Ndikhumbula okokuqala ndaziva ndingento yanto. Kwakusemva komlo wam wokuqala. Inokuba ndandineminyaka esithoba. Bendingafuni kulwa bendifuna ukuqhubeka nokudlala nabazala bam kwilanga lasehlotyeni elifudumeleyo njengoko sihlala sisenza ngeMigqibelo emva kwemini. Kodwa isitshabalalisi sommelwane sasinezinye izicwangciso, kwaye ndathi xa ndixelela usapho lwam ngale nkathazo, impendulo yabo yathi 'Jongana nayo.' Andizange ndiyazi ukuba bathetha ntoni de kwasa: bafuna ukuba ndilwe. Ukuzimela. Mhlawumbi ndide ndikhusele abazala bam.
Ndandididekile. Yonke into endandifuna ukuyenza yayikukudlala. Ndacinga ukuba abazali bakhona ukuze batshabalalise ukucaphuka okunje ngayo yonke le meko.
Kwakukho ukungqubana nokutyhala, kwaye ngaxesha lithile- xa ndicinga ukuba umboniso uphelile- ndiye ndanikela umva kwisitshabalalisi… owandibetha ngenqindi ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, kakhulu emqolo wabaleka.
Imini yonke ndiyichithe ndinomsindo kuwo wonke umntu. Ndikwanothotho lwemifanekiso ejikelezayo yendlela ekufanele ukuba ndiyicofe ngayo inkathazo ukuba bendinayo…
“Akwaba bendinayo.” Ibinzana lokufowuna lokungaze ulunge ngokwaneleyo, kwaye naloo vavanyo bubuxoki. Uhlala ulungile ngokwaneleyo. Inyani yile yokuba iingcinga zokujongela phantsi zizisa ubuqhetseba obungenasiphelo imvakalelo ilunge ngokwanele.
Ndarhoxa kancinci emhlabeni ngalo mini. Emehlweni am, into endicinga ukuba ndiyiveze ngaphandle njengo 'me' kuyabonakala ukuba ayilunganga ngokwaneleyo kwihlabathi elalifuna ukuthatha, ukuphazamisa, kunye nokwenzakalisa nanini na xa imeko ihlasela.
Ukukhawuleza phambili kumashumi eminyaka kamva. Ubomi obabuphilwa bungaze bube mnandi ngokwaneleyo… kude kube lusuku olunye inkqubo kamabonakude, yazo zonke izinto, yandibonisa ukuba ndizivumele ukuba ndibe ngubani. Isiqendu seStar Trek: Isizukulwana Esilandelayo esithi 'Usapho' sabonisa ukapteni ebuyela kwinduduzo yasekhaya emva kokoyiswa kabuhlungu lutshaba olungenakubethwa. Waye wabanjwa, wathuthunjiswa, kwaye watshintsha waba yinto angazange afune ukuba yiyo: isixhobo sokwenyani ngokuchasene nemigaqo yakhe. Ngexesha lesiqendu, umntakwabo owahlukanisayo ekugqibeleni wamenza ukuba athobe imikhuba yakhe yeemvakalelo kwaye alilele le migca:
UJean-Luc Picard: “Bathathe yonke into endandiyiyo. Bandisebenzisela ukubulala nokutshabalalisa, kwaye andinakubanqanda. Bekufanele ukuba ndikwazile ukubanqanda. Ndizamile. Ndizamile kakhulu… kodwa bendingenamandla ngokwaneleyo! Khange ndilunge ngokwaneleyo! Ngendikwazi ukubanqanda… ”
Umphathi weShishini, uncitshisiwe ukuba asonge i-sobs.
“Ayonelanga.” Kwakungathi yintsimbi kum. Andizange ngaphambili ndibeke amagama athi 'inferiority complex' ebomini bam, kodwa yayikho. Ndikhe ndachitha iminyaka ndizikholelwa ngcono kunabanye, ndomelele kunabanye, kodwa ndingaze ndizibeke kwimeko apho kuya kufuneka ndiyibonise. Nditsho nobomi bam bokubhala bonakaliswe ziingcinga 'zokoyika impumelelo,' eyayiyikhowudi kuphela yokungabeki imigudu efanelekileyo yokubona umsebenzi uhambela phambili apho abanye banamandla okuwala.
Ukuzilimaza yi-watermark yobunzima obuphantsi. Kubalulekile ukunqanda ukubambeka ngaphantsi kwalomgca, ukunyuka ngaphezulu kwawo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha konke okufunekayo kukukhala kwentsimbi.
Intsimbi yokuqala
Ukhuphiswano oluphezulu kakhulu ludla ngokubandezeleka kwi-IC (ubunzima baphantsi). Isidingo sokungqina rhoqo umda kabani phezu kwabanye sibonisa uloyiko lokusilela rhoqo . Xa siqonda, nangona kunjalo, amaxesha alithoba kwalishumi asikhuphisani namntu naxa sicinga ukuba sikho, sizivulela inqanaba elitsha lenkululeko kwizenzo zethu. Iilensi esizisebenzisayo aziphazanyiswanga phakathi kwezigidi ezikhuphisanayo, kodwa endaweni yoko zijolise kuyo yethu imisebenzi, yethu iinjongo, amaphupha ethu awodwa, angenakudluliselwa. Umvuzo kukuzanelisa, hayi ubuso bamanga bobuxoki.
Intsimbi yesibini
Ngaba uhlala rhoqo thelekisa wena nabanye ? Ungapheka… kodwa wonke umntu uyayithanda ilagna kaBertram ngcono. Ulwalamano… kodwa wonke umntu ucinga ukuba ezinye izibini ziyabukeka. Eli bali ulibhalileyo belimangalisa, abantu bayakuxelela. Ewe utsho, kodwa akukho ndawo ikufutshane njengoStephen King. Kwaye iyaqhubeka, de ube uqala ukuqaphela abantu abasakuncomi ngezinto.
Kubi kakhulu ukubangisana nesiqhelo sokuzibamba. Abantu bayarhoxa, nto leyo ke eyenza ukuba umgxeki azive evumelekile kuvavanyo olungalunganga lokuxabiseka kwabo. Intsimbi yale iye yasuka kum xa ndisiva lo mgca uvela kwingoma kaPrince 'Molo': 'Ndindedwa kwimbeko endingeyiyo U.' Sonke sineenguqulelo zethu ezizodwa ze yonke into, nanjengoko kungekho mfuneko yokuziva sikhuphisana nawo wonke umntu, akukho sidingo sokulinganisa ukuxabiseka kwethu ngokungabonakali, okungaphathekiyo kunye nokutshintsha rhoqo kweeyardiki ezibekwe ngokuchasene nabanye abantu.
Ngaba ulungile ngokwaneleyo kuwe? Ngaba ungangcono… ngenxa yakho? WENA yeyunithi yakho yemilinganiselo yangaphakathi kwaye, nokuba bhetele, ufana neTARDIS evela kuGqirha Ngubani: isaka lomntu ngaphandle, likhulu ngokungapheliyo ngaphakathi.
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Intsimbi yesithathu
Sakhe sajikeleza loo mntu uziva isidingo sokuvakalisa ukungonwabi kwabo. Yantnoni? Yonke into! Nantoni na umntu ayifumana kamnandi inkunkuma. Ngesidlo ngasinye kukho into nje ecimileyo. UJohn akamhle njengokuba wonke umntu ecinga ukuba unjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho ndlela umntu ayithandayo lonto imuvi.
Ukuphosa iziphithiphithi emoyeni kuboleka umntu ngobunzima obuphantsi inkohliso yendawo ephakamileyo, kwaye yeyona ntsimbi kunzima ukuyazi ngenxa yokuba sesona siyobisi silula ukuzinyanga ngokwakho, ukuthatha umzamo omncinci kakhulu kunokuzivulela ukuthanda oko kwenziwa ngumntu wonke. Kuthatha ukugxila okuncinci ekuchaseni. Ukuba awonelanga ngokwaneleyo, i-IC ihleba, ihlala ivakalisa, ihlala ikhona, ayikho enye into eya kuba yiyo. Nokuba uyayithanda into, ikuxelela ukuba ufumane isiphoso kunye nelizwi elikufumanayo.
Ingxaki? Imigca emininzi evela kulaa ngoma yeNkosana, Mholweni:
4 U amagama ngokuqinisekileyo awazizihlangu
Zizixhobo kunye nezixhobo zokutshabalalisa
Kwaye ixesha lakho liyadika ngaphandle kokuba ubeka into phantsi
Musa ukuba ngulomntu otyhafisa wonke umntu ngokuba lilitha le 'wells hantle,' 'hayi ngokwenene,' okanye 'andikholelwa' - kuba umva kulapho inyani ihlala khona: uyakwazi, uyakwenza, kwaye ukholelwa ngokulula.
Into.
Intsimbi yesine
Isigebenga esinamehlo aluhlaza? Jonga. Rhoqo uzifumanisa unomona, kulungile… awunalwazi lokuba yintoni, kodwa ilunge kakhulu yenza ukuba ingqondo yakho ijije - luphawu olucacileyo lobunzima, olunokuthi luphawule njenge Ikrakra , Ndedwa , umntu owoyikayo notyekele ekugxadazeleni ngeendlela ngeendlela, ezinye isixando sokwenzela , ezinye ziba ndlongondlongo. Uhlala phantsi kovalo oluhlala luhleli lokuba umntu afumanise ukuba awunguye ilunge ngokwanele, ngokungathi kukho ezinye ezendeleyo 'Kufuneka ube yile inde ukonwabele ukukhwela iziqhamo zomhlaba' umqondiso ohleli ngonaphakade ubude kunawe.
Pha. Ngaba. Hayi.
izimvo ezintle zokuzalwa kwesithandwa sakho
Umona luloyiko lomntu othatha into kuwe. Ungumntwana omncinci bangumntwana omkhulu. Banobukrelekrele, bajonge ngcono, baphumelele ngakumbi, basebenza ngakumbi, BASEBENZA ngakumbi kunawe, ke ngumsebenzi wakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba ucofa ii-alamu rhoqo nangoko kunokwenzeka xa kukho into etyiwayo yomntu ojikelezayo.
Kodwa umona unciphisa abantu kwizinto. Izinto onazo. Kukungakhathalelwa okupheleleyo kokukhanya kwangaphakathi komnye, amathemba abo, ikamva labo, amandla abo. Umona uyabenzakalisa abo benza i-IC ngokubagcina benengqondo encinci kwaye ubenze bangaboni ngolawulo olungeyonyani: ukuba ialam ikhala ngokwaneleyo emva koko ngokuqinisekileyo into ethandekayo iya kulungelelanisa ukunqanda amarhamncwa, yiyo loo nto umntu one-IC ebona. Unxibelelwano lokunye nehlabathi: wonke umntu nayo yonke into iyelenqe lokuthatha izinto ze-IC kude.
Ngamanye amaxesha loo nto yayiqala njengokuqaqamba, ukudlala, usuku olunelanga, into sonke esicinga ukuba ayisiyonto yethu.
I-Bell yokugqibela
Ukuba ubomi yindawo yokudlala, kukho abantu abakhawulezayo kunathi. Oko akuthethi ukuba asidlali tag. Unamandla kunathi. Ngaba oko akuthethi ukuba asiyibambi intambo yokurhuqa imfazwe. Ukrelekrele kunathi. Ngabo sifunda amaqhinga amatsha okudlala kuwo. Kukho umntu ohlekisayo kunathi, onokutya emva koko ajike ngaphandle kokuba nesicaphucaphu njengathi, okanye abe nabahlobo abangaphezu kwethu.
Ayinamsebenzi. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba kumdlalo webala lokudlala wonke umntu ojonga ngasemva komntu ophambi kwabo unomntu angamboniyo yabo umva. Umntu uhlala ephambi komntu, umntu uhlala esemva komnye umntu.
De siqonde ayingomgca. Sisangqa.
Kwaye siya kujikeleza ngokuthanda ngaphakathi kuyo.
