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Kwiminyaka ye-intanethi, ukuthandana kutshintshe phantse kuyo yonke into eyaziwayo.
Ngeetekhnoloji ezintsha kuza isimilo esitsha, kunye namagama amatsha okuchaza.
Ukuba uphume kwindawo yokubonana, usenokuba namava ‘ ukuqhekeza isonka , ’‘ Ukucotha okucothayo, ’‘ ukubhentshini, ’okanye zonke ezinye izinto.
Kodwa eyona nto imbi kakhulu ngokuqinisekileyo isiporho.
Ukuba awuzange uhlangane nekota, ke nokuba unethamsanqa elaneleyo lokuba ungazange wakha wenzeka kuwe ngaphambili, okanye khange uqonde nje ukuba kukho igama layo.
Yintoni iGhosting?
Ghosting kuxa umntu enyamalala nje.
Usenokude uzibuze nokuba baswelekile na, kuba ngequbuliso abazukubonisa zimpawu zobomi.
Kungoko isiporho.
I-Ghosting inokwenzeka nakweliphi na inqanaba lobudlelwane.
Kuqheleke kakhulu xa abantu behlangana kwi-intanethi okanye kwi-app kwaye batshintshiselana ngemiyalezo, kwaye omnye okanye bobabini bathathe isigqibo sokuyeka ukuthetha komnye ngaphandle kwengcaciso okanye ukuvalelisa.
I-Ghosting ithathwa kwinqanaba elilandelayo xa udibene nalo mntu ubuso ngobuso.
Umntu othile unokukwenza kuwe emva komhla omnye, kodwa inokwenzeka naxa udibene namaxesha amaninzi.
Ndakhe ndathandana nomfana malunga neenyanga ezintathu nokucima, kwaye ngenye imini wayeka nje ukuphendula umnxeba wakhe okanye ukuphendula imiyalezo.
Kuyavunywa, bendihambisa amazwe kwiiveki ezimbalwa, kodwa kunjalo, bekungaphezulu kokungakhathali, kwaye ndashiywa ndibuza ukuba ndenze ntoni ngokungalunganga, kwaye ndizibuza ukuba ingaba ulungile na.
Kwaye uve amanye amabali esiporho aphambeneyo….
Ndakhe ndeva ngabantu ababenobudlelwane obuhlala iinyanga neenyanga, kunye nezibhengezo zothando olungagungqiyo lwenziweyo, kuphela ngomnye umntu ukuba ashiye ngokupheleleyo ubuso bomhlaba.
Kodwa, ngeenjongo zeli nqaku, masiqwalasele kwiinguqulelo ezinqabileyo ezingathethekiyo zesiporho, kunokuba abantu banyamalale baphume kubudlelwane bexesha elide.
Ukuba ubuthumela umyalezo kumntu othile okanye ubukwimihla embalwa kwaye wanyamalala kuwe, kutheni inokuba njalo?
Kwaye, ukuba umthande nyhani umntu osiporhweni, ungaqhubekeka njani, usicwangcise, kwaye ungasivumeli ukuba sikhuphe ukuzithemba kwakho?
Funda ukuze ufumane yonke into oyifunayo malunga nokufumana isiporho.
Kutheni Abantu Benza Isiporho?
1. Abakuthandi.
Oku kunokubonakala njengenqaku elikhohlakeleyo ukuqala ngalo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuyamkela loo nto, ngelixesha kusenokubakho zonke iintlobo zezizathu zokuba umntu athi cwaka kuwe, kusenokwenzeka hayi oko kungena kuwe ekuqaleni.
Oko akubonakalisi kuwe. Akuthethi ukuba awuthandeki okanye awuthandeki. Kuthetha nje ukuba ubungeyona ikomityi yabo yeti, kwaye bebengakulungelanga wena.
Ukwamkela loo nto kuyakukunceda ukuba uqhubeke kwimeko ngokukhawuleza kunokuba uchitha ixesha uhlala ucinga ukuba kutheni bengazange bakubhalele.
h3> 2. Abalunganga ngokudibana.
Uninzi lwethu luya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukukhusela ukungqubana… naye nabani na, malunga nantoni na.
Mna, ngokwam, ndinetyala lokuthintela imeko kwaye ndinethemba ngokuchasene nethemba lokuba izakuhamba nje ngoko ke andizukujongana nayo.
Amanqanaba okuwa eluthandweni lomntu obhinqileyo
Oko akuthethi ukuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha, kodwa inokuthi ihambe ngendlela yokuchaza ukuba kutheni umntu enokukuphefumlela.
Abazami ukuba krwada kuwe njengokuba bengakwazi ukuluma imbumbulu kwaye ngokuqinileyo banamathele entlokweni yabo.
3. Abafuni ukukhathaza iimvakalelo zakho.
Le inokubonakala ingekho ngqiqweni, kodwa thina bantu sakha sazenza nini izidalwa ezinengqiqo?
Umntu unokuziqinisekisa ukuba ukunyamalala kuya kwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kunokuba uthumele umyalezo ukukuxelela ukuba abanomdla wokuqhubeka nezinto.
Kulula ukuba umntu akholelwe ukuba bakuphefumlela eyakho isibonelelo, nangona into echaseneyo iyinyani.
4. Bafuna indlela elula yokuphuma.
Abazimiselanga ukuthatha ixesha lokudibanisa umyalezo okanye ukudibana nawe ubuso ngobuso ukukuxelela ukuba abacingi ukuba izakulunga.
Babona ukuba isiporho yeyona ndlela ilula, kwaye baya kuyithatha ngovuyo.
5. Baxokile kuwe.
Abanye abantu banokukuxokisa ngomyalezo okanye kwisibini sakho sokuqala semihla, malunga nantoni na, ukusuka emsebenzini wabo ukuya kwizinto abazithandayo ukuya kwinqanaba labo lezemali.
Ukuba le yimeko, kwaye bayazi ukuba abanako ukuyigcina, banokugqiba kwelokuba bakuphefumle kunokuba beze becocekile.
into ekufuneka uyenze xa udikwe ekhaya
6. Baxakekile.
Sonke sixakekile.
Ukuba kuninzi okuqhubekayo ebomini babo kwaye bayathandana okanye bathetha nezinto ezimbalwa ezinokubangela umdla ngaxeshanye, usenokuba nje utyibilike kwiintanda.
Ngelixa inyani kukuba mhlawumbi babengenamdla nokuba, ngekhe bakwenze isiporho ngabom.
7. Banako.
Itekhnoloji yale mihla iyamangalisa ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa, ngelishwa, inika nabani na oyifunayo ithuba lokuba anyamalale nje, kunokuba anyaniseke kumntu abebethandana naye.
Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba udibene nomntu kwi-intanethi.
Ngokwesiko, sonke sidibana nabantu ngomsebenzi okanye ngabahlobo, oko kuthetha ukuba besingenakunyamalala nje kuba siza kubona omnye umntu sikunye nabantu banokubuza imibuzo.
Kodwa ukuba unokuqiniseka ukuba awuzukungqubana nomntu odibene naye kwi-Intanethi, kwaye ungabinabo abahlobo ngokufanayo, ungabaphefumla ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngemiphumo, kwaye abanye abantu bayisebenzisa ngokupheleleyo lonto.
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8. Badiniwe ukuthandana.
Ngaba ukhe waba kwindawo yokuthandana yokwenyani, uhamba ngemihla emininzi yokuqala, kwaye ngequbuliso nje awuzange ukwazi ukujongana nokwenza inzame kwakhona?
Isenokuba yingcaciso yokuba kutheni umntu obukhe wathandana naye wanyamalala ngesiquphe ebusweni bomhlaba.
9. Baye babuya ne ex.
Ukuba bebesoloko bekuxelela izinto ezoyikekayo malunga ne-ex yabo kwaye emva koko bagqibe kwelokuba babuyelane nabo, baya kuba neentloni ngayo.
Ke banokugqiba ekubeni bangakuniki nkcazo kwaphela.
10. Badibene nomnye umntu.
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantu abangatshatanga babone umdla wothando oluninzi ngaxeshanye, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba bathathe isigqibo sokwenza njalo yenza izinto ezizodwa nomnye wabo bantu.
Kwilizwe elilungileyo, bangakuxelela ngayo, kodwa ngelishwa, asihlali kwihlabathi elifanelekileyo, kungoko ke oku kusenokuba sisizathu sokuba bathule kuwe ngequbuliso.
11. Banokuqhubeka okuninzi.
Ukuba uhamba ngecala elibi kunye nosapho lwakho, okanye ngempilo yakho yengqondo, into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane obutsha.
Kungenzeka ukuba umntu okhe wambona unezinto ezinkulu ezenzekayo ebomini babo, oko kuthetha ukuba abanasithuba sengqondo sokuzinikezela kuwe ngoku.
Ababini anikabikho kwinqanaba apho baziva ukuba banokuxoxa ngezi zinto kunye nani, ke banibekele nje endaweni yoko.
12. Baye boyikiswa nguwe.
Ke, benincokola, okanye benisemini okanye emibini, kwaye baye baqonda ukuba bobabini abekho kwiphepha elinye.
Wenza kakuhle ngobomi bakho kunye nomsebenzi kwaye unamadada ngokulandelelana, okanye uphumelele kakhulu, kwaye oku kubenza bacinge ukuba uphumile kwiligi yabo.
Kodwa abayazi indlela yokuchaza oko kuwe kumyalezo okanye ebusweni bakho, ngoko ke bakhetha unyango oluthulileyo endaweni yoko.
13. Abayithandanga into oyenzileyo.
Inyaniso yokuba bayisiporho unokuba sisiphumo sento oyithethileyo okanye oyenzileyo engakhange ihlale kakuhle kubo.
Unokuba nombono olungileyo wento eyayiyiyo, kodwa usenokungabi nayo nofifi.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ungakhathazeki. Kunzima ukwamkela, ngekhe ube yindebe yomntu wonke yeti.
14. Abacingeli.
Nokuba ziphi na izizathu zokukufaka umoya, ayisiyonto intle ukuyenza.
Abazicingeli ngakumbi iimvakalelo zakho kwaye abafuni ukuzibeka ngaphandle ukuze bafumane inzuzo ngokuphelisa izinto, ke unokuqiniseka ukuba uyiphepha imbumbulu.
Ufumana njani ukuba noMoya
1. Qiniseka ukuba ukhe wanesiporho.
Sele ziintsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa ungeva kubo.
Phambi kokuba uyeke ngokupheleleyo izinto, kwaye ukuba awukabinayo, yenza iinzame zokugqibela zokunxibelelana nomntu obukhe wambona.
Jonga ngokungakhathali kwaye ubuze ukuba banjani kwaye ukuba babonile ukuba ububize okanye wathumela umyalezo.
Ukuba abakabuyeli kuwe ngaphakathi kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, lixesha lokuba wamkele ukuba ukhe wangumoya.
(Ngokuzithandela) Zive ukhululekile ukubathumelela umyalezo ubazise ukuba uyamkele iphelile, kodwa unqwenela ukuba bangathembeki kuwe kunokuba baziphathe kakubi.
2. Musa ukulingwa ukuba uzame ukubeka intlanganiso.
Kufuneka uyamkele imeko kwaye uyibeke emva kwakho.
Ukuya kwiindawo owaziyo baxhoma kunye nokwenza iintlanganiso 'ezingalindelwanga' ukubakhumbuza ngobukho bakho akuyi kutshintsha nto.
Yenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo sokujolisa amandla akho kuwe, kunokuba ubeke nayiphi na imizamo kulwalamano olufileyo nomntu ongakuxabisi ngokucacileyo.
3. Thatha ixesha lokuba nosizi.
Kulungile ukuba ucaphuke.
Kulungile ukulila.
Kulungile ukufuna ukuwolwa.
Nokuba yayizintsuku zokuqala, usenokuba ubonwabile nyhani ngalo mntu, ke musa ukuba ngqwabalala kuwe ngokukhathazeka malunga nayo.
4. Yamkele ukuba yingxaki yabo, hayi eyakho.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokufumana isiporho kukungazibeki tyala nangayiphi na indlela, imilo, okanye ifom.
Ngaphandle kokuba uziphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga, awenzanga kwanto ukuba ufaneleke ukuba ube nomoya.
Yingxaki yabo ngokupheleleyo.
Zama ukuzikhupha kwisilingo sokuzibek 'ityala, kwaye ungachithi ixesha uzibuze ukuba ngewenze ntoni ngokwahlukileyo.
5. Qhubeka, kodwa musa ibuya .
Ukuqhubeka kunye nokuthandana nabanye abantu kunokuba kuhle xa ulungele…
… Ngokude ungangxami kwaye uzama ukufumana umntu oza kuthandana naye ngazo zonke iindleko, nokuba zingafanelekanga kangakanani.
Qiniseka ukuba uyigcina le migangatho iphezulu, kwaye ayisiyiyo nje ukuthandana ukuze ugcwalise umngxunya omile njengomoya.
ubungozi bokukholisa abantu
6. Gxila kuwe.
Nokuba ukhetha thatha ikhefu ukuthandana okanye ubuyele kuyo, ugxininiso kufuneka lube kuwe.
Qiniseka ukuba awunikezeli ngexesha olichitha usenza zonke izinto ozithandayo kwaye uchitha ixesha elininzi nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho.
Thatha ixesha lokuthetha le meko nabantu obathembayo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba ayisiyiyo eyona nto ujolise kuyo.
Gxila kwingqwalaselo yakho kwizinto ezintle ebomini nanini na unakho.
Kwaye, ungalibali ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulele kwaye utya kakuhle kwaye ufumana imithambo.
7. Yenza kwabanye.
Abantu abaninzi bakhalaza malunga nokuba batyholwa kwaye baya kwenza into efanayo kumntu olandelayo abathandana naye.
Ukuba ufuna ukwaphula umjikelo okhohlakeleyo kwaye uzive ungcono ngobomi bakho bokuthandana, kufuneka ubaphathe abantu odibana nabo ngenkathalo efanayo ongathanda ukuphathwa nayo.
Musa ukunikezela kwisilingo sokukhupha nayiphi na imihla ezayo, nokuba ungaziva ungonwabanga kangakanani.
Soloko uphambili kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uziva njani xa kusenzeka kuwe.
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