Ilizwi elincinci entlokweni yakho liyazibuza, 'Kutheni abantu bengandithandi?'
Inyani: ayinguye wonke umntu oya kukuthanda ngalo lonke ixesha!
Yindalo nje yabantu leyo.
Sonke sahlukile ngeendlela ezininzi: ukusuka kwindlela esikhuliswe ngayo ukuya kwindlela esikhetha ukunxiba ngayo nakwizinto esizithandayo nakwintsimi yomsebenzi esiwukhethileyo.
Akumangalisi, ke, ukuba abanye abantu abayifuni nje.
Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha ushiyeka uziva ukuba ungenza okanye uthethe into eyahlukileyo, kodwa, ndithembe, akusoloko kunguwe!
Leyo ngongoma ebalulekileyo ukuba uyikhumbule, kuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiphi na imizamo oyenzayo ukulungelelanisa ukuziphatha kwakho, kuya kuhlala kukho abantu abakukhethayo kuwe.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuba uziva ngokwenyani ukuba bambalwa abantu abanjengawe kunokuba bangakuthandi (kwaye oko kuyakukhathaza), mhlawumbi ixesha elichithwe ekuchazeni izizathu ezinokubangela ukuba uchithe ixesha kakuhle.
Ngaba uxakeke kakhulu ukuba ungathatha iStock?
Nje ukuba sifikelele ebuntombini kwaye sishiye ezona ngxaki ziphazamisayo zolutsha lwethu kude ngasemva, uninzi lwethu lunotyekelo lokubaleka ngokuxakeka kobomi ngaphandle kokuthatha inyathelo lokubuyela umva ukujonga indlela esidibana ngayo nabanye.
Singobani thina.
Ke, xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane bobuqu okanye obeshishini kwaye sizifumana singenabahlobo okanye amahlakani, kungokwemvelo ukukholelwa ukuba ngabo 'abanengxaki.
Kodwa kuya kuthini ukuba kukho izinto ezithile malunga nendlela esiziphethe ngayo okanye indlela esiziphethe ngayo okanye esenza ngathi ayicaphukisi?
Mhlawumbi kukho ezinye izithintelo ezithintela abantu ekukuthandeni.
Izizathu ezili-9 zokuba abanye abantu banokungakuthandi
Yintoni enokubangela ukuba ungathandwa kakhulu kunabaninzi?
Kutheni uphoswa zizimemo kwaye uhlala uziva ngathi nguBilly-No-Mates?
Okanye ngaba uziva ngathi ikhondo lakho lomsebenzi liyabandezeleka ngenxa yokuba uhlukanisa abaphathi bakho kunye nabo usebenza nabo ngokufanayo?
Makhe siqwalasele ezinye zezinto ezinokubakho.
Ngokuzibonakalisa okunempilo, enye okanye ezimbini zezi zinto zinokuhlangana nawe kwaye zikunike imikhondo malunga nokuba ungayiguqula njani indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye ufumane abahlobo abaninzi.
1. Uthetha kakhulu
Ukuba nencoko ebanzi yenye yezona zinto zimnandi ebomini, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yindlela yesitalato.
Ukuba ngumntu omnye ophetheyo kwincoko aze asilele ukunika abanye ithuba lokuthetha ezabo izimvo, oko kuya kubangela ukudana kunye nengqumbo kulowo umphulaphuleyo.
Ukunyanzelwa ukuba umamele umntu omnye evakalisa ngathi, iimvakalelo zabo, ubudlelwane babo, kunye neengxaki zabo asiyoncoko…
… Yiseshoni yonyango, kwaye abantu bahlawula imali entle ngenxa yoko!
Kukho iseti entsonkothileyo yemithetho engabhalwanga malunga nendlela incoko esebenza ngayo ezifundwa ikakhulu kukulingwa nangempazamo njengoko sikhula.
Oyena mntu uphuma encokweni ngumphulaphuli olungileyo!
Khumbula ukuba kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ubuza imibuzo enyanisekileyo malunga nokuba kuqhubeka ntoni ebomini babantu othetha nabo.
Phulaphula ngenyameko kwimpendulo yabo!
Yenza oku kwaye awuyi kuhamba kakubi.
2. Uyakuthanda ukubonisa
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuqhayisa!
Ukuba ubomi bakho bufezekile kwaye uhlakaniphile okanye utyebile okanye uphumelele, akusayi kubakho sizathu sokurhwaphiliza ubungangamsha bakho obucingelwayo phantsi komqala wabanye abantu.
Inyani yile yokuba uninzi lwabantu lubufumana ubomi slog entle kakhulu…
… Ke ayothusi into yokuba bangaphantsi kokuchukunyiswa, okanye bade babe nobutshaba ekuhleni, kuye nawuphina umntu owenza umkhwa wokucinezela izinto ezininzi azenzileyo okanye oqhayisa ngemoto yakhe entsha okanye iifoto zeholide zabo ezingaqhelekanga.
Ayikuko ukuba banomona, kodwa ubomi babo buyehla ngandlela ithile xa kuthelekiswa nobukho bakho obunomtsalane.
Imidiya yokuncokola yenze kwalula kunangaphambili ukubonisa. Ungabelana ngempumelelo yakho kunye 'nabahlobo' bakho ngonqakrazo lweqhosha kwaye ubazise bonke indlela obumnandi ngayo ubomi bakho.
Mhlawumbi awukuboni oku njengokuqhayisa.
Ndithembe: yiyo.
Uya kufumana intlonipho yabantu ukuba uyachasa umnqweno wokuqaqambisa impumelelo yakho kwaye ujolise ngakumbi kwimpumelelo yabanye.
3. Wena Dodge Ityala
Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo. Ewe kunjalo.
I-aphorism endala 'ukuphosisa ngumntu' iyishwankathela ngokufanelekileyo.
Kwaye xa senze impazamo, eyona ndlela yokuhamba kuyo kukujongana nayo, ndicela uxolo , kwaye ngethemba lokuba sifunde kumava amabi.
Kodwa umntu osoloko esilela ukuvuma xa besenza iimpazamo kwaye, okubi ngakumbi, baya kuphikisana bade babe luhlaza ebusweni ukuba ngomnye umntu owenza impazamo, uza kuphulukana nabahlobo ngokukhawuleza.
Ungandivi gwenxa, akukho lula ukuthengela nokucela uxolo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubakho iziphumo ezingathandekiyo.
Oko kwathiwa, kuhlala kuyinto efanelekileyo yokwenza.
Nangona ukutshintsha ityala kwiqela elithile elimsulwa kwaye ukuzibona zithatha i-flak akumkelekanga.
4. Uyangcungcuthekisa okanye Uboyikisa Abanye
Nokuba usekhaya okanye emsebenzini, enye yeendlela ezikhawulezayo zokuphulukana nabahlobo kwaye uphulukane nayo yonke imbeko kukuwela kumgibe wokuguqula izihlunu zakho zokufanisa nokukhetha abanye abaziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo okanye abanezimvo ezichasene nezakho.
Ukuba ngumxhaphazi konke malunga nokondla ukungazithembi komntu kwaye eneneni kungumboniso wobuthathaka kunokomelela.
Yiyo loo nto abaxhaphazi phantse bahlala besenza amaqela asebenza ngokudibeneyo ekoyikiseni okanye ehlekisa ngabo bangangeniyo.
Ukuba yinxalenye yelo qela labantu abacinga ngokufanayo kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo.
Abaxhaphazi banokucinga ukuba banazo izihlobo, kodwa eli qela ligcinwe ngokudibeneyo loloyiko lokukhethelwa bucala kunalo naliphi na uthando kunye nokuhloniphana.
Ukuthatha inyathelo umva kwaye uvavanye ubuhlobo bakho kunye nendlela esebenza ngayo kunokukunika imikhondo embalwa.
Ngaba liqela?
Ngaba iyachuma xa usoyikwa kwaye ukhutshelwa ngaphandle kwabanye?
Ukuba kunjalo, ndicinga ukuba uza kuzisebenzela ngokwakho into ekufuneka uyenzile.
5. Unempilo Engacocekanga
Uxolo ngokuhlisa le nto kumxholo wevumba lomzimba, kodwa amakhwapha, umoya onukayo, okanye ukungacoceki ngokubanzi kwi-21 yethustInkulungwane yenkulungwane yoluntu ayizukuphumelela.
Kwiintsuku ezidlulileyo, xa wonke umntu enuka kakubi, lo ngewungazange ube ngumba onjalo, kodwa akukho kuncinci okanye akukho sizathu ngoku sokuba nabani na ashiye ikhaya enxibe iimpahla ezi-grubby ngaphandle kokuhlamba, ukuxukuxa amazinyo, kunye nokukama iinwele zabo.
Ungenzi njalo bubuvila obucacileyo.
Kutheni ndibambelele kubudlelwane
Ekugqibeleni iyabila inceba kwabanye kuba, nokuba awunako ukuziphunga, ucoceko lomntu olungelolwakho luvelisa amavumba amnandi.
Kwiindawo ezixineneyo zedolophu, kwizithuthi zikawonke-wonke, okanye eofisini, akukho mntu uya kufuna ukuhlala kufutshane nawe, kodwa kwiindawo ezixineneyo baya kunyanzeliswa kwaye abayi kukubulela ngaloo nto.
Iya kuchaphazela ubomi bakho bobungcali, nayo. Awunakho ukuqeshwa kwasekuqaleni, kodwa nokuba uyawutsibela umqobo, abantu osebenza nabo banokukulahla ngaphambi kokuba basondele ngokwaneleyo ukuba bafunde igama lakho!
Ukuba uziva usenokuba uyekelele kancinci kwimo yezempilo, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba yinto elula kwaye iya kuguqula izinto ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ungatshintsha ihempe yakho!
6. Uyakhalaza uLote
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba ubomi bunokuba yinto encinci ngamanye amaxesha (okanye nokuba lixesha elininzi).
Kukho izinto ezithile ezibalaseleyo ekufuneka zibhiyozelwe apha endleleni, kodwa inyani kuninzi lwethu kukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho imizabalazo engaphezulu kwempumelelo.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kulungile ukugoba indlebe yakhe nabani na oza kuphulaphula ngayo yonke into oyenzayo ebomini bakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo babambekile ekucingeni ngeendlela ze-labyrinth yoxinzelelo kubomi babo nakanjani na.
Abayi kukubulela ngokongeza kumthwalo wabo ngokwabelana ngooyeha bakho.
Ngokubanzi, abantu bakhetha kakhulu abo bahlala benethemba xa bejamelene nobunzima.
Abathengisi abagcwele iglasi-abasisi banokuba yinto ethandwa ngakumbi kuneglasi-engenanto!
Kutheni ungazami ukuxhathisa umnqweno wokuhlala ukhalaza?
Abantu abafuni ukuva ukugcuma kwakho kwaye abafuni ukuba ngabahlobo nomntu okrakra.
Flip izinto ujikeleze kwaye uthathe isitokhwe sezinto ezilungileyo kunokuba ujonge izinto ezimbi.
Kananjalo nokukwenza ube yinkampani engcono, ukuba nesimo sengqondo esihle kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono nawe!
Ukuba ufuna ukurhabaxa (kwaye sonke senza ngamanye amaxesha), yenza njalo nomhlobo wakho kwaye ucele imvume ngaphambi kokuba wenze njalo.
Kwaye ukhalaze kumntu omnye okanye ababini kuphela. Nje ukuba ufumane into esesifubeni sakho, kutheni ubambekile kukuphinda uxelele wonke umntu? Isebenza kuphela ukugcina unxibile kwizinto ezingathandekiyo.
7. Wena Uhleba
Ngobuso bayo, ukwabelana ngokuhleba kuya kubonakala kuyindlela elungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba ukunye 'nesi'.
Ukuba uyazi i-nugget enamanzi malunga nomnye umntu, ukuba ungoyena mntu ukhupha olo lwazi kwabanye kuya kuphakamisa ukuthandwa kwakho kwixesha elifutshane.
Kungenxa yokuba, nokuba sizama ukungamameli, uninzi lwethu alunakunceda kodwa sifuna ukuva ngomdlalo weqonga odlalwa ebomini babantu esibaziyo.
Qaphela, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ndithe kwixesha elifutshane.
Kutheni kunjalo?
Kuba ukusasaza intlebendwane kuya kukhubekisa abantu kwaye, kungekudala okanye kamva, uya kujongana nomkhwa wakho ombi.
Oku kuya kuba nzima kwaye kuhlazise kuwe, kodwa, okubi ngakumbi, uya kuphelela ekubeni ungabandakanywa ngenxa yokuhleba okanye ukuhleba.
Nje ukuba udume njengehlebo, bambalwa abantu abaya kufuna ukudibana nawe kuba abayi kukuthemba ukuba ugcine nantoni na abayithethayo iyimfihlo.
Ngexesha elizayo xa une 'scoop' malunga nomntu omaziyo, yenza inqanaba lakho kangangoko ukumelana nomnqweno wokuwabelana ngawo.
8. Uyagxeka
Xa eyakho imigangatho yempumelelo iphakame kakhulu kwaye awamkeli nto kodwa eyona ilungileyo xa isiza kwintsebenzo yakho, kulula kakhulu ukubeka abanye kwinqanaba labo lokufikelela liwela ngaphantsi kokulindeleyo okuphezulu.
Iyaqondakala loo nto. Kodwa ukuhlala kwisiphelo sokugxekwa okungakhiyo ayisiyena mshukumisi ubalaseleyo.
Nokuba usegumbini lokuhlala, kwigumbi lokutshixa, okanye ebharini, ukuba ubonwa njengomntu ongazange anike indumiso okanye inkuthazo kwaye ukulungele kakhulu ukuphawula ngqwabalala, uya kuthi kungekudala ufumane iqela labalingane bakho likushiye.
Ungabona ukugxekwa kulungile kunye nendlela yokunceda abanye bafezekise okungaphezulu, kodwa, ndithembe, ayisiyiyo indlela oziva ngayo xa ukwisiphelo sokufumana ii-apreyizali ezingaguqukiyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngazo zonke iindlela unike iingcebiso ezakhayo, eziyilwe ngononophelo ngeempawu ezintle, kodwa ukubeka phantsi izinto ezingathandekiyo akuyi kukufumanela abahlobo konke konke.
9. Usoloko uLate
Abanye abantu bahlala befika emva kwexesha lokubonana kwaye abaniki ngcamango yesibini nakuphi na ukuphazamiseka oku kunokubangela abanye okanye indlela ekrwada ngayo ukubagcina belindile.
Ngandlela-thile aba bantu abayifumani nje into yokuba oku kuza ngokungacingeli, okona kulungileyo, nokuzikhukhumalisa, kakhulu.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba kulula ukucinga ukuba imigaqo ayisebenzi kuwe kwaye kulungile ukuhamba kwimizuzu eli-10 emva kwexesha.
Ayiyo!
Bonisa imbeko kwabanye ngokufika ngexesha kwaye baya kukuhlonipha ngayo.
Ewe kunjalo, ahlala ekhona amaxesha apho imiba yezothutho okanye ezinye iingxaki ezingenakuphepheka zisenza sifike emva kwexesha.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba ixesha labanye abantu lixabisekile, kwaye musa ukwenza umkhwa walo!
I-bookmart star beanie feldstein, odlala i-molly, ngumntakwabo ngabaphi abadumileyo?
10. Uthanda ukuba kuLawulo
Ubuhlobo bokwenyani kufuneka bubandakanye into yokulalanisa. Bafumana indlela yabo ngamanye amaxesha ufumana indlela yakho ngamanye amaxesha.
Kuphela, akunjalo kuwe.
Uyathanda ukulawula imeko kuluncedo lwakho okanye ukhetho.
Ukutya isidlo sangokuhlwa nabahlobo bakho? Uyayazi indawo yokutyela egqibeleleyo kwaye ngekhe uve elinye igama ngayo.
Iziselo eziqhelekileyo nasemva komsebenzi? Utsala oogxa bakho uye kweyona bar intsha inedolophu, xa benethemba lokuphola.
Ubusuku bebhanyabhanya okanye ubusuku bomdlalo? Unoluvo olomeleleyo kangangokuba akekho omnye umntu oziva ekwazi ukwenza isindululo, ke ufumana eyakho indlela.
Kuyakhathaza ukunxulumana nawe kuba yonke into kufuneka ibe ngokwemiqathango yakho, yiyo loo nto abantu bengakuthandi kakhulu.
11. Xelela abanye abantu mabenze ntoni
Unoluvo ngobomi bomnye umntu, kwaye abanakukhetha nokuba bafuna ukukuva.
Endaweni yokuba ushumayele usenza ipulpiti yakho yokuzekelisa uxelela abanye ngendlela abafanele baphile ngayo ubomi babo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abahlobo abalungileyo baya kuxoxa malunga neengxaki okanye ubomi babanye, kodwa bakwenza oko besuka kwindawo yentlonipho apho unokwenza iingcebiso, kodwa wenza njalo ngobuchule .
Kwelinye icala, vakalisa iingcinga zakho ngendlela enamandla yokuba omnye umntu azive ezithobile, ngokungathi abanako ukuthatha uxanduva ngobomi babo.
Isiphumo: akukho mntu umamela into oyithethayo.
12. Ubambe Inzondo
Nokuba busondele kangakanani na ubuhlobo, abantu ababini abanakulindeleka ukuba baphume ebomini ngaphandle kokurholana ngendlela engalunganga.
Abantu benza izinto zobudenge bengakhange bacinge kwaye bayabenzakalisa abo babakhathaleleyo.
Kodwa uninzi lwabantu ekugqibeleni luyakwazi ukujonga ngaphaya kwaloo ntlungu kwaye bayeke badlule.
Hayi wena. Oh hayi.
Ubambelela kokungalunganga kwaye awuyeki.
Uxolelo alukho kwigama lakho kwaye uvumela ubuhlobo bakho buhlazeke ngaphezu kwezinto ezingenangqondo.
Kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni abantu bengakuthandi okanye bangakuthathi njengomhlobo osenyongweni.
13. Nivalekile
Wonke umntu unoluvo ngayo yonke into - ngoku kunakuqala.
Ukuvuleleka kwezo zimvo kunye neengcinga kunye neengcinga zabanye luphawu lokukhula ngokweemvakalelo.
Wena, kwelinye icala, awunakho nokujonga ixabiso okanye inyani enokubakho engqubana neyakho.
Ngaphezulu, uzilungisa ngokwakho ukuba uqhubeke uxelele nabani na onoluvo oluphikisayo ukuba baphosakele kangakanani kwaye bobuyatha kangakanani ukukholelwa into enjalo.
Kwaye ngenxa yokuba mininzi imicimbi enengxabano phaya, unokufumana into yokuphikisana phantse naye nabani na- kwaye uyayenza.
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu alunandiphi iingxoxo ezinobundlobongela, kwaye ke bayakuphepha kwaphela.
14. UnguKumkanikazi weDrama
Wonke umntu uneedrama zakhe ebomini. Kodwa abanye abantu baneedrama ezinkulu ngakumbi kunabanye.
Wena? Ewe, iidrama zakho ziyimbali.
Yonke into ebomini bakho ngumdlalo weqonga. Yonke into yingxaki okanye ngumlo okanye yinto efuna ukusonjululwa.
Ingxaki kwidrama kukuba ifuna utyalomali olukhulu lweemvakalelo. Ngelixa unokuba ulungile kuloo nto, uninzi lwabantu alunjalo.
Ukuba phakathi komntu obomi bakhe buchazwe ngumdlalo kuyadinisa.
Ayothusi into yokuba abantu bangakuthandi.
15. Uyi-Ayobheki ephantsi
Imali ayisiyiyo yonke into nangayiphi na indlela. Sonke sinemali eyahlukeneyo esinayo kwaye iyaqondakala into yokuba abanye abantu abanakho ukuchitha imali eninzi njengabanye.
Kodwa kukho umntu onemali eninzi, ukanti uyala ukuchitha kuyo nantoni na.
Ukuba ungumntu onjalo, izakubangela ukungavisisani phakathi kwakho nabanye.
Mhlawumbi awufuni ukungena kwi-tip kwivenkile yokutyela. Mhlawumbi uyala ukuphucula izihlalo kwiimovie, nangona iqela lakho lonke lifuna njalo. Ngaba uyavuma ukuya kwindawo ethile ukuba unokuyifumana ivawutsha yayo?
Mamela, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokulondolozwa kwemali. Kodwa xa ukungakhathali kuthintela abanye ekwenzeni into abangathanda ukuyenza, iba yingxaki.
Abantu baya kuqala ukukucaphukisa ukuba iintambo zakho eziqinileyo zemali zimi endleleni yolonwabo lwabo ngalo lonke ixesha. Bayakuyeka nje ukumemela kwizinto.
16. Wena unguSnob
Kwelinye icala lesiphelo esivela kwi-cheapskate yi-snob.
Mhlawumbi unxiba iilebheli zoyilo kuphela kwaye ujongele phantsi abahlobo bakho ngokunxiba iimpahla ezifikelelekayo.
Mhlawumbi ubajongela phantsi ngokukhetha indlu ebomvu xa usela ibhotile yeediliya ngamaxabiso aphindwe kahlanu ngexabiso.
Ngaba uyabavuselela oogxa bakho ngamabali eenkwenkwezi ezintlanu ezibandakanya yonke iholide yokuntywila eMaldives amaxesha ngamaxesha?
I-Snobs yenza abanye abantu bazive bengalunganga. Ukuba uyi-snob, mhlawumbi uyabagxotha abantu ungazi.
Ukuyidibanisa Yonke…
Luphawu olusisiseko lwesilwanyana somntu ukufuna ukuba yinxalenye yesihlwele.
Oko ekugqibeleni kwehla kumoya wokusinda apho kukho ukhuseleko kumanani. Yindlela ekhuselekileyo yokuba 'ngaphakathi' kunokuba 'uphume,' ngapha koko.
Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuba nabahlobo abaninzi kwaye uvuke kwizikhundla zokuthandwa ukuze uzive ukhuselekile njengelungu 'lesizwe,' kufuneka ufunde ukudlala ngemithetho.
Icebo kukucinga ngendlela ofuna ukuphathwa ngayo ngabanye uze unxibelelane nabo usebenzisa amaxabiso afanayo.
Intetho ebekekileyo yexesha ethi 'yenza ngendlela obuya kwenziwa ngayo' kufanelekile.
Awunakho ukutshintsha ngokulula ubuntu bakho kuba uninzi lwayo lukhuni kwi-DNA yakho, kodwa ungatshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo.
Ukuba kukho naziphi na izinto ezikhankanywe ngasentla chime nawe, ukuseta ngokulungisa indlela yokuziphatha kuya kuba linyathelo lokuqala kwindlela eya kwinguqu engcono- kunye neyaziwayo - kuwe.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni abantu bengakuthandi? Thetha nomcebisi onokuhamba kunye nawe. Cofa nje apha ukufumana kunye nokunxibelelana nenye.
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