Ndifuana u uyoyike ukungoyiki ukusilela? Le yeyona $ 14.95 ilungileyo oza kuyisebenzisa.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Uloyiko lunamandla okukuyeka ufile kwiindlela zakho, lukwenza uzithandabuze, kwaye lukhokelele ekubeni wenze ngokuchasene nokuziphatha kwakho. Nangona kunjalo, xa kufikwa kusilelo, uloyiko luhlala lungekho ngqiqweni kwaye lunemiphumo.
Ngaphandle kwento engekho ngqiqweni kwaye uloyiko olungafunekiyo lokungaphumeleli lunokubonakala kumbukeli, isakwazi ukubamba inani elikhulu labantu kulo lonke uluntu. Le mvakalelo yokudodobalisa ibambe abantu kwaye ibambe amathuba abo okuphila ubomi obuyinyani kumaphupha abo nakwiminqweno yabo.
Luvela phi olu loyiko lokusilela, yintoni enye enegalelo kuko, kwaye yintoni onokuyenza ukuze woyise? Yonke le mibuzo eli nqaku ijolise ukukuphendula yona.
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Esona sizathu sokwesaba ukusilela
Xa uqala ukucinga ngayo xa ujonga zonke izizathu ezininzi ezibekiweyo zoloyiko lokusilela, zonke zikhokelela kwingcambu enye. Sinoyika ukusilela ngenxa yokwenzakala okunokusilela okunjalo kwi-egos yethu.
Sijonge kwikamva lethu kwaye sicinga ukuba intlungu engokweemvakalelo Singasokola ukuba besingazukuphumelela kwimizamo yethu. Kuphela ayisiyiyo iziqu zethu eziphakamileyo ezenza oku, kodwa umzekelo wethu. Yile nxalenye yobukho bethu, icandelo elichaza u-'I 'kwaye elizibona lihlukile kwaye lisengozini kwilizwe langaphandle eliqhelisela oko.
I-ego kukungabi nathemba kwekhabethe inokubonisa ubukrwada kwaye ukuzithemba kubabukeli, kodwa uyoyika kwaye ekugqibeleni ungumntu othobekileyo entliziyweni. Into yokugqibela efuna ukuyifumana ziintlungu, ke iya kuthintela nantoni na eyibona iyingozi. Akunakuyithwala imbono yokuzibeka phaya ngaphandle ukuvumela nelona thuba lincinci ukuba lenzakale.
Inyani yile yokuba ukusilela kubonisa isoyikiso esikhulu esinokubakho kwi-egos yethu, ke baya koyika. Ngenxa yokubanjwa ukuba i-ego ihlala ihleli ezingqondweni zethu, ayimangalisi into yokuba iyoyika, siyoyika.
Ngokusisiseko, sisoyika ukusilela kwinto ethile ngenxa yeentlungu eziya kubakho kumava ethu, hayi ngenxa yesizathu esivakalayo.
Ezinye izinto ezifaka isandla
Ukuba i-ego ibangela uloyiko lwethu lokusilela, yintoni enye edlala indima? Yintoni eyenza ukuba i-ego iqiniseke ukuba ingonzakala ukuba ukusilela bekuya kwenzeka?
Inye into enkulu inqanaba lentlalontle kunye nendlela abanye abasijonga ngayo. Nokuba kulungile okanye akulunganga, sikholelwa ekubeni ukusilela kuya kujongwa njengento engalunganga emehlweni abanye. Okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, ii-egos zethu zicinga ukuba siza kuhleka kwaye sihlaziswa xa sinokubeka konke kwinto ethile size sifikelele.
Njengobubi njengoko ukusilela emfihlekweni kunokuba njalo kwi-egos yethu, ukusilela esidlangalaleni phambi kwabanye kuya kuba kukubi amaxesha aphindwe kaliwaka. Inokubangela ukuba ii-egos zethu zibe zintlungu kangangokuba bazabalaze ukuhlangabezana nazo.
Into yesibini enegalelo kuloyiko lwethu lokusilela kukuba, ukuba kufuneka sisilele kwinto ethile, kuya kwenzeka ntoni ngamaphupha ethu? Ukuba sinethemba lokufezekisa iminqweno yethu, kuya kuba yintoni kuthi ukuba singaphumeleli kwimizamo yethu?
Oku kukwaqhagamshela kwakhona kwi-ego yethu kunye nentlungu eya kusokola. Phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba ii-egos zethu zibe namaphupha awazo-ezi zivela kwindawo ephezulu-ke ukuba sizama konke okusemandleni ethu kwinto ethile ngaphandle kwempumelelo, ii-egos zethu azinamandla okucinga ukuba yintoni eza emva koko.
I-egos yethu yamkela amaphupha avela kubuntu bethu obuphezulu kwaye bawenza abe yinxalenye yebali labo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukuzakhela amaphupha abo, abakulungelanga ukuyeka izinto abanazo ngoku. Abanakucinga ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba amaphupha abo angahluthwa kubo.
Ke, basixhobisa ngemvakalelo yokoyika ukuba singasilela emaphupheni ethu kwaye sishiywe ngaphandle kotshintsho olufanelekileyo.
Into yokugqibela edlala indima kukoyika ukungaphumeleli kukuba asizokwazi ukubeka ityala komnye umntu. I-egos zethu ziincutshe zokuphambuka ukugxeka kwaye zikhombe ngomnwe komnye umntu ngaphandle kwabo. Oku indlela yokuzikhusela ijolise ekuthinteleni nantoni na eyenzakalisayo ukuba ingangeni ngaphakathi.
I-ego iqhele ukutyhola abanye kangangokuba ayinakukwazi ukwamkela uxanduva nantoni na. Ukuzama nokusilela kwinto ethile kubenza buthathaka ubuchule bayo batyhole abanye (nangona isaza kufuna) kwaye ishiye ijongane nokusilela kwayo.
Ndicinga ukuba ndiyamthanda
Lo ayingomngcipheko wokuba u-ego uzimisele ukuwuthatha. Kwaye ke oko kudala imvakalelo yokoyika ngokuzama okokuqala.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungayeka njani ukuziva usilele okanye usilele
- Ungalunqoba njani uloyiko loTshintsho kwaye ujonge ngokuzithemba kwimiceli mngeni emitsha
- Izinto ezi-7 zabantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ngokwahlukileyo
- Ileta evulekileyo eya kwabo bangenamabhongo, kungekho njongo, kwaye akukho maphupha
Ukoyisa uloyiko lwakho lokusilela
Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba yintoni kanye kanye olu loyiko, ungaqala ukuyilungisa kwaye ekugqibeleni woyise.
Nazi iindlela ezimbini ezifanelekileyo zokufezekisa oku.
1. Ukuqhelanisa nokusilela.
Ngokufana nokufumana umzimba wakho ukuba usetyenziswe kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ngaphambi kokunyuka intaba, unokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngokuzimela ngokubonakalisa kwincinci encinci, phantse ukungaphumeleli okungapheliyo ngexesha.
Ungaqala ngokuzama ukufunda isakhono esitsha njengokuthatha ulwimi lwesibini kunokwenziwa ngasese nakwintuthuzelo yekhaya lakho. Qala ngokuzama ukufunda iseti yamagama a-10 aqhelekileyo kolu lwimi. Wabhale phantsi kwisiqwenga sephepha kunye neempawu zabo zesiNgesi ecaleni kwabo. Songa nje isiqwenga sephepha kwisiqingatha ukuze ukwazi ukubona kuphela amagama esiNgesi kwaye emva koko uzame ukukhupha iinguqulelo zangaphandle nganye nganye.
Ngaphandle kokuba unememori yokufota, uya kusilela kwamanye amagama ukuqala ngawo. Oku kuyakubonisa ukuzazisa, ngaphandle kokungaphumeleli, isibhakabhaka asikawi. Iya kubonisa ukuba, emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, uya kuba nakho ukurhawuzelela onke amagama ali-10 amatsha ngaphandle kokusilela. Uya kuqala ukuyifundisa ukuba impumelelo ihlala iza emva kokusilela kokuqala.
Usenokuqhubeka ucelomngeni olubandakanya omnye umntu umntu omthembileyo kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukujikeleza. Ekugqibeleni ungazama ukwenza izinto esidlangalaleni nje ukuba ukubambelela kwakho kukhululwe kwaye ukulungele ukujongana nethuba lokusilela.
Le ayisoloko iyinkqubo ekhawulezayo inokuthatha imisebenzi emininzi emincinci kunye nokusilela ngaphambi kokuba i-ego yakho yoyiswe, ikushiye ukhululekile ukuleqa amaphupha akho.
2. Ukweyisela ukuzazisa kwakho ngokulunga kokungaphumeleli.
Okwangoku i-ego yakho ibona ukungaphumeleli njengento eza kukwenzakalisa, kodwa ungathini ukuba ungakhohlisa ukuba ukusilela kungonwaba?
Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukutshintsha umbono wokuthotywa ekuthethwe ngawo ngaphambili, ube nekratshi. Kufuneka uqinisekise i-ego yakho ukuba ukusikeka kunye nemivumbo enokuthi ihlupheke kunokwenyani inokunxitywa njengezikrelemnqa zemfazwe ukubonisa abantu ukuba uyilwele kangakanani na into ethile.
Ijaji yejaji ixabisa i-2020
Oku kunika i-ego imeko yokuphumelela kuba ukuba uyaphumelela, inokuqhayisa, kwaye ukuba uyasilela inokufumana uzuko kumzabalazo wakho.
Ungakwenza njani oku? Enye indlela enokukusebenzela kukujonga ifayile Amanqaku akhuthazayo njengabantu abaninzi abazizityebi nabadumileyo njengoko unakho. Kuqhelekile ukuba aba bantu kuye kwanyanzeleka ukuba balwe ngamaxesha anzima, bahlupheke kaninzi, kodwa baphume ngempumelelo.
Funda i-autobiographies, ubukele amaxwebhu, nokuba ufumane iifilimu malunga nawo kwaye unokukwazi ukweyisela i-ego yakho ukuba ukusilela kunye nokuqhubeka luphawu lomlinganiswa, ukuzimisela, kunye nomnqweno oqinileyo abanye abajonga kuwo. Ukunqulwa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yeyona nto ifunwa kakhulu ngu-ego kwaye ukuba wenza eli bhaso lingaphezulu komngcipheko wokungaphumeleli, unokuloyisa uloyiko lwakho kwaye ufeze le nto uyinqwenelayo.
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