselele ukuba zikhatywe ngokuthe ngqo. Thatha indlela elula kwaye ubabuze ukuba bacinga ntoni ngezimvo zakho kunokuba bazisebenzise ngaphandle kothethathethwano (abanokuthi balithathe njengelinge elinoburharha lokulijongela phantsi). Ngale ndlela unokubetha i-ego yabo kwaye ubenze bazive ngathi banolawulo, ngelixa badlala indima esebenzayo, kunokuba babe nje, kwindima.
- Elona thiphu lilungileyo ndinokukunika lona, ngaphezulu kwako konke, zama ukuhlala uzolile. Ukuzivumela ukuba ucaphuke kongeza nje ukuphemba emlilweni. Xa uphendula ngokuzolileyo, uwanciphisa amandla abo phezu kwakho. Inxalenye yokulawula ngokungathandabuzekiyo malunga nokufumana impendulo bayonwabele imvakalelo yamandla kunye nolawulo. Ukuba abakwazi ukukuxhaphaza okanye ukukuphatha, abanakuphinda bakwazi ukukulawula kwaye baya kudlulela kolunye ujoliso.
Lixesha lokuba uthathe ulawulo kwakhona, ukusuka kulawulo lwento.
