'Ungayoyisa njani iimvakalelo zokuziva ungaxabisekanga.'
Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukuthetha isihloko ngokuvakalayo. Kulungile ukuthetha naliphi na inani lezinto ngokuvakalayo.
Sichitha ixesha elininzi sigcina ubuninzi be-misshapen, izinto ezithuleyo zijikeleza kumhlaba ongwevu weengqondo zethu.
Kodwa ukuthetha izinto ngokuvakalayo kuqinisekisa ukuba izihloko ezithile zihlala endaweni ngaphambili yamehlo ethu, apho ukuwavavanya kwenzeka ngaphandle kweendlela zangaphakathi zokuzenzakalisa iingqondo zethu zigcina zineoli eninzi.
Funda esi siqwenga ngokuvakalayo.
Ngaba isandi nokuziva kwegama ngalinye kukwenza ungakhululeki okanye uzikhusele?
Ngaba ikhona into ongafuni ukujongana nayo kuba ucinga ukuba, ngandlela thile, awonelanga?
Olo luvo? Kulapho ukungena kwethu kokuqala kokungabi naxabiso kwangena kudala: ukuziva ngathi asomelelanga ngokwaneleyo okanye sinengqondo ngokwaneleyo okanye sinomtsalane ngokwaneleyo okanye ngokwasemoyeni ngokwaneleyo okanye ukuthanda ngokwaneleyo okanye nantoni na konele Ukujongana nokujika okungalunganga kube lilungelo.
Ukuziva ubuthathaka, ukungapheleli, kunye nokuchitha amandla.
Uluncedo luni?
Nguwuphi umsebenzi umntu anokuthi azenzele wona ukuba akathandi, angafumani ubizo lokwenyani, okanye onwabe nje kwaye aluncedo kwabanye?
Lowo ngumbuzo otyhafisayo, ngokuqinisekileyo lowo ufuna isisombululo esivakalayo.
Sixelelwe ngeendlela ezilikhulu ezahlukileyo, ezonakalisayo ukuba kufuneka sihlale sihamba, sihlala sijongana nento ekufuneka siyiyo Imveliso , kufuneka sibe njalo yokusetyenziswa komnye umntu, ngandlela thile, kwenye indawo.
Kunqabile, nangona kunjalo, ukuba sivunyelwe ngokwenyani ukuba sijike loo mbono ungene ngakuye wokusetyenziswa thina .
Ukuzingca kufumana igama elibi kwezi ntsuku, kodwa makhe siqwalasele apha hayi ngokuzingca, ukuzingca okuncinci kokubambelela kwimpahla ngokuqinileyo kangangoko, kodwa ukuzingca 'kobuqu' bokwenene.
Singangaziva ngathi kufanelekile ukuba sihlale sithe cwaka ngosuku lomsebenzi, kodwa yintoni evelisa ngakumbi: yimizuzu embalwa yokusebenza komphefumlo? Okanye ukuhlangabezana neenjongo ezimiselwe ngomnye umntu ngethemba lokuba ziya kubonakala kwintlawulo yomvuzo?
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo xa usebenzisa wena kuqala.
Ukuba uza kunyanga, ziphilise.
Ukuba uza kuthandana, zithande .
Simi phambi kwendalo yonke njengesefa: oko kungena kuthi kuphuma kuthi.
Ufanelekile ngothando
Mhlawumbi ezona mvakalelo zihlala ixesha elide nezisasazekayo zokuziva ungaxabisekanga zivela kukuziva ngathi ngandlela thile asithandeki, nto leyo ngamanye amaxesha iyinyani: ngamanye amaxesha asingobantu abathandekayo.
Kodwa eso sisilwanyana esahluke ngokupheleleyo ekuziva singekho kufanelekile zothando.
Oku kuhlala kuyintambo yobomi ekhokelela kubazali bethu (okanye kwamanye amanani egunya kwiminyaka yethu yokwakha).
Ewe wonke umntu uthi, 'Sola abazali!' kodwa asinamdla wokugxeka: silapha ukuze sihlalutye. Abazali babalasele ekwenzeni izinto ezincinci esiqala ngazo ukuba zihlale zingabantwana bangaphakathi abakhokela ubomi bethu bakamva.
Ukuziva singalufanelanga uthando yindlela yokuzohlwaya emva kokuzinikela kumzali ukuze siphikiswe. Kukudana okutyumkileyo okuthi isiphoso kufuneka sibe kuthi, kungenjalo ngokuqinisekileyo ngebephendule njengoko benethemba.
Umntwana ongaphakathi ngokukhawuleza uqala ukucinga ukuba ayilufanelanga uthando.
Inyani yile (a) sonke sifanelwe luthando, (b) akukho namnye kuthi oyaziyo ngokwenyani indlela yokuphatha, kwaye (c) elona xesha ungafanelekanga ngalo lelokuba uchitha ubomi bakho bonke uziqhelanisa nokungafaneleki.
indlela yokuphelisa ubudlelwane obude
Thatha ixesha lokunxibelelana ngokwenyani kwaye uthethe nomntwana wakho ongaphakathi, ufumanise ukuba kutheni le nto usentlungwini, kwaye ubone ukuba yintoni eninokuyenza nina nobabini ukwenza ukuzithanda kube yinto ephambili.
Kufanelekile ukuchuma
Kukho uluvo lokuba abanye bethu bazalelwe ukuchuma, ngelixa abanye bengasoze babambe ikhefu. Kwaye amaxesha amaninzi umahluko ligama elinobunkunkqele, nelichazwe gwenxa elibizwa ngokuba “kukujolisa.”
Ukususela kumzuzu wokuhamba sime nkqo, sixelelwa ukuba sibeke ikhosi. 'Owu, uya kuba yinjineli' kwiibhloko ezixineneyo. 'Umiselwe imigqomo' kulowo ubetha iimbiza neepani.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona ikhosi itshintsha amaxesha asisigidi ngaphambi kokufikisa, ngandlela thile 'kugxila' ngoyena ndoqo, uzisa isiseko sokuba unesikhokelo esivela kuwe okanye injongo ekufuneka uyifezekisile, okanye ubomi bakho buya kuba kukusilela ngokupheleleyo.
Into kukuba, akukho mntu wumbi unoluvo lokuba loluphi ulwalathiso olukuwe. Hayi Igazi. Nye.
Onke loo mazwi akuxelela ukuba ngubani kwaye phi? Zilahlekile nje. Okubi nangakumbi kukuba, abanalwalathiso.
Akukho ndlela ibekiweyo, emiselweyo esinokuthi siyazi ngokwenyani ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa njengempambano. Okona kungcono sonke sihlala sileqa 'into' kuphela ukufumana ukuba ayikho.
Ngaba uwulungele umsebenzi omkhulu, ukuchuma ngokwezimali kunye nokuhlonitshwa ngoontanga? Ngaphandle kothandabuza.
Iinjongo zobomi, iinjongo zomsebenzi, zilungile… ukuba nje umntu uyeka ukwenza uluvo olupheleleyo lwesazisi luxhomekeke ekufikeleleni kuzo.
Unokuba ngumbhali ongazange abhale incwadi igqwetha efumana uvuyo olukhulu kwigadi ethe nkqo ungangumphilisi onegalelo kuphela kwintlalontle ebanzi yoluntu yimpelaveki echithwe njengeHabitat yoLuntu njengevolontiya.
Xa ufuna ukuba ngumbhali, igadi, okanye igqirha, uza ku . Yinto elula leyo.
Kanangcono? Ngaphandle kwezilumkiso eziqhelekileyo ezivela kwimidiya yethu yengqondo, kukho ixesha lokuba ungubani, kwaye wenze le nto ufuna ukuyenza.
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Into Ongayenza Ngoku
Kulungile, ke yinto enye ukuba uchaze ukuba kufanelekile, kodwa uziqinisekisa njani ukuba oku kuyinyani?
Nantsi eminye imikhwa ekufanele ukuba uyamkele eya kuthi ikwenze uqiniseke ukuba uzixabisile.
Kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba utshintsho aluzukwenzeka ngobusuku obunye kufuneka ugcine ubuyela kwezi zinto de zibe yimvelo yesibini.
Flip Iskripthi
Okokuqala, yazi ukuba iiNgcinga eziZenzekelayo eziGwenxa ezibangela ukuziva ungaxabisekanga zibetha wonke umntu, kwaye azikwenzi ube buthathaka okanye ungafaneleki kwiminqweno yakho.
Ngokwenyani, ukuvuma kwabo kukubeka kwindawo eyomeleleyo yokujongana nabo, kuba amaxesha amaninzi ukuzithetha okungathandekiyo iba kuphela komdlali weqonga ngaphakathi kwentloko yethu enenxalenye yokuthetha, kwaye ihlala ithetha ngokungagungqiyo.
'Ngamaxesha onke,' 'ngonaphakade,' kwaye 'ngalo lonke ixesha' ayizizo izihlobo zakho.
Inye into yokuziva ungenaxabiso asisoze saba nempendulo eyiyo xa iziphumo zikhulisa iintloko zazo ezimbi.
Njalo ? Ngokwenene ? Wena njalo mosha? Uya kuba wedwa ngonaphakade ? Izinto ziyaqhuma kwi ubuso ngalo lonke ixesha ?
Ewe abanalo.
Ngokunyanisekileyo uzixelele ngokulungileyo okwenzayo, impumelelo uziva unebhongo ngayo , kwaye akukho nanye kwezi eyenzekileyo.
Guqula iingcinga ezizenzekelayo (ANTS) kwiingcinga ezizenzekelayo: ngobunono, ngovelwano, ngokungathi ukhulisa lo mntwana ungaphakathi.
Gxila
Kwintoni?
Okomzuzwana.
Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokuziva ungaxabisekanga zihlala zihamba ngokwakho kwixesha elizayo: Andisoze ndiphumelele Pulitzer.
Ngokwenene? Nantso umkhonto ohamba nawo? Ungayicofa njani emva kwaye ujonge kule nto uyenzayo ngoku. Uyabhala? Ngaba kuhamba kakuhle? Ogqwesileyo!
Ngaba ukutshintsha kwezinzulu zobusuku kwindawo yokupaka? Ngaba uwenzile umdlalo wengqondo ukuze uzigcine ubukhali kwaye uhlala ixesha lokutshintsha? Kulungile. Uyaphila ngoku.
Yeka ukuziphosa kwixa elizayo.
Impembelelo iqinisekisiwe
Nokuba siziva singaxabisekanga kangakanani na, kuhlala kukho izinto ezisikhuthazayo.
Kungafuneka simbe okwexeshana ukuze sifike apho ukukhanya kungangena khona, kodwa kukho amaxesha angenakuphikiswa onxibelelwano, uvuyo kunye nentlonipho esikhumbuza ukuba sibufumana njani ubomi xa sizivumela ukuba sibubone.
Khuthazwa zizipho zezigidi ze-ART (ukukhanya okuzenzekelayo) okukungqongileyo.
Musa ukulinganisa ukufezekisa kwakho ngokuchasene nabanye
'Ukungabinantsingiselo' ngokuzenzekelayo kuthetha ukuba uyazilinganisa nomnye umntu, ngokungacacanga okanye ngokuthe ngqo.
Kufanelekile. Ngaphantsi.
Ngaphantsi koobani? Kwakhona, imibuzo ifuna iimpendulo, kwaye ukuba imibuzo yakho ayimelanga ukuphicothwa, yibhale njengezingcinga ezingalunganga ezizenzekelayo kwaye uziqhelanise nobukho babo de babune.
Bambalwa kakhulu abahlekisi abakhawulezayo ukwenza izinto njengoRobin Williams, ukanti abantu bayaqhubeka nokuzama umdlalo ohlekisayo.
Bambalwa kakhulu abaphengululi abaphethe ikhandlela kuJames Baldwin, ukanti iingcinga ziyaqhubeka ukucacisa.
Akukho nto ayenzayo umntu ongafanelekanga ukuba uyayenza nawe ukuba utyekele emsebenzini.
Ukuba uya thelekisa wena nabani na , inokuba nguBatman, kuba akayonyani kwaye kunjalo novavanyo lwendlela ozibamba ngayo ngokuchasene nabanye.
Uyabona ukuba obo bunzima buwela nje?
Hambisa
Uziva ungenanto kuba uziva umi kwaye umile, ngoko ke hamba.
Ngokwasemzimbeni. Engqondweni.
Ukusebenzisa ingqondo nomzimba kuluncedo ekonwabeleni isithuthi umoya wakho ofikelela kwisixhobo esijikeleze iminyaka engamashumi asibhozo ukuya kumashumi alithoba okanye kunjalo.
Ukuziva ungumnini kunye nobungqongqo zizinto ezibalulekileyo zokuziva UNOKWENZA. Igcwele ixabiso.
Ewe unjalo.
Uyindalo yonke enemilenze. Zininzi izinto ezinokubakho ezijikelezayo ngaphakathi kuwe, zibonakalisa umbono. Ngokwenyani yonke into ekhoyo ukuba umntu ayenze iyafumaneka kuwe: akukho lula, mhlawumbi, kwaye kuyavunywa ukuba ayisoloko iyimpumelelo, kodwa yiya kuyo.
Nceda uzame.
Kufanelekile.
