Izinto ezimbi ziyenzeka.
Leyo yinyani yobomi.
Kodwa xa kusenzeka into embi kuwe, kuyindalo ukubuza ukuba kutheni.
Kwaye xa ngaphezulu kwesinye kusenzeka kwisithuba esifutshane sexesha, kunokuziva ngathi lonke ihlabathi lichasene nawe.
Uyazibuza ukuba wenze ntoni ukuze ufaneleke oku.
Emva kwakho konke, ungumntu olungileyo. Wena phatha abantu ngembeko , wena nceda abanye xa unako, kwaye uzama ngako konke okusemandleni akho kwizinto ozenzayo.
Ukanti ushiyeke uxheleka kuthotho lwelishwa leziganeko ezikwehleleyo.
Masambe nzulu kancinci kwaye sibone ukuba asinakufumana mpendulo 'kutheni?'
NguMdlalo waManani
Sele simisele ukuba izinto ezimbi zenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha. Yinxalenye yobomi.
Umntu weba imoto yakho ngaphandle kwendlu yakho.
Uphoswa yindiza yakho kumtshato wakho wabahlobo kwaye awukwazi ukuya.
Ubethwe yintsholongwane ekugcina ulala iveki.
Le mizekelo mithathu ziziganeko eziqhelekileyo. Baza kwehlela abantu abaninzi yonke imihla.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ubetha ilishwa kwaye zonke ezi zinto zintathu ziyenzeka emva kwenye.
Ngaphandle kokunqwenela ukukhala ngokungqwabalala, wena unamandla kuba sisiphumo esingenakuphepheka semathematics.
Makhe ndichaze…
Khawufane ucinge ukuba unayo ingqekembe eneentloko (H) nemisila (T) ngapha nangapha. Kwaye masithi iintloko zimele into elungileyo ngelixa imisila imele into embi.
Ukuba uphosa ingqekembe kathathu, amathuba akhangeleka ngolu hlobo:
HHH
HHT
I-HTH
ITHH
I-HTT
THT
TTH
TT
Kule nyani imbi kakhulu, ufumana into embi kwesixhenxe kwezi zilishumi kuthotho lweengqekembe ezinokubakho.
Kwaye ufumana into engaphezulu kwesinye embi kwisiqingatha sexesha.
Ngethamsanqa, ubomi abukho mnandi kangako. Ubomi bufana nedayisi enamacala amaninzi. Ubuso bobunye bumele into enokwenzeka kwaye ezi zinto zinokuba zilungile, zingathathi cala, okanye zibi.
Ezona zininzi zinomdla wokungathathi hlangothi, zilandelwe ziziganeko ezilungileyo, kwaye okokugqibela ziziganeko ezimbi ezibalaseleyo.
Umntu omnye ohambisa idayisi uya kuba nelishwa lokuhlala kwizinto ezimbi ezininzi ngokulandelelana.
Kodwa umhlaba uzele zizigidi ngezigidi zabantu. Ngabantu abaninzi abaqengqa iidayisi ezininzi, kuyakubakho abantu abagingqa into embi emva kwento embi okwexeshana.
Injalo indlela ithuba (okanye ithamsanqa) elisebenza ngayo.
Iliwa libiza i-cm punk
Nantsi ke inkcazo yokuqala yokuba kutheni izinto ezimbi zihlala zisenzeka kuwe: ube nelishwa.
Ewe inokuba phantsi kwethamsanqa. Umntu kufuneka afumane ilishwa kwaye usandul 'ukugcwalisa.
Ngaba oku kwenza ukuba kube lula ukwamkela okanye ukujongana nezinto ezimbi? Hayi.
Kodwa ubuncinci bunokukunceda uyeke ukucinga ukuba umhlaba umele ukuba uchasene nawe. Ihlabathi ngokwenene alinayo i-ajenda.
Ngaba Uye Wanegalelo Kwizinto Ezimbi?
Ngaphandle kokunqwenela ukukusola okanye omnye umntu, sinayo ezinye impembelelo ngaphezulu ezinye zezinto ezenzeka ebomini bethu.
Ke ngelixa ngamanye amaxesha ungangabinayo ithamsanqa, ngamanye amaxesha unokuba nesandla kwinto embi eyenzekileyo kuwe.
Ukuba sibuyela kule mizekelo mithathu ingentla, kunokuba kunjalo:
Imoto yakho ibiwe kuba ulibale ukubeka isitshixo okanye esinye isixhobo sokhuseleko.
Uphose inqwelomoya kumtshato womhlobo wakho ngenxa yokuba ungakhange ubandakanyeke kwigumbi lokujikeleza xa kunokwenzeka ulibaziseko kuhambo lwakho oluya kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya.
Ubethwe yintsholongwane ngenxa yokuba ungakhange usebenze ngococeko emva kokundwendwela umhlobo wakho ogulayo esibhedlele.
Ngelixa ungenatyala ngokupheleleyo ngayo nayiphi na kwezi zinto zintathu, isenzo sakho sidlale indima kwiziphumo.
Esi sisizathu sesibini sokuba izinto ezimbi ziqhubeke ukwenzeka kuwe: ubungakhathali.
Ingavakala irhabaxa, kodwa usenokuba nempembelelo kwezinye zezinto ezimbi ezenzekileyo.
Izenzo ozithathileyo (okanye ongazithathanga) zinokubonakala ngathi zincinci ngelo xesha, kodwa zinokubaluleka kwindlela iziganeko ezenzeke ngayo.
Kwimeko apho, ezi zinto azenzekanga 'kuwe' ngokwazo. Akunjalo ukuba zenzeke 'ngenxa yakho' nokuba.
Kukho indawo engwevu kwindawo ethile phakathi kwamashwa kunye nokuba nephutha.
isono cara ngaphandle kwemaski
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isela kusafuneka libile imoto yakho, uhambo lwakho oluya kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya kusafuneka lulibazisekile, kwaye kusafuneka uchukumise indawo engacocekanga esibhedlele.
Ngolunye usuku, imoto yakho ibingayi kubiwa, ubuya kwenza ukuhamba kwakho, kwaye ubungayi kugula.
Ungu Ukwenza iimpazamo ezifanayo kwakhona kwaye kwakhona ?
Ukubeka enye indlela, ngaba awufundanga izifundo zeempazamo ezidlulileyo?
Kwakhona, ngaphandle kokunqwenela ukukubeka ityala ngezinto ezimbi ezikwehlelayo, sihlandlo ngasinye kusenzeka isiganeko esingafunekiyo, kusenokubakho izifundo onokufunda kuzo.
Isifundo ngasinye lutshintsho kwindlela owenza ngayo into ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokuba yenzeke kwakhona.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ufunda kwaye uthabathe inxaxheba kwizifundo zomnyhadala ongamkelekanga, utshintsha idayisi yobomi kwaye unciphise amathuba okuba iphinde iwe kwinto enye okwesibini.
Ukusilela ekufundeni izifundo kuthetha ukuba unokufumana ubomi buyaziphindaphinda ngokwenzakala kwakho.
Ukubuyela kwakhona kwimizekelo yethu…
Ukuba uqhubeka nokushiya imoto yakho imisiwe ngaphandle kwamanyathelo okhuseleko ongezelelweyo, iya kuqhubeka nokutsala amehlo amasela.
Ukuba uqhubeka nokushiya ixesha elincinci lokuhamba ngokungxamisekileyo kuhambo olubalulekileyo, uya kuqhubeka uphulukana nonxibelelwano kunye nezihlandlo ezibalulekileyo.
Ukuba uqhubeka nokuyekelela kwezempilo, kungekuphela xa undwendwela izibhedlele, kodwa naphina ngokwenyani, uqhubeka usengozini yosulelo kunye nokugula.
Ke, nasi isizathu sesithathu sokuba kutheni izinto ezimbi zihlala zisenzeka kuwe: awufundi sifundo sakho.
Kodwa ukuba uyayikhusela imoto yakho, shiya ixesha elongezelelekileyo kuhambo lwakho, kwaye uhlambe izandla zakho nanini na xa kusengqiqweni, uyafunda kwiimpazamo zakho kwaye unciphise amathuba ezinto ezimbi ezenzekayo.
Zibuze ke ukuba ingaba izinto ezimbi ezenzeke kuwe ziske zenzeka ngaphambili.
Ukuba banayo, buza ukuba ikho into onokuyenza ukuthintela ukwenzeka okulandelayo.
Ngaba Uyazityeshela Izinto Ezilungileyo Ezenzekayo?
Ngamanye amaxesha sibona uthotho lwezinto ezimbi njengezingaphulwanga.
Into embi emva kwenye.
Kodwa ngaba ubona izinto zingalunganga? Ngaba uyazihoya izinto ezilungileyo ezenzekileyo phakathi kokubi?
Kwingqondo, oku kwaziwa njengokucoca ulwelo.
Ukucoca yinkqubo ethi umntu ajolise kuyo kwimiba elungileyo okanye emibi yemeko.
Kwimeko yethu, imeko ibubomi ngokubanzi kwaye sigxile ekuqwalaseleni zonke izinto ezimbi ezenzekayo.
Ngaba uyalibala ukunyuka komvuzo ongene phakathi kwemoto yakho ibiwe kwaye ulahlekelwe yinqwelomoya yakho?
Ngaba ulukhathalele usuku lokonwaba losapho elunxwemeni kwimpelaveki edlulileyo?
Kanye njengokuba kuyinyani yobomi ukuba izinto ezimbi zenzeka, kuyinyani ukuba izinto ezintle ziyenzeka nazo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ngezenzo zakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngokuzenzekelayo, iziphumo ezilungileyo kunye namava ayenzeka.
Kodwa ukuba awuziqondi kwaye uzigcine engqondweni, unokukhohliswa ekucingeni ukuba zizinto ezimbi kuphela ezenzekayo kuwe.
Ke, isizathu sesine nesokugqibela sokuba kutheni izinto ezimbi zisenzeka kuwe: azinjalo, ukujonga nje okuhle.
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Xa ujongene neemeko ezigwenxa, nokuba kungexesha elizayo okanye ngempazamo, ungenza ntoni ukuze udlule kuzo?
1. Yamkela ukuba kwenzekile.
Impendulo eqhelekileyo kwisiganeko okanye imeko engamkelekanga ngumsindo kunye nokwala.
Unokuzibamba ngokoqobo ngomsindo ukuba oku kunokwenzeka kuwe.
“Ndenze ntoni ukuze ifanelwe yile nto yam?”
'Andiyikholelwa le nto ukuba yenzekile kum.'
ukuthumela imiyalezo kodwa ndingathethi nomntu
'Andizukuyithatha le!'
Zonke izinto onokucinga okanye uzitsho emva kwangoko kwento embi eyenzekayo.
Ingqondo yakho iye kwi-overdrive njengoko uzama ukufumanisa ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kanye kanye, kwenzeke njani, kwaye ngubani onetyala?
Endaweni yokuba yamkele ukuba yenzekile kwaye hlala naloo ngcinga okomzuzu okanye emibini.
Ewe uya kufuna ukufumana naziphi na izifundo ezinokubakho, kodwa oko akufuneki kwenzeke kwangoko.
Ngapha koko, ungcono ucamngce ngeziganeko kamva xa uthuli luzinzile kwaye ucinga ngokucacileyo.
Okwangoku, yamkela nje ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha okwenzekileyo. Amandla akho alele kwinto oyenzayo ngokulandelayo.
2. Buza ukuba ungenza ntoni ukulungisa le meko.
Izenzo zakho zezona zixhobo zinamandla ekufumaneni iimeko ezinzima.
Awunakucinga nje indlela yokuphuma emngxunyeni.
Ukuba kukho amanyathelo athile ekufuneka uwathathe ukusondela ekusombululeni eli xesha lingamkelekanga ebomini bakho, thatha.
Ukuba imoto yakho ibiwe, kuyakufuneka ukhalise amapolisa kunye nenkampani yakho yeinshurensi.
Beka ibhola eqengqelekayo kwizinto eziya kubuyisela ubomi bakho esiqhelweni kunye nengqondo yakho eluxolweni.
Ngokukhawuleza uqala, ngokukhawuleza unokuziva ungcono malunga nezinto.
3. Cela uncedo.
Ngamaxesha obunzima, kulungile-kwaye kusengqiqweni- ukuthembela kubantu obathandayo.
Kanye njengoko uza kuphuma kwindlela yakho ukunceda umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho elalisengxakini, kukho abantu phaya ngaphandle abaya kwenza okufanayo nakuwe.
Yindalo yomntu ukufuna ukunceda abo sibakhathaleleyo, ukuze ungabi luxanduva kuye nabani na ndicela uncedo .
Usenokude ufumanise ukuba amaxesha afana nala azisa abantu kufutshane. Ubuhlobo bakho bunokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho bunokukhula nzulu.
Nokuba konke okucelayo komnye umntu kukumamela xa uphalaza imbilini yakho, usizi, umsindo, okanye ezinye iimvakalelo, inokukunceda ujongane nayo nayiphi na into eyenzekileyo.
Zine. Musa ukudlala ixhoba.
Ewe, kwenzeke into engathandekiyo kuwe, kodwa awuwedwa kuloo nto.
Iidayisi zobomi zihlala zisongwa kwaye abantu abaninzi bajongene neemeko ezifanayo okanye ezimbi kuwe ngoku.
Ngelixa le ngcinga ingenakukuzisela intuthuzelo enkulu, inokubonelela ngombono owahlukileyo kwinto eye yakwehlela.
Awusenakuzibona unelishwa elikhethekileyo, kodwa ungomnye wabantu abaninzi abaye babandezeleka ngaphezu kwesinye esibi ngokulandelelana ngokukhawuleza.
Olu tshintsho kwindlela yokucinga lunokukunceda ukuba ubone ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela. Uyazi ukuba izinto ezimbi azinakuhlala zenzeka ngonaphakade kwaye ixesha elilunge ngakumbi lisemnyango.
5. Yazi ukuba uza kuyigqitha le nto.
Ingxelo yakho yokufumana amaxesha anzima ebomini ukuza kuthi ga ngoku yi-100%.
Oku kuya kukuthuthuzela ngokwazi ukuba nawe uza kuyifumana le nto.
Unamandla kwaye ukomelela ngakumbi ukuba uzinika ityala kwaye uya kuphuma kwelinye icala.
Nokuba ithatha iveki, inyanga, okanye iminyaka emininzi, uya kufumana eli xesha linzima.
6. Khangela okuhle phakathi kokungalunganga.
Ayizizo zonke izinto ezimbi ezilungileyo kubo. Ezinye izinto ziyinto eyoyikekayo kwaye ezi kufuneka zibonwe zinje.
Kodwa izinto ezininzi ezibonakala kwaye ziziva zingalunganga kumphezulu zinokukhanya kokulungileyo ngaphakathi kwazo.
Ukuphulukana nomsebenzi, umzekelo, kunokuba luxinzelelo olukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, unokufumana ingqesho entsha kwinkampani ebhetele yokufumana umvuzo ophezulu kunye nokuhamba okufutshane.
Ukuba awuzange ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi, ngekhe ucinge ngokufaka isicelo kwizikhundla ezitsha kwenye indawo kwaye ke uhlala apho wawukho.
Ithetha ukuthini into yokuba umntu engekho nzulu
Istroke esincinci yinto eyoyikisayo ukufumana, koku akukho mathandabuzo. Kodwa kunokuzisa imiba ethile yezempilo onayo kwaye ikuvumele ukuba wenze ukhetho lwendlela yokuphila ukuze uthintele ukubetha okungaphaya okunokwenzeka.
Naphi na apho kunokwenzeka, jonga ulungelelwaniso lwesilivere kwinto engenzekiyo.
Iya kukunceda uzive uqinisekile ngakumbi ngekamva.
7. Yenza into embi ibe yinguqu ebomini bakho.
Rhoqo, sibona izinto ezimbi njenge-anch ezinokusibamba. Silahleka ngokuzisizela kwaye silibale ngamandla esinawo okutshintsha imeko yethu.
Endaweni yokuba xa kukho into embi eyenzekileyo kuwe, yisebenzise kunye nokuqonda okufumene kuyo ukuqhubela phambili ubomi bakho kwelinye icala.
Izinto ezimbi zinokusifundisa okuninzi ngohlobo lobomi esifuna ukubuphila. Banokuphephezela amafu asithintelayo ekuboneni izinto ngokucacileyo.
Ungakuqonda okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye uhlengahlengise indlela ophila ngayo ukuze ufumane okungakumbi.
Iimeko ezingalindelwanga zinokuveza ukuba awuphili ngokwemilinganiselo okanye imilinganiselo yakho yokuziphatha. Oku kukunika ithuba lokutshintsha ikhosi.
Izinto ezimbi zinokukuvusa uphume kwimeko yokulala ongene kuyo kwiminyaka yenyani.
Sebenzisa ezi zinto njengamafutha owafunayo ukutshaya iiinjini zakho kwaye ujike ubomi bakho.
