Abantu basabela kwiimeko zoxinzelelo nezothusayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kukho umahluko ophawuliweyo phakathi kweendlela zokhuselo eziqeshwe ngamadoda nabafazi. Ezi zizinto eziqhelekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo indlela yokuziphatha inokuba yiyo yonke into kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayigcinwanga kubantu besini, kodwa kukho iindlela ezithile ezisetyenziswa ngokuxhaphakileyo ngabafazi bohlobo.
Ukukhanyela
Impendulo yokukhanyela ibangela uninzi 'hayi, oku akwenzeki'. Ukuba imeko ayonwabanga okanye ibuhlungu ukujongana ubuso ngobuso, umntu lowo angavele enze ngathi hayi, ayenzeki kwaphela. Bazokuziphazamisa ngezinye izinto, bagcine uncumo lutyatyekwe ebusweni babo, banyanzelisa ukuba yonke into ibe LUHLE nje enkosi kakhulu. Hayi akukho, akukho nto unokuyibona apha, qhubeka.
Kumatyala okonzakala ebuntwaneni, ukukhanyela kunokunceda ixhoba likwazi ukumelana nokutshixela izinto kude kwenye indawo enzulu, ngokungathi azizange zenzeke. Kwiimeko apho umntu wasetyhini anokujamelana nesifo esinganyangekiyo, kwelinye icala, ukwala kunokuhlala ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba isigulo siqhubeke kwaye unyanzelekile ukuba ajongane nenyani… kwaye olo hlobo lokwenene emva kokwala okunzima kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu.
Ukuphendula
Olu luphawu oluhlala lukhula kwabo bafumene ukuxhatshazwa ebutsheni babo endaweni yokubonisa izinto ezinjengomsindo okanye ukukhathazeka komnye umntu, baya kuba mnandi kakhulu kwaye bababalo kwilinge lokuphepha ungquzulwano. Kunjengokungathi uya kubonisa isimilo esichasene nokuziphatha kwe-polar yento afuna ukuyenza. Ngenxa yokuba sele ecwangcisiwe ukuba aphelise iimvakalelo zakhe ezibizwa ngokuba 'zibi', uya kugqithisa ngokugqibeleleyo nge-180-degree spin.
Kuqheleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo, apho owesifazana othintela ukungqubana eya kuphuma wenze iqabane lakhe liziva likhathalelwe kwaye lithandwa endaweni yokuveza umsindo wakhe okanye ukukhathazeka. Akafuni kukwenza iqabane lihluthe okanye licaphuke kuba esoyika indlela abasabela ngayo, kwaye, ngenxa yoko, engakwazi ukuveza eyakhe intlungu nokwenzakala, uyifaka kwi-expression 'entle'.
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Uxinzelelo
Ngokusisiseko, oku kubandakanya nje ukuzenza ngathi imeko khange yenzeke, ngokungakhathali ibhengeza iinkumbulo kunye neemvakalelo kwinxalenye esezantsi yengqondo. Yenye yeendlela eziyingozi ngakumbi, kuba, njengesilonda esosulelekileyo esingashiywanga singanyangwa, ukungakhathali kuyakhula kwaye kudubule kude kube kuqhume ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ... kodwa umntu ocinezela iimvakalelo kunqabile ukuba enze njalo ngenjongo yengqondo yenza nje oku ukuzama ukukhusela umntu ogulayo. Oku kuhlala kusenzeka ngenxa yomothuko, njengokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, okanye ukubukela ubundlobongela emzimbeni komnye umntu.
Uxinzelelo olucinezelweyo lunokubonakalisa uxinzelelo okanye uloyiko, uxinzelelo, uloyiko ebusuku, okanye ugqabhuko lweemeko ezingadibaniyo kwaphela. Okona kubi kuko konke, ukuba imiba icinezelwe kwaye ayiphathwa ngokukhawuleza, banokukhula kwaye batshintshe babe yinto ebi kakhulu, ngeenkcukacha zodaka kwaye zitolikwe gwenxa kamva, okanye zakhelwe kwimeko enzima ngakumbi.
Ingqondo
Oku kuhlala kusenzeka xa umntu obhinqileyo kufuneka ajongane nemeko enzima engakulungelanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, kwaye ixhaphakile kwabo banemfundo enomsila okanye abakumendo omeleleyo womsebenzi. Endaweni yokuvuma kunye nokujongana neemvakalelo ezivela kwimeko etshilo, umntu uya kurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo kwaye asondele kwizinto ezivela kumntu ongathandekiyo, ngokwembono yeklinikhi.
Umzekelo, ukuba umntu obhinqileyo ufumanisa ukuba unesifo esibi, kunokuba azivumele ukuba azive kwaye abonakalise unxunguphalo nosizi olunxulunyaniswa nako, usenokungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo kwaye athethe ngayo ngendlela elawuleke kakhulu, enengqiqo. Uya kugxila kwiinyani kwaye azihlukanise nakuphi na ukuphendula. Unokuntywilisela kwimeko yezifundo, akhankanye amaxabiso okusinda, kwaye aqhubeke nokuma kunye nonyango… de kube lelo xesha lokuhla.
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Uqikelelo
Oku kunokwenzeka xa umntu eziva eneemvakalelo ezithile azive eneentloni ukuba nazo, ngoko ke batyhola abanye ngokuba nazo endaweni yazo. Kwasekuqalekeni kobuntwana babo, amantombazana aye afikelwa luluvo lokuba kuhlala kufanelekile, ke iimvakalelo ezinje ngomsindo, unxunguphalo, kunye nezinto ezinjalo zibonwa njengezimbi kwaye zingafanelekanga. Ngenxa yoko, abasetyhini bahlala behambisa iimvakalelo zabo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo izikhokelo ukuze uzikhulule.
Umfazi angangxolisa umhlobo wakhe ngenxa yokuba nzulu kwaye ukugweba , xa enyanisweni inguye obonisa ezo mpawu kodwa akafuni kuzivuma. Ukubiza omnye umntu ngobuhule, kakubi, kubi, okanye kuthetha into eqhelekileyo, kwaye uthetha lukhulu malunga nemiba yokuzithemba kommangaleli.
Sihlala sigweba abanye ngeempawu esingazithandiyo kuthi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kulula kakhulu ukubeka omnye umntu phantsi kwento esiyibona ngathi sinotyekelo olubi kunokuba samkele eyethu imiba.
Uyakwazi ukuxelela ukuba umntu othile ukwiprojekti kuwe ukuba akwazise malunga nokucinga okanye ukuziva kwakho endaweni yokukubuza. Ukugxininisa ekubeni abanye abantu ababathandi kuqheleke kakhulu, ngelixa enyanisweni kuhlala kuyimeko yokuba umkhalazi ingoyena ungamthandiyo omnye.
Ukufuduswa
Umfazi unokoyika ukuveza umsindo wakhe kunye nokukhathazeka kwiqabane lakhe, ngoko ke uya kukhwaza okanye abethe abantwana bakhe, ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakhe liphezulu kwaye limenza azive engenamandla. Uyakukhupha ukukhathazeka kwakhe emntwini ongamoyikisi. Oku kuqheleke kakhulu nasemsebenzini ukuba umntu obhinqileyo ugxekwa ngumphathi, uya kuhlala ejikeleza mhlawumbi anyelise okanye akhalimele umntu ophantsi kwakhe. Yindlela yakhe yokubuyisa amandla emvakalelo yakhe xa eziva ukuba eyakhe ithathiwe.
Ewe kunjalo, oku kuphelela ekubangeleni ukugqabhuka kwangaphandle njengaxa ingqalutye iphoswa echibini. Abo bafazi bangaphantsi banokubonakalisa utyekelo lweemvakalelo zokufuduka, ke emva kokuba baphinde banikwa igama kwakhona ngumphathi wabo, banokuyijika bajongane nabanye, okanye bakhabe izilwanyana zabo, okanye bakhwaze abantu abangahambiyo abathatha ixesha elide evenkileni, Izothuso ezibanzi ezibangela iziphumo ezingapheliyo ezivela kumthombo okude.
Ukurhoxisa
Ikwabizwa ngokuba ngumva wokubuyela umva, urhoxiso ngokubanzi lubonakalisa ukuhlawulwa okuthe gabalala kokulunga. Umfazi usenokumthuka udade wabo ngenxa yokutyeba, aqonde umonakalo awenzileyo, emva koko achithe iiyure ezimbalwa egxalathelana ngobuhle beenwele zikadade wabo, nokuba zinjani iinzipho zakhe, njlnjl. inzame efekethisiweyo 'yokulungisa' umonakalo ngokukhukhula umntu owenzakeleyo ngethemba.
Oku kunqabile ukusebenza, 'njengelizwi elithethiweyo alinakubanjwa ngamahashe akhawulezayo'. Umonakalo wenziwe, kwaye ukuphosa inqwaba yobusi enxebeni ngekhe kuyitywine.
Kukho iindlela ezisempilweni zokujongana neemeko zovakalelo, kodwa ezi ndlela aziweli kolo luhlu. Ngethamsanqa, inyathelo lokuqala lokoyisa ezi ntlobo zokuziphatha kukuziqonda ukuba ziyintoni na. Kunzima Nyaniseka kwaye ujonge isiqu sakho kwaye unyaniseke ngokwenene malunga neendlela ozisebenzisayo, kodwa ngokwenza njalo, amanyathelo anokuthathwa ukulandela iindlela zokuziphatha ezisempilweni kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba unobunzima ekuqhubekeni ukusuka kwiindlela obuxhomekeke kuzo kangangeminyaka, ungaziva ngathi ufuna ukubanika amandla ngazo zodwa. Abacebisi, iingcali zonyango, kunye neengcali zengqondo zikhona ngesizathu sokunceda abantu basebenze kubunzima kwaye babe sempilweni, bomelele. Ukufumana uncedo lobungcali ayilulo uphawu lobuthathaka, kodwa linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuba sempilweni, ukuzithemba ngakumbi, umntu opheleleyo.
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