Ke, une-crush. Ubambe uziva. Uncinci, okanye uninzi, uthabatheka.
Kodwa, yeha, ayizukwenzeka.
Kunokubakho zonke iintlobo zezizathu zokuba wazi ukuba izinto azizukuphuhlisana phakathi kwenu nobabini, okanye kutheni usazi ukuba ngekhe okanye kungenakulunga.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho isazi kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo ukuba uyeke ukutyumza, oko akuthethi ukuba intliziyo yakho izakumamela.
izinto zokwenza xa udikiwe ngaphakathi
Okanye ubuncinci hayi kwangoko.
Ukufumana ngaphezulu kokutyunyuzwa kunokuba lula ngokwaneleyo xa ubabona kube kanye kwinyanga eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Ngaphandle kwamehlo, ngaphandle kwengqondo kuhlala kuyinyani kwezi meko.
Kodwa xa ingumntu osebenza naye okanye ofunda naye kwaye ubabona rhoqo, mhlawumbi nangamaxesha amaninzi ngemini, uhlala ukhunjuzwa ngobukho babo kwaye kunzima ukugcina ingqondo yakho kubo.
Ukuba uphuhlisile ukuthandana nomhlobo wakho kwaye uyakucaphukela ukuphulukana nobo buhlobo, okanye nokuba sele ungomnye umntu umntu onobudlelwane bexesha elide, kunokuba nzima kakhulu.
Ukuba ukwazile ukuwela iqabane lomntakwenu, okanye into efanayo ne-rom-com, uphumelele ibhaso lelona qhinga lingafanelekanga, kwaye elinokuba lelona linzima ukudlula. Kuba le ayisiyiHollywood, kwaye ukuyigqitha kuko konke onokukwenza.
Kodwa, akunakwenzeka njengoko imeko inokubonakala ngathi xa ukwimixokelelwane yokutyumka, kukho ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela.
Unokufumana ukutyumka kwakho, Kwaye uya.
Konke okudingayo zindlela ezimbalwa ezivavanyiweyo nezokuvavanywa zokukunceda ufumane iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uqhubeke.
1. Yamkele imeko
Uyazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba akukho nto inokuze yenzeke phakathi kwakho, kodwa mhlawumbi usabambelele kumtya wethemba.
Ungaphupha malunga nabo ngesiquphe babuyele ezingqondweni, okanye malunga neemeko eziguqukayo ngokungummangaliso kuthetha ukuba nobabini ninokunika ithuba.
Mhlawumbi awuzange uyivume nakubani na, ubuncinci kuzo zonke, kodwa usabambe ithemba lokuba kungenzeka ... ngenye imini.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokufumana ukutyumka kukwamkelwa.
Kuya kufuneka uvume ngokwakho ukuba ubunethemba, kwaye ubeke laa themba ngasemva kwakho.
Kuphela kuxa usamkele isihogo ngaphandle kwale meko apho uya kuba nakho ukusebenza ngayo.
2. Thetha ngayo
Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungazibhotile iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ulindele ukuba zinyamalale ngomlingo.
Kubalulekile ukufikelela kubahlobo bakho okanye kusapho kwaye uthethe malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kungabonakala kungabalulekanga, ngakumbi ukuba abahlobo bakho bahamba ngokuqhekeka kobudlelwane bexesha elide, kodwa loo nto ayenzi iimvakalelo zakho zingabinantsingiselo.
Basabaluleke kakhulu.
Ukubeka okwenzekayo ngaphakathi entlokweni yakho kumagama kunokukunceda ukuba ukuqhubekise, ufumane umbono othile kuyo, kwaye usebenze ngako.
Ukuba, nangasiphi na isizathu, ayisiyiyo into onokuyithetha nabahlobo bakho okanye usapho malunga nayo, ke i-Therapist okanye umcebisi angayimpendulo.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba akudingeki ukuba uchithe lonke ixesha lakho kunye nabahlobo bakho bekhetha ukuhlukana kwakho.
Yisuse esifubeni sakho, kodwa emva koko uyihambise incoko.
Thetha ngezinye izinto. Thetha ngazo. Xoxa ngothotho lwakho oluthandayo, ngezicwangciso zakho…
Misela umhlaba kumalungelo, kwaye uya kuziva ungcono kakhulu emva koko.
3. Khawuthelekelele ukuba bekunokuba njani
Ukutyunyuzwa ubukhulu becala kusekelwe kwintelekelelo, ukuthelekelela into enokwenzeka phakathi kwenu nobabini kwindalo efanayo…
… Enye apho bengenguye umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, okanye umphathi wakho, okanye ongenayo imiba ephambili yokuzibophelela , okanye nokuba ngowuphi na umcimbi.
Uhlala ngaphandle kwefantasy entlokweni yakho, kodwa uhlala unamathela kwiindawo ezilungileyo.
Ke, ngoku lixesha lokuba ucinge ngazo zonke iziphene zabo. Cinga ngomphefumlo wabo ombi ekuseni, okanye indlela abonakele ngayo, okanye indlela onganyamezeleki ngayo ubawozala wakho.
Oko kuya kunceda ukukubuyisela emhlabeni kwaye kukunike umbono obandayo, onzima.
4. Zijwili
Nje ukuba wamkele izinto, kufuneka uzinike ithuba lokulila ubudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungenzeka ukuba kwenzeke kuphela entlokweni yakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba iimvakalelo zazingeyonyani kwaye ayizukuba nzima ukuyidlula.
Ke, kunokuba uqhubeke nje kwaye uzame ukulibala ngayo yonke into, zinike ithuba lokulila kunye nosizi.
Ubusuku kwi. Bukela iifilimu ezilusizi. Khala ukuba uyafuna. Emva koko ncamathisela iingoma zakho ozithandayo, udanise ujikeleze, kwaye ukrwele umgca ngaphantsi kwaso.
5. Umhla
Usenokuba uphulukene nomdla wokudibana nabanye abantu ukusukela oko utyumkileyo, kodwa ngokungathandani kwaye uzivalele kwamanye amathuba, uyenza mandundu imeko.
Amathuba kukuba ngelixesha ubusoloko uxakekile ucinga ngephupha lakho lasemva komtshato kunye nomntu ongalunganga, uvumele amathuba aliqela okulandela isilayidi somntu olungileyo kwaye ungakhange uqonde.
Njengokuba usenokungaziva ngathi uzibeka phaya, vula uluvo lokuthandana kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unika abantu odibana nabo ithuba lokwenyani.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, qiniseka ukuba ungazibambi ngokwengqondo ngokuthelekisa nabo kwi-crush yakho.
Asinguye wonke umntu okhululekile ngengcinga yokuthandana kwi-intanethi, kodwa yindlela emnandi yokuhlangana nabantu abathanda ukungaze uwele iindlela zobomi bokwenyani.
Kwaye, yindlela eqaqambileyo yokugcina ingqondo yakho ixakekile, okuthetha ukuba ixesha elincinci lokuhlala kwisitrayi sakho.
Ewe, akukho namnye iimfuno umdla wothando ebomini babo, kwaye ungaphezulu kokukwazi ukufumana into ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya nomnye umntu, kodwa ukuthandana ngokungaqhelekanga kunokuba sisiphazamiso esimangalisayo, kwaye kukunike ukuzithemba okukufunayo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuzithemba kwakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuthathe inkqonkqoze ngenxa yoko iimvakalelo zakho ezingafunekiyo , ke uzikhumbuze ukuba uyathandeka kwabanye unokuba yile nto uyifunayo ukuze ufumane amanqanaba okuzithemba, kwaye khumbula ukuba ufanelwe kokona kulungileyo.
Ngubani owaziyo, usenokudibana nomntu okhethekileyo.
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6. Lingasoloko ixesha olichitha ekunye nabo
Kwilizwe elifanelekileyo, unqumle lonke unxibelelwano ngomntu ...
Kodwa ukuba ubukho babo ebomini bakho abunakuphepheka okanye ungathanda ukugcina ubuhlobo kunye nabo, kuya kufuneka uzame ukunciphisa ixesha olichitha ubangqongile de ubuyele kwi-even keel ngokweemvakalelo.
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho unyanzelekile ukuba ube nabo, kodwa zenzele ubabalo kwaye ugcine oko.
Thatha ulawulo xa unakho.
Yithi hayi kweso simemo. Ziphephe iindawo apho uyazi ukuba zichitha ixesha khona. Musa ukuphuma kwindlela yakho yokubabona okanye uchithe ixesha kunye nabo.
7. Yomelela
Utyando lunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo entlokweni yakho, kodwa ukuba izinto sele zenzekile phakathi kwakho kwaye uyazi ukuba azinakuqhubeka, oko kuyimpazamo nayo.
Ukuba ubusondelelene nabo, uya kulingeka kakhulu ukuba wenze njalo kwakhona.
Musa!
Ngelixa unokuzama ukuzenza ngokwakho ukuba ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kwanele wena, loo mnqweno uvela kumnqweno wakho wento eyenye.
Okukhona usondelelene ngokwasemzimbeni, kokukhona usonyusa isaqhwithi samahomoni asibonisa isigwebo sakho kwaye akushiye ekuqhubekeni.
8. Thatha ikhefu
Ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba uchithe ixesha elininzi ujikeleze ukutyumza kwakho, ngekhe ubenakho ukubaleka ngokusisigxina…
… Kodwa ungafumana isithuba esincinci okwethutyana.
Phuma esixekweni. Thatha uhambo losuku. Thatha uhambo lwempelaveki. Thatha iholide yeeveki ezimbini.
Thatha uye kwenye indawo, hayi ngokungafaniyo nabahlobo bakho abaphambili kwi-tow, kwaye ube nexesha eliqaqambileyo.
Umgama ngokwasemzimbeni unokuhlaziya ngokwasengqondweni kwaye uncede ufumane imbono ethile kwimeko leyo.
9. Hlala uxakekile
Into ongayifuniyo ngoku lixesha elininzi lokuhlala kunye nokuphupha.
Kufuneka uhlale uxakekile kwaye ugcine ingqondo yakho ixakekile.
Yenza izicwangciso nabahlobo bakho ngokuhlwa. Gcwalisa ezo mpelaveki. Joyina iklasi entsha yomthambo.
Yenza ngaphezulu kwezinto osele uzithanda okanye uzame into entsha kraca.
10. Qhubeka phambili nobomi bakho
Ngaba kukhona naziphi na izicwangciso okhe wanazo kwisitya esingasemva?
Ngaba unephupha elikhulu ukhe woyike kakhulu ukuleqa?
Ngaba ubusazi, ngokungazi okanye ngokungazi, uzibambile kwaye uphepha utshintsho, ukuze ugcine ukuchitha ixesha kunye nezinto ozithandayo?
Ewe, lo ngumzuzu wokubuyisela ukugxila kwakho kuwe.
Ufuna ntoni kanye kanye ebomini?
Ngaba ubuphupha ngotshintsho lomsebenzi?
Ngaba kukho ukungxama kwicala obukade ucinga ngalo?
Ngoku lixesha lokuba uthathe inkunzi ngeempondo. Lixesha lokuba uthathe la manyathelo ubukade uwabeka kude kube ngoku.
Qinisekisa ukuba nguwe odlala indima ekhokelayo kwifilimu yobomi bakho, kwaye wenze izinto zenzeke.
Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ziyakutshintsha njengokuba usenza ubomi bakho, kwaye kungekudala uza kufumanisa ukuba awusaziva unjalo ngendlela otyumke ngayo.
11. Yeka ukulandela kwaye ungabinabahlobo
Le inokubonakala ngathi incinci, kodwa ukubona imifanekiso yabo ivela kwisondlo sakho kungalonakalisa usuku lwakho.
Ingakushiya uhlala kubani okanye benza ntoni. Unokuphela uye ezantsi emngxunyeni womvundla kwaye uchithe iiyure ubalandela kwi-Instagram.
Kunzima ukucofa eli qhosha 'ungalandeli', kodwa ungayenza.
Uyazikhupha kwindlela yesilingo, kwaye uzisindise kwizimanga ezingabonakaliyo.
Ixesha elizayo uza kubulela. Mhlawumbi ngekhe baqaphele nokuba ubalandelile.
Ngaba wenza amabali amaninzi e-Instagram kwaye ufumanisa ukuba uhlala ujonga ukuba ujonge kubo?
Ngaba uthumela ngethemba lokuba baya kuyibona kwaye baqonde ukuba lixesha elimnandi kangakanani ngaphandle kwabo?
Ukuba kunjalo, ungabanqanda bangaboni amabali akho kunye nezithuba, nabo. Ngale ndlela uya kuposela wena, kunokuba ube nenjongo engaphandle.
12. Cinga ngonobangela oyintloko
Ngaba eli lixesha lokuqala ozifumanisa unamathela emntwini ongafikelelekiyo?
Ukuba akunjalo, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba ube nexesha elide, elinzima ucinge malunga nezizathu zokuba kutheni uhlakulela ezi mvakalelo.
Ngaba uhlala ufuna into ongenakuba nayo? Ngaba kukuvuyela ukusukela? Ngaba woyika ukuzibophelela?
Zinokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo ngasemva kwayo, kodwa ukuba le yipatheni ephindaphindayo, yiphathe njengethuba lokumba nzulu kwaye uqonde ngcono ukuba kutheni usenza izinto ozenzayo.
Kwaye kwixesha elizayo xa uziva utyumle uzayo, sukuyivumela ukuba ikhule kakhulu. Ukuba ayinakuze ibekho, ke thabatha la manyathelo kwangethuba, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe.
Ukuba kukho ithuba into enokwenzeka, ke thatha umoya kwaye baxelele indlela oziva ngayo .
Ukuba bathi ewe, izinto ezintle zinokuvela. Ukuba bathi hayi, ke uzigcinele into ebuhlungu yentliziyo ebuhlungu.
