Abahlobo bakho babonakala ngathi bathe cwaka kancinci kutshanje. Ifowuni yakho ibisetyenziselwa ukungcangcazela ngaphandle kwekhonkco, kodwa isandi sokungcangcazela ngoku sithathelwe indawo sisandi seekrikethi.
Ubungafunga ukuba ubona izigaqa ezityikityiweyo kuFacebook wakho ngolunye usuku.
Abahlobo bakho ababonakali bekumemela kwizinto rhoqo, okanye baphendule imiyalezo yakho ngehlombe njengangaphambili, kodwa ngobomi bakho, ngekhe ufumanise ukuba kutheni.
Ngoku, sonke sixakekile. Banokuba nokuqhubeka okuninzi ebomini babo, kwaye kunokubakho iimeko ezixhasayo, kodwa ukhe wakujonga ukuba unokuba (ubuncinci inxenye) yengxaki?
Ndilele nomfana kwangoko ndimgcina njani enomdla
Kuyinyani ebukhali ukujongana nayo ukuba indlela oziphethe ngayo inokuba inyanzela abanye abantu obathandayo.
Akukho konke okubi nangona. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ubangela ingxaki, emva koko unokuba nguwe onokulungisa izinto nawe. Amandla asezandleni zakho.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa onokuthi uzenze, nokuba uyazi okanye Ndiyazi , inokuba sesona sizathu sokuba abahlobo bakho babonakale bekude mva nje.
1. U-Flaky
Sonke siye safika kude kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje losasazo lwasentlalweni kunye nonxibelelwano kwangoko, kodwa ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu eyenza, oko akuthethi ukuba kulungile.
Abahlobo bakho bokwenyani baya kuqonda ukuba, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kufuneka urhoxise izicwangciso kuba awuziva, okanye unesinye isizathu sokwenyani.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumana igama lokuhlala ubheyila ngomzuzu wokugqibela, ekugqibeleni, abantu bayakuyeka nje ukumema kwizinto.
Ngubani onokubabeka ityala?
Ukuba ufuna ukurhoxisa okanye, ukuba unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho, awufuni tu ukuya, qiniseka ukuba uvumela nabani na owenze izicwangciso ukuba azi i-ASAP ukuze benze amanye amalungiselelo kwaye bangashiywa phezulu kwaye yome.
2. Uhleba ngasemva kwabo
Nokuba uqala zonke izivakalisi zakho ngo 'Ndiyabathanda, kodwa ...,' awufanelanga ukuba uhlebe malunga nabahlobo bakho ngasemva kwabo, nditsho nabahlobo.
Uya kuthi, ewe, uphele ekuxoxeni nabanye abantu, kwaye ungabonakalisa ukukhathazeka okanye inkxalabo yabo, okanye uhleke ngothando malunga nento engekhoyo abayenzileyo, kodwa akufuneki ibe ngendlela embi.
Ndishiye umfazi wam ndaya komnye umfazi kwaye ndonwabile
Kuya kufuneka usoloko unomdla wokwenene kubo, kwaye kufuneka ubanike ingcebiso oziva ngathi banokuzuza kubo ebusweni.
Ukuhleba kuphelela ekufikeleleni ezindlebeni zomxholo, kwaye ngekhe bathande. Ngalo lonke ixesha cinga phambi kokuba uthethe, kwaye ucinge indlela onokuziva ngayo ukuba umntu obumthatha njengomhlobo ebethetha into efanayo ngawe.
3. Ukugweba
Mabathi abo bangenasono baphose ilitye lokuqala… nayo yonke loo nto. Ukugweba akuyona into enobuhlobo ukuyenza, ke akufuneki uyenze kubahlobo bakho.
Ndidikiwe yhooo ndingenza ntoni
Sonke senza izinto ekusenokwenzeka ukuba besingafanele ukuba sizenze, kwaye mhlawumbi siyazi ukuba akufuneki sizenze xa sizenza.
Nangona kunjalo, asinakuze silazi lonke ibali elingemva kokuba kutheni umhlobo ethathe isigqibo sokwenza izinto abazenzayo. Rhoqo kukho iimeko zokuthomalalisa. Nokuba bayaphazama, akukho mntu ugqibelele.
Into abayifunayo abantu kubahlobo babo yinkxaso, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kwanokunyaniseka okukhohlakeleyo, kodwa kungaze umgwebo .
4. Ukubaxelela Oko Bafanele ‘Bakwenze’
Ngaba ucinga ukuba uyazi ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibalungeleyo?
Ingcebiso ngobuhlobo yenye into. Nangona kunjalo, kukho umahluko phakathi kwalonto kwaye ubachaze ngokwezigaba ukuba ucinga ukuba le nto bayenzayo ayilunganga, kwaye emva koko ubazise nje ukuba, ngokoluvo lwakho, kufanelekile ukuba bayenza endaweni yoko.
Ngaba uyakuthanda ukuxelelwa ukuba wenzeni? Khange ndicinge. Akunjalo nabahlobo bakho.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- 'Andinabahlobo' -Ufanele ukwenze ntoni ukuba nguwe lo
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- Iindlela ezili-10 zokwenza ubuhlobo bakho busondele ngakumbi kunangaphambili
- Iimpawu ze-9 zoBukrelekrele boLuntu oluPhezulu
- Iimpawu ze-7 zabaHlobo beNkohliso: Ungayijonga njani iMayile enye
5. Soloko Ubalindile Ukuba Beze Kuwe
Ngaba ukhe ucebise ngezinto oza kuzenza, okanye ulinde ukuba ziququzelele yonke into?
Ngaba ukhe uthabathe inyathelo lokuqala? Ngaba ukhe wangulowo ubakhonkotha ukuze ubone ukuba banjani?
Ukuba basoloko ingabo baqala incoko kwaye besenza umzamo wokunxibelelana, kwaye bangaboni mzamo uvela kuwe, emva koko kuya kubakho ixesha apho baya kuyeka ukukhathaza.
6. Ukulindela Okungakumbi Kunokuba Uzimisele Ukukunika
Ngaba ubuza izinto zabahlobo bakho obungayi kuthanda ukubenzela zona?
Khumbula, inxalenye enkulu yobuhlobo kukuphindaphinda xa kufikwa kwixesha, imali, umgudu nothando.
Ukuba uhlala ucela uncedo kwaye ungaze uzibuyise, okanye ungabonisi umbulelo wakho, baya kunyanzeleka ukuba bazive ngathi ubathatha ngokungakhathali.
Konke malunga nokufumana ibhalansi elungileyo yokunika kunye nokuthatha.
ushiya njani indoda etshatileyo oyithandayo
7. Wenza impazamo efanayo kwixesha le-10
Ngaba ubuyile ne-ex yakho eyoyikekayo emva kokuba wohlukene nama-50thixesha? Ngaba uyazingisa ekwenzeni izigqibo ezifanayo ezithandekayo zothando? Okanye izigqibo ezimbi ngokubanzi, malunga naloo nto?
Ngelixa sihlala sikhona ukuxhasa abahlobo bethu nokuba izigqibo zabo zibonakala ngathi zigeza kangakanani, ukuba ubona umntu omkhathaleleyo malunga nokuthatha isigqibo esibi amaxesha ngamaxesha, ungakhathali nokuba sibachaphazela njani okanye abo babangqongileyo, kuye kuthi gqi khomba xa ungekhe uhlale phantsi ubukele isenzeka kwakhona.
Ukuba abantu bakukhathalele, abafuni ukukubona usokola. Kuyakufika inqaku xa begula ukuzilimaza kwakho Kwaye andizukuziva ndikwazi ukuyixhasa kwakhona.
Cinga ngendlela oziphatha ngayo nokuba uza kukwazi ukuxhasa omnye wabahlobo bakho owayesenza okufanayo.
8. Awuyonto kodwa Negative
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubomi bunokuba nzima, kwaye sonke kufuneka sikhalaze kwaye sikhuphe ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ukuba awenzi nto KODWA ukhalaze, oko kunokuba kuhle Inetyhefu . Ayisiyonto abanye abantu abaya kufuna ukuba kuyo.
Ukuba uzingisa ukuhlala kwizinto ezingalunganga kwaye ungaze ujonge kwicala eliqaqambileyo lobomi, awuyi kuba lula okanye ube mnandi kwinkampani.
Kunokuba nzima ukuba umhlobo akumamele isikhalazo sakho kaninzi, ngakumbi ukuba, ngokwembono yabo, zininzi izinto ezintle ezenzekayo ebomini bakho.
Ngaba uJohn cena unabantwana
9. Usoloko uLate
Ukufika ngexesha ayisiyonto yakho eyomeleleyo? Unokufuna ukusebenza kuloo nto. Abantu baya kuhlala beqonda ukuba ufike emva kwexesha ngoku kwaye ngenxa yezizathu ezingaphaya kolawulo lwakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uhlala usilela ukuza xa usithi uya kuthi, ngoko abahlobo bakho abanakubekwa tyala ngokuziva ngathi awunantlonipho kubo okanye ulixabisile ixesha labo.
Yenza kwabanye…
Ndiyazi ukuba yonke le nto ifumana ibhayibhile, kodwa umyalezo osisiseko apha kukwenzela abanye ngendlela obungathanda benze ngayo kuwe.
Ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo kubahlobo bakho kukuziphatha ongayi kuyamkela kubo, kuya kufuneka uphinde uvavanye, wenze iinguqu ezimbalwa, kwaye uzame ukubabonisa ukuba wenza umgudu wenene.
Ngokuzazi ngakumbi kunye nokuthathela ingqalelo, ungabondla abo bahlobo baxabisekileyo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bahlala ubomi babo bonke.
