Ngaba ukhe waqaphela ukuba abantu abathembekileyo ngokukhohlakeleyo bathanda ukugxila ngakumbi kwi ukhohlakele Inxalenye kune ethembekileyo Inxalenye?
Ukunyaniseka okungacocwanga kunokuba luncedo olukhulu xa uzama ukufumana indlela elungileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha sonke sinokusebenzisa isheke yokwenyani evela kwindawo yokwenyani nethembekileyo.
Ingxaki yokunyaniseka ngenkohlakalo kukuba isenza uqikelelo. Kucinga ukuba umntu ova ukunyaniseka okukhohlakeleyo uya kuba nokuvuthwa ngokweemvakalelo okanye ukuqonda ukujonga ngaphaya kwamagama angenabubele.
Indlela ohambisa ngayo umyalezo ibalulekile njengokuba unjalo umyalezo. Ngokucaphukisa abaphulaphuli ngaphambi okanye ngexesha lokuziswa komyalezo, ushenxisela ingqalelo yabo kumyalezo uye kumsindo wabo.
uxelele njani ukuba umntu udlala imidlalo yengqondo
Abantu abathembekileyo abathembekileyo abafane bakukhathalele oko. Ukunyaniseka kwabo kudla ngokuba kokuzingca, nokuba kunenjongo entle. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba bakhathalele ukwenza ifuthe lokwenyani kunye nokunceda umntu, baya kuba nomdla ngakumbi ekuqinisekiseni ukuba bayawuva umyalezo kunokuba baphinde babe ramming kuluvo lwabo.
Oko akubenzi babe ngabantu ababi okanye abenzakalisayo, nangona. Abanye abantu abalunganga nje ngomdaniso wentlalontle, okanye olo luhlobo lweengcebiso kunye nefom yokuhanjiswa abangathanda ukuyifumana kwabanye.
Kulapho ubuchule kunye nozakuzo zingena khona emfanekisweni.
Yintoni ubuchule kunye nozakuzo?
Ukuhambahamba kwiimeko zentlalo sisakhono esifanelekileyo sokwenza nantoni na enentsingiselo. I-diplomacy kukukwazi ukungena kwezi meko zentlalo, ukuququzelela unxibelelwano, kunye nokukhokelela wonke umntu kwisisombululo esifanelekileyo.
Izakhono ezahlukeneyo ngaphakathi kwinqanaba lozakuzo zinokwenza kube lula okanye kube nzima.
Kuya kufuneka ube nolawulo olukhulu kwiimvakalelo zakho. I-diplomat ayinakukwazi ukuwela emsindweni wabo, ukukhungatheka, okanye ukudabuka ngelixa bezama ukusebenza kwimeko.
Ukudibana okusebenzayo kudinga inqanaba lokuthotywa ngokweemvakalelo ngenxa yokuba ukuzola kwakho kunxibelelana ngokungazi nabanye abantu ababandakanyekayo kungquzulwano. Ibonisa ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uthathe icala, okanye ukuba uthatha icala, isikhundla sakho sivela kwindawo ezolileyo neqwalaselweyo.
Izopolitiko kufuneka zimamele kakuhle. Kodwa ukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo ingaphezulu kokuva nje into umntu azama ukuyithetha.
Ukuba uzama ukuba ngoonozakuzaku, nokuba liqela labantu okanye umntu, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba imeko iphuphuma ziimvakalelo.
Abantu abanemvakalelo bahlala beba nexesha elinzima lokuziveza ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuchaza iimvakalelo zabo. Abanye abantu banobunzima kwelo xesha nangamaxesha amahle. Ukuba ngumphulaphuli wozakuzo, kuyanceda ukufunda ulwazi oluphakathi kwemigca kunye nokungcwatywa phantsi kweemvakalelo.
I-diplomacy ifuna ukuba uchaze iingcinga zakho. Njengoko uthatha ulwazi kumaqela abandakanyekayo kungquzulwano, kuyanceda ukuphinda-phinda iingcinga zabo kunye neengxaki njengoko uziqonda. Oko kuvumela abanye abantu ukuba balungise okanye baqinisekise ukuba ulubona njani ulwazi, oluya kukunceda usondeze wonke umntu kufutshane nesisombululo esinentsingiselo.
Ulungelelwaniso sesinye sezinto eziyimfuneko kwidiploma. Ulungelelwaniso oluhloniphekileyo yimeko apho onke amaqela achaphazelekayo anakho ukusuka kwingxoxo anelisekile.
Uninzi lwabantu abanengqiqo baya kuqonda ukuba abanakuba nayo yonke into ngendlela yabo. Abantu abanengqiqo baya kuyazi ukuba abanye abantu banomdla, kwaye kuya kufuneka banike ezinye izinto ukufikelela kumhlaba ophakathi.
Ukufumana loo mhlaba uphakathi ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi ukuba ujongana nento yobuqu. Unokufumanisa ukuba unika kakhulu okanye umncinci kakhulu ukuba awunayo imida esempilweni.
Icebo sisakhono phantsi kwesambrela sediploma. Ubuchule kukwazi into oza kuyithetha kunye nento ongafanele uyithethe. Ubuqili kukwazi ixesha lokuthetha kunye nexesha lokuthula. Ubuchule kukwazi ukuthetha inyani eyenzakalisayo ngendlela ehlonipha kwaye imbeke umntu ophulaphuleyo, ke banethuba lokuva umyalezo wakho.
Ubuchule ngumahluko phakathi kokuthetha:
“Wenza ngathi uyadlala nyani. Uyakwazi oko?'
kwaye
Umsindo wakho kunye nobundlongondlongo buyandoyikisa, kwaye andikuthandi ukwenziwa ukuba ndizive ndingonwabanga.
Uziphuhlisa njani izakhono zobuqili kunye nezobuchule?
Eyona ndlela yokwenyani yokuphuhlisa ezi zakhono kukuziqhelanisa, ukuziqhelisa, ukuziqhelanisa. Okukhona unokusebenzisa ubuchule kunye nozakuzo, kokukhona kuya kuba lula.
Abazizo izakhono onokuthi uzifunde kakuhle kwincwadi kuba ukufunda incwadi akunikezeli ngumoya ohlawulisiweyo okanye ungquzulwano apho uthethathethwano kunye nobuchule bubaluleke kakhulu.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba ulwe ukuze uqhelise iindawo ezahlukeneyo zobuchule. Ungaziqhelanisa nemo eyahlukeneyo yezentlalo kwaye ubalungiselele ukuhamba xa kusenzeka ungquzulwano.
xa ukunyaniseka kukufaka engxakini
Nazi izithako ezi-5 eziphambili zokuba nobuchule kunye nozakuzo.
1. Ziqhelanise nokumamela.
Ukumamela okubambeleyo kwahlukile ekuphulaphuleni ngokunganikezeli kuba unikela ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo kwisithethi.
Vala umculo, izixhobo ze-elektroniki, umabonwakude, beka iselfowni phantsi etafileni, kwaye ujonge ngqo kumntu othethayo, ngakumbi xa ujongwa ngamehlo.
Yenza iinzame zokujolisa kungekuphela kumagama abo kodwa nakwimizimba ehamba namazwi. Buza ntoni ubuso babo? Loluphi ulwimi lwabo lomzimba oluqhelekileyo? Ngaba bayazikhusela? Ngaba ubuhlungu? Ukukhazeka? Ngaba unomsindo? Ngaba ngqwabalala? Umsi? Yintoni ekunxityelelwana ngayo ngaphandle kwamagama?
Nje ukuba bagqibe ukuthetha icala labo kule meko, thetha nabo ngoluhlobo. 'Ukuba ndikuqonde kakuhle, ingxaki…'
Ngale ndlela, ukuba ufuna ukunika ingcebiso okanye ukunika amagama entuthuzelo, uya kuba nomfanekiso ocacileyo kangangoko unokuba yintoni ingxaki okanye ungquzulwano.
2. Yima kancinci, uwaqwalasele ngononophelo amazwi akho, emva koko uthethe.
Impendulo yeemvakalelo ayifane ibe lukhetho olufanelekileyo lokuhamba kwimeko yezopolitiko.
Ke ngaphambi kokuba uthethe nantoni na, yima kancinci, thatha ithutyana lokujonga ukuba ingaba amagama oza kuwathetha ayibonisa ngokuchanekileyo imeko leyo, emva koko uthethe.
Abanye abantu banokukufumanisa oku kungathandeki ngaphandle kokuba bazi kakuhle. Kuya kufuneka ubaxelele into efana nale, Ndidinga umzuzu ukuba ndiqwalasele iingcinga zam nendlela yokuchaza. ” Uninzi lwabantu abanengqiqo baya kuthi 'kulungile' kwaye bakunike umzuzu owufunayo.
Isizathu soku kukuba awukwazi ukubetha intsimbi. Ukuba uthetha into ephosakeleyo ngenxa yomsindo okanye unxunguphalo, awukwazi ukuyithetha. Yonke into onokuyenza ngelo xesha kukuqhubeka nokulawula umonakalo, into ekufuneka ithintelwe.
Imizuzwana embalwa yokuqwalaselwa kwamagama akho ngaphambi kokuba uthethe ingakongela iiyure zomsebenzi weemvakalelo kunye nengxabano.
3. Zibuze, “Ngaba oku kufuneka kuthethwe? Ndingayithetha njani ngentlonelo le nto? ”
Elona candelo libalulekileyo lobuchule kukufunda xa ungathethi.
Qonda ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, ikakhulu ukuba uzama ukunceda abanye abantu bafumane isisombululo, uluvo lwakho alubaleli nto.
Banoluvo lwabo, kwaye bajonge ukuhamba kwezo kunokuba banodaka amanzi aqhubeke.
Ngaba uluvo omele ukuluveza lufuna ukuthethwa? Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngaba iyabahlonipha abathathi-nxaxheba kwimbambano nakwincoko? Ngaba iyakuhlonipha?
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba uluvo lwakho luya kuba luncedo, buyela kwinqanaba elidlulileyo kwaye unqumame ngaphambi kokuba uthethe nantoni na. Emva koko, kuphephe ukuphrinta izinto ngendlela ehlasela umntu, isenzo sakhe, okanye izimvo zakhe.
Endaweni yoko, nikezela ngeengcinga ezakhayo ngendlela egxile kumazwi athi “Ndi” ukwenza kucace ukuba awuchazi nyani okanye imiyalelo, kodwa uveza izimvo okanye izimvo.
Ke, unokuthi:
'Ndicinga ukuba kufuneka uyikhathalele indlela akuphethe ngayo kwaye ubekelwe phi umgca.'
ngaphandle kwe,
'Ungumjita kwaye ungangcono ngokumlahla kuba kufanelekile.'
Ngenye indlela, ukubuza imibuzo kunokuba yindlela eluncedo yokwenza ukuba umntu okanye abantu bafikelele kwisigqibo esona sibalungeleyo, kwaye sikuthintele ukuba ufuna ukuchaza eyona mbono okanye uluvo lwakho:
Uziva njani xa ekuphethe kakubi? Ngaba bubuntu bakhe, okanye uhamba nje ngexesha elinzima? Ngaba uziva ngathi izinto zingangcono ukuba nobabini niyayisebenzela? ”
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba le nto uza kuyithetha ayizukudibanisa nto kwincoko, qhubeka nje uvumele omnye umntu okanye abantu bathethe. Ukuba uthe cwaka, uya kumangaliswa yindlela abanye abantu abafuna ukuyizalisa ngayo loo nto. Ngenye indlela, buza eminye imibuzo ukuze ufumane ulwazi oluthe kratya okanye olucacileyo ngale meko.
4. Zakhele imida esempilweni ngokweemvakalelo.
Isitshixo sokuma embindini wongquzulwano ngaphandle kokutshiswa kwinkqubo kukuqina imida yeemvakalelo ukuzikhusela.
Vumela umhlaba kunye nabanye abantu bakucaphukele ukuba yile nto baya kuyenza, kodwa ngekhe uzivumele ukuba utsalwe kuloo nto ukuba ufuna ukuba ngoonozakuzaku kunye nobuchule.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenze inxalenye yayo ukuba awufuni.
Imida yeemvakalelo ikwanceda ekuthatheni izinto ngokwakho. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bathetha ngomsindo ovuthayo, okanye baveze into engalunganga engenabubele. Okuncinci koku unokukuthatha buqu okanye njengombonakaliso wokuba ungubani, uzolile kwaye ucace gca ukuba uya kuba yintoni xa ubandakanyeka kungquzulwano lwasentlalweni.
Isakhono sokuma siqinile ngombono ocacileyo siya kukunceda ucofe kwaye ujonge imeko.
5. Gxila kububele kunobuhle.
Yiba nobubele, kodwa akuyomfuneko ukuba ulunge. Ukuba ngonozakuzaku kunye nobuchule konke malunga nokuhamba kwiimeko ezinzima zentlalo, ezihlala zibi.
Ukuba muhle kukuba ngumntu owamkelekileyo, onobulali, kwaye onomdla ngokubanzi.
Ukuba nobubele kukwenza ngendlela eluncedo kuwe nakwabanye abantu.
Ngeliphandle, ukuba nobubele nokuba ulungile akusoloko kuhamba ngesandla. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uxelele abantu izinto abangafuni ukuziva, okanye ubenze bazibonele ezo zinto.
kutheni izinto ezimbi zisenzeka kum
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka umamele abantu belila okanye ubabukele behlupheka ngemeko embi engenakuguqulwa. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ubukele ilizwe labo lichithakala libe zizigidi.
Kwaye yiyo loo nto ubuchule kunye nobuchule zibaluleke kakhulu kunokunyaniseka okukhohlakeleyo.
Awufuni ukuba amazwi akho atshabalalise umhlaba womntu ngendlela eya kwenza ukuba kube nzima kubo ukuyibuyisela kunye. Amagama amnandi, anyanisekileyo aneenjongo ezingazingciyo angenza indlela yokuphilisa kunye noxolelwaniso kube lula kakhulu kwabanye.
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