'Ngubani laa mfo athetha naye?'
“Ngaba uyamjonga?”
'Ngaba kukho into eyenzekayo phakathi kwaba babini?'
'Kutheni bengandibuzi ukuba ndiyafuna ukuhamba?'
Ahhh, ingqondo enomona isebenza. Siye sonke apho. Ndiyazi ukuba unayo ngoba kutheni enye into onokuyifunda kweli nqaku?
Uyabona, umona yingcinga eqhelekileyo / imvakalelo yokudibana…
… Kodwa ayisiyampilo.
Inokusithintela ekubeni sizibhaptize kubudlelwane, nokuba basondele okanye iplonic kuphela .
Ukungathembani ngakumbi, umona, kunye nokungazithembi kubudlelwane bakho, kokukhona kuya kubakho ingxaki- kuwe nakomnye umntu.
Kodwa musa ukuzibetha malunga nayo. Yiyo leyo inyathelo lokuqala apho kanye. Akukho nto intle eyakha yakhohlwaya.
Uyabona, asilawuleki kwaphela ngokweemvakalelo zethu nakweyiphi na imeko. Ngelixa sinokuthi sikwazi ukuzilungelelanisa iimvakalelo zethu kwaye sikhethe ukujongana nazo ngendlela ethile, asinakusoloko silawula ukuba zivela nini kwaye njani.
Andikwazi awukwazi ukuba umntu ongaphaya kwesitalato akakwazi.
Ucinga ukuba uwedwa uziva ngolu hlobo?
Awunguye.
Ngoku ayenzi ukuba uzive ungcono kancinane nje?
Ngale nto engqondweni, ungamelana njani neemvakalelo ezikhulayo ngaphakathi kwakho?
Sineziphakamiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokugcina eso silwanyana sijonge ...
1. Qonda ingcambu yomona
Yintoni umona, ngokuchanekileyo?
Luloyiko.
ukwamkela awusoze ufumane uthando
Ingaba luloyiko lokuphulukana nento osele unayo, okanye luloyiko lokungafumani into oyilangazelelayo kunye nabanye abanayo (abanye banokuthi le yesibini uziva unomona, kodwa konke kusekelwe kuloyiko ngandlela thile).
Umona yindlela i-ego yakho esabela ngayo kwisoyikiso-esibonwayo okanye sokwenyani.
Inxalenye yendaleko. Ifihliwe ndaweni ithile ngaphakathi kwikhowudi yemfuza ngumyalelo osisiseko wokuphila kunye nokudlulisela imfuza yethu kwisizukulwana esilandelayo.
Kwenzeka nje ukuba abanye abantu babonwe njengesoyikiso esinokubakho kolu thando.
Kodwa ngaphezulu koku, umona wakho uvela kumava akho angaphambili. Yiyo loo nto abanye abantu benomona omkhulu ngakumbi kunabanye. Baye baneepasiti ezahlukeneyo.
Uyaqhubeka ukwenziwa ziziganeko ebomini bakho. Ngexesha elithile, kwenzeka into ebangele ukuba ube buhlungu kwaye le ntlungu ngoku ikwenza woyike loo nto inye yenzeke kwakhona.
Umona wakho unokuba neengcambu ezininzi, ugalele ixesha lakho elidlulileyo njengengcambu yomthi eyenzayo emhlabeni.
Mhlawumbi ukhathazwe kaninzi, ngeendlela ezininzi, ngabantu obathandayo nabathi bakukhathalele.
Ke inyathelo lesibini (khumbula, inyathelo lokuqala yayikukungazibethi), kukuvavanya ukuba umona wakho uvela phi na.
Yintoni eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kumona wakho? Ngaba ngumntu othile, into, indawo, okanye isiganeko esihlala sikhona esikunika loo miba mibi yovakalelo?
Ukujonga emva kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, kwenzeka njani ukuba ezo zinto zibangele indawo yokuqala? Ngaba wenzakaliswe yintoni ehambelana nabo?
Ngokwenene cinga ngayo. Yibhale phantsi ukuba iyanceda ukufumana umfanekiso ocacileyo. Mhlawumbi ujonge iiseshoni ezimbalwa nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo.
Eli nyathelo libalulekile kuba ngokuqonda iingcambu zakho zomona kwixesha elidlulileyo, unokujongana ngcono nayo ngoku.
2. Thetha ngayo (ngendlela eyiyo)
Unokucinga ukuba eyona nto intle onokuyenza xa ukhe ube nomona kukuthetha nelinye iqela, nokuba liqabane lakho okanye umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho.
Ayiyo.
Awuyi kukwazi ukucinga ngokuthe ngqo xa iimvakalelo zakho zibaleka, kwaye ngekhe ukwazi ukunxibelelana ngendlela oziva ngayo ngokwenene.
Kodwa ke ndiza kuthanda Nceda ukhuphe ezi mvakalelo ngandlela thile.
Endaweni yoko, thatha inyathelo umva kwaye uthethe nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye othandekayo omthembileyo.
Nyaniseka njengoko uziva unokuba njalo. Zama ukukhupha yonke into kwaye unike umntu umxholo awudingayo ukuze aqonde indlela oziva ngayo.
Wena unako baneeseshoni zokuphosa izinto zokulahla nomntu othile, kodwa ukuze omnye umntu akwazi ukukunceda, kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye.
Qala ngendlela oziva ngayo kwaye uthethe ngokuba kutheni.
Ngaba unomona ngomntu othile ebomini bomnye umntu okanye ucinga nje ngomntu othile ukungcatsha wena ngandlela thile?
Kuya kufuneka uvule kwaye ube neenkcukacha kangangoko unakho-unxibelelwano yinxalenye enkulu yendlela esisebenza ngayo neemvakalelo zethu.
mdala kangakanani u-ric flair umlwi
Rhoqo, isenzo sokuthetha ngokuvakalayo emntwini sanele ukuvumela ukuba uququzelele iingcinga zakho. Banokubuza imibuzo ephandayo ukucacisa into oyithethayo kwaye oku kuyakwenza ukuba ucinge nzulu malunga neemvakalelo ezithile onazo.
Oku kukunceda ukuba wakhe kwiingcinga ozibeke ephepheni kwinyathelo elidlulileyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokuchonga nokujongana nexhala lobudlelwane
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- Ngaba Luthando Lokwenene Okanye Ngaba Sisincamathelisi Esingenampilo?
- Kutheni ubudlelwane bungumsebenzi onzima kangaka?
- Iimpawu ezingama-20 zoMntu oNemicimbi yokuShiya (+ Indlela yokoyisa)
3. Ngaba uMthombo uyinyani?
Kungenzeka ukuba unomona ngento efanelekileyo, okanye mhlawumbi iimvakalelo zakho ziyinyani, kodwa zimalunga nento oyiyilileyo engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, ungazibeki tyala - sonke senza imiba ezingqondweni zethu.
Iimvakalelo ezibangelwayo zisenokungasekelwanga kwinyani yakho yangoku, kodwa ngenxa yokuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba isekwe kumava akho adlulileyo (njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla), asasebenza.
Ke… ndiziva kunyanzelekile ukuba ndikukhumbuze ngenyathelo lokuqala - sukuzibetha.
Ungazixeleli ukuba usisidenge yokuziva unomona. Musa ukuzibek ’ityala.
Unokwenza iindlela zokujongana nalo mkhwele ongabandakanyi ukuzihlekisa.
Ewe ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo zakho zisekwe kwinkxalabo yokwenyani…
4. Ayindim, Nguwe
Icandelo lokuvavanya amanyathelo akho kukusebenza apho umba ulele khona.
Kungenzeka ukuba ingxaki ihleli nomnye umntu kwaye kufuneka babekho ukuze bakuncede kuyo.
Unokuba nomona ngendlela iqabane lakho elisondele ngayo komnye wabahlobo babo (besini esahlukileyo). Oku kunokuba uyila idrama entlokweni yakho, okanye unganoluhlu lwezihlandlo apho baziphathe khona ngeendlela ezingafanelekanga.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuhlala nomntu ochaphazelekayo uze usombulule lo mbandela.
Mhlawumbi kufuneka babeke esweni indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwaye baphephe izinto ezinokukukhathaza, nokuba bacinga okanye bamsulwa kangakanani na.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuthetha ngokungafihlisiyo omnye komnye, kodwa ngothando olukhulu novelwano kangangoko. Zama ukubeka iimvakalelo zakho kwelinye icala okomzuzwana kwaye uzibone ukuba zingabantu.
Kufuneka uvule ingqondo ngolu hlobo lwento, njengoko ungekhe ucele iqabane lakho ukuba liyeke ukuchitha ixesha nomnye wabahlobo babo.
Into onokuyenza kukufumana umhlaba ophakathi owenza ukuba uzive ungcono ngaphandle kokufuna oko bayatshintsha isimilo sabo ngokupheleleyo.
5. Ayinguwe, Ndim
Ewe, sonke kufuneka siyamkele loo nto, ngamanye amaxesha, sithi.
Ngamanye amaxesha abahlobo bethu okanye amaqabane akwenzi nto ukusenza sibe nomona. Konke kuvela ngaphakathi kweengqondo zethu.
Ungazifumana ucaphukela umhlobo osenyongweni ngaphandle kwesizathu ngaphandle kokungazithembi kwakho. Kulula ukuyenza, kodwa kunokuba yityhefu kuni nobabini.
Unokuzifumana ukungamthandi umhlobo wakho , nangona uyabathanda, kuba bamele izinto ozifunayo ebomini bakho.
Oku kuyindalo, kwaye uninzi lwethu litsaleleka kubantu esibabona benomdla. Ukuba nomona kancinci ngomfanekiso womhlobo wakho okanye izakhono okanye umsebenzi kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa hayi ukuba iqala ukuthatha indawo kwaye ibangela imiba phakathi kwakho.
6. Jongana nayo
Ukujongana neemvakalelo zakho yinto ephindwe kabini, kwaye igubungela yonke into esithethile ngayo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
kuthetha ukuthini ukuthatha kancinci kuthetha ukuba intombazana
Fumanisa ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, sebenza ukuba ngubani ofuna ukutshintsha yintoni, emva koko ayenze yenzeke.
Oku kunokuthetha ukuhlala phantsi neqabane lakho kwaye nicwangcise indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba niziva nikhuselekile.
Isenokuba nokuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane abukufanelekanga ngalo mzuzu ngexesha ukuba awuzithembanga kwaye ukungathembi .
Khumbula ukuba eli nqanaba linzima….
… Ngenene, kunzima kakhulu.
Uya kudinga abantu obathandayo abakungqongileyo ngenkxaso- ukwamkela iimvakalelo zakho kunzima ngokwaneleyo, kungasathethwa ke ngokujongana nazo.
Kodwa ungayenza, kwaye uyakuyenza. Kwaye nangona kubonakala kungenakwenzeka, uya kuziva ungcono.
7. Cinga ngokuKhuthazayo
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukubona okuhle kwezi ntlobo zeemeko, kodwa kulapho phayaa!
Uziva unomona ngokusondela kangakanani kwiqabane lakho komnye umntu kuba ubathanda kakhulu kwaye ufuna bonke babekho kuwe.
Oku kuyinyani, ewe, kodwa usenokucinga ngezinto ezintle - banazo wena kwaye bafuna ukuba kunye wena .
uyakwazi ukulawula ukuthandana
Nawuphi na umntu omdala uyakwazi ukuphelisa ubudlelwane ukuba abasayifuni, kwaye kufuneka uthembe ukuba iqabane lakho lingayenza loo nto.
Inyaniso yokuba usebudlelwaneni nomntu omkhathalele kakhulu - kwaye uyakuthanda kakhulu kangangokuba bakunceda ngomona nokungazithembi - yinto enkulu kakhulu.
Ukujongana neemvakalelo zekhwele kungacaphukisa kakhulu, yiyo loo nto ukuthembeka kuwe kwangethuba kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ungavuma ezi mvakalelo, kwakamsinya ungajongana nazo kwaye uqhubeke.
Khumbula ukuba ezi mvakalelo zihlala zivela kuba ukhathala ngomntu, onokuthi ujike ube yinto elungileyo.
Ngokuthetha ngale micimbi, iqabane lakho, umhlobo wakho, okanye umntu osebenza naye uya kuthi ndiyakuhlonipha kwaye uvule ngakumbi ekufumaneni iindlela zokunceda.
Ukuxelela umntu iinyanga ezintandathu ezantsi emgceni ukuba ukrukrunekile malunga nalo lonke ixesha?
Ayizi ezantsi ngokunjalo!
Ndithembe.
Nyaniseka, vula intliziyo yakho kwaye ukulungele ukwenza umsebenzi onzima. Uya kuziva ngcono kakhulu.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenze ntoni ngomona oziva unawo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
